The Corner

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So I think Luke turned a corner.

It happened last Wednesday. He woke up happy. And pretty much didn’t cry the entire day. And halfway through the day I thought that I was just dreaming and there was no possible way everything was going so smoothly.

And then he had a great, happy day on Thursday. And Friday. And throughout the weekend he was happy. And now it’s a week from Wednesday and sure enough he’s still a happy little dude.

Is it over? All the crying and colicky fussing? I hope and pray that it is. If it is, in fact, over, those 8 weeks were some of the hardest weeks of mine and Justin’s life.

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Not only did I hate how much Luke was crying and not knowing if something else was going on inside him that I was missing, but I hated seeing it affect David. I hated being stressed out all day, and I hated the level of exhaustion Justin and I felt at the end of the day. It was a life-sucking 8 weeks.

And colic sort of seems like a blanket term to cover “crying that doesn’t really seem to come from anything specific”, so everything is an utter mystery. I didn’t know when it was going to end, I didn’t know if his tummy was bothering him, or he was over-stimulated or under-stimulated, over-tired, or just cranky. So I had to just sort of throw my hands up in the air, attempt to keep him content if possible (and usually it wasn’t easy), and try to be a decent mom to both boys.

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But now? He smiles easily, loves when people he knows get all up in his face and talk “baby talk” to him, he loves chillin’ in the baby bjorn bouncer, and loves to watch David play. I cannot WAIT until they play together.

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He’s sleeping anywhere from 10-12 hours at night (I KNOW) and takes about 4 naps a day. I think he requires a great deal of sleep. . . much more than David ever did. I can even lay him in his crib awake, albeit groggy, and he’ll fall asleep on his own.

Believe it or not, he’s actually a rather easy baby right now. And I never thought I would be able to say that sentence about him. And oh am I glad that I can.

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So my days are not only much more enjoyable with two happy boys, but I’m able to make Luke smile with his entire face, and continue to play with David and make him laugh. And laughter + smiling makes for a lighter mood all around in my house.

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And while this may sound crazy, I’m already glad that we endured a colicky time with one of our kids. I am much better equipped now to help any friends or family that go through something similar. It meant so much to me that old friends reached out to share their stories and advice on dealing with their own colicky babies. I felt quite isolated, like I was the only mom in the world at home bouncing my baby who was going on minute 35 of crying directly in my ear and trying to play with David by pushing his trucks around with my feet. So any words of encouragement were deeply important to me.

So if you happen to be in the thick of it, as I just was, stay strong! Utilize help. Take your friends up on their offer to come give you a moment to breathe. Personally, as a Christian, I typed out this verse to live on the lock screen of my phone ” 2 Cor 9:8 And God is able to make all grace abound to you, so that having all sufficiently in all things at all times, you may abound in every good work”.

Motherhood requires endless patience, late nights and early mornings, mid-day resets when everything seems to go wrong, but it’s a good work. And, by the grace of God, I was able to do enough to keep the boys safe, fed, and tucked into bed at night, no matter how bad the day had gone. Pretty much every other aspect of my life fell to the wayside, but I learned a lot and am thankful MOST for 2 healthy little boys.

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  1. Danielle says
    Posted June 3, 2015

    My daughter was colicky for the first 8 weeks and it was the hardest 8 weeks of my life. I was home with her a long for 15+ hours and when my husband would get home, I’d hand her over and have to leave for a bit. Wal-mart was my second home there for awhile. But, the same thing happened with her. She woke up the day she turned 8 weeks and was happy and started sleeping 12 hours at night. I think it’s safe to say Luke has done the same! I couldn’t imagine going trough it with two kiddos (my 2 are 14.5 months apart). Praying for you all!

  2. Danielle says
    Posted June 3, 2015

    My daughter was colicky for the first 8 weeks and it was the hardest 8 weeks of my life. I was home with her a long for 15+ hours and when my husband would get home, I’d hand her over and have to leave for a bit. Wal-mart was my second home there for awhile. But, the same thing happened with her. She woke up the day she turned 8 weeks and was happy and started sleeping 12 hours at night. I think it’s safe to say Luke has done the same! I couldn’t imagine going trough it with two kiddos (my 2 are 14.5 months apart). Praying for you all!

