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Just posting a shorty today to say thanks for your support from yesterdays post.

When I was up at 2am feeding Luke that morning, I strongly considered throwing it back into drafts and holding off on posting it. The main reason was because I watched an E:60 two nights ago on Ernie Johnson and, man, if that doesn’t give you perspective, I’m not sure what will.

I’m not lessening how hard colicky babies are, TRUST A SISTER. But hearing what Ernie Johnson has gone through, and goes through on a daily basis, helps me see that my situation is not the end of the world.

So anyway, thanks for your encouragement. It’s been an tough few weeks. I’m determined to try my best to not get bogged down with complaining and negativity during these times. The support and camaraderie I felt reading through the comments yesterday was so meaningful. I didn’t realize I needed to hear that like I did, so thank you so much for your sweet, encouraging comments.

My priority, above all else, is to mother each boy as best I can. A lot of the time I need an attitude adjustment. And a lot of the time I’m complaining to my mom and sister.

But when I’m walking circles in the kitchen, or bouncing in the living room trying to soothe Luke, I do feel like I’m the luckiest to spend my days with the boys. Sure, I need a break every once in awhile, every mom does, but I’m incredibly grateful to be able to stay home and invest these long days in my kids.

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Susan M says · 05.01.15

Hang in there momma! These days are long but short. And oh so precious, as you are aware. I’m a mom of two boys (3.5 and almost 1!) and I wouldn’t trade these long hard days for anything. But am so looking forward to my night out with my girlfriends tonight! You are doing great-you’ve got this! (Battle cry for myself today too!)

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carissajade says · 05.01.15

Keep it up sista! You do an awesome job here and as a mom!

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Lorna says · 05.01.15

So glad you are feeling more positive. Being a good mother is the hardest job on the planet. Oprah was right! Everyone can see what happy boys you have there, and how well cared for they are. On a practical note, a new mums best friends can be a robot hoover and meals cooked ahead e.g. freezer to slow cooker meals. xx

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Sherry says · 05.01.15

Glad you got some positive and supportive feedback yesterday, a lot of us (your readers) consider you a friend Kate even if we have never actually met and that’s what friends do……support one another. The love of a family is precious, enjoy it as much as possible and vent to your friends and family when you need to. We all need to vent from time to time, and venting isn’t necessarily complaining, we just need to get things off our chest sometimes. Your blog seems like the ideal place to do that, your loyal readers/friends don’t mind. Hope you and your boys have a wonderful day and a great weekend.

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Amba says · 05.01.15

Nothing more wonderful and reassuring than positive affirmations from other mums/moms 😉 to help guide us through difficult times.

You’ve got this in the bag Kate, everything wonderful comes with challenges!!!!!! the challenges are set to show you how worthwhile the end result is………….

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Katie says · 05.01.15

I just wanted to say… our son certainly wasn’t *too* colicky, but he went through a stage where he was just miserable! It was SO unlike his chill little self, that we didn’t know what to do… finally, I took him to my chiropractor, and I began taking a vitamin E pill a day… within 2 days, he was like a different child! The Vitamin E can help their stomachs if it’s uncomfortable, and they’ve gone through so much trauma during birth it can put vertebrae out of alignment and make them very unhappy! I don’t know if you’re up fro trying alternative medicine, but it’s worth a shot. 🙂

Also, I’m very blessed to read your posts about being a Mama of two… I’m due in less than a month with #2, and I’m nervous & excited to see how this is going to go! 🙂 Thanks for being willing to open up and share your heart. I need to hear the good and the tough! 🙂

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Amba says · 05.01.15

So happy to see that you are feeling supported, positive affirmations certainly make the path we travel seem less lonely. YAY to all the awesome mummys/mommys out there.

You have this in the bag Kate, everything wonderful comes with challenges, those challenges are set to show us how worthwhile the end result is xxx

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Jena says · 05.01.15

I’m sure you’ve realized, but one of the things about the second child is it is easier to remember that each hardship is a phase…and it will end! It doesn’t make it any better in that moment-of-constant-crying, but you can see through the fog a litttle better. My second was/is very similar to yours…very fussy (probably not colicky, but still). And still at 13 months is sensitive and drives me a bit crazy. We did the 45 min of pacing and bouncing at each bed/naptime…and it.was.exhausting. So be encouraged…you’re not alone and you love your babies so well!

