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View More: http://jordanmaunder.pass.us/luke-newbornOne of the greatest blessings in my life is being able to connect with you, reader, on a personal level after going through something similar. I think that becomes such a solid foundation of a friendship, both online and offline.

A pivotal moment of vulnerability was when I shared that I was struggling while Justin and I were trying to get pregnant with David and it took 14 months. Time is very relative, and while 14 months may not seem long to some, it felt very long to me. And within minutes of publishing that post, I received an overwhelming outpouring of love and support, and also heard endless stories of encouragement, and also stories of women going through loss, or going on 3 years of trying to conceive.

I was humbled that I heard deeply personal stories from so many of you.

And Justin and I have one that we’d like to share with you. Our heart and intention for sharing this is for encouragement and hope if you have a similar circumstance, or know someone with a similar circumstance.

 

I monetize my content, and just feel like I should tell you that Justin and I will be donating the earnings from this video to the EHE Foundation. 

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Nicole H says · 08.12.15

I am a long time reader and this was such a great way to start my day. I love to see the love you share for each other. Wishing for a lifetime of health and happiness for both of you!

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Nuria says · 08.13.15

Thanks for sharing!

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Gena says · 08.16.15

Thank you for sharing your story. It is a blessing to see people being real about situations. God Bless you and your family.

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Sabrina Alexandra says · 08.12.15

Sending love and blessings to both of you and the boys! Thank you for sharing. This encourages me to open up a little more about my story.

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Jeanni says · 08.12.15

Thank you so much for sharing! I was diagnosed with lung cancer (non-smoker) January of 2010. Thankfully we caught it very early and the doctors were able to get it all with just surgery. I have been cancer free for 5 years. My husband was just diagnosed with squamous cell carcinoma (tongue cancer) (again non-smoker). We are on week 6 of 7 for chemo and radiation. Again this was caught very early and he has a greater than 90% cure rate. The radiation has been so tough on him but I know that God is seeing him (us) through this. I don’t know why our cancers were caught so early and are very treatable and I do struggle with this but I also know that God’s timing in perfect and there is a reason for this. Thank you again for sharing your story! Your boys are adorable! God is Good!

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Justin says · 08.12.15

Jeanni, thanks for sharing. Glad to hear that you’re in the clear and I hope your husband joins you there soon!

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Jenny W says · 08.12.15

Thank you for the encouragement. I hope the yearly visits continue to have a good progress report.

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Nicola B says · 08.12.15

A friend and ex-work college lost both her legs in an above the knee amputation after being trapped for hours during the Christchurch Earthquake in February 2011. Her life has been changed forever over something she could not control either. Four years on she struggles everyday and is planning on coming to the US to get to the Hanger Clinic in Oklahoma to get some new legs. You guys are certainly set up for dealing with her injuries and rehab compared to us here. My Mum was diagnosed with breast cancer 3 weeks after this epic earthquake and in a way what Stacey had and was going through at the time made her journey to the other side of cancer a positive one for Mum and our family. There is always something to be grateful and thankful for in our lives no matter what comes your way, and the fact Justin is living a full and happy life is fantastic for your family.
Thanks Kate and Justin for what was an open and honest discussion to share with your readers.

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Diane H says · 08.12.15

Nicole, I live in Oklahoma, a mere 30 minute drive to Hanger Clinic. If you need a place to stay when you come to Oklahoma, our home is open to you. Feel free to email me.

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Justin says · 08.12.15

Nicola, thanks for sharing. Sorry to hear about your friend and mum. I hope everything works out in a way that makes sense to you all!

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Jackie Strandberg says · 08.12.15

Thank you for sharing your story. It was a great way to start my day. In the day of everyone else’s life looking glamorous through social media this was a great reminder that you really have no idea what others may be going through. It was a great reminder to me that God is in control and I need to let go and let God. Thanks for the encouragement. I hope you have a blessed day.

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[email protected] says · 08.12.15

May God continue to bless you with health and prosperity. Thanks for sharing your story.

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Sonja says · 08.12.15

Thanks so much for sharing. Justin I was wondering how this effected your military career? My husband is the Army and has had hip surgery and has to have his hip reconstructed again and it basically will end his military career. I was wondering if this happened to you and how you felt about that? I know it stresses my husband out and is incredibly disappointing as he’s worked hard to get where he is. Thanks!

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Justin says · 08.12.15

Sonja, thanks for sharing. It didn’t have a huge impact on my military career. I was a crew chief (mechanic) on F-15E’s and it just side-lined me during my radiation treatment. Once I recovered from the effects of that I was able to go back to work. The Air Force conducted a “Medical Evaluation Board” where they determined that I was fit for continued service, I just couldn’t be deployed. Once my enlistment was up, I decided to get out and try my hand as a “civilian”.
I can understand how your husband feels though, and I may have felt differently if I had more than those 4 years invested. I hope it works out for him in a way that makes sense to him. There is life on the outside though 🙂

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Heather says · 08.12.15

As a medical provider, I have cared for many patients who have cancer and other health problems. When you have a life-threatening illness, it’s easy to lose faith and hope. Knowing that others understand what you’re going through and care about you is so important. Thank you for sharing your story!

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Katie Pell says · 08.12.15

thank you for sharing. You two are so cute!

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Denise Z says · 08.12.15

(I’m copying this from my FB post, but wanted to share with you here, too)

I’m on the West Coast and was up way too early after a night with little sleep–had just logged on to FB when your post appeared. Right before going to bed last night, I learned that a friend’s 3 y.o. son was just diagnosed with cancer earlier in the week and is in the hospital while they run tests and look for answers–I’ve been trying to wrap my head around this ever since I got the news. Was it a coincidence that your post appeared when it did for me? I think it was bigger than that. Thank you, to you and Justin both, for sharing his/your story and for the encouragement. Blessings both of you!

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Justin says · 08.12.15

Denise, thanks for sharing. That’s heartbreaking to hear. Here’s to hoping that the little fella makes it through unscathed. Do they know what kind it is?

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Denise Z says · 08.12.15

Thank you, Justin. We have not heard what type of cancer he has–I’m not sure they know exactly what they are dealing with yet. I got a brief message from my friend’s sister last night after she shared the news–she said they’d been at the hospital for the past 3 days, trying to wrap their heads around everything. When I find out, I’ll let you know. And I’ll be sharing your story with them when the time is right. You and Kate will touch more lives than I’m sure you’ll ever know as a result of your video–I know it’s what I needed to hear this morning!

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Abby says · 08.12.15

Wow. What an amazing story. Thank you so much for sharing this. I actually really needed to hear this today. My husband and I have a son only a few months older than David who was recently diagnosed with Cancer. There have been so many ups and downs emotionally for us while he undergoes treatment (we are also in the Raleigh area). You guys have it spot on….it’s the small things that really matter. I hope you continue to receive good news at your appointments. I will be praying and thinking of you both often.

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Justin says · 08.12.15

Abby, thanks for sharing, I’m sorry to hear about your little boy. Which cancer was he diagnosed with? I’m curious if you have any kind of support system (church, family, etc), I can’t imagine harder news than that. My parents were much more disturbed by my diagnosis than I ever was.

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Christina says · 08.12.15

I believe that when you have Christ in you, you face different types of battle because He sends his best soldier on a battle field. Be known that you and your family will be in my prayers.

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Veronica says · 08.12.15

Great story! Although I am not close to anyone living with cancer I think it is wonderful that you guys put yourselves out there to be an encouragement and to boldly state your faith in Christ. Thanks for sharing.

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Teri says · 08.12.15

What a wonderful couple. Thank you Justin and Kate for sharing your story. I will be praying for you to keep staying healthy.

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Chelsea says · 08.12.15

Kate, your blog is always inspiring! You and your family are great examples of a Godly family and we need more things like that in this world! Justin, thank you for opening up to us and keep sharing your story. God gave it to you for a reason! Thanks to you both!

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Alexandra says · 08.12.15

Thank you so much for sharing this. Seeing a blogger be “real” is sometimes more rare than it should be and it’s nice to see you being so honest.

When I was 10, my mom was diagnosed with breast cancer. She got lucky and it was another “best case cancer” in that they were able to do a bilateral mastectomy but there was no need for chemo or radiation. It’s nice to see someone acknowledging that “best case” stories are still stories. I often feel like I can’t bring up having a mom who had cancer because her story was atypical, because we got lucky.

Thanks for giving voice to this.

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Kate says · 08.12.15

So glad your mom was okay! Yes, Justin’s cancer situation is definitely atypical but it’s a story nonetheless!

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Stephanie says · 08.12.15

Such an awesome testimony about the goodness and mercy of God. Thank you.

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Julia says · 08.12.15

This blew me away, what a beautiful thing to do. Sending you thoughts and prayers from Ohio!

Side note, does anyone else think Justin reminds them of a bearded john krasinski? ?

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Justin says · 08.12.15

It’s the big ears.

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Deb says · 08.12.15

God bless you Justin and your beautiful wife! Thank you for sharing. I never realized how comforting it is to share and hear others’ stories until my significant other was just recently diagnosed with prostate cancer at age 52. Thankfully it was contained in the prostate and very early so we opted for removal. He is recovering well and likes to tell people his is merely a hiccup in the cancer world…lol. It was scary and still is but he’s right….many people have it much, much worse but it also doesn’t make it any less significant to the people whose lives it is affecting. 🙂

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Justin says · 08.12.15

Deb, thanks for sharing. Glad he’s doing well! and you’re right, his story is meaningful.

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Sarah says · 08.12.15

Oh I just love you guys. I’ve been a long time follower and love you more and more with each post. Thanks for sharing!!

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Nikki says · 08.12.15

You guys are amazing. Prayers for Justin’s continued strength and well being.

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Joy says · 08.12.15

Thank you for sharing this story. I pray that God continue to give Justine good health as well as the rest of your beautiful family!

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Alicia says · 08.12.15

Thank you for sharing your story. I respect you both and will pray God’s continued blessings on your life. Kate, I LOVE your beauty/hair/everything advice blog and follow you daily and have for years but I also appreciate that you’re a sister in Christ. (A little side note- I’d love if you shared some favorite devotionals sometime). Blessings to you both!

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Alicia says · 08.12.15

I also want to say I’ve bought so many products and loved them based on your recommendations! I appreciate that you include drugstore brands, too!

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Elaine B says · 08.12.15

Kate, i just love you! This blew me away. Thanks so much for sharing. Wishing you both everything you wish yourselves. Much love xE

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Katy says · 08.12.15

I was diagnosed with thyroid cancer in 2013 a few months after our son was born. After radical surgery in my neck and radiation treatment I have been cancer free for two years. It is a very eye opening diagnosis and really does help you put your life in perspective. I hope your appointments continue to go well. God bless!

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Kate says · 08.12.15

congrats on 2 years–that is awesome!

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Justin says · 08.12.15

Katy, thanks for sharing! Glad they were able to get you straight!

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Cynthia says · 08.12.15

Oh my word, you guys are so sweet together. Thank you for sharing your story with the world.

Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything.
– James 1:2-4

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Cheryl says · 08.12.15

What a really lovely video. I’ve been following you for a while now, even though I am probably not in your target age demographic! My boys (the oldest of my four kids) are fifteen months apart and seeing your “brother” pictures brings back so many memories!

Justin, you mentioned that you were in the Air Force at 21. Would you mind sharing with me your military/work path? My oldest son, now in 11th grade, is very bright, has outstanding leadership skills (I keep hearing about that from his football coach), and insists that his path after high school is enlisting. We are really confused by this and could really use some perspective. I would appreciate it more than you know if you wouldn’t mind sharing with me some of your thoughts about that. You can absolutely use my email.

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Justin says · 08.12.15

Cheryl, thanks for sharing – and asking.
I enlisted right out of high school into the Air Force and was a Crew Chief (mechanic) on F-15E’s. I was pretty young in my military career when I found out about the cancer but after treatment, went back to doing my job. Upon completion of my enlistment, I decided I wanted to get out and try my hand at the civilian life. As I mentioned, I was plugged into church and had a great group of friends that were working in vocational ministry. I decided that I’d attend Southeastern Baptist Theological Seminary for college in pursuit of a philosophy degree. After one year there, I had the opportunity to work at a church to really get a taste of whether or not I wanted do that for my career. I ended up having a wonderful experience there and realized that I’d rather pursue a “regular” job.