  3. Megan says
    Posted June 3, 2015

    What would you say to parents who don’t have “help”? All of our family lives out of state; they came for a few days while we were in the hospital to meet our precious boy, but when it came time for us to come home (I too had a C Section) the help we thought we had prearranged, couldn’t be there anymore. We are the first of our friends to have a baby, so I think many of our friends don’t quite get it. (Not blaming them-you don’t know what you don’t know) They visit, but the minute the baby starts fussing, they kind of panic and say “we will let you handle this,” and “let us know when y’all can get a sitter and we can all catch up.” So do you have any words of wisdom for those of us that are truly going at this alone?

    • April says
      Posted June 3, 2015

      Megan – I would say try and find a mom’s group in your area. As you say, your current friends don’t get it, so try and find one who does. Maybe you’ll both have a colicky baby and can give each other a break, even for 30 minutes. If your sitting with one screaming baby, you could sit with two for a half hour and look forward to your 30 minute turn of silence. I did that with a friend when mine was born and was an angel and hers screamed nonstop day and night. I’d go over there several times a week just so she could get away. It was a winner for me too, because my little guy learned to sleep through anything! Hang in there, this too shall pass.

      • Kate says
        Posted June 3, 2015

        Took the words out of my mouth–that’s what I’d recommend as well 🙂

    • Megan says
      Posted June 3, 2015

      I felt the same way after we had my daughter who’s 16 months now. My mom passed away a few years ago and my in-laws live out of state. I felt so alone, and when the colic started, it got worse. My husband and I really had to learn to work as a team. We would take turns and give each other a break. But I’ll be honest, it was hard for me to ask for help because I thought as the mom I should be able to “fix” it by myself. I ended up calling my childless friends and venting whether they could relate or not. They were as supportive as they could be, and it felt good to just get out the frustration. And I promise it gets better and makes you appreciate the good days even more. Hang in there mama!

    • Becky says
      Posted June 3, 2015

      Also, don’t assume that just because your friends don’t “get it” that they might not be more understanding with some explanation. Speaking from my own childless experience, if a baby starts fussing, I’m usually quick to hand him/her back to Mom, not because the crying bothers me but because mom is sometimes the fix. But if one of my mom friends said, “The baby is colicky and is going to cry regardless of who holds him and I’m really at my wits end” – then I would be more than happy to do a relief shift or help in any way I can. Sometimes it helps to be really upfront about what would be helpful to you in that moment.

      • Renee says
        Posted June 3, 2015

        Megan,

        I agree with Becky, it might just be a case of being up-front and direct with your “non-kid friends”. Without children of my own I really don’t know what my mom friends always need. If they asked clearly, “hey I need you to watch my baby for an hour while I get a sanity break or can you bring over a meal and help clean?” I would more than happily do it. Not saying you are to blame but just wouldn’t want you to loose the help of your friends who may just not know what to do but care deeply for you!
        It’s hard to ask for help but any true friend will gladly be there for you!
        I also have heard nothing but good things from friends who have gotten involved in a mom’s group in their area. Nothing is better than having someone be able to relate with where you are at.

        Hang in there!
        Renee

  4. Tricia says
    Posted June 3, 2015

    As a pediatrician, I have to say that some of my fussiest (possibly colicky) babies turn out to be the happiest, most laid back babies and toddlers. It’s like they got it all out in those first weeks/months! Here’s hoping the same for you. Thank goodness we have our spouses, family and friends, and the Lord to rely on!

    • Kristy says
      Posted June 3, 2015

      Tricia-you are right. I NEVER thought that I would have a colicky baby but I did until the 12 week mark. It was beyond difficult; more thank words can describe. Now, I seriously think that I have the happiest and sweetest 16 month old ever! Kate, I am glad that you got through it with Luke and that you had a support system. The hardest part is thinking that you are the only one.