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Alicia says · 05.01.15

Hang in there! My son, who is now three, was an extremely high maintenance and fussy baby. Gripe water or colic calm helped some, as did a teething necklace, but it was so hard. Now with my twins, one is happier and one is more colicky. I know this season will end sooner than I want it to, but it is rough while you’re in it. Just remember you’re a great Mom and doing the best you can for your boys!

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Alicia says · 05.01.15

Hang in there! My son, who is now three, was an extremely high maintenance and fussy baby. Gripe water or colic calm helped some, as did a teething necklace, but it was so hard. Now with my twins, one is happier and one is more colicky. I know this season will end sooner than I want it to, but it is rough while you’re in it. Just remember you’re a great Mom and doing the best you can for your boys!

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jen says · 05.01.15

Being a mama is NOT easy – but it is wonderful. We have those moments where we think…”really?” and feel like crying as much as our sweet babies (and sometimes we do!). But I agree, being able to be at home is the greatest gift in the world – and wouldn’t you rather it be YOU who he is crying with (even when you are at your last nerve) verses someone else? I know I do. You are an amazing mom, Kate! and just remember how precious David is and how fun it gets – the beginning is just so hard! Luke is going to be just as fun as David, too! I cannot imagine having two…You are my hero! I love how real you are and it helps me to keep my expectations in reality once we have our 2nd! Sending hugs and kisses your way! XO

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Rebecca says · 05.01.15

Hi Kate,
I wanted to tell you THANK YOU for sharing your experiences as a mom, in addition to all of your great beauty and fashion tips and advice. I am a new mom to a 6 month old baby girl. She was diagnosed with Trisomy 21 (Down syndrome) in the delivery room, so it’s been a much different first few months with baby than we anticipated. But what I have learned overall is that no one knows what to expect – each baby is unique and we, as Moms, are here to help them become the best version of themselves they can be. While it already feels like a lifetime ago, I remember dealing with Emma’s “witching hour” (why it’s referred to in the singular, I have no idea!!). I never thought I’d be the mom that would quickly hand baby over as soon as dad got home from work while I was on maternity leave…but I was. Between little sleep and the feeling of helplessness, it would be too much. But, as I’m sure you can remember with David, these early moments will feel like a split second in hind sight. It will get better and you will soon find a new rhythm. I GREATLY appreciate your stories and experiences as a fellow [new-ish] mom 🙂 There will always be the “haters” and the nay-sayers, but you are really helping many people with your words. I hope you know that. I hope the best for you and your family!

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Elle says · 05.01.15

My son was the same way. Things will change, I promise, this is only temporary. In the meantime, take all the help you can get, do anything to keep your sanity, and vent to those who will listen and support you. You are doing an amazing job! The only lasting side effect is I still find myself doing the fussy baby Mom bounce/rock at random times. Standing in line at the grocery store and rocking without a baby make me look a little kooky! Positive vibes and finger crossed for you!!!

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Nicole says · 05.01.15

Hang in there it’s tough, I went through the same thing with my oldest son. It will get better. 🙂

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Angie says · 05.01.15

You are doing a great job, and every mom needs to hear that once in a while! This little article always helped me when my son would cry:
http://community.babycenter.com/post/a46294255/12_things_your_crying_baby_wants_you_to_know

Hang in there 🙂

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Ellie says · 05.01.15

hey kate, I wondered if you had checked for a lip tie and/or tongue tie? Many LCs are not the best at checking for those, a pediatric dentist is really best. My son had awful reflux type symptoms and since I had breastfed my first for over 2 years I knew something just wasn’t right with his latch… None of the LCs caught it but I decided to bring him to a dentist and he had a Stage 4 lip tie and a tongue tie. Fixed with a laser in literally 60 seconds and a huge improvement! Just a thought… Hang in there!

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Breanna Pye says · 05.01.15

You are doing a great job!!

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Lamurphy says · 05.01.15

I don’t know how you feel about chiropractors but 3 of my grandchildren had colic and reflux. One was getting close to being hosiptalized for tests. They all started getting regular adjustments and improved immediately. My 8 week old grandson goes once a week.
I was not a believer in chiropractors until I started going 4 years ago for treatment for headaches as a last resort. I have not had one headache since.