I ended up at East Carolina University while I was working at the church and subsequently changed majors to engineering (going back to my days of being an airplane mechanic). Shortly after marrying Kate, we moved to Raleigh where I completed an Aerospace Engineering degree at NC State before ultimately completing a Masters of Engineering Management at Duke. The latter being done while I was working full time in a leadership development program at LORD Corporation, where I still work as an aerospace & defense business development manager.

I think the military can be a really great place to grow up, learn a trade, and see the world. Obviously there are *lots* of bad apples hanging around there too. For what it’s worth, I think who the person (really) is going in, has a huge impact on who they end up being while serving (not entirely different than college). If my boys have their heads on straight, I wouldn’t have any hesitation about them serving in the military, but if they are easily influenced and not pretty strong-willed, I’d be more hesitant.

Just make sure your son knows that the recruiters are lying to him (all the time).
I am 100% joking.
and 100% serious.

Hope that helps!

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Cheryl says · 08.13.15

Helped more than you know. Yesterday in my Bible reading I had Proverbs 19:3: “Desire without knowledge is not good, and whoever makes haste with his feet misses his way.” (In other words, don’t go off half-cocked. Proverbs are awesome.) This really spoke to my husband and me, to help us and our wildly enthusiastic oldest boy to stop and learn as much as we can about ALL of his options before we watch him race down to the recruiter.

That other dratted Proverb, “Train up a child in the way he should go…” is all well and good until you realize that you have to help your child find the way God has said he should go, not the way YOU think he should go. It’s so good to hear the many and varied paths people take in their life and know there isn’t one good answer. Be ready. Your day for this will come sooner than you will believe.

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CS says · 08.12.15

So much love and respect for you and your family, thank you for sharing your story and for passing along such an important message.

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Joyce says · 08.12.15

Thank you both for sharing your personal story. Later in her life, my mother had a Cancer in her leg and was faced with likely amputation before God led us to a team of doctors who treated her without amputation. The treatment was brutal….weeks of chemo, 6 hours a day, 5 days a week. She was monitored closely for the rest of her life but never had a reoccurrence. She died a couple years ago from other health issues. Her survival of a rare cancer was always considered a miracle in our eyes. It was a journey we could not have walked without a relationship with God and praying friends. Blessings to your sweet family!

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Justin says · 08.12.15

Joyce, thanks for sharing! what a good story

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Melissa says · 08.12.15

Thank you for sharing! Wishing you continued good health.

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Becky Sharp says · 08.12.15

I have been a long time reader and truly appreciate you sharing this story, much love and respect to your family.

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Melinda says · 08.12.15

Hi Kate- I have been a long time follower of your blog. I must say, I LOVE the way your blog has changed over time. Thank you for sharing stories of your family, your lovely boys, your cats, and even your disorganized bathroom counter 🙂 It really does help moms with young children like me feel like we can be more put together. Some beauty blogs are so perfect that it just feels…well, unattainable for moms with babies.

Thank you to Justin for sharing your story! It was nice to actually get to see the two of you interact.

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Melissa says · 08.12.15

Once of the reasons i keep reading your blog is because you are so genuine. I don’t ever feel like you are “showy” or trying to dress super fancy and then it gets outside of appealing to your readers or the reality of most people. Thank you for sharing your story and being open and honest and REAL. keep up the good work and i can’t wait to see whats to come! prayers for good health and a LONG life 🙂

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Jessica says · 08.12.15

That was really beautiful, thank you for sharing.

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Elisabeth Adkins says · 08.12.15

Thanks for sharing this! I’ve been a reader for a year and a half or so now and I always enjoy reading your content. I especially needed to hear this today. I was diagnosed with a bunch of autoimmune problems when I was 13 and then I was diagnosed with cancer when I was in my early 20’s (I’m not 27). I’m in remission now (3 years!), luckily it was easily treated with a few rounds of oral chemo (I got lucky). I’m now very healthy and doing great (in fact training for my first half marathon right now!). I’ve had a rough life between family issues and health drama, so I often don’t open up to people about it, especially right away, because I’ve lost friends and boyfriends who couldn’t deal with it. Or I hated the way some people treated me differently. I recently started dating a guy who I adore and I could see us potentially working long term. I’ve slowly started sharing things with him about my past but haven’t yet mentioned the cancer, even though doctors are optimistic that I may be in remission long term. If we’re going to make it he needs to know (obviously). My question for you guys is this. Justin, how did you tell Kate and Kate, how did it effect you and your decision to stay with him? I think I’m more terrified than most because of the lack of support I’ve gotten from my previous boyfriends. Especially the one who left me after I was diagnosed. I know logically that “the one” will be OK with it, but I also recognize the fact that I come with a lot of baggage that some don’t want to deal with. I try to minimize it as much as possible, but it still is a big part of who I am. I am proud of how much I’ve overcome but it’s a lot for some people to understand.

Thanks again for posting this. I wish you all the best! <3

– Elisabeth

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Alicia A says · 08.12.15

Elisabeth –

I first want to send you a lot of hugs over the internet. If we were in person, I’d take you to lunch, dinner or coffee, whatever seemed best. I’d help you with role play until you felt comfortable telling your current boyfriend. My situation is not the same but similar. I was diagnosed with a rare brain malformation when I was 23. After surgery, it has been an ongoing battle to learn how to deal with the chronic pain. I also have been diagnosed with an autoimmune disease. I also have had a rough life between family issues, church issues and health issues. I have felt abandoned by those that should have stuck by my side during all those trials, but as you said, I found myself losing friends, losing family support and losing the support of my church. I also hated how people would say “I shouldn’t complain; I don’t have it as bad as you.” That made me feel awful, like I was some kind of circus freak show. I really believe we should be honest about our trials and not judge who has it worse or better. I didn’t have a boyfriend during my surgery, but by the time I was 30, I was married. I had to ask my husband how I told him about my brain malformation and surgery because I couldn’t remember. At the time he was only a work friend, and I told him an embarrassing story that happened after my surgery because I thought it would make him laugh. And it did. I had never seen him laugh so hard. BTW, I still find the story embarrassing and he still finds it funny. I know you weren’t asking me how to break the news, but a little bit of humor always seems to help. And you are right that “the one” will accept you completely, baggage and all. That is called unconditional love. I read something that said “Everyone comes with baggage. Find someone who loves you enough to help you unpack.” My husband has been the one that is willing to help me unpack my baggage. For the first time I feel unconditional love. I know I am lucky to have him as a husband. I believe there is someone out there that will love you enough to “help you unpack” too. Those people may be few and far between, but I want to let you know that they do exist.

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Justin says · 08.12.15

Well said Alicia,
thanks for taking the time!

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Elisabeth Adkins says · 08.13.15

Thanks Alicia! That was very sweet to hear and exactly what I needed. <3 I am very glad things have worked out for you! 🙂

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Justin says · 08.12.15

Elisabeth,
Thanks for sharing!
I honestly have no clue how I told Kate about it. I have always been so open about it, and as soon as I think it might matter (like it certainly does in a boyfriend/girlfriend situation, I just find a way to bring it up). I think the easiest way for you to do it would be to preface that you have something you want to tell him because you really like him, you’re really comfortable with him, and you want to share more about yourself with him. Then just tell him. I realize it probably won’t be that easy, but you don’t have to make it a huge deal. Tell him that he can ask you any questions he wants, at any time, because it’s part of who you are, not some dark secret.

And you’re right, if he is going to be scared off by it, the sooner the better.

Don’t worry, he has baggage too.

Kate would roll her eyes at the idea of me giving a girl relationship advice, btw. Maybe you should’ve asked her 🙂

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Elisabeth Adkins says · 08.13.15

Thanks Justin! 🙂

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Ashley says · 08.12.15

Kate and Justin,
Wow, what a beautiful video! Thank you for sharing your story and your heart with us. When I was 10 I was diagnosed with a malignant muscle tumor. After a year of radiation and chemo I was declared cancer free. Christ used (and continues) to use this time in my life to show me his greatness, his care for me, and the fact that I can TRUST him. He is so faithful. Let me encourage you with a verse that my family and I clung to during this time… Psalm 34:4 “I sought the Lord and he answered me. He delivered me from all my fears.” Our God is greater than Justin’s cancer. Nothing is ever out of control that is in his control! What a peace we have knowing the love of our Savior. Please know you are being lifted up and prayed for!!!

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Justin says · 08.12.15

Holla!

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Brittany says · 08.12.15

Thanks so much for sharing your story. Love your little family and wishing you the best 🙂

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Elizabeth says · 08.12.15

I have loved following your blog for years, and this video is so touching. The love and hope of Christ shines through both of you so evidently in the pieces of your lives that you share with your readers all the time, but even more so today. Thanks for opening up and sharing this piece of your story with us!

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Margie says · 08.12.15

I am nearly speechless, this video really touched me. Kate, your personality is what makes your videos so great and it was God who gifted you with the quirky, cute, comfortable-in-your-own-skin way you have about you. I am so grateful that you went public with Justin’s story and your faith in God and Christ as a way to hopefully encourage others. That is what it is all about, isn’t it? It may just be the reason you were given this platform :-). God bless you both. I am so happy to know you a little better. <3

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Rochelle says · 08.12.15

What a beautiful video. Kudos to you two for being so raw and sharing this story. You are very blessed and it really shows that you two believe that. God is Good

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Carli Heringer says · 08.12.15

I love everything about this video. I have lost several loved ones to cancer and know how difficult it is to watch someone you love be taken by this awful disease. I have so much respect for you both. I love that you opened up and shared your story, and that you are using your platform to point people to Christ. Im so glad that God has given you more time and that you are using it for His glory! I look forward to meeting you both in Heaven someday. Hugs to you!

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Maranda says · 08.12.15

My dad was diagnosed with Acute Lymphoblastic Leukemia, positive for Philadelphia Chromosome (ALL) in August of 2014 which is a very rare blood cancer for adults and is mostly found in children. This diagnosis is typically terminal and has a very high relapse rate. He began intensive chemotherapy right away and eventually had radiation as well in order to prepare him for a stem cell transplant. His transplant occurred on Christmas Day, 2014. As of now he continues to be in remission but still has daily struggles that stem from the transplant. It was basically just him and I going through this entire process together so you truly learn what it means to sacrifice and to put your faith into something much greater than you. Staying positive was one of the hardest things my dad struggled with. Thank you so much for sharing. Prayers to the both of you and to your two young boys who have amazing role models to raise them.

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Justin says · 08.12.15

Maranda, thanks for sharing. I hope your dad continues to be cancer free!

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Jessica says · 08.12.15

Dear Justin and Kate,

Thank you for sharing this story. I’ve been following your blog for a while now and am happy to see that there are brothers and sisters in Christ all over the world. Trust in Him and continue to live a full, happy life! And thank you for letting us be a part of your life!

Jessica (the Netherlands)

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Justin says · 08.12.15

Thanks Jessica!
I’ll be passing through Amsterdam very soon on my way to Kilimanjaro. I wish I could see more than just the inside of the airport

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JNJxn says · 08.12.15

Wow. You are so kind to share this! Thank you to both of you. God is certainly using both of you for his glory!! Bless you both and your sweet boys!

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Ellen says · 08.12.15

I just want to thank both you and Justin for sharing your heart’s. It is such a blessing to hear other people’s stories. I was diagnosed with cancer when I was 13 and I can absolutely relate to those feelings of what does my future look like? Will anyone want me now that I have scars on my body? Those questions and concerns are very real and very valid. I just want to thank you for your honesty and openness. My hope is in Christ as well and I look to Him in all things. It is still a source of anxiety whether my past treatment will affect my fertility. I am 23 now and planning on being married this upcoming summer so it is a part of my life that is still very real and anxiety filling. I just want to thank you from the bottom of my heart for sharing this part of your life.

I am a long time reader and Kate it is actually because of you that I started my own blog. You were the first blogger I ever read and I have watched and read about your journey for many years now. Thank you to both of you for sharing your life with us. God bless!

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Justin says · 08.12.15

Ellen, thanks for sharing! Congrats on the upcoming marriage! Most of those fears seem so silly looking back, but so real in the moment.

Enjoy your future family (by whatever means necessary!)