      • caroline says
        Posted June 3, 2015

        I also read that the fussiness babies at first tend to be smarter, more successful adults. 🙂

  5. Bethy says
    Posted June 3, 2015

    I’m so relieved for you! Wonderful to hear your good news; enjoy your aborable babes (and some sleep)!

  6. Mylene says
    Posted June 3, 2015

    I am so, so happy for you that Luke seems to have emerged on the other side of the colicky phase. My first born had colic for the first solid 3 months of his life and it was definitely one of the hardest periods of our lives. It was horrible. Our friends who also had babies at the time really couldn’t relate so that made things even tougher. Nobody understood what it meant to have a baby that was literally crying for hours on end every.single.day. and I always got the feeling people thought we were exaggerating as tired new parents.

    Thank you for sharing your story and being so honest.

  7. Nicole says
    Posted June 3, 2015

    My son was very colicky baby as he had dairy and soy allergies that were undiscovered until he was 6 months old and we’re not completely corrected it until he was almost 9 months old. I can honestly say it was some of my darkest days but I got through them by reminding myself how so thankful I am to have him in my life. Now he is so calm and happy and life is totally different. These moments we can not get back whether they are good or bad. I keep that in the back of my mind and try to savor every momen regardless because it’s truly a beautiful ride! So glad to hear that little Luke has turned a corner. It will get even better with time! He is such a sweet little boy!

  8. Jenny says
    Posted June 3, 2015

    I’m glad he has turned the corner and the mood in your household is nice and cheery again! I can’t imagine as a mommy how I would feel if my baby were dealing with this. It would be heartbreaking and frustrating to see your baby like that! Glad he’s happy and smiley now! He is too cute. 🙂
    xx
    Jenny // Mish Mosh Makeup

  9. Tiff says
    Posted June 3, 2015

    Oh, I’m so happy to hear! How wonderful! I can’t imagine how hard that was for you and your husband.

  10. Jessica says
    Posted June 3, 2015

    I had my girls(now 3 1/2 and 2) at 15 months apart and our second girl was VERY colicky up until about 5 months. It was very tough going through that with another little one who didn’t understand it. Even now that she is 2, she is still our much more dramatic child.

  11. Victoria says
    Posted June 3, 2015

    What version of the Bible is that verse from?

    • Amanda says
      Posted June 3, 2015

      English Standard Version. 🙂 I looked it up because I liked it so much!

  12. dani says
    Posted June 3, 2015

    So happy for you all. I’m 7 weeks in with my 2nd colicky, sad baby.
    She has some significant tummy issues which causes great pain but I’m hoping it settles soon.
    here’s to healthy, happy, sleep filled babes!

  13. Posted June 3, 2015

    Our dr. always said that colicky babies were really good sleepers because they just tired themselves out so much. Glad you’re turning a corner. My two year-old had the worst colic and I don’t know how we survived. Now, she is seriously just the light of the world to me – the happiest, most laidback kid you’ll ever meet. She makes me laugh everyday, and makes that living nightmare of her newborn days completely worth it.

  14. Jill says
    Posted June 3, 2015

    hip hip hooray!!! I am so happy for all of you. I too had a fussy baby for 13 months though due to reflux as well. I THOUGH WE WOULD NEVER SURVIVE!! We did and now she is 6 in Kindergarten and amazing!

    Oh I am so stinkin happy for you! Enjoy

  15. Sarah says
    Posted June 3, 2015

    Glad to hear David’s better. Are you still breastfeeding?? Sleeping 10-12 hrs at night is a miracle!

    • Sarah says
      Posted June 3, 2015

      *sorry I meant Luke

  16. Sarah says
    Posted June 3, 2015

    Glad to hear Luke’s better. Are you still breastfeeding?? Sleeping 10-12 hrs at night is a miracle!