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Evelina says · 05.01.15

You got this!! Hang in there 🙂

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Alicia says · 05.01.15

I wanted to comment yesterday but got sidetracked. I have 3 boys, my youngest being 11 weeks old. All 3 of my boys have had their different challenges, and I know how hard it is when you’re in the midst of it to see the light at the end of the tunnel. But it is there! I go through periods now with my 11 week old where I’m so anxious for him to be sleeping better and all that, but I know this time is fleeting and I will miss it. Being a mom is so HARD! I’ve really enjoyed your more personal posts and would love to continue to see them. You’ll be in my prayers!/

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Georganne says · 05.01.15

I so felt for you reading your post yesterday! I have a 2 year old son who was a colicky infant and MAN was it rough. I wanted to give you some perspective since I’m out of the colicky fog now. Our Pediatrician always maintained that colic is really a personality trait, not a gas issue like some people believe. At the time, I was furious with him for saying that. “You mean I’m stuck with a kid like this FOREVER!?!?” But he always said that a colicky baby cries the hardest but will laugh the loudest. My son has grown from a hard-to-please, fussy baby to a strong-willed, loud, smart, FUNNY boy who is a natural born leader. While he still likes things to go his way, he also quickly forms his own opinions and isn’t swayed by peer pressure. As someone who grew up extremely shy, it makes my heart swell to see him be so fiercely independent and happy and such a young age. So hang in there, momma! It’s all worth it and it will get better!

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Jen says · 05.01.15

My favorite blogs are ones that feel authentic and yours is one of those. I appreciate that you express the good and bad times. It’s not always easy to reveal that publicly, as people are so quick to judge (especially in comments that can be anonymous). But I do hope that more readers are kind and empathetic than judgy (sp?). My first baby was colicky and LORD, it’s not easy. So as we say down south, “bless your heart.” Hang in there, this too shall pass. You’re doing a great job!

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Kerri says · 05.01.15

You are doing a great job!!! I love reading your posts!!

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Michelle W says · 05.01.15

I really don’t know how you do it. My daughter had colic for 6 months and I can’t imagine going through that AND having a 16-month-old. I thought it would never end and the constant holding, adjusting, bouncing, singing, etc. only to have her still cry was so stressful. I always had nap times to decompress and try to get the strength to do it all over again when she woke. The fact that you don’t have these times and are still surviving says so much about how strong you are. As everyone has said, it does end, but when it’s 5:00 and the baby’s been crying all day it doesn’t seem like it. Hang in there and thank you for sharing your story.

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gena says · 05.01.15

I like how you keep it real, and its always nice to know that we arent alone as moms! 🙂

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Jennifer says · 05.01.15

My first born had really bad colick. I know how hard it is! you are doing a great job! I’m sure you are already doing these but we would lay warm washcloths over her tummy, give her warm baths, hold her upright as much as possible. Colicky babies also don’t like to be confined like swaddle and carriers. Also we found an all natural colick tablet made by highlands that really helped. We found them at wallgreens, they also have teething tablets that we used. Hope that helps>

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Leticia Justus says · 05.01.15

I know what you are saying when you talk about perspective ..I blogged about that here
http://kingmakerblog.com/?p=1604 on my Long List I had that day and how I was overwhelmed but then felt guilty— because how could I compare my day of household chores and homeschooling to a mother in the Middle East whose daughter had been taken by Isis ?
However God showed me that He cares for me and my day just as much as any other mother and the struggles she is facing .
God cares for us all – problems BIG or Small !

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Tammy says · 05.01.15

I know it doesn’t feel like it right now, but this too shall pass. I have two daughters, ages 15 and 11. My older daughter had colic until she was almost 4 months old. It wasn’t the cry for a few hours every day kind either. It was the 24 hour kind. She didn’t sleep for more than an hour or two at a time and even fussed in her sleep day and night. Each day was like a year and, at times, I felt like I was losing my mind. I say all this, not to discourage you, but just to say I know EXACTLY how you feel and I know EXACTLY how hard it is. And even though right now it feels like the days are endless, you are going to blink and your oldest will be a freshman in high school and have her learner’s license (that is scarier than colic, believe it or not!!! LOL!!!!). It is hard, sometimes it is miserable and endless, but don’t let anyone make you feel guilty for your feelings. You are doing a great job and don’t let anyone make you believe otherwise. My thoughts are with you.

