My husband and I are starting to think about baby #2. Baby #1 is just 9 months old. Is there anything you would do differently to get ready for baby#2 if you could do it all over again? Thanks!
That’s a great question. I think motherhood, whether it be for the first time or 5th time, requires a whole lot. From the mental prep to the physical prep, adding another child to the household means much more than just one more physical body living under the same roof!
Luke, as a newborn, was a little dream boat. He napped a lot, was content just to be, and slept great at night! It was around 8 weeks that the crying started, and around 15 weeks I saw an enormous change in him because the endless crying and irritability suddenly came to an end.
So, my advice is filtered through an extremely challenging 8 week period of which my baby cried most days, and my toddler wasn’t sure what the heck happened to his quiet life. So it was tough there for a minute. So, what do I wish I would have done to prepare more?
Two things: Soak up my time with just David alone, and also spend more time by myself.
I really cherished my time with David as I was nearing the end of the pregnancy, but I didn’t anticipate how hard it would be to split my attention. I missed being able to do the fun stuff with him that my family took over doing as I was caring for Luke.
I also learned that there is very little alone time after adding another child to the mix! My husband is really great about hanging with the boys on the weekend so I can run somewhere by myself. During the week we are both just too tired to do anything but sit at the end of the day!
When Luke was going through his crying stage, however, I couldn’t even enjoy being alone because I knew how rough of a time Justin was having. So most often I had to force myself to leave. Now, as Luke is so much better, it’s easier to leave them for an errand or something.
I’m about 5 months in to having two little kids, I really feel like we’ve gotten into a groove. The days are pretty predictable, in a great way, and I simply cannot imagine my life any other way. Don’t get me wrong, there are still challenging moments where I peer out the window to find the full moon because my kids are cray cray, but in general I sort of know what the days look like.
I decided at the beginning of this year that I wanted a theme in my life to be “flexibility”. I wanted to be extremely flexible with adding Luke to our family and all the change that would happen with that. I wanted to be flexible about Luke’s nap schedule and what I was able to accomplish for the day. I set my expectations really really low for my daily To Do List.
So I’d add in lastly that being flexible has been really good for my mental state, and I’d recommend that being a theme in your life as well (if it isn’t already!).
It’s an unbelievable blessing to watch my boys notice and interact with each other. Having two or more kids will multiply your daily tasks, but the sweet moments between siblings make it all worth it.