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Christin says · 08.12.15

Beautiful video. I love that you were both bold enough to share such a personal story and the love of Christ. While I am thankful to have not been effected by cancer my husband and I have had to deal with infertility. We had a son almost 8 years ago, with no issues. But have been trying for another for over 6 years. It is very very hard. We have seen doctors, I have done so many tests and so many different meds. Even loooked into adoption. And then finally this year God opened my eyes. I felt like he was telling me to be still. Like he was telling me to stop trying so hard. And finally when I just gave him all my pain, I felt free. Trusting in Gods plan when your in pain is really hard. My husband and I may only have one child, but I thank God for him every day. That he allowed me to be a mother. I don’t know what my future holds as I don’t know what his plans are for you. But we know where our eternity lies and we know that his plan is perfect. Thank you again for being so bold. Many blessings to your beautiful family.

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Justin says · 08.12.15

Amen. Thanks for sharing Christin

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Kelsey says · 08.13.15

Christin, your story sounds so similar to one my parents have walked. I am an only child but not my the choice of my parents. They had me with no problems about a year after they were married. After me, they kept trying for many years as well as seeing many doctors and fertility specialists. As it turns out, my mom ran out of eggs (weird I know). Just wanted to share their story to let you know you are not alone.

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Christin says · 08.13.15

Hi Christin, I felt compelled to reply firstly because I rarely find another Christin who spells her name the same, but also because I share in your sentiment of letting go and letting God! God bless you! Hugs!

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Stephanie says · 08.12.15

Thanks for sharing. I actually really appreciate that your blog is trendy a little more to the family/lifestyle topics these days. I find myself relating a lot more. An awesome story of God’s provision!

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Kim says · 08.12.15

So touched by your story…..God bless you always ?

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Megan says · 08.12.15

Thank you for sharing! And I pray for God’s continued blessings on Justin’s health and your family.

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Lindsey McAllister says · 08.12.15

One of the things I’ve always admired about you, Kate, is that you are so open and honest about who you are and your life and not in an attention way, always humble. Thank you for sharing your story together, it was very brave of both of you. I started following you for your tutorials, but shortly after that you posted about your fertility issues. I was going through the same thing at the time and felt that God led me to you! I am so so happy your story has changed, and incredibly grateful that ours has as well, after 5 years – our first due in February!! So not only can I look up to you as a woman my age, but as a mother now as well!
But mostly, it’s so wonderful to see a young, strong, and faith-filled couple that can be a good example for others in any aspect of life! Thank you both for being amazing people! Good luck and God bless!

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Justin says · 08.12.15

Lindsey, thanks for sharing and congratulations!

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Stephanie says · 08.12.15

Thank you for so publicly sharing your faith and source of strength and source of hope. Christ surely is our cornerstone and the peace flowing out of you both is evidence of that. Blessings on your whole family.

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Mindy says · 08.12.15

Beautiful testimony of God’s goodness and his grace. Thank you so much for sharing, I can’t imagine how many people are lifting you, your husband and your family up in prayer at this moment. God is in control and He loves His children! Thank you for being willing to open up and encourage others through your story.

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Kristina says · 08.12.15

That was just the story I needed to hear this morning. My husband and I met when we were 16 years old and ended up getting married August 9, 2014 at the age of 24. During our senior year of college,, my husband, Tanner was diagnosed with stage 4B Hodgkin’s lymphoma; a very curable and treatable cancer. While this was treatable and curable, the journey was long and hard. He started chemo in March 2012 and spent most of his summer in the hospital with neutropenic fevers. In August 2012 he received a clear PET scan and the doctor shared with us that he believed all the cancer was gone. Tanner has gone in for regular check ups every 3 months the first year, every 6 months the second and third years, and now once a year going forward. This past weekend was our one year anniversary and it was spent back at the hospital on the same hematology floor he spent his summer in 2012. There were many familiar nurses which was comforting, but this time Tanner was there with a staph infection in his finger. He was put on IV antibiotics and we waited to see what the cultures would come back with. Being back on this floor and seeing all of the cancer patients again brought back all the terrible feelings of being there 3 years ago. I stayed late and got there early so I wouldn’t miss the doctors doing rounds and my body felt the same type of exhaustion it had when we were there a short 3 years ago. We found out that the infection was staph and Tanner was switched over to oral antibiotics and we were able to come home last night after spending 3 nights there. Now that we have been married for a year, we’ve discussed the possibility of having children, but feel like we may not want them because of the fear of not being able to. We prepared by freezing his semen before he started chemotherapy so we know it is a possibility for us to have children, but the fear of not being able to naturally is a great one. Your story was a message from Him this morning that life is tough and there are people with challenges in their life whether it be getting pregnant or living with cancer, but that living your life through Christ is what’s most important. I personally connected on so many levels to this post and I can’t thank you enough for sharing. God Bless you and your beautiful family.

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Justin says · 08.12.15

Kristina, thanks so much for sharing. I’m glad that the infection is all Tanner has to worry with now!

If you want my advice, try to have kids (assuming you want them)! Go for it! if you can’t do it “naturally” do it some other way. Live. Live while you can! Enjoy each other, have kids, enjoy them, enjoy life while you can!

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Melanie says · 08.12.15

Thanks for sharing Kate and Justin!

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Margaret Wiltrout says · 08.12.15

I am so thankful to hear your story and still have hope. I will “Always” keep you all in my prayers. I am 41 years old and last August I had a major back surgery. It was only suppose to be a single discectomy but when the surgeon got in there in was way worse than he expected. Well the surgeon messed up and hit a main Nerve which has cause me to have to live with a condition called RSD. I already have Fibromalgia, arthritis, more back problem, inflammation all through my body and now RSD. RSD is lifelong and there is nothing they can do to remove the problem. It started immediately after I woke up from surgery. My right leg was numb and really burning from my knee up. They told me it was normal well the burning got so severe and also ended up back in the hospital for a week. I couldn’t stand or walk. At this time I was so scared and so was my kids as they where there watching everything. I have 2 boys. One is 21 (well I guess he’s a young man) and my other son is 15. The burning is so severe at times I don’t want to breath cause the slightest movement (and I literally mean like a hair) it feels like someone is lighting me on fire. They tell me there’s nothing they can do other than have me on high doses of pain medicine for nerve pain (Lyrica and Neurontin). The next step is to amputate the limb. I am soooo scared because I do not want to lose my leg. I am very active with my family. All I keep thinking is how am I going to do everything I do without my right leg. And then on top of that RSD spreads through out your body. I have never heard of RSD until I was diagnosed with it. I had 3 different opinions saying I have RSD. So I do know what you live in every day wondering when they are going to tell you that you may lose a leg. Thank you for sharing your story. Like I said you “All” will be in my prayers always!!

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Justin says · 08.12.15

Margaret, thanks for sharing! That sounds truly terrible.
I kinda resigned myself to being totally ok with an amputation if it ever looks like that’s the best path for me. There is a lot of great technology out there now in prosthetics.

I do hope your condition improves!

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Kayla says · 08.12.15

I’m a longtime reader from the beginning days. Your blog was one of my favorite things to check all throughout college and now that I am entering my first year of teaching it remains something I enjoy. That being said, one of the reasons I enjoy your blog is your honesty and openness about Christ. Amidst that general junk all over the internet, your blog is a light in so many ways. Thank you for sharing your story, and for being willing to talk about the bigger picture to our lives on earth.

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Hilary says · 08.12.15

What a bold statement towards your faith, small things family!! We need more like you both in the world! Although I am not struggling with an illness, the encouragement from your post was MUCH needed today! Thank you for giving us a peek into your personal life, Kate! You are beautiful inside and out!

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Natalie Gonzalez says · 08.12.15

As a fellow sister in Christ, can I just say that I love you guys? (No, I haven’t been into the wine this morning.) 😉 Thank you for this testimony, for opening doors, for sharing hope and peace, and for creating space for people to share. I love seeing all the responses of others who’ve journeyed through (or still are) something tough. This is what it’s all about, and I’m so grateful to y’all for embracing the readership and platform that you have for Christ. Xo

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Justin says · 08.12.15

Natalie, thanks. I agree, seeing others stories is the best part!

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Christina says · 08.12.15

My best friend who is more like a sister was diagnosed last year with advanced colon cancer at the age of 35. She will most likely have to have chemo treatments for the rest of her life. She’s had a miracle happen and set backs but she is a fighter. I’m glad to hear that Justin is living well and could keep his leg. I love your blog and read it daily like a friend posting on fb, though we’ve never met and live in different states. Thank you for sharing your life.

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Justin says · 08.12.15

Christina, thanks for sharing. I hope your friend pulls through!

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Megan says · 08.12.15

Justin and Kate, thank you both so much for opening your lives to us.

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Sadie says · 08.12.15

Wow what a beautiful story. My husband and I have tried for over two years to get pregnant and we will be now trying a donor egg with ivf. I pray daily for a good result and hope that God will grant us this baby. Either way we know he is good and in control. Cancer has run wild through our family with my mother and nephews. We continue to walk daily with God and trust him. It is always encouraging to see others do the same. Two healthy boys and a healthy husband are such an amazing story. May God continue to bless you and your family. We will pray for you! Love your blog and it warms my heart to check your posts everyday. In Christian love, sadie

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Justin says · 08.12.15

Thanks Sadie, best of luck with the IVF and pregnancy. Obviously, you’re not alone in that struggle. So many people in that boat with you.

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Amanda Kirch says · 08.12.15

Thank you for sharing! The love between you is amazing, prayers for continued happiness

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Julia says · 08.12.15

Justin,
Thank you for sharing your cancer journey. I am a cancer mom. My daughter was diagnosed last August with Neuroblastoma stage 4 high risk cancer. It was a crazy journey and I relied on god throughout it. My daughter died last month July 11th and went home to her Heavenly Father. I know what a daunting pressure having cancer is and living with it is like a ticking time bomb that may never go off or that may explode. Cancer is a good teacher at showing you what is important in life. Take care and I will be praying for you.
Julia

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Bonnie says · 08.12.15

Julia, I am SO sorry for the loss of your daughter. I’m not sure there is any pain like that. I will pray for God to be very real to you and to heal your heart.

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Justin says · 08.12.15

Julia, I was heartbroken to read your post. I read it over and over to make sure I was reading it right.

I am so sorry. Prayed for you on the spot. I truly hope that you have been able to find some level of comfort throughout the tragedy. I also hope that you have a good support group (church, family, friends, etc) and hopefully one where some people have had similar experiences and can relate to what you’re going through. If you need help finding such a group, please let someone know. Let us know and we’ll try to help find such a group.

Thanks so much for your support and encouragement. I pray you feel the same.

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Amy says · 08.12.15

You two are such good people. What a beautiful message of hope and leaning on Christ. I’m LDS (Mormon) and I just really respect how open you are with your faith. So happy to hear that Justin is doing well, you have a beautiful family! Thanks again for sharing a piece of your life to help uplift others 🙂

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Ashley Beth says · 08.12.15

And just when I thought I couldn’t like you any more than I already do, you prove me wrong! Thank you so much for sharing your story and faith in such a real way. May it be for God’s glory!

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ella says · 08.12.15

Justin and Kate,
You two, plus David and Luke, have become a staple in our home. I gave followed you since 2011. I have read every post since then, commented a few times. My two girls love watching all of your videos. You bring such simple joy into our lives. You’re story us far more than a few tutorials and some makeup recommendations. You touch my heart with every kind word. I have never been disappointed in a post or with you.

With that being said, we found out on December 10, 2014 that my Dad had a lump in his throat. With some testing and scans, they decided it would be best to surgically remove it and test it for cancer. His surgery was on December 19, 2014. We spend the holidays just praying and having some down time. We didn’t do a bug family party, Daddy was still recovering from surgery, and we all were just not in the holiday spirit, which is so unlike me because I love Christmas time and my husband and I got married on new years eve and our oldest daughter has a birthday January 13. So that time of year is always busy and joyous for us. But this past year.. it was different.

In January, my parents came to visit us, we live two hours from them, and Daddy told us it was cancer. Right then, it was like a brick wall had hit me. This man, who is my superman, has cancer. CANCER!! That is not a word anyone wants to hear.. He was immediately referred to MD ANDERSON in Houston, TX. There he received 30 radiation treatments and 5 chemo treatments.

