Well we are over 4 weeks into Emily being here and it’s been an absolute joy. An exhausting joy, but a joy nonetheless. I wrote a full post about her delivery and our time in the hospital, but I wanted to share how things are going at home.
One perk of having a scheduled c-section is you know the exact date and time that the baby will be born. My parents and sister came in the day before since they were going to be watching the boys while Justin and I were in the hospital for a few days. The night before her birth we all ate a delicious dinner on the deck and I enjoyed our last evening as a family of 4. It wasn’t until I was putting the boys to bed that it really hit me that everything was changing the next day. I tried to explain to them that the baby was going to be born the next day and that mom and dad wouldn’t be home, but I don’t think either one of them really grasped it. In fact, I was crying while talking to both of them and they were both much more concerned with why I was crying than what I was actually saying. I attempted to explain that I was crying happy tears but that was kind of lost on them. I laughed with Justin after we closed their doors that that went differently in my head versus how that played out in real life.
We were in the hospital from Tuesday morning until Thursday afternoon. We were thrilled to be released before the traditional “3 day stay” when you have a c-section. On the way home I slept in the car only to wake up right before we pulled into the driveway.
The boys were on their scooters with my mom when we arrived. They saw that we had the baby and then decided to come inside so they could hold her.
That first evening was focused around paying attention to the boys and spending time with them. They both asked me a few times to play with them but I was till pretty sore from my incision. I was discouraged and emotional about not being able to play with them like I used to. I knew this was just going to be temporary, and I would be able to crawl around and play again one day soon, but the mixture of being a bit overwhelmed, hormones, and exhaustion made everything seem much more dramatic and extreme than it actually was.
That night a storm rolled in and was scaring Luke, so he got to stay up a little later and ride out the worst of the lightning and thunder with us. Emily did perfect, as she was still in her “newborn coma” until bedtime. She seemed to be unsettled the entire night but again-I was so tired that I’m not sure how long she actually was fussing.
The next day we had put her in something different for sleeping and that helped her sleep much better.
The first week or so my mom was still with us which was really helpful. She took care of the house, cooked, grocery shopped, and we even got some fun time in as well. She has come to stay when I’ve had each of my babies and that time is so special since I don’t live near her. She’s the reason the transition home was so easy, and I’m so grateful that she took that time to come stay with us!
My mom left on a Saturday, but it was only going to be a 5 day gap from when we’d see her again. My family has a tradition of going down to Palmetto Bluff in South Carolina for Memorial Day and even though Emily was only a few weeks old we decided to go for it.
That trip was a huge highlight of my summer. Emily did perfect for the 5 hour car ride, as did the boys. We met my parents and my sister and her husband down there and enjoyed the long weekend together.
After that weekend, real life began. The babysitter for the boys started, Justin and I talked through who would spend what time with Emily so we could both work, and we jumped into “normal” life as a family of 5.
In general, the transition was pretty easy. I still felt like I was missing the fun with the boys, like swimming in the pool, because feeding Emily would take so long, but I reminded myself yet again that this was just a brief season.
I’ll never be able to express how thankful I am that Justin is around more and works from home like me. He’s a hands on dad and helps so much around the house as well. It’s proven challenging to find enough time for each of us to work during the day, but we knew this summer would take a lot of experimenting and testing out different routines to make sure we could get enough time.
The boys have adjusted really well to Emily and David loves to hold her. I expected Luke to be more interested in holding her based on how he has interacted with babies in the past but I’m finding that David is more into it! They both love to help me burp her after she eats, and somehow no matter where I’m feeding her, the boys come to find me and hang out near me. I’m happy to have them near and learned quickly that they don’t seem to mind how long it can take to feed her like I thought they would.
Overall, the transition from two to three kids has been the easiest. Going from no kids to one kid was challenging for Justin and I, but it seems like since we adjusted to that change it’s continued to get easier and easier to add more children.
I will say that I think three is our final number, and that has made my mindset a little bit more relaxed knowing that this is our last round of going through the sleep deprivation of a new baby, trying to figure out her cries, and all that comes with a newborn. We also know that this season will move quickly, and suddenly we’ll look back and be surprised at how swiftly the time passed.
I can’t wait to get to know Emily’s personality and see the boys really play with and interact with her. One of the best parts of motherhood, to me, is watching my children grow into their individual personalities.
There is so much more I could share, but I wouldn’t know when to end the blog post! On that note, my intention is still to keep the blog content focused around beauty, but I also want to share a bit more behind the scenes of what is going on in my life beyond my latest favorite lipstick!
As always, thanks for reading and commenting. I’m slowly getting back into a groove here with work and hope to be more interactive in the comments and on Instagram as well soon!