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Megan says · 05.01.15

Kate, I’ve always loved your blog. I am so sorry you’re having a tough time with Luke. I completely understand. Our little one was colicky for a good 4ish months and I didn’t leave the house, it was awful. I tried everything — eliminating foods out of my diet, probiotics, chiropractor, formula instead of breastfeeding, zantac, colic calm, baby wearing…. She just grew out of it around 4ish months. The only thing that would calm her was to swaddle her tight, bounce her on her side in our arms while shhing really loud, or nursing. She was constantly attached to me, meaning I really didn’t have time to take care of myself. Especially since my husband was back at work and our families live 7 hours away. I’m so glad you’re able to get some extra help with family visiting.
While my husband was attending seminary I nannied for two different babies and they were SO easy compared to my own. It has been really hard. At 8 months she is still a fussier baby than most, still is not a great sleeper and still prefers mommy over anybody else. But she is SO much happier than she used to be. One of the hardest parts is seeing other people with easy babies and feeling so frustrated about how unfair it is. My husband and I used to want a big family, but after this baby I really don’t know if I could handle going through it again. Your perspective is great and I appreciate your honesty about what is going on with Luke. I just wanted to let you know, like others have, that I understand. Saying prayers for you!

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Aileen says · 05.01.15

You’re doing a great job, mama! I’m a new mom and always take my mom’s help when she offers to come to town. I can’t imagine how you’re doing it with two so close together and a colicky baby on top of that. Thanks for sharing your heart! It’s a hard job, rewarding and amazing but hard too.

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rhonda says · 05.01.15

I found your website when I was looking for tutorials on hair/makeup for my middle school girl….who had colic as a baby. So you DEFINITELY have my sympathy!

I remember trying EVERYTHING and breaking down in tears on multiple occasions, swearing I would NEVER EVER have another child and wondering how I would survive…and I didn’t have a 16 month old at the time… hang in there and do NOT feel guilty on doing whatever you have to do to make it through this time, whether its lapsing on posting on this blog, getting help from friends/family, BF/not BF, baby wearing/not baby wearing…whatever the “hot” topic it is that you may personally stress over… This is a TOUGH HARD SEASON…but I can promise you…it WILL eventually pass and you will eventually sleep again/be “normal”.

My girls (yes, we had a now wonderful “surprise” baby) are now 11 and 13 and honestly are a joy. The tween/teen years (so far) have been EASY compared to the colicky infant phase and dare I say it? Those days taught me so much…it (definitely) humbled me and any preconceived notions about what “type” of parent I was going to be and how my child was going to “be” (bc of what I did/did not do)…sometimes I forget that my children are their own persons…with their own temperaments/personalities/traits that (GOOD OR BAD) have nothing to do with my skills as a parent. 😉

And that sometimes you just have to keep trying, no matter the results- the love you show both your boys is what they will imprint upon their memories, and that comes though in what you share/write.

Hang in there!!

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Katie says · 05.01.15

Hey Kate! I’m not usually a commenter but I love your blog and have used so many of your hair tutorials! Thanks for that;) I comment today, however, because I just want to tell ya, you are in the trenches right now, Sister! It will get easier. I have 3 boys- 6, 4, and 8 months. My 6 and 4 year old are 21 months apart and while I know it’s not exactly the same as your situation I can say for myself tha the first six months with baby #2 has been by far the hardest for me in motherhood. I honestly feel like my third has been a breeze compared to that time and it’s because when they’re close in age you essentially have 2 babies at home. Add on top of that a colicky one, and you’re bound to go batty! Remind yourself everyday it’s a season. It’s temporary. Your fussy baby will not be a fussy toddler. You will sleep thru the night again. Hang in there and take it day by day. God blessed those sweet boys with you to be their mother.

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Amy says · 05.01.15

hang in there. My younger son was colicky too, I don’t know who cried more, me or him. He would get fired up every night around 9:00 and would go strong until the wee morning hours. it was like a light switch at 9:00, time to start crying. my older son was only 22 months (approx.) at the time too so we were always trying to keep him asleep and to sooth an unhappy little brother. we tried everything, gas drops, gripe water, placing an old fashioned clock in his crib for the tick-tock sound, the old wives tale of turning them around on your lap (I was desperate). the only thing that soothed him was my husband strumming an acoustic guitar. no joke. he wasn’t even trying to play a song, just strum. You’re doing a great job, don’t worry.