  17. Julie says
    Posted June 3, 2015

    it lasted three months with my daughter. It would start in the late afternoon until sometimes midnight or 1 am. She screamed nonstop. She was thoroughly examined by our doctor and we changed her formula, tried all of the little tips they gave us. I felt so emotionally drained and had postpartum depression as well. When the crying ended, and it was right at that 3 month point, it was like boom. She was smiling and happy. I remember still being in that anticipating mode of the horrible crying that I was afraid to get my hopes up. It had ended. It took me some time to be sure of it, as we had been kept at a level of such awful stress that I was too afraid it would come back. They say colicky babies are usually high achievers and super bright. My daughter graduated with honors both in high school and college and is in graduate school now, for speech language pathology. I never forgot that fragile time though and the sweet baby who came out of the other side of it a happy and wonderful little person.

  18. mackenzie says
    Posted June 3, 2015

    http://purplecrying.info
    this is the new information we give to parents about colic at the hospital. the period of purple crying is so hard and there is legitimately no reason other than a developmental stage. so glad it’s over for you, but take comfort in the fact that there was nothing you were missing.

  19. Abby says
    Posted June 3, 2015

    My colicky baby turns 4 this Friday! It’s funny how you push those horrific memories to the back of your mind as time goes on. But reading your post took me right back to those moments. What a trial in my patience and sad to say, marriage. Not too many people talk about how a colicky baby can really affect your life. Obviously no one wants to scare you but it’s nice that when you finally open up, anyone that’s been in your shoes knows exactly how difficult it can be.

    The good news is…it doesn’t last forever. And I’m happy to read that you finally have turned the corner. My 1st was the colicky one, so I can’t even imagine what it was like with a toddler at your feet at the same time. Thankfully, my baby #2 was happy and content. Now about the sleep thing though, agree with a previous post, my colicky baby slept so well. Obviously tired from long days of crying. But my happy baby, up multiple times for the 1st year. I say it’s a fair trade off though.

    Side note: I’ve come to your blog for your hair inspirations but have enjoyed reading about your boys…as I have two of my own 🙂

  20. Maggie says
    Posted June 3, 2015

    As s mom to a colicky little boy who is now almost three, I am SO happy that things have brightened up. I remember those days so well and I only had him at the time! The stress of a crying baby seemed so overwhelming. Sending blessings to your little family for many happy days to come!

  21. Posted June 3, 2015

    Kate, you are a really good mom! Thank you for being so candid and real about your experiences as a mom. love your blog.

  22. Posted June 3, 2015

    I had a TERRIBLE sleeper. I mean, waking to nurse every 2 hours (start to start, so I’d get one hour chunks of sleep) and in the first 8 weeks, he had a lactose digestion issue (that took me 6 weeks to figure out) and would SCREAM with gas pain if I ate dairy and the lactose went to my breast milk. He outgrew that eventually, but didn’t sleep through the night until 11 months. Phew, those were rough, rough days!

    He just celebrated his first birthday. I looked at him and said, “Well, you’re still alive and I’m still alive and we’ve progressed to greener pastures!” And it’s so true. Sometimes, especially in the beginning, it’s a “win” just to keep everyone alive and fed. I hope you too have progressed to greener pastures!

  23. Vivian says
    Posted June 3, 2015

    My second son had colic for 5 MONTHS! I don’t even remember how we survived but one day he woke up happy and has been happy ever since. He’s 21 now! I laughed out loud at “playing trucks with my foot” …. It’s amazing how creative we can be! Interestingly, my son was also a great sleeper…but when he was awake he was crying. I had to get a friend to come over so I could just shower….I feel your pain!

  24. Adriele says
    Posted June 3, 2015

    YAY!!!!!!! I’m so glad Luke is happier. I know how much his crying hurt your heart. I’m sure you were worried about David too. Glad it’s all going so much better now! That verse is lovely and I’m glad it helped.

    Thanks for sharing this. It always helps others when you open up about your struggles. The Lord does great things with your blog. 🙂

    Side note, my husband raised an eyebrow at me last night after he put the baby to bed and did the dishes. I was pumping and he said “so I’m making the bed, eh?” I flashed him my most winning smile, pointed down at the pump and said “PLEASE???” He shook his head, smiled at me and made the bed. For the WIN!!!! 😉

  25. sallie says
    Posted June 3, 2015

    Wonderful news!! My oldest son (I have two as well) was colicky for about 2.5 months. It was SO HARD. When you’re in the thick of it, it feels like a phase that will never ever ever end. But then it does and it’s the best! Congrats on surviving!