My husband and I were able to go visit him right in the middle of the 7 weeks he had to stay there. We told my mom we were coming, but surprised him. He smiled for, what my mom said, was the first time in weeks! I was able to see the radiation machine and watch them strap my daddy down with this crazy looking mask made just for him.

My dad was small and weak. Not the super hero I had grown up seeing. He was now fighting his own battle, and not one of mine. We spent 3 days with them before we had to go back home. I begged my husband to leave me there with him. I couldn’t stand to leave him, but we have 2 daughters who needed me home.

After the 30 days of radiation, they decided daddy didn’t need his last chemo so he got to come home early. I was so excited to see him. Then my girls got sick. We didn’t want to pass it to daddy because his immune system was gone. So I had to wait even longer to see him. He had come home with a feeding tube and had lost so much weight, his facial hair was gone (I had never ever seen my dad without facial hair), and he could barely stay awake. This was so heart breaking to me.

6 weeks after being home he had to go back to MD Anderson for tests. THE CANCER WAS GONE! He still had to keep his feeding tube because he couldn’t eat yet. But he was CANCER FREE!! He now eats whatever he wants, he says his taste still isn’t the same. He cares for veggies, fruit, and some fish more than any other meat.

He goes back next week, and we are hoping for the same results as last time.

Thank you for sharing your story. Thank you for showing that there is Hope and that you can have life after/with Cancer.

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ella says · 08.12.15

Sorry for any spelling errors. I hate predictive text on my phone

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Justin says · 08.12.15

Ella, two things: one – thanks for sharing. two – I truly can’t believe you typed that on your phone.

What a great ending to that story. I was so glad to see it go that direction!

But please don’t wish a love of fish on me.

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Mary Kate says · 08.12.15

Kate-
Your posts are always so inspiring! Thank you for sharing this with all of us, you and your family are always in my prayers!
Mary Kate
http://www.mynewchicagolife.com

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Ashley says · 08.12.15

What a great testament to God’s faithfulness, and how he has strengthened you and your family. I would love to get the link to your pregnancy story! I have been subscribed to your blog for a while, but had no idea you struggled to get pregnant.

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Estela says · 08.12.15

Thank you Justin and Kate for sharing. I was diagnosed with a rare type of uterine sarcoma last year, and I’m now going to MD Anderson for scans every 6 months. So far I’m NED, and I hope it stays that way. What I found most encouraging was when you both said that your health issues were not a “secret.” Sometimes I feel as if I am sharing too much when I tell people I had cancer, or that, because I look “fine” people may think there is nothing wrong with me. But we all are survivors, and you sharing your story gives us all encouragement to keep on. So I feel we should all try to pass it on. God bless you all!!

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Justin says · 08.12.15

Estela, thanks for sharing and so glad you’re NED!
You’re right, share away!

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Faith Smith says · 08.12.15

I just want to say thank you for sharing your hope in Christ. I was 11 when I was diagnosed with Marfan’s Syndrome and the effects that would have on my life. At that time the life span of someone with this was not expected to be very long. I had a calling in my heart to work with children and not to try and have children of my own. I met the man God had for me who has now been my husband for 25 years. We have been missionaries and now houseparents at a children’s home for over 16 years. The greatest thing is that this year God blessed my husband and I with the privilege to adopt 2 boys, 8 years and 11 years old. Because of the hope we have in Christ that is what keeps us living life at its fullest. Pray that God continues to show his hand of protection on your lives.

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Justin says · 08.12.15

Faith, thanks for sharing.
So glad to see how you’ve turned your situation into good for others. Kate and I have known someone with Marfan’s and hope that you continue to live in spite of it!

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Jennifer says · 08.12.15

Thank you both for sharing your story about living with cancer on the blog today! Lifting you both up in prayer as you continue to live and battle through this disease!

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Jessica H says · 08.12.15

Kate and Justin,
Thank you so much for sharing your heart and your testimony. As I have told you before, I’m so glad that I stumbled across your blog a couple years and that you love the Lord. Lifting you up in prayer.

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Jenna says · 08.12.15

Kate,

I really hope you and Justin see this comment. I’ve been in tears since seeing your video. I’m 23 weeks pregnant and have a 5 year old son and 3 year old daughter. 2 weeks ago, after stroke like symptoms, I was diagnosed with a brain bleed from a cavernoma in my brain stem. It can bleed again at any time and it’s possible it can kill me and it’s also possible that it will never bleed again. I am a Christian, but I am really struggling. I’m terrified really. I know God is in control and only his will will be done, but I’m struggling with being out of control and terrified of not being here to raise my kids. Just wanted to let you know my story and that I appreciate your and your words of wisdom.

Jenna

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Justin says · 08.12.15

Jenna, thanks for sharing.
So darn sorry to read about your condition. I can’t imagine what that must feel like given the pregnancy and your other kids.

The only advice I’d offer is to get your contingency plan in place (worse case scenario, who takes the kids, etc) and then try not to worry about it. It won’t help anything and it will only distract you from doing useful things like enjoying every moment you have with the kids.

As a Christian, you might appreciate an article that has meant a lot to me over the years, “Don’t waste your cancer” by John Piper. http://www.desiringgod.org/articles/dont-waste-your-cancer

I do hope you live a full, healthy, and long life!

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Jenna says · 08.13.15

Justin,

Thank you so much for taking the time to reply, for your advice, and for the article. I just got done reading it and have bookmarked it to read again and again.

Jenna

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M says · 08.12.15

Kate and Justin,
Thank you so much for sharing. Do you happen to know Emily Meyers from The Freckeled Fox blog? Her husband, Martin was recently diagnosed with stage 4 Melanoma. I was just thinking that you guys might be a good couple for them to connect with for support/encouragement.
You can hear their story here:
http://www.freckled-fox.com/2015/07/how-martins-doing-video-update.html?m=1

Blessings,
M

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Justin says · 08.12.15

Thanks M, I’ll check them out

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Laureena says · 06.20.16

Hi Kate and Justin, just wanted to update you on author of The Freckled Fox blog (Emily Meyers). Her husband passed away a few days ago from cancer, leaving her to care for 5 kids under age 6.

Kate, I know you have such a great social reach and was wondering if you might consider sharing the link to their fundraiser page (set up by one of her friends) with your readership. I am in no way associated with Emily or her blog, but know you have a common connection through this terrible disease. It is a horribly hard time for them. Thanks for reading this <3

https://www.youcaring.com/martin-and-emily-meyers-569351

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Amber B says · 08.12.15

If I could high five you and hug you right now I totally would. Many blessings to you, your sweet husband, and adorable boys. Prayers for Justin’s complete healing. God is so faithful.

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Justin says · 08.12.15

*high five*

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Michelle says · 08.12.15

Kate & Justin,

Thank you for sharing your life changing story. I too am a breast cancer survivor. I was diagnosed at the age of 39 in 2006. I love sharing my story and educating others on this horrific disease. My husband and I have been married for 5 years come this December. I too recall sharing my cancer story with my husband days into our dating relationship. My annual check-up is coming up in October, 2015. Blessings to you both for sharing your story and touching so many lives.

God Bless You,
Michelle

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Justin says · 08.12.15

Michelle, thanks for sharing! Glad you can be counted among the survivors!

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Aleece Dye says · 08.12.15

God is good all the time! Thank you for sharing your wonderful story and for your passion to help and inspire others. Praying for healing for Justin and that God continues to bless your beautiful family!

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Noe says · 08.12.15

Wow! thank you for sharing your life story and your perspective, your husband just had the perfect words to explain how relyingto God is the most important thing… I had tears flowing…
Just to share a little bit of our experience, my husband and I have been TTC for 5 years, with one miscarriage in the books …. and we are now 8 weeks pregnant… I can’t even begin to explain how grateful I am that I have relied on the Lord … and that I have trusted him fiercely and undoubtely…. So that my story could be a way to tell others how amazing his glory is.
Last week during the first ultra sound the doctor found a lump in my thyroids, and apparently we can only find out more about it once this pregnancy is completed, but you know what? …. I am going to trust in God once again and just do my best and I believe everything will be done in his perfect time and according to his plan.
Thank You Justin for sharing your story with us. May God bless you with health and prosperity, so you could help so many others in similar situation. Regards from South America!

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Justin says · 08.12.15

Noe, preach. Don’t sweat that lump until there is reason to. I do hope your pregnancy journey is successful and that the lump is just a lump.

Thanks for sharing!

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Crystal Emery says · 08.13.15

Hi, I just went through thyroid cancer. Even though they can’t biopsy ask them to run a blood test for your TSH, T3, T4, and thyroglobulin. You may need thyroid medication until your pregnancy is done. It also may be a reason why you’ve miscarried or had trouble conceiving. So have them check, it may save your baby. I had a lot of these same problems. If you need any advice ii’d love to help. I was diagnosed May 18 and just finished my last round of treatment. I wish you the best of luck.

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Diane H says · 08.12.15

My husband and my daughter are both cancer survivors. In Christ alone, is our Healer and strength. I am so happy for your entire family!!! What a wonderful testimony of our God’s faithfulness, Blessings

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Justin says · 08.12.15

Diane, thanks for sharing. Glad to hear they can be counted among the survivors!

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Kelcie says · 08.12.15

It is so encouraging to see you leveraging your story for Christ! Thanks for sharing!

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Emily says · 08.12.15

While I found your blog looking for cute hairstyles, I love seeing pictures of your boys, and I also really appreciate you sharing your faith. As a teenage girl I was happy to find you as someone who not only had cute hairstyles and things but also as someone who shares my values and beliefs. Thank you for sharing stories like this and your testimonies.

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Jessica says · 08.12.15

Thank you for sharing such a personal experience. I have followed your blog for a couple of years and although I LOVE the hair and makeup posts I find myself even more looking forward to hearing about your boys and your family. Using your platform to share this testimony will witness to so many hearts. Thank you for boldly pointing people to the cross. In the society we live in too many people are afraid to speak out on their faith and I applaud you guys for speaking TRUTH.

I had a pretty aggressive form of cervical cancer diagnosed in 2011 and it rocked my whole world. It’s so easy to want to crawl into a hole during such a terrifying time but the ONLY way to truly break through is to turn to Christ. Although the cancer was removed, it still continues to haunt me year after year as I have the fear that it wasn’t all removed, etc. I had some of the same feelings – Will someone want to date/marry me? What if I cant have kids? It’s only through prayer, faith and a support system of friends and family that I have been able to move on from this. It is nice to hear someone say, out loud, the things that I have thought many times. I’m blessed to be cancer free – actually got my first normal pap results in yesterday! I’m believing for radical healing for Justin and that God will bless you both RICHLY for sharing your testimony.

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Justin says · 08.14.15

Jessica, thanks for sharing. So glad to hear that you’re cancer free now! Thanks for relating to the unreasonable feelings 🙂

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Dani says · 08.12.15

First and foremost, I wanted to say that I am a long time reader and have always enjoyed your blog content. Today’s video hit home with me and I cannot wait to share with my fiancé. He too was diagnosed with cancer twice in his lifetime. The first time at the age of 19 and again at 21. He has been in remission for 7 years now, but it does play a role in how we will have children, and the yearly checkups at U of M never let us forget where he has been! Justin’s story is so encouraging and you will both be prayed for by our family! Kate, I would be incredibly interested in seeing a video or post about how you handle all of this too. I personally find myself at times on edge because of being so worried every single checkup season. You two are such an inspirational couple and I hope to see more encouraging videos!

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Justin says · 08.14.15

Dani, thanks for sharing! Glad to hear he’s in remission – 7 years is great. If you go that long, typically you’re in the clear!

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Trish says · 08.12.15

I was diagnosed in 2003 with Hodgkins Lymphoma a month before my 18th birthday. I had chemo and radiation which put me into remission in the same year. I go for yearly checkups and scans like Justin although in the last year it’s shifted to more of breast cancer screening because of the radiation on my chest. So far all is good! As Justin put it, “if I could pull a cancer out of a hat”, I got lucky with only a stage 2! ??

Thank you so much for sharing your story. Even after 12 years it can still get… lonely on the mind? I’m not sure how to describe it but it’s comforting to hear someone else’s story and their thoughts on their own experience.

I wish you and your family all the best in health and happiness in the future.

