A few years ago my friend Ashlee told me about this “end of year” reflection she does with her husband where they reflect on the year and discuss a few key parts from a bird’s eye view.
I know I’ve mentioned this before, but I wanted to write another short post today to share what that looks like, and encourage you to do it! And this practice can work if you are single or not.
In the past Justin and I saved this conversation for a trip, but it can be done anywhere that works for you. We aren’t getting away this winter so we’ll plan a date night at home and discuss the topics!
The point, really, is to reflect on the great parts of the year and also any parts that you are hoping to adjust for the next year. You can look at any area that is significant in your life that makes sense for you. So if you don’t have kids, no problem.
If you are doing this with a partner, it’s not only beneficial to reflect and grow but it also provides a specific time where you both know that difficult topics may arise. Instead of randomly dropping a bomb on your significant other of a disappointment you may have, setting aside a specific time to talk helps you both prepare for a healthy discussion.
The main topics Justin and I cover are kids, finances, social life, personal life, marriage, and spiritual life. And generally the same 3 questions are asked for each topic.
- What worked this year with ______?
- What didn’t work and how can we do it differently next year?
- What goals/hopes do you have for the next year in regards to ______?
It’s helpful to cover one topic at a time in order to keep everything clear. If you like to write things down, have a spreadsheet or sheet of paper ready to record the changes you hope to make and perhaps some of the great things from the year. It would be great to have a 6 month check in to see how successful you are with any changes you were hoping to implement. We haven’t done that but I hope to this year.
It seems quite simple, and it truly is, but it’s so hard to cover all of these topics in a really introspective manner on any given week.
If you do this kind of end of year reflection and have any other thought-provoking questions, please share them in the comments below! I’d love to continue to expand the discussion!