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Melanie says · 05.01.15

Thank you for being vulnerable and sharing. I remember dealing with the colic with my first son, and dealing with that (in addition to sleep deprivation) is really challenging. You’ll get through this!

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Amy says · 05.01.15

I just want to say thank you for being honest. Don’t ever feel bad for venting! Us faithful readers want to know how you and yours are doing. We care about yall! I have definitely had my days that made me feel like all I do is complain or stay stressed and tensed. I have found that saying a quick prayer for help and a relaxed mind, or reminding myself that the Lord does care, has made my transition to a better mood faster and easier. I have an almost 2 year old and am due with my second in July. Knowing it is another girl (2 daughters total) can make me nervous since my first is so very emotional and whiney. Just being honest! But, once they grow up a bit and we feel more in control and like SuperMom, I think we will be so happy with how everything worked out, even with the hardest of hard times. I don’t know much about colic but I feel for you. You can do this and we all support you and think you are wonderful!! I love your blog and have followed daily for what seems like a few years now!

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Jennifer Young says · 05.01.15

I’m sure you have heard every remedy under the sun, but the only thing that worked for us was a new homeopathic drop that is the only FDA approved colic drop called Colic Calm. It looks like black tar when you pull it out with the dropper, but usually within 30 seconds we could hear the gas in her tummy subsiding and she would almost immediately get calm and be able to rest. You can purchase it at CVS or any local drugstore. Amazing stuff!!!!

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Laura says · 05.01.15

I’m right there with you, and I only have one baby. I can’t even imagine having another while dealing with a colicky baby. My daughter turned 9 months old today. I still cry a lot and feel like a total basket case a lot of the time. She outgrew her colic around 6 months (thankfully), but she’s still a terrible sleeper (despite our efforts to “sleep train” which did nothing but torture us all and did not help her sleep) and a dramatic screamer. I know it’s hard. Motherhood, so far, has been incredibly humbling for me.

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Danielle Baker says · 05.01.15

Just wanted to let you know how much I have enjoyed reading your blog over the last few years. I discovered you when my kids were about the ages yours are now. I have a boy and a girl 21 months apart. The age Luke is right now was probably the most difficult time for me with both of mine. I think because the crankiness happens every day and it’s so hard to figure out what they need. Sometimes I think they just need to cry and be mad for a while. Hang in there as best you can and remember that this phase will pass. Not that there won’t be other challenges, but this is a tough one. Lean on your family and friends for support! And know that many of your reader fans are thinking of you and offering our encouragement! Soak up the good moments because they pass in a hurry (as you well know) and don’t let the bad ones get you down. As for the readers who want to debate all the time ignore them!

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Rebekah says · 05.01.15

Thanks for really letting us into your life. You give your readers so much, when we can give a little encouraging word here or there…we (I think I can speak for most everyone) sure do want to give that encouragement to ya! You are doing a great job as a mom!!!

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Linda says · 05.01.15

God bless you Kate. I’m the mother of a 45 year old daughter and a 20 year old grandson who were BOTH colicky. I still remember the despair and exhaustion Mostly from not knowing what to do to help. An elderly German lady told my daughter and I about warm fennel tea as a possible remedy for her newborn son. I’m happy to report that it worked wonders for him. We bought fennel tea bags and brewed tea and stored the bottles to use as necessary. The opportunity came immediately. We heated the bottle to a nice, comfortable Luke warm and gave it to Dillon right away. It worked. I hope this helps. If you have any questions, please reply. Wishing you all the best.

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Amanda Olson @ runningyourbody says · 05.01.15

i meant to comment yesterday but will today. Honey, you are doing awesome!! There is judgement no matter what you do, and you are a mom that loves her boys very very much. Parenting is all together rewarding and challenging to those who care enough to try their best each and everyday. There isn’t a single mommy that hasn’t been reduced to tears at one point or another. At the end of the day be graceful with yourself and know that you are amazing. Colic is hard!!!