Sending love from Toronto, Ontario, Canada,

Trish

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Justin says · 08.14.15

Trish, thanks for sharing. Glad to hear that the treatment worked! Keep on keeping’ on

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Violeta says · 08.12.15

Thank you for sharing your story with us. Such a lesson to all of us to not “sweat the small stuff”

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iz says · 08.12.15

You shared this the same week we found out my father’s cancer had relapsed. Thank you.

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Michelle Towle says · 08.12.15

Kate and Justin,

I just want to thank you so much for sharing your story. My family has also been touched by cancer. Both of my grandmothers had breast cancer, my uncle had a brain tumor, my mom had non-hodgkins lymphoma, and I recently had a scare myself. All of those stories had different endings. My paternal grandmother fought for 23 years and passed away my freshman year of college. My maternal grandmother is doing well today after a mastectomy. My uncle passed away before I was born. My mom was can we free for the 4 years I was in college and it came back right before I graduated, but she is once again cancel free. And I am healthy as well.
All of that to say, between my family and working as a nurse, I see so much of how cancer affects so many people. Through all of these situations, I have also found that the best way to get through this is to put our hope in Christ, draw nearer to Him, and encourage those around us.
Thank you so much for sharing your story. It was so encouraging to hear. I am praying for you as I know this is an ongoing situation. Kate, I have to say, I have always loved your blog and followed it since I was in college, and you and your family are such an inspiration. God bless your family.
Thank you.

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Justin says · 08.14.15

Michelle, thanks for sharing. What a strangely huge amount of cancer to hit one family… Glad you’re in a family that turns to the Lord in the darkest times!

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Mel says · 08.12.15

Kate and Justin- Thank you so much for spilling your hearts out. I really needed to hear this. I’m struggling with finding peace about something much smaller than this story. And hearing your faith is exactly what I needed to hear. I’m really trying to focus up instead of in…. thank you for being such beautiful examples of walking strongly in Christ. I’ll be praying for your continued health.

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kayla says · 08.12.15

Thank you so much for sharing! I know that the preparation for this post took a tremendous amount of prayer and consideration, but I appreciate your generous hearts for letting us into your lives.
I work at a University, and one of my sweet student workers was diagnosed with cancer in January. He finished out his senior year and graduated, but he’s since discovered that it’s spread and has begun chemo. If Justin doesn’t mind me asking, how would he recommend helping a young man that’s dealing with cancer? This situation is quite a bit different-it began as testicular and he was diagnosed a month after he got married. In March, his wife found out she was pregnant, and he finishes his last round of chemo within a week of his sweet daughter’s due date. I want to do anything I can to help-I’ve made freezer meals, joined in prayer sessions, etc.-but I’m wondering if there’s something I can do that he might not be asking for? This is an overwhelming time for him and his wife on so many levels, I just want to do what I can.
Again, thanks for opening your hearts. You’re a blessing to many! I love watching your videos in the morning as I get ready for work-always a nice bright spot to my day! 🙂

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Justin says · 08.14.15

Kayla, thanks for sharing. It sounds like you really care. I guess the thing I remember the most is just wanting people to treat me normally. I mean, I think it’s great to ask him and his wife if there is anything you can do that would help, but otherwise just treat him like he is about to break. I know everyone handles it differently, but I’ve know lots of people with disease over the years and almost everyone hates how people babied them when they got diagnosed…. I think we all understand that it comes from a good place, people being sensitive and caring, but we just want to feel normal, in that moment more than ever.

Hope that makes sense

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Ruth says · 08.12.15

Hi Kate and Justin,
Oh my gosh, I cried just hearing Justin’s voice! I don’t know why, I guess he has a very familiar face from all your photos Kate & it was amazing to hear what his voice sounds like.

I have a question for you both if that’s OK. Did you hesitate at all getting married and having children because of the cancer? Did building that life seem more or less important? I ask because my boyfriend of 5 years has Crohn’s Disease, he can be very sick sometimes. Medically if that doesn’t kill him, the 50% increased risk of bowel cancer will. I wonder sometimes that this holds him back from building up the life he wants in case it gets taken away. For me, I just want to jump in and make the most of everything we do have.

Thank you so much for sharing your story & offering your encouragement to others.
Lots of love,
Ruth

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Justin says · 08.14.15

Ruth, thanks for sharing, and sorry to hear about your boyfriend.
I short answer to your questions (my perspective only) is that it had almost no impact on any of those things. I decided a long time ago that I wasn’t going to live in fear. I was much more worried about getting married in undergrad and having a baby in grad school than I was getting married and having kids with cancer.

I really hope that between the two of you, you are on the same page on these topics and that neither of you lets worrying keep you from enjoying life. best of luck!

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Lauren says · 08.12.15

I was diagnosed with thyroid cancer in November and had surgery in December. I was 24 at the time, 2 1/2 years into my marriage, and it was not a word I had ever expected to hear. Thankfully they were comfortable with what they removed and I did not have to have radiation. It felt so surreal and at same points it was easy to think “why me?”, but we were shown such an outpouring of love and support that I can’t wish that it hadn’t happened. I will be on medication for the rest of my life, but like your experience, this is one of the “easiest” cancers to have.

One blessing that has already come out of it, at least in my mind, is that we got pregnant in January. We weren’t at all planning to make that step a month after my surgery, but I’m fairly certain that we were having fertility issues prior to my diagnosis, and that whatever hormonal changes happened in my body with the removal of my underactive thyroid, we were able to get pregnant, and I would never wish that away! Many blessings may come through pain.

Thank you for sharing your story!

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Justin says · 08.14.15

Lauren, thanks for sharing. That’s great news on both fronts. Enjoy your new addition!

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Diane Johnson says · 08.12.15

Thank you for sharing your story. It’s nice to hear young people expressing their faith in the Lord. In our world today, it’s almost not acceptable to talk about God; so thank you for telling the world that there is a God, you do believe, and there is hope.

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Kim says · 08.12.15

Thank you for sharing your story. Your family is truly blessed. I do have a question. I was diagnosed in May with a tumor in my cerebellum. I know God wanted this little guy found : ) it was the second time in less than three months my doctor asked me to get a CT scan of my head and I agreed. Glad I did! Anyway, my neurosurgeon, my husband and I are in the wait and see how it grows mode. They are 85% sure it is not cancer. The challenge is where it is located in the cerebellum. And honestly I really am not ready for surgery at this time. I know it is coming though, but my surgeon said it is not angry. I have told my family and close friends, I know everyone is worried but I not letting this affect my daily living. My question is how do you handle the oh my, you poor thing? When I explain (and this is just close friends) I am truly okay and blessed and that my life is in Gods hands,I then get it is okay to believe that if you need to. I want to scream! No one seems to think I can be okay with this. And I really am! It was found, it is small ish and being monitored for sudden changes. My husband and I know what we need to watch for between MRIs. I get so frustrated.

Again, thank you for sharing. God bless you and your adorable, beautiful family.

Kim

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Justin says · 08.14.15

Kim, thanks for sharing and I’m sorry to hear it.
I completely understand your question – and I distinctly remember feeling like it must be easier to get the news that *I* had cancer than hearing that someone I care about does. And I think that’s true, even now. I am much more effected by it when I hear a friend has been diagnosed (with anything, really).

I just remember explaining to people that it doesn’t feel like you might think to get the diagnosis, and that I hope they never have to find out… Probably different for everyone though.

I hope yours continues to stay out of the way

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A M A says · 08.12.15

Hey,
I’m 27 years old girl & I was diagnosed with thyroid gland cancer 2 & half years ago..
It was not easy for me or my family & i defiantly did make me wonder how this would affect my life, would I ever find love? would I even live for 5, 10 or 20 years? I didn’t know & I was confused
The thing is I tried so hard to be positive. I did hide my feelings & fear from my family & friends.
I didn’t want them to be worried about me , I am worried enough for myself.
It took me 2 years & 3 months to finally say that it is gone & forever In sha Allah ..
While I was waiting for the last scan I did 3 months ago, someone proposed
I was confused & I didn’t even think about it until I got the results & I knew I’m doing well & it’s gone
Only after that, I thought & made my mind & said “yes” to him ..
He was a sign from God to me that I will be happier with him <3 & I am happy with him ..
I'm thankful for what I have now & I'm thankful forever for God ..
If you can be positive, be positive. Try your hardest. Explain your feelings & cry if you need to. Say what you want to say to whoever you want. Live every moment & enjoy. God definitely have better plans for you if it didn't work for you..

Kate & Justin .. Thank you .. God bless you

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Justin says · 08.14.15

Thanks for sharing AMA

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Kristin S says · 08.12.15

Oh, hugs from Apex. Thanks for sharing. Praying this IS an encouragement to many.

(How in the world did you get a quiet house to film???)

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Justin says · 08.14.15

Thanks Kristin… you might actually touch us with a hug from Apex.
Kate’s mom was looking after the kiddos

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Lacey M says · 08.12.15

My brother is currently receiving treatment for pancreatic cancer. It’s one of the scary, not-going-to-make-it types. His is incurable, inoperable and near untreatable. They have him on suppressive therapy monthly to keep the tumor from growing, but with where it’s located, they cannot remove it. It will end his life. It’s been so hard watching his wife and 3 young children struggle through the phases of grief early (he’s still working full time while undergoing chemo, anticoagulation therapy and pain management- it’s amazing) and wondering when they’ll have to get the bad news that he’s declining. It’s heartbreaking, but only manageable through the Savior. Trusting in God’s plan for his children and knowing that life doesn’t end after this earthly experience are necessary when watching someone you dearly love go through something so difficult. Best wishes for your family!

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Bonnie says · 08.12.15

Oh, Lacey, my heart broke reading about your brother. My dad died of pancreatic cancer in October 2004 after being diagnosed in January of that year. It is definitely NOT on the ones you want to draw out of the hat. I cannot imagine the pain of leaving a young wife and children. I will pray for peace and comfort for all of you.

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Justin says · 08.14.15

Lacey, I’m so very sorry to hear about your brother. That really struck home for me give our similar stage of life. I pray earnestly that he can make the very most of his days.

I wonder if he’d enjoy this article, it’s meant a lot to me over the years: http://www.desiringgod.org/books/dont-waste-your-cancer

I’m so sorry, but know that God is working all for His glory – even when it truly breaks our hearts.

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Rachael says · 08.12.15

Justin and Kate,

Thank you SO much for sharing your story with us. I was shocked to watch this but it’s very inspiring to see how Justin relied and still relies on God through this. I truly believe God allows these things to keep us in a place of needing Him.

I showed this video below of my difficult pregnancy journey at my baby shower in April. This was by far the hardest thing my husband and I had ever gone through- but we too drew near to each other and to the Lord for strength and He did such a miracle in us…

Watch here!!
http://youtu.be/KijlNfv1J_Y

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Trisha says · 08.12.15

I’m in tears watching this (at work)! So, please tell me… how does Claire’s story end?

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Justina says · 08.12.15

That was a wonderful video, Rachel! I love how you showed the scripture that God used to help strengthen you during the trial. Very encouraging!

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Michelle says · 08.12.15

Rachel,

Thank you for sharing, I am in tears. I myself cannot have children, but my husband and I are trusting that God will provide our child to us through fostering/adoption. We know that God has a plan for us. I too am curious as to how Claire is doing today.

Many thanks for sharing,
Michelle

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Rachael says · 08.13.15

Thank you all for watching the video! 🙂 Claire was born June 5th and is now 2 months old! She’s completely healthy and I’m actually up feeding her as I write this 🙂 It definately helps keep life in perspective and as Justin said in the video-to not sweat the small stuff!

She’s a miracle… And we will never be the same!

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Rachael says · 08.13.15

Michelle I can’t imagine the difficulty you have gone through and I will pray for God to open a door for you and your husband to adopt one day! I’m glad to see your trust in Him… It’s so encouraging that we can rely on Him in all things and it only makes us stronger as we yield to His will… Whatever that may be!

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Michelle says · 08.14.15

Rachel,

I am so happy to hear about Claire’s update. 🙂 Enjoy every minute with her, as she truly is a miracle.

Thank you for your kind words regarding adopting. I know we are in good hands and God will provide our child. We are 99% done with our home study. This has been a long journey, but there are many blessings ahead of us.

Blessings to you and your beautiful family.