  26. Cindy says
    Posted June 3, 2015

    Thanks for being so honest, Kate. You’re helping other moms out there who feel so alone. So happy to hear that Luke turned that corner! WHOOP!

  27. Carolyn says
    Posted June 3, 2015

    My son had colic. I remember asking “What if he is NEVER happy?” I just didn’t understand why my boy was SO sad. I tried “EVERYTHING” and then, it stopped. Just like Luke. And pretty much, from that point on, when people see him, they ask me “Does he ever stop smiling?” He is literally the happiest most easygoing toddler. A friend of mine told me her son (now 25) was a colicky baby. And he was also the most easy going kid his whole life… so we have that! haha

    But I so understand, it’s so taxing. My husband and I were so exhausted. We were at each others throats… it was horrible. I am pregnat again and SO worried to go through it again!!!!!!!!

    • Abby says
      Posted June 3, 2015

      I, too, was worried that baby 2 would be colicky like the first! I was told, and I’m sure it’s not completely accurate, that the good Lord wouldn’t bless you with two colicky babies. (Again I know there are mothers out there that would disagree, not trying to start a debate!) But this little phrase calmed me during my second pregnancy and then I began to think that we have survived the worst of it with the first, that if it did happen again we would be so much more prepared. Thankfully, God blessed us with the happiest second baby. At times it was like we wondered if he was too happy! Ha! Best wishes! And with everything, you can be assured that it’s just a phase and you can survive it again if necessary!

  28. Leanne says
    Posted June 3, 2015

    I just want to thank you so much for talking about your experience with your son. Definitely not enough people discuss dealing with colic and what the effect that it has on your family. So, thank you.

  29. Posted June 3, 2015

    http://www.thewonderweeks.com/crankiness-and-crying/

    The Wonder Weeks book (although I never bought the book, only the app) kept me sane during those non-stop crying times my daughter had. Just knowing that I was not alone in it and that there was nothing wrong with my baby made me stronger so that I could go through those phases without losing my sanity.

    I think colic is a very generic word that doesn’t quite describe what they are going through but is generally the “diagnosis” we get when our babies go through those phases.

    I’m very glad Luke is over that phase already, and if he ever gets clingy, cranky or cries a lot during a good period of time, stay strong and know that it too will pass too 🙂

  30. Amanda says
    Posted June 3, 2015

    Sounds awfully hard, but also sounds like you did a fantastic job. Let’s pray it’s all over for him, poor lil guy.

    AMANDA LOVES | UK Beauty and Style Blog

  31. Jennifer says
    Posted June 3, 2015

    My oldest had colic, she is 10 now. But when she had it so bad for 4 months my pediatrician would say that all the babies he saw that had colic end up being the happiest kids. I would agree with that as soon as her folic stopped she was totally content and happy. so glad it seems to be over for you.

  32. Alicia says
    Posted June 3, 2015

    My 6 month old was the same way until right around 3 months. It felt like all she did was cry, all the time. Nothing I did made her happy! Then same thing, one day it was over. My mom said one time that it’s almost like some babies are just not sure they are happy being out in the world and then they finally accept it and they are much happier! So glad Luke is doing better, it’s so incredibly stressful!

  33. Becky says
    Posted June 3, 2015

    I’m so happy to hear things are better. I was worried about you! My baby is 7 weeks old, and she’s pretty fussy. I wouldn’t say she has colic but there are days when she cries – a lot. And she cries a lot in the evenings. It’s exhausting. And I’m suffering from postpartum as well. It’s just down right exhausting having a newborn. And it’s hard to see how this affects your other children. I’ve missed spending time with my 3-year-old!

    Your blog and the comments have helped me realize that I’m not alone. That moms are amazing, dedicated and resilient creatures. I’m so happy your boy is happy (and sleeping! Lucky you!)