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Courtney says · 05.01.15

Hey! I take all my babies to a chiropractor when they are born and we continue to have follow up appointments. They are verrrrry gentle with babies and it’s almost guaranteed they can get the colic to go away. Just thought I’d throw it out there!

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Steph says · 05.01.15

Kate, I wanted to comment yesterday, but never got it done! I was glad to see comments pointing you toward the thought of a food allergy. Dairy products are a good place to start, but with our youngest son what made him fussy and his diaper full of blood was soy. Removing foods from my diet while I nursed him changed everything in just a few days. Our older son was two years old before we realized his allergy to dairy – he was hugely chubby, drooled a lot, had bags under his eyes, had mood swings, and never slept well. If only we had known sooner! He was a changed boy once we took dairy and then gluten out of his diet. Foods are SUCH a huge part of our health.
I love your blog, and have learned a lot of tips from you! Your Godly character is visible through your words and videos – you have such a sweet spirit. Thanks for sharing all you do!
Blessings,
Steph

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Lindy says · 05.01.15

One of the hardest times in parenting for me was having a 22 month old (already in the terrible twos) and a colicky baby. I loved my kids and loved my life, but it was so hard to keep my chin up sometimes. My SIL visited for a few days once and at the end of it she said, “How do you do this when I’m not here?” I said, “There’s a lot more crying!!” I don’t really have advice for getting through it, except to say that it WILL get better. I have three kids now and they are such sweethearts and are best friends.

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Sara Carico says · 05.01.15

I don’t know if anyone has recommended this because I haven’t read the comments, but I have 2 girls that are 14 months apart, and when the youngest was about 6 weeks, she became extremely fussy and inconsolable it seemed. I just knew she had colic and tried gripe water, colic calm, gas drops. Nothing worked. I finally took her to the pediatrician, and he suggested I cut dairy from my diet (I nursed her). Within 2 days she was a different baby!

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Christy says · 05.02.15

You have to be exhausted! 2 little ones…managing your life/family…AND…it is obvious you pour your blood, sweat, and tears into this blog. Hang in there…I love your blog…I am a true fan and I am rooting for you! I can pause when you need a pause…no apologies needed. Your life…you…your babies come first. Here is a quote that could be good to keep in you back pocket…because there are always people who sit on the sidelines and wait to attack and judge. Hang in there!
http://www.theodore-roosevelt.com/trsorbonnespeech.html

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EmilyW says · 05.02.15

Don’t let harsh words get you down! You are a great mom. Everyone does parenting just a little differently, and everyone struggles with some aspect of being a mom. Realize that no matter what others may say, you are doing your absolute best. And as long as you’re acting with love, your boys have the best mom they could have even been given- no matter if those dishes pile up in the sink for 4 days straight or if you have a pajama day because there are no clean clothes within a mile. Keeping doing what you do-your blog is a highlight of my day! You inspire me!! 🙂
Blessings!

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Libbie says · 05.02.15

Being a parent is the hardest job in the world. YOU CAN DO THIS!! Good for you for knowing when you ask for help and sharing your story. 🙂

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Anita Robinson says · 05.02.15

Keep it up mama! Much too soon they’ll be teenagers with drivers licenses and getting ready to check out colleges (my world right now). Enjoy and endure (not “if” but “when” necessary) these times and soon they will be memories! I’m glad you mentioned the Ernie Johnson special. I’ll def have to check that out (big Braves fan here…watching them play right now). Hang in there…..and pray!

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Christine Stone says · 05.03.15

I’m a 52 yr old Mom and I wanted to give you advice from an older Mom. My second child who is now 19 and a freshman in college had the worse case of colic for almost 6 months. She never slept and when she did it was an hour at a time. I tried everything but the only thing that seemed to soothe her at all was walking and bouncing at the same time. I remember circling the dining room table with her for the umpteenth time thinking this is never going to end. I was so tired that at times I would think what have I done to my life because my first one never had colic and was so easy. As the months past and the colic subsided she became the happiest toddler and the sweetest most lovable child. I remember thinking at her high school graduation how fast time has gone and if I could steel some of that time back I would even take back those colicky days when I could hold her so close and keep her safe. When you are going through it it feels like it will never end but it does. Take the advice from an older mom take a deep breathe and enjoy even these moments before you know it you are driving that colicky baby to college.