Michelle

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Justin says · 08.14.15

Rachael, thanks so much for sharing! and so glad to hear Claire is doing well! That video really hit home after having kids of our own. I can’t imagine some of those times.

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Rachael says · 08.15.15

Thank you so much for taking the time to watch it! Yes having little ones definately brings it to reality. Thanks again to both of you for sharing your story!

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Shannon Commeau says · 08.12.15

What a nice story to listen too. In early June I went to a dermatologist to have a couple spots looked at. Two were brown moles and one was an odd spot on my face. The dermatologist removed the 2 brown moles and then looked at the spot on my face and said she thought it was probably nothing, but would remove it anyway just to be safe and was sending them all to e tested. Well the following week I got a call from the dermatologists office and they said the one on my back was ok, the one under my arm was ok, but the one on my face was cancer, basal cell carcinoma. It is not one that will spread to you body, but it will grow bigger and there is nodular and micro-nodular. Well I had the micro-nodular, which mean it grows roots like a tree. My spot was smaller than a pencil eraser, I went it for the MOHS surgery for this super small spot and left with a very deep 1 inch long incision, but the good part was that the cancer was gone. To say I was scared to death when I heard the word cancer was an understatement, I was only 38, and my parents had left for vacation and my husband had left for a fishing trip to New York, so I was alone when I found out. Luckily for me I have some great friends who came over to be with me. I am so glad that they got it all and the scar well I can live with that, and it looks really good and is going away nicely. So never put off anything that looks suspicious or makes you wander if you should have it checked. Have it checked, better safe than sorry!

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Brittany says · 08.12.15

Shannon, it is very scary. I have had 5 basil cells now. 3 being on my face. I have 3 separate 1 inch scars that ended up looking good. All were diagnosed at separate times. It started when I was 24 now 31. Thankfully they weren’t melanoma. All of mine were nodular except one was infiltrative which is worse. The recovering is annoying but still thankful. Glad yours ended well.

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Justin says · 08.14.15

Shannon, thanks for sharing. So glad to hear they found it and got it all!

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Jenny says · 08.12.15

THANK YOU so much for sharing the truth by showing that through your struggles, your hope is in the Lord. Not many will stand firm in sharing that God is in control, and he is the reason that you are here, in whom you have gained strength/comfort. As scriptures say, He will never leave you, nor forsake you. We are put on this earth as a vessel to be a light to others, and you truly exemplified that through this video. Your hope in God is evident, and may you be reminded of his providential guidance through your life and family, each and every day! Blessings to you!

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Jacqueline says · 08.12.15

Kate,
Thanks to both of you for sharing your story. I’ve followed your blog for about two years and this is the first time I’ve posted a comment. I feel like our lives are similar in that I also worked as a stylist behind a chair and I had my two oldest sons close together. Lane and Wesley are 2 1/2 years apart and they kept me hopping. My third son, Bailey, was born 6 years later. He just started back to school today as a junior in high school. Lane is now married with 2 beautiful toddlers and Wesley is in his 3rd semester of graduate school. Time goes by so fast and it seems like just yesterday that I had a newborn and a very active toddler. The best times of your life are right now and one day you will realize, when your children are grown, that your blog will mean even more to you because it is precious memories of your children’s lives. Keep up the great blogging!

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Erin @ Her Heartland Soul says · 08.12.15

I am sending so much love your family’s way! Thanks for sharing your story Justin! I hope it helps a lot of people! <3

Her Heartland Soul
http://herheartlandsoul.com

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lisa berkley says · 08.12.15

Kate,

Thanks for sharing this today. I was diagnosed with cervical cancer 2 years ago. I was very fortunate that mine was found super early and surgery removed all of it. When listening to Justins story it reminded me of all the emotions and feelings i had when going through treatment. I was mad, angry, sad, confused. You name it-i felt it. The all time low for me was when I was bitter towards others thinking I don’t smoke like they do but yet I am the one who gets cancer. Anyway, long story short-I had a hysterectomy to rid all of my cancer and 1 year to the day, we adopted the most amazing perfect baby girl. God has a plan for each and every one of us!

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Justin says · 08.14.15

Lisa, thanks for sharing. Even though you addressed your comment to Kate, I just wanted to say that I’m glad to hear how your story worked out 🙂 Congrats!

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Wendy says · 08.12.15

Thank you both for sharing your story. Very encouraging and touching. Made me tear up. Hope all the tests will stay positive ?!

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Trisha says · 08.12.15

Isn’t God great! He has impeccable timing and wouldn’t leave your side, Justin. Sometimes our hearts go astray, but God led you back into his arms. Despite your circumstances is seems that you have found Peace and Joy. I will keep you and your family in my prayers. My favorite thing to say when I am down is, “all is well” or “Shalom”. May you find completeness, safety, health, prosperity, peace, tranquility and contentment. Thank you for sharing your story! Cancer doesn’t discriminate, but you are a testament to the miracles that God bestows. ((hugs))
P.S- your blog is the only one I read religiously:)

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Hannah says · 08.12.15

Such a lovely inspirational story.
I wish you all the health and happiness going forward! xx

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Angela says · 08.12.15

Thank you so much for sharing your story. I know it will help more people than you could ever know. My husband’s mom has MS and I worry a lot about what would happen if he also ended up getting it. This post helped me realize that I need to live in the present and enjoy my life now, and not get too caught up in would could happen in the future. Thanks again!

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Amber says · 08.12.15

It really just does go to remind us that everyone has stuff going on behind the scenes and we can’t judge or stereotype people we come in to contact with. Thank you for that reminder! MY question is: does having kids change your thoughts or perspective on keeping your leg at all? If amputating means reducing the risk of the cancer spreading, would that possibly be more important now that you have two young kids to think about? You both are so brave to put this out there! Thank you!

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Justin says · 08.14.15

Amber, good question. When we found out we were pregnant I talked to my Dr about just amputating so I would be “assured” that it was gone. I would amputate immediately if I thought it was smart. After discussing it, his opinion was that since it doesn’t appear to be growing or spreading at this time there really isn’t any compelling reason to amputate (since that isn’t always without complications). It would also be unfortunate to learn, after amputation that the cancer had already spread somewhere else, just undetected.

This isn’t a done deal though… never know what might change

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Carly says · 08.12.15

Kate and Justin – a few hours ago I found out that my Dad has cancer. I have followed your blog for hair and other fashion and style tips off and on for the past few years and have no idea why I decided to click on this video in my Facebook feed today. Well, it the coincidence is amazing. Just hearing that others have gone through similar experiences and are able to continue living such a productive, positive life is comforting. Thank you both for being brave enough to offer your own personal stories in an effort to help others. I truly wish you and your sweet boys a long life of health and happiness. Thank you.

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Justin says · 08.14.15

Wow Carly, sorry to hear that, but glad to hear that you happened to check out the blog today.
I hope everything goes well for him and your family

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Brooke says · 08.12.15

You guys are awesome!
That is all 😀

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Bonnie says · 08.12.15

Thank you for sharing this. You will never know how many people it will touch. I love the way Justin weaved his testimony and faith into his words. Could you have believed, three or four years ago, that your hairstyle and beauty blog could have such an impact? Your skills combined with your lovely heart and commitment to genuineness and authenticity have given you an enormous platform. To God Be The Glory!

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Heather Mayberry says · 08.12.15

Thank you so much for sharing and opening your hearts! I’ve been a reader for a few years now, and am a huge fan of your blog. As a pastor’s wife (or just a Christian) I am so happy that you were bold enough to use this blog to unabashedly share your faith. That is a rare thing and makes my heart happy!
In 2003, a month before I got married, my doctor found pre cancerous cells on my cervix. After a year of different treatments, I ended up having to have the cells lazered off. We weren’t sure at that point if it would effect my ability to have children. We left for seminary shortly after that and two years later had our first child. We’ve had two since then with a miscarriage in between. By God’s will, it has never come back even though this type can. I’ve never shared that with many people and am so thankful that y’all gave a voice to the stories that go untold for whatever reason.

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Justin says · 08.14.15

Heather, thanks for sharing. You have a great testimony, don’t hesitate to share it with people!

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Helen.joey says · 08.12.15

Thanks so much for sharing! My husband and I have been through a pretty rough couple of years and I know when we were struggling it was comforting to hear similar stories from others that showed God’s faithfulness and hope. We have a beautiful 3 month old son now but we also have had 3 miscarriages before he came along, the first happening at the same time my hubby lost his mum to cancer. It was such a hard time for us, especially knowing how badly we wanted a kids and not knowing if we would ever have them. But our Lord is so wonderfully faithful! God knows exactly what we need and the exact time we need it! Through the challenges he has strengthened us and helped us to grow. Our little boy is so much more to us than we ever could have imagined! Even though sometimes it’s very hard, put your trust in the Lord. He loves us so much and has an amazing plan for each and every one of us!

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Justin says · 08.14.15

Helen, thanks for sharing. So glad you were able to have a child!

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Tasia says · 08.12.15

Sending love and prayers your way. You both are so beautiful and Christlike. Thank you for sharing your story!

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Kaitlyn says · 08.12.15

Thanks for sharing, Kate and Justin. It was an encouragement to hear your story! My mom was just diagnosed with breast cancer a couple months ago. Honestly I would rather go through it myself that to see her suffer through chemo. But through it all, God has been so faithful! He is in control as has given us peace like we never could have imagined!

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Justin says · 08.14.15

Kaitlyn, thanks for sharing and sorry to hear about your mom. I hope they are able to treat her and she lives a full and rich life.

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Morgan A. says · 08.12.15

So brave of you to share! This is really the reason that I love the blogging world so much. No one is alone in anything 🙂 I’m not really a religious person, but I do try to remember to say my prayers at night, so I’ll keep you in them. (also his voice is so different than I expected! deeper and he has a southern accent!)

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Justin says · 08.14.15

Morgan, what’d you expect!? I’m from the south!

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Evelyn Nunes says · 08.12.15

Thanks for sharing! I agree it’s a bonding experience! I’m so happy to hear he is doing fine, wish you guys all the best and many more blessings, you deserve it!

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Katelyn says · 08.12.15

Thank you for always being so open and honest with your readers. I meet with a surgeon next week to discuss the removal of my colon. I was diagnosed with Ulcerative Colotis, an autoimmune disease, in 2010, and my body has stopped responding well to treatment. Your story, though different from mine, is encouraging to me and comes at a time when I really needed to hear it. My husband and I struggle to remember that God is in control of our situation, but you reminded me of that today, so thank you.

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Justin says · 08.14.15

Katelyn, thanks for sharing. I hope the Dr’s are able to take care of you. Don’t ever forget that God is in control of it all.

Perhaps this article may be meaningful to you, it has been to me over the years:
http://www.desiringgod.org/books/dont-waste-your-cancer

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Katie says · 08.12.15

I’ve been following your blog since the beginning, but I never feel like I have anything worthwhile enough to say in a comment. Today though, I have to say that you and Justin are beautiful people. The world is a better place with both of you in it. I hope and I pray that you have long, happy, healthy, and joyful lives. Thank you for sharing your life and your love with people you don’t even know. Bless you all.

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Gina says · 08.12.15

first, let me say that I am glad you are doing well. But as a religious person, I don’t believe that God has anything to do with your continued good health. My sister died of an aggressive breast cancer leaving four children behind and her beloved husband. How can God heal certain people and not others? It’s as if you believe in magic. I believe God cares about all of us, but why would he heal some people and not others? Justin, your doctors healed you. If God did, then why not my sister?

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Jodi Fischer says · 08.13.15

I believe that God is ultimately in control–Through the good and the bad. It is hard to see him when bad things happen and we have trouble wrapping our heads around this when a happy ending isn’t there for us. There is always a purpose–even when we can’t see it. God doesn’t make mistakes. Some people want to think bad things happen to bad people, but that isn’t the case. Bad things happen to good people all the time. What we need to do is trust Him and believe that He knows, He knows…. https://search.yahoo.com/yhs/search?p=he+knows+he+knows+every+hurt+and+every+stain&ei=UTF-8&hspart=mozilla&hsimp=yhs-001 I pray you find peace in our great loving God. My condolences for your loss.

