I hesitate to jump into a conversation that’s been exhausted over and over again in a cyclical pattern but it’s been on my mind for several months so I thought I’d just throw my two cents in here.
I cringe whenever I see women commenting on photos on social media with things like
“omg you are so SKINNY!”
“you look itty bitty!!!”
“how did you get so skinny?”
I’m not referring to my feed, as that truly doesn’t happen very often, and I genuinely believe that some of the women offering compliments like that actually mean “you look great” instead of glorifying skinniness but may not think twice before posting it.
And I get it, I really do. It’s a part of our culture, whether we like it or not. A lot of women idolize being skinny. I mean there’s a meme that floats around Pinterest that says “nothing tastes as good as skinny feels”. Are we serious with this?
I’m deeply grateful, and become even more appreciative with age, that my mom instilled a really healthy body image in me as a little girl. I never obsessed about my weight. And I still don’t.
But I know some women do, and the “skinny” comments may be more destructive than we can even imagine.
Anyway, what I’d really love to see (and I know this is a huge undertaking) is a dramatic decrease in the amount of compliments towards women that involve the word “skinny”.
What if we focused on words like “healthy” or “happy” or just something simple like “you look great!”? Doesn’t that feel better to say anyway?
I’ll leave it there, but I’d really love to hear your thoughts on complimenting women below.
What was the nicest compliment you received that didn’t revolve around your body?