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Amanda says · 05.03.15

I really appreciate that you share all elements of your life, good and bad. I’ve followed your blog for a while now, since before you were pregnant with David and I’ve so enjoyed watching it change and evolve to your new role as a mother. I’m going through a life change right now, not parenthood but something quite substantial and I like that even when you have bad days you’re honest about it. We’re all human and there’s this overwhelming culture to always be on point and don’t ask for help or admit when you’re struggling no matter what it might be with. I really admire your strength and courage to say ‘hang on, I need a minute here’ and share it with us. It takes a lot to put your emotions out there. I understand people coming to the blog for beauty reasons, that’s what brought me here after all, but I continue to follow the blog for you not which products you love that month (a feature I do love FYI) I love when I get my email through telling me you’ve got a new post it’s a real highlight. So thank you for staying true to yourself and allowing us into your journey.

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Becky says · 05.03.15

Thank you so much for your post yesterday! My second son is 4 weeks old and going through a colicky stage. I’ve been feeling overwhelmed. I appreciate your honestly and I’ll be praying for you at 3am tonight =)

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Cortni says · 05.03.15

Oh, goodness… what to say, except, my first (and only) son was VERY colicky and VERY fussy for, well the first five years of his life, basically. The good news is that he’s a teenager now and he’s a loving, sensitive, affectionate, wonderful, just wonderful young man. My mom told me in those early days, that I was paying then and wouldn’t later, it happens to be true at least for now. My heart pours out to you during this very difficult time, so glad he has a loving family to care for him! xoxo

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Kristi Valentini says · 05.04.15

If you haven’t already done so, go check out “The Happiest Baby on the Block” book by Dr. Karp. Really great tips for soothing crying, fussy newborns during the first three months after birth – called the 4th trimester.

Actually, more recently he came out with a video which he recommends over the book because it’s easier to see someone doing the techniques he suggests which are the 5 “S’s” 1) Shushing or low/deep/rumbling sound 2) swinging or motion 3) sucking 4) swaddling 5) side or stomach position. He says that doing all of these correctly is like flipping a switch on a baby to stop the crying. Worth a shot, right?

I desperately read the book with my firstborn and loved it. And, I recently interviewed Dr. Karp and specifically talked about how this helps colicky babies. (I write for Pregnancy & Newborn magazine.)

Anyway, just wanted to pass that info on in case it helps you. Here’s hoping!

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Kate says · 05.04.15

Thanks Kristi! And I loved P&N when I was pregnant! Cool to read a comment from you 🙂

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Cait says · 05.04.15

My sister in law had a baby a month ago and he was extremely fussy, colicky, very unhappy. She started giving him a baby probiotic and took him to the chiropractor a couple times, and he is a completely different baby now. Happy and sleeps great! I know not everything works the same for different babies, but I thought I’d mention it anyway! Take care!

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SaraS says · 05.04.15

Wish you shared more like this in your blog. Thank you.

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Marilyn Kennedy says · 05.05.15

So glad you are nursing. As a nurse and lactation consultant, I wanted to mention that for colicky babies, one of the most successful tips is to nurse him as much as you can on the first side to get the most high fat hind milk in him (high fat,low lactose) before switching sides, even if he is too full to take the second side. If needed you could pump/express just enough to release the pressure on the second side. Always alternate the side you start on. This gives him less lactose, therefore less gas and higher fat which helps him feel full longer. I’ve seen this help many moms over the past 20 years.
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Kayla says · 05.06.15

Just catching up on some of your posts….Hang in there! My little girl was super gassy and colicky and we put her on a baby zantac medicine and it helped a ton. She wasn’t always 100%, but it helped tremendously. And I’m sure you’ve tried all kinds of things, but just remember….eventually it will pass. Good luck! You can do it!

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Paola says · 05.08.15

Hang in there. My son was just the same and I tried EVERYTHING, and nothing work. Eventually he got out of it. You are a wonderful mother who will grow and grow in experience, nobody tells us how hard it is, how challenging nights can be, rides, etc. It will get better and yes, next thing you know the time is gone and your now toddler will smile at you and run after his brother. Hug him close, even when he is crying. I know it s hard now but think this is one of the only times that he will be hugging you back, trusting you entirely, and being totally depending on you.

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