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Jodi Fischer says · 08.13.15

Here is the correct link I tried to post to the song He Knows: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OsccUg4TDd8&feature=youtu.be

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Kate says · 08.13.15

I’m so sorry to hear about your sister. I simply cannot imagine how hard that was to lose her, and for her children to lose their mom, and for her husband to lose his wife. It’s simply heartbreaking.

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Justin says · 08.14.15

Gina, let me first say that I am very sorry to hear about your sister. That’s tragic.

Since you asked a logical and fair question, I’ll try to answer it as best as I can. Let’s start with the details, as they are important in making sure we are on the same page:
I think if you pay close attention to my words you’ll see that I don’t say things like “God has healed me” or that “God is the reason I am still in good shape”. Instead you hear me say things like “I took comfort in God”, “my hope is in God”.

Part of the reason this is important is that I am distinctly *not* healed. I still have malignant cancer that could spread and kill me, leaving behind my wife and boys. What I’m saying is that even if it does, I trust God. I believe that he is doing everything for his glory. That my life might be best used by dying. It would be tremendously painful for those in my life that care about me, but I believe that it would be a part of God’s ultimate plan for creation.

I think the following sermon would help you understand my perspective: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9naBgHYWTXg

It’s 45 minutes, but I think that gives a better description of my view on pain and suffering than I could do in this comment box.

I’m happy to continue this conversation, and again, I’m sorry for your loss.

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gina says · 08.14.15

I appreciate your response. I am thankful you take comfort in God and his plan. I watch while my dearly departed sisters youngest son struggles the most. Trouble in school, drug use. That it breaks my heart. I only wish I had the trust you have in God. But the reality I see, is a young boy lost in sadness, acting out in very bad ways. Pray for my nephew. Not trying to bring you down, but I am an old women who has seen a lot. God mystifies me. And he makes me angry sometimes. I believe all lives matter, from the unborn to the oldest among us. I watch the news seeing ISIS killing indiscriminately, Christians. Next will be Gods chosen, Jews. I do pray for you, but in my life, prayer is good, but I always pray for alll of the doctors treating patients, I pray for all of the people on research, that God gives them the strength to keep on researching and finding new ways to treat cancer.

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gina says · 08.14.15

I can’t understand your thought pattern thinking your wife and boys will be okay if you pass. That is beyond my understanding. I hope and pray you continue that belief. My families reality has not been this rosey. I do not want to challenge you and I do not want you you to challenge me. God bless you and your lovely family. I pray they never lose you to this disease. Let me say, that with age comes wisdom. And critical thinking. I say this humbly. The older I get, the more I don’t understand. The older I get, the more I question God. I think God can handle it. Thank you for your your service to our great country. My daughter served as well. She came home from Iraq, whole in one piece. With her mind in tact. She is now a surgical nurse. God is good. By the way, my husband and I adopted her 27 years ago.

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Amy says · 08.13.15

I know you both will reveive tons of support. Thank you for sharing. Watching this video was amazing and like you said, even if it isn’t cancer and is a different rough time, this video is encouraging. It truely is. Props to you both for sharing and including your readers! Love you!

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Dominique says · 08.13.15

Wow thats definitely a testimony! God amazes me everyday. So glad Justin is doing good. Thanks for sharing and for reminding us that God really does do miracles daily!

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sabrina garcia says · 08.13.15

Thanks for sharing! You encourage me everyday; albeit through beauty, hair & makeup for now but that’s exactly what I need. We serve a God of the details and however your daily stories; whether superficial or deep, affect others is such a testament to how He works. I so appreciate you guys sharing and letting me into a little bit more of who you are as a family. I applaud your courage & strength to be authentic! Praying for continued health for Justin and your family… and I’m a total K8 groupy fan:)haha xoxo

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Jen says · 08.13.15

Thank you so much for sharing your story. In November my doctor randomly found a lump on my thyroid. I had an ultrasound and an inconclusive biopsy. We felt like we could see it growing, as did my doctor. So in January I had it removed. It took six pathologists to review the mass to determine that it was cancer. The good thing was that it had not spread to surrounding tissues or lymph nodes. This meant the surgery was all I had to go through (no chemo, radiation). I am on thyroid medication which has been a bit of a roller coast ride but I feel like what you mentioned. It is as good as it gets with a cancer diagnosis. My father has had tonsil cancer, non-hodgkins lymphomia, and skin cancer in the past 4 years. None are related and all have had very hard lasting effects on his health and way of life.

I say all of this because like you I felt like it all made me turn to God. During my whole process I had what can only be described as the peace that surpasses all understanding. Right before I went in for surgery, my family and some of the medical staff thought that I had been administered a sedative because I was so calm. It wasn’t me, it was God’s peace and knowing He was in charge. I like that you said towards the end that you were glad to have the experience. I feel the same. It is a very life changing thing.

You are so blessed to have found each other and to have your faith together. It is a beautiful thing to see you together. I love to visit this blog because I’ve always felt it is a peaceful place. I know this might be a strange thing to say about a blog but I mean it in the most positive way.

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Justin says · 08.14.15

Jen, thanks for sharing. So glad they were able to catch yours before it was tragic!

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Jodi Fischer says · 08.13.15

I have been a follower of your blog for some time. To know that you have this “story” in the back of your mind all the time yet you keep your cheerful smile, well, that tells me how much you rely on God. He is what gives us hope and strength to deal with what we are dealt. My son was diagnosed with leukemia after finishing his second year in college. He had 3 years of chemotherapy. Of course, you wonder how will this affect his future. This was back in 2001 and I am happy to say, he found a teaching job that he loves, he is now married and he has a wonderful daughter. No one would choose to go through something like this but we can all acknowledge that good can come out of it. It makes you the person that you are–never taking things for granted and appreciating first hand that God is good. Keep positive and I will pray for your family.

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Justin says · 08.14.15

Jodi, that’s awesome. Thanks for sharing!

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Heidi C says · 08.13.15

Thank you, Justin and Kate, for sharing this story.

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Jill Porter says · 08.13.15

Kate and Justin:
Thank you SO much for sharing this part of your lives. I think one of the most profound things you said in the video was that you don’t always know what is going on in someone’s life…just want you see or they share with you. In your case, something very personal and very serious was always going on in your lives beyond what you were sharing in your blog. Your readers had no idea! Your life seemed so sunshiney and wonderful 24-7. Thank you for letting us know that you live your lives with smiles and faith beyond the diagnosis of Justin’s cancer.

I love your site, your makeup, hair, clothing, family, and mom tips and information. I love it even more that you’ve both chosen to share another dimension. Thank you!!!!

With faith,
Jill 🙂

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Angie says · 08.13.15

Thank you for sharing your story. You both are an inspiration for me in a few ways. I feel like, no matter what cruddy situation I might be dealing with in my life, everyone else is dealing with something too. It is so comforting to know that you guys are just a normal family, just like mine.

My family, has of course, been touched by cancer. My grandma passed away from a brain tumor when she was 33, but my lifetime, no one else in my immediate family has lost the battle.

Currently, my family is dealing with a different hardship. It’s not cancer, but it is like it in a lot of ways. My sister is a recovering drug addict. It has been a hard year on all of us. She has been clean and sober for going on 7 months now, which is amazing. Every day that she is here is something to be thankful for. The aftermath of her addiction still affects us daily. She has a very long road ahead of her. I hesitated for a long time sharing with friends and other family members that my sister is an addict because I didn’t want her or my parents to face judgment from others. In time, I realized that keeping this a secret helps no one. She hopes to someday use her struggles to help others, and I am confident that she can do that. Sharing your message about your faith in God and how that helps you through cancer, has renewed my faith in God and that he will get our family through this.

God bless! You guys are wonderful!

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Justin says · 08.14.15

Angie, thanks for sharing. Kate and I both know how hard that can be on a family. You’re right that keeping it a secret doesn’t do anybody any good. I pray your sister continues to struggle well against the addiction

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Kathy says · 08.13.15

first off, thank you so much for sharing your story with us. i lost my sister to cancer (lung and bone) after a 11 year battle. I have been disconnected from the church and am angry because God took my best friend. Hearing your story and the strength and courage you have is enlightening. other than my daughters wedding last year I have not attended services and am still trying to wrap my head around why this happened. My sister had just adopted two girls from China and was living a healthy life. She was only 54 when she passed. It all seems so unfair! Where do you find your strength and ability to not blame God for what happened? That’s where I am today, two years after her death. I just want to believe that this happened for a reason but to this point nothing good has come from it. She was a non smoker btw. So this was a big shock to all of us. I am sooo glad you’re doing well and I pray for your continued health and strength for Kate also! Thanks for sharing your story. My take away is that I need to go to forgive God that he is good but that everything doesn’t always go the way we want it to! I reach out to you for strength! Hugs to the family!

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Debbie says · 08.13.15

This was such an amazing post…Thank you so much for speaking about something so tough.

Justin I wanted to reinforce how wonderful to have been able to keep your leg. It just shows that second opinions are there for a reason.

My father had his leg amputated when he was in his mid to late 30s and he never quite came to terms with it.

Kate and Justin, what a wonderful couple you are and your boys are just blessings!!!! I will continue to enjoy your blog 🙂

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Jody says · 08.13.15

Kate and Justin,

I write this with a smile on my face and a tear in my eye. You have touched a nerve, in a good way. I was two months from turning 17 when I was diagnosed with Hodgkins Lymphoma. I did 6 months of chemo that made me very ill, lost my hair, but I am here to tell the story. Yes, the what will the rest of my life be like, I am probably going to die early is a very real thought/feeling when diagnosed so young. I am now 23 years cancer free. I have thought many times about sharing my story more publicly. It is so true, people can’t understand until they have been there.

From one cancer surveyor to another, God Bless you!!

Jody

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Justin says · 08.14.15

Jody, thanks so much for sharing, I’m glad to hear you’ve been cancer free for so long! Keep on keeping’ on!

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Veronica L says · 08.13.15

Thank you for sharing your story and giving so much to the readers. May God bless you and your family!

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Jenn says · 08.13.15

Thank you for pointing us to Christ. Kate, you’re so popular on social media, and using that platform to share and encourage others to have faith takes courage. It would be easy to stick to hair, beauty, fashion, etc. (which I do love!) and not “ruffle any feathers” by “bringing up religion”; but you both recognize that God has allowed this trial in your lives so that He can be glorified. So thank you for being open and being willing to be used of God.

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Jenni says · 08.13.15

Kate & Justin,

First, thank you so much for sharing your story. Second, I wanted to say thank you for also sharing the importance that Christ has played in this. To me it is a greater encouragement to see you display your faith so openly and honestly in a culture that tries to belittle the importance of faith and truth. I have followed your blog, Kate, almost from the beginning, taking many journeys with you as we were pregnant with our boys together. (My Xander was born just a couple of months after David 🙂 and I have a daughter who will be starting Kindergarten this fall – Yikes!) It is an honor to have you both as a brother and sister in Christ, and I will continue to pray with you and for you. Thank you again for sharing!
Jenni Reed

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Heather says · 08.13.15

I’ve been following you on Instagram, Pintereset and your blog for about a year now. I stumbld across you when I was looking for hair styles on Pintereset. There was something about you I was drawn to (not in a creepy way please don’t misunderstand). You reminded me a lot of myself. This post about your story/faith made me realize what it was! You are a sister in Christ..and that is just amazing! Like Justin I was raised in the Christian faith and then steered away. My cousin just passed in March from lung cancer so I know how devestating the news can be and the fears that face the future. I have not had a health issues of my own however rebuilding my life after a divorce and trying to find that Christian mate for myself and my son has been a battle. I know God works all things for good! Just as He has done for you and Justin, I know he will for me. I will certainly keep your family in my prayers. God Bless! Thank you for sharing!

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Kristen says · 08.13.15

Hi Kate – Can you point me in the direction of your original post related to your trials in getting pregnant? My husband and I have been trying to conceive for some time and I would love to read your post. Thank you!

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leticia justus says · 08.14.15

Kate announces her pregnancy June 12th of 2013 titled Finding Out . So check there and before there .
I believe she did a post before that sharing her struggle with becoming pregnant.
Blessing , Leticia

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leticia justus says · 08.14.15

that sounded weird …I meant she shared her struggle with not being able to become pregnant .