    • Cindy K says
      Posted June 5, 2015

      Hang in there with the postpartum. It was very hard for me with my first, especially. I prayed, read my Bible, and slept when I could instead of tidying up the house. Lol I pray you will have joy in the little things. Perhaps a pedicure, nice cold drink, a pretzel while alone at Costco. When you have little ones the little things can bring such joy. Find your happy place. Give yourself time to get used to this new life you have. Cry some but do not stay there. Call a friend. Blessings to you.

  34. Wendy says
    Posted June 3, 2015

    My baby girl was colicky the first 8 weeks as well. She would wake up consistently at 1 am and cry until 4 am. Changing diapers, breast feeding, burping, gripe water, sleeping positions, rocking, etc. Nothing worked. My mom came and spent countless nights with us trying to help. I tried everything. I also worried that something else was wrong. Then like magic she just stopped one day. My doctor said some people believe that, “this is the 4th trimester.” Be strong.

  35. Donna says
    Posted June 3, 2015

    Amen and Amen!

  36. Jennifer D says
    Posted June 3, 2015

    My son is 10 weeks old this week and is coming out of his Colic state. We still have out bad days/times but they are much less than before! He is also beginning to sleep better at night, not as good as your son but better than before and I will take that! Colic is no joke and when in the thick of it you do need all the help you can get. Thank God for family is all I can say! But at the end, I agree with you, it makes you a stronger mother at the end of the “phase”!

  37. Cindy K says
    Posted June 3, 2015

    I am rejoicing with you and your family. What great news. I love your perspective that you are better equipped to help others who are in the same boat. I feel like God was/is green before it was cool to be green. He reuses everything in our lives. No experience is wasted. It reminds me of a passage from 2 Corinthians 1:4 that says, “He comforts us in all our troubles. Now we can comfort others when they are in trouble. We ourselves have received comfort from God.”Enjoy your boys.

  38. Melanie says
    Posted June 3, 2015

    Oh, I’m so very happy to hear this! I know you were really in the thick of it and I was thinking of you (I remember how that was with my first son). I’m glad you all get to enjoy this next phase and get to see more of his happy personality.

    Melanie
    http://www.theseblankwalls.com

  39. Christina says
    Posted June 3, 2015

    I am utterly amazed you have maintained your blog while have 2 little ones and then click on top of that. You have done more than the least required to survive.

  40. Kim says
    Posted June 3, 2015

    ThIs is such a great post! I’m glad everything’s going so great for you and you have a happy baby!

    Kim
    http://trendkeeper.me .. Instagram lately!

  41. Posted June 3, 2015

    I love that you put a bible verse on your phone to get through hard times! That’s always what I do, and hard times seem a little lighter with God helping you through. God bless you and your little family!

    Keep it Classy, Keep it Country,
    Gretta Patrick
    chicagocountrygirl.blogspot.com

  42. Beth says
    Posted June 3, 2015

    Thanks so much for sharing your struggles, successes, and especially the verse! Timing was perfect for me right this moment. Will memorize and add to my power verse arsenal!

    Beth

  43. Posted June 3, 2015

    So happy for you! I was fortunate to have an extremely happy son from the start. From the day he was born he could hold his head up on his own and smile and the only time he is really fussy is if he is horribly tired or teething. For the seven or eight months of his life though he did not sleep. Ever. He wouldn’t fall asleep until midnight, he’d wake up at 5 or 6 and take maybe two naps during the day then all of the sudden, one day, he started sleeping. It’s so crazy how just all of the sudden they grow out of stages and onto the next <3

  44. Julie says
    Posted June 3, 2015

    There was one particularly rough evening we went for drive, my husband at the wheel, our screaming son in the back. I called my mom in tears thanking her for not giving up on me. She was a single mom with me, and I was a cry-all-day-every-day baby for the first 3 months. I couldn’t even fathom how she held it together by herself. What resonated with me was ‘this too shall pass.’ You do what you can to keep them safe and healthy, and as with any tough stage, this too shall pass. And it did! And I love that kiddo with every piece of my being!

  45. Connie says
    Posted June 3, 2015

    I am so happy to hear that Like has turned the corner. This is the best news. He is just the sweetest little man. Enjoy this wonderful time with him. Soon Like and David will be having the best time. Thanks for sharing the journey with all of us. Enjoy getting a good night’s sleep to!

  46. Posted June 3, 2015

    My daughter was not colicky, but good gracious did she cry!!! Not just cried – SCREAMED! She did this just about any time it was time for sleep. She would cry for a good twenty minutes, then suddenly burst into a full-out raging SCREAM and then she would pass out (to sleep)! It did not matter if she was held, if she was rocked, if there was music or white noise… NOTHING we did made this pattern change. We finally just realized… it was just her! We were not doing anything wrong and she would eventually outgrow it. I think by 4-6 months, she stopped doing the crazy crying.

    It is so hard to hear your sweet baby cry and know there is not a whole lot you can do about it. Sometimes they just… well… cry! And you have to listen to it, muster up some calm energy, and love them through it.

    Even though I am sure your time with a colicky baby was emotionally and physically draining, props to you & your hubs for {hopefully} making it through to a happier season in your baby’s life!

  47. Gturn62 says
    Posted June 3, 2015

    He’s just beautiful! Glad his sweet face is smiling now. Enjoy this time with your two little angels.

  48. Maiju says
    Posted June 3, 2015

    I’m sure you get this a lot, but your child has the most beautiful eyes! I have green eyes and I’ve always loved my eye colour and thought it was the most beautiful colour ever, but that deep blue is so mesmerizing against pale skin.

  49. Kelli says
    Posted June 3, 2015

    My daughter Leah is now 11 months old. I would say the same–the first 8 weeks were so hard. We brought her home colicky. I was breastfeeding and driving myself crazy thinking it was something in my diet that didn’t agree with her. Now when I look back, I think it was just something she had to go through. I didn’t seem like she woke up one day and she was over it; hers seemed more gradual, but I do have one of the happiest babies now. Everyone always tells my husband and I how happy she is. It will all pass and before you know it, your mind will forget all about the long sleepless nights, and the baby will be turning 1!

  50. Lulu says
    Posted June 3, 2015

    I’m so glad to hear that he turned a corner. Our twins had reflux from 5 weeks until 9 months. From week 5 to week 12 we were at our (horrible) pediatrician every week because they kept saying that maybe they had an ear infection. We literally got NO sleep being that we had 2 babies, both my husband and I were exhausted. Finally we got our angel. A doohla that my MIL hired so that we could sleep recommended a peditrician and since they actually weren’t taking new patients I begged her to see us. A week before Christmas we finally were heard and they provided us with the correct medication. The most horrible things was that for those 2 months my kids were in pain, not sleeping, and screaming (not crying). All I can say is that anyone reading this… get a trusted and GOOD pediatrician who will listen to you. Our kiddos are 6 now and loving life 🙂 But as you mentioned, it was the hardest time (so far, we haven’t hit the teenage years) with our nuggets. All the best!

    Lulu
    simplylulustyle.com

  51. ElleM. says
    Posted June 3, 2015

    Your children are BEAUTIFUL. seriously.

  52. Fran says
    Posted June 3, 2015

    i am so sick of your whining when you have more backup than the navy Seals that i am unsubscribing. Your hairdos are not that amazing to have to sit thru listening to a spoiled brat who cannot deal with a colicky baby wihout troops. What would you do if there was a really serious new born issue?

    • Adrienne says
      Posted June 3, 2015

      What exactly makes you feel good about making a nasty comment like that? She just poured her heart out on something that is extremely difficult to go through for any mother no matter the support they have. I normally don’t respond to such nonsense on the Internet but this was just uncalled for. Shame on you.

      • Kate says
        Posted June 4, 2015

        Adrienne–thanks for your comment. Commenters like “fran” (they usually don’t use their real name and it’s usually the same group of people) sometimes just like to watch the world burn.

    • Cindy K says
      Posted June 4, 2015

      I think you are just colicky. I pray you turn the corner soon and happier days are ahead for you!

      • Cindy K says
        Posted June 4, 2015

        I was speaking to Fran, not Kate. Lol~

    • