A few things I’ve learned about being a mom + a quick family update!
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one of my favorites from my very first shoot with Jordan and my eldest, David.
Ahhh motherhood. It’s quite a journey.
The last time I wrote a post about some of the harder parts of motherhood, for me, was here. Maybe it’s just the mental preparation of adding another one to the mix, or the fact that it’s been over a year since I first became a mom, but I felt compelled to share a few of the particularly meaningful things I’ve learned along my motherhood journey.
1. Don’t let what other’s find to be negative suck the joy out of something you enjoy. I remember mentioning a few times that I really hoped David would learn how to walk before my next baby arrived. David is not a petite little boy, and deeply hoped he’d be walking by the time his sibling arrived so I knew he’ d have some independence when my hands were full. I heard from a few people that I would “regret wishing that” and that “once your baby starts to walk it’s all downhill from there”. Sure, I understand these people may have been a little dramatic just for effect, and to a point I understand that life is certainly a little bit more challenging with a walking toddler, but I LOVE that David can walk. He stays occupied for such longer chunks of time because he can explore the downstairs, or his bedroom, without be having to relocate him constantly.
2. Flexibility is probably the most important trait I learned that I needed. I didn’t realize how inflexible I could be until becoming a mom. And sheesh, there were some tough days of frustration if my plan for the day got thrown off by a short nap, or a teething/sick baby. Motherhood is humbling. I still feel that a regular routine/schedule for David and I has made the first year pretty darn easy, but in hindsight I wish I was more flexible on days where the routine got thrown off (for whatever reason). Now with two, flexibility is going to be even more crucial for me to survive the challenging days ahead.
3. Don’t let a few consecutive days of something tough get you down. Let me give you an example. January was a tough month for David. He developed an excruciatingly painful, infected blister on his thumb from thumb-sucking, had a cold, was cutting 3 molars, and going through what I learned could be the 12/13 month sleep regression all at the same time. His naps were erratic, he was exceptionally clingy, and simply wasn’t himself at all. Infected thumb aside, I didn’t know what on earth was going on with him. And once his thumb healed, and he was still acting to strange, I started the decent into the pit of despair that my once happy-go-lucky, relatively consistant napper who was never clingy was gone. Goodbye. Welcome to a 13 month old I thought. And then, about a week passed, and he started to get back to his normal self.
And I realized: he’s got a lot going on inside and he’s not a tiny robot. He’s going to go through different phases (good and bad) and I need to remember that if it’s a tough stage that it will likely pass.
So once those challenging two weeks were over, and have since been forgotten about, I made a mental note to give different seasons a little bit more time before I resolve that any personality changes are permanent.
Again, none of these things may be particularly novel to you, but they were just a few things that I repeatedly come back to to “reset” my mind on the challenging days.
A little family update:
So, Luke has been here for almost a week! The transition has been seamless thanks to my family being in town to help, as well as my husband being home from work. I couldn’t imagine doing it without each of them.
I haven’t noticed dramatic changes in David since Luke arrived, other than perhaps the realization that there is something else going on in the house. Again, he’s so young I’m not sure if he actually notices it or I’m just projecting what I think he may feel onto him. He’s been busy, busy, busy with grandparents and his aunt Lauren so I’m sure we’ll have to go through a little detox phase once family leaves and settle into the new normal life.
Luke, while only a week old and still likely in a bit of a newborn coma, is super content and easy-going. He sleeps well, is easily soothed if he gets upset, and is eating well too!
I’ll share more about the “family of 4” transition over time, and the continued lessons I’m learning along the way. It’s always encouraging for me to read about other women in a similar phase of life, and how things are going for them, and I’m grateful that I get to share a bit of that part of my life here!