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Crystal Emery says · 08.13.15

This post comes at a hard time in my own life. I’ve been following Kate since before she was pregnant with David and I’ve just gone through my battle with thyroid cancer at the age of 31. I have a child who is just a little younger than David. What you talk about is such a reflection of so many of my own thoughts and feelings. I’ll have to battle my cancer for the rest of my life and it’s always great to hear other stories. They told me if I was going to have cancer then mine was the type to have but it doesn’t make the battle and struggle in my own cancer journey any less difficult. I’ll add your family to my prayers and I hope you will stay strong and healthy. You have a beautiful family and I admire your courage to share on the blog!

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Justin says · 08.14.15

Crystal, thanks for sharing. I pray that you’re able to continue to live a full life

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Valerie Hernandez says · 08.13.15

Thanks for sharing your story! In April of this year, my doctor stumbled upon a bladder tumor. I say stumbled because I went in for back pain that they thought was kidney stones and a CT Scan found a mass in my bladder. Bladder Tumors/ Cancer is very uncommon for 29-year old, non-smoking women. The tumor was removed within a month of finding it, but I will be scanned at least 2-times a year for the foreseeable future. The follow-up appointment have been the worst but over time, I’m sure they will get easier, but for now, it’s really not easy, very scary. I’m sure you can relate! Thanks for sharing and I love reading your blog! God Bless! -Valerie

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Justin says · 08.14.15

Valerie, thanks for sharing. I hope you stay cancer free!

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Lee Ann says · 08.13.15

Kate,

What a blessing you are! Ironically I was just thinking last week (truly) about how much I love coming to your blog and watching your videos. You seem to love Christ and this video affirms that. I love that your videos/blog are clean and friendly.

Thank you for opening your heart and sharing your story. I know so many are going to be encouraged. And, I just love that you guys seems so in love. You can almost feel in through the screen. I know Justin feels so very blessed to get to walk through this life with you by his side. You are an amazing woman! I know you are very blessed too. You have a savior who loves you, a husband who adores you, and children who cherish you.

You are my favorite blogger/youtuber! what an inspiration you are! And, you teach me really cute hair and makeup ideas. 🙂

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BreAnne says · 08.13.15

Really a wonderful testament to God’s saving power in our lives. Thank you for sharing your story and I thank God that you have been so fortunate to be healthy in spite of the cancer. You are a beautiful family inside and out and your encouragement is powerful. Thank you for sharing your heart and may God continue to shower blessings upon you all.

Sincerely,
your sister in Christ
BreAnne

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Christin says · 08.13.15

Thank you both so much for sharing your faith and your story. Your boldness is inspirational, and I really appreciated hearing about it!

I survived stage 1 Melanoma at the tender age of 23, so I can relate to the thought process you went through Justin!

I have a small round lump on my leg that appeared during my pregnancy last year, and my doctor said it was likely just a cyst…it hasn’t grown in size at all, but it still makes me nervous. I feel encouraged by your story to have it biopsied and play it safe.

Hugs, love, and prayers…what a blessing you two are!

Christin

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Justin says · 08.14.15

Christin, thanks for sharing. So glad you made it through your encounter with melanoma. I have a friend in the fight of her life with that right now. And I hope the cyst is just a cyst

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Taylor says · 08.13.15

So Sorry to hear about the cancer, also thank you for your service to our Country. My boyfriend is in his final year at ECU in Air Force ROTC. Hopes to become a pilot and fly C-130s. We hope to be stationed at Seymour Johnson to stay in North Carolina!! What was your job in the Air Force?

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Anne says · 08.14.15

Kate and Justin,

Thank you for entrusting us with your story. We are inspired and we will hold you in our hearts closer. We will lift you u

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Justin says · 08.14.15

Taylor, small world. Kate and I met at ECU (I eventually transferred to NCSU), I was stationed at Seymour and I now work on a propeller balancing system for the C-130.

I was a crew chief on F-15E’s from 01-05

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Liz says · 08.13.15

Thank you for sharing this part of your lives with us. My prayer is that Justin has a long,healthy life,full of happiness with your beautiful family. Thank you for mentioning that you never really know what people are going through or have gone through. Such a great reminder we should be more kind to everyone.

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Megan says · 08.13.15

Hi Kate and Justin,

Thank you for following God’s call to share your story. So much of your story resonated with me. My son, now 8, was diagnosed with Neuroblastoma (aggressive pediatric cancer) when he was 18 months old. After two radicals surgeries and chemotherapy, he was declared “stable disease” as a tumor fragment remains in his spine. He, like you I assume, has never been declared cancer free or in remission. We have lived with this literal thorn in his flesh for years now. We have had few scares over the years, including a recent one this summer. Through all of these ups and downs, God has been faithful. He has redeemed this cancer as an opportunity to witness to others through our blog and the journey has produced good spiritual fruit for all of us. Thank you for sharing your story. It is hard to find others who are living with cancer, but survivors nonetheless. I will be able to share your video with my son in a few years as he continues to mature and understand it means to live with cancer. Our blog is stepsforbrady.blogspot.com

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Justin says · 08.14.15

Megan,
Thanks for sharing, I can’t imagine what it would feel like to have a child diagnosed. If your son ever gets to a point where he wants to talk to someone else with cancer, feel free to reach out, maybe just send Kate an email and she can pass it along to me.

So very glad he’s doing well!

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Nina @ Flowers in my Hair says · 08.13.15

I am so glad I watched this and that you shared your story. I have a close family member who has been living with cancer for a few years and we have been getting bad news lately. If anything, it was just so good for my heart to see where your hope is found.

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Justin says · 08.14.15

Thanks Nina, I hope the news gets better soon

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Rachel says · 08.13.15

Just when I think I could not adore your blog or your posts anymore than I already do I stand corrected. Thank you for sharing your story. Your bravery, positive attitude, and your belief in our Lord and Savior is absolutely inspiring. I will pray for you and your family and wish you anything you need, at the moment you need it. May God bless you. Thank you for the lesson. Rachel

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Anne says · 08.14.15

Kate and Justin,

Thank you so much for entrusting us with your story. Your ability to deal with your illness daily and your love story is nothing short of truly inspiring. We are here for you to lift you up or to listen. Feel free to lean on us. We will pray for you and your family. Wishing you blessings and love always. It is such a good reminder that everyone carries a bag of pain but we all have to come together. We also have a choice to have faith in Him to heal and love.

Anne

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Annette says · 08.14.15

I just lost my mom this week to ovarian cancer, and I can say that cancer can be a lonely road… To those who fight it and those who support the fighters. Thank you for sharing your story and making sure the road is less lonely.

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Justin says · 08.14.15

So sorry Annette. Thanks for sharing.

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Teresa roberts says · 08.14.15

Hi Justin & Kate,
Thank you for sharing something so personal. I was a double partial feet yes feet amputee at the age of 37 due to severe septic shock. So I relate on some many levels. I am a Christian also & I really appreciate how you shared about Christ in your lives. I couldn’t of gotten through it with out him.
Blessings to you both ?
-Teresa

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Justin says · 08.14.15

Teresa, thanks for sharing!
I hope you’re able to live a long and full life with your new feet

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Cathy says · 08.14.15

Thank you for sharing your story. My brother was diagnosed in his early 20’s with a cancer that ultimately ended up taking his life. I miss him every day but his story, and yours, is a reminder that every day is an exquisite gift. He appreciated every minute of his life, before and after his diagnosis, and was a great teacher about living life to the fullest, even in the face of incredible challenges.

I have always read Kate’s blog for the great beauty and lifestyle information, thank you for sharing some other important life lessons : ) Continued blessings (and good health) you and your family!

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Justin says · 08.14.15

Cathy, I am so very sorry to hear that. But glad to see the light in which you view it.
Blessings to your family.

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gina says · 08.14.15

Justin, I am very depressed. I will leave you alone. You are obviously very happy. I am not. I have lost so much.
Goodbye.

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Michelle says · 08.19.15

Gina,

Since you are brave enough to share that information, I will share some encouragement. I know depression. It can be a long, rough road that makes you feel isolated, but, while you may not realize it, you are not alone. There are many people who deal with this. The hardest parts are 1-acknowledging the depression, 2-seeking/accepting help from friends/family and especially mental health professionals, 3-following through on the things that help you even though the road can still be long and sometimes rough.

I can tell you have already achieved one success: acknowledging the depression. Since it appears to be really affecting you, consider seeing a therapist, a psychiatrist (medicinal help), and/or psychologist (advanced non-medicinal treatment), if you haven’t already. They are really worth the effort.

Remember to celebrate every victory no matter how big or small. Also know that even if you make a mistake, you’ve been successful at trying something (adapted from Bellaruth Napatstek’s affirmations).

Good luck to you.

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Alethea says · 08.15.15

I’ve followed your blog for years but never commented until today. My aunt just started her chemotherapy treatments this week and I’ve been struggling with staying positive and finding the right words to say to her. This post came at the perfect time…but that is the way God intended it. Thank you for sharing your story. 🙂

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Rebecca says · 08.15.15

What a beautiful story! Thank you for sharing! I think that this post is not only going to help those struggling with things, but it might also make all of your readers take an internal look at judging. To many of us, we think your life is all peachy. (Not in a bad way, just kind of how it is in blog land at times.) But in reality, y’all have dealt with some serious struggles. Thanks for being transparent and allowing us a glimpse into your life and testimony. 🙂

Rebecca

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Gina says · 08.16.15

justin, be careful about sharing medical problems on social media. Current and future employers can hold this against you. You may not find employment

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Ashley says · 08.16.15

Thank you for boldly sharing your faith in GOD. In a world where that is frequently looked down upon, it was so refreshing to see such a lovely young couple proclaiming their faith.

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Brooke says · 08.19.15

Kate,

This is a beautiful story. I love how you and your husband show and talk about your faith, it is truly inspiring. Thanks for sharing.

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Erin says · 08.24.15

I have read Kate’s blog for the last few years after a friend said she thought I resembled Kate 🙂 a huge compliment indeed. I just read this posting tonight and it hit me at just the right time as I struggle with fertility issues ( 2 years ) and my Dad’s ongoing prostate cancer as well… a lot all at once. My Dad is hanging in there but his physical strength is not what it use to be which is heart breaking as a child to see in your parent. I have learned to not sweat the small things in life so much and know God has a plan and will take care of us all. I have also found great support and healing from sharing my own fertility issues with friends so I know your cancer story will do the same. Thanks for spreading the hope 🙂

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Tiffany says · 08.27.15

I’ve enjoyed your you tube videos Kate and I watched this one tonight. What a story of encouragement, faith, and love. It’s so great to hear how your faith in Christ is a stronghold for you both. In this world, with so much hatred and tragedy publicized, we need to share the love of Christ. Thank you for sharing your personal story. May it encourage others. And may God bless both of you and your children.

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Alli says · 08.27.15

Thanks for sharing your story and your faith! Such a good reminder that everyone has a story and that God is always present.

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Misty says · 08.30.15

Thank you so much for this! As a fellow business owner its sometimes difficult to share something so deep and meaningful to us who find our hope in Christ I know for me it is often hard to relay this to my clients as it is such a huge part of who I am. Thank you for doing this. It is such an inspiration and so blessed my day! I’ve been following you for a couple of years now and never knew about this aspect of your personal life but am so thankful for your transperency. Thank you for your boldness and for being an inspiration.

A fellow sister in Christ,
Misty

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Courtney says · 10.02.15

Hi! I’m a fairly new follower of yours on Instagram, and I read the post this morning about your husband’s recent adventure. It led me to this video, and I just wanted to thank you both for being open. I received a thyroid cancer diagnosis this week after having part of my thyroid removed. My prognosis is good, and for that I’m fortunate and thankful. But, it’s still scary. I was keeping it largely to myself, but I could tell that it was eating away at me. Watching this video helped me to share, and to be honest and open. I already feel like a huge weight has been lifted off of my shoulders. No one should have to carry a weight like cancer on their own. I can see great beauty from your journey, beauty that comes from God. Thank you for sharing, and may God continue to bless your family.

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Leslie says · 01.31.20

I so appreciate your blogs!
I had a brain bleed stroke four years ago and I’ve felt frumpy ever since. Your tutorials have taught me how to have a fresh new look.
I’d love to receive updates by email.
Thank You!
Blessings,
Leslie

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Kate says · 01.31.20

I’m so happy to hear that! Hope you stay well!

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