I’m very grateful to have such a wonderful group of girlfriends here in Raleigh. We are all in a similar stage of life, have a lot in common while also being quite different as well, and always have a good time together. We’ve done big beach trips with our friends for the past few years, and those are always such great times to really get to know one another on a deeper level.
Growing up I was pretty shy. I was friendly, but I certainly wouldn’t take the first step in reaching out to someone. After I moved to Greenville for college, and didn’t know a single soul in the entire state, I forced myself to seek out friends. Well. . . first I watched an entire season of Prison Break while eating too much French toast in my apartment for a week, but then I sought out friends.
After college we all dispersed, I got married and moved to Raleigh with Justin. From there it was a bit of a “dry spell” in the friend department, and I longed for friends that were my age. After attending a new campus of our church, Justin got connected with the band and was invited to their small group–and from there our friend group was established! It’s been about 4 years that we’ve been together and I consider them all “lifer’s”.
Anyway, to get to my point of all this, we have a lot of girls nights. On average, we try to do something once a month but certain seasons are harder than others. We started Skills Night earlier this year as a way to share what we are all passionate about, which made for really fun girls nights! I talked about makeup/beauty, another friend taught hand lettering, another friend taught us about gardening, and we just had a girls night focused on making homemade pepper jelly!
Sometimes we’ll just go out for dinner, or other times we’ll gather at someone’s home for dessert. And no matter how busy the day was or how tired any of us are, we’re always glad to get together and connect when we have these nights planned.
So, if you are in a tight friend group already, OR if you are trying to reach out to new friends, here are a few ideas for fun girls nights.
- Bake something! Making pepper jelly was both informative, easy, and quick to do. Making something together is much more fun, in my opinion, than doing a cookie exchange (which can be a popular “get together” thing to do). The problem with a cookie exchange is no one needs, like, 65 cookies each. It’s too much! I love the idea of sharing the recipes, but there are always too many cookies! It would be fun to take turns hosting and all bake cookies together, especially if you are teaching your friends a specific recipe.
- Create something! A long time ago when felt flowers were really popular I had a few girlfriends over to make them together. Some of them knew how to do it, and some of them were total beginners, but it was fun for everyone to just sit, chat, and work with our hands. It would be fun to make homemade wreaths for your front door, or garland for your fireplace.
- Listen to/Read something! I started a little podcast club this summer that sadly fizzled out after a few meetings because I was traveling so much, but I hope to start one again in a more steady season of life (does that EXIST?!). Everyone had to listen to a certain podcast, and then we would get together and discuss. We were all mom’s, so the God Centered Mom podcast fit for us, but it would be any podcast that you find interesting and worth discussing. The advantage of doing this, is it gives you focused conversation topics to cover while you are together, but still allows time for casual chatting as well.
I’d love to hear what your favorite things to do are when you get together with girlfriends! Leave your ideas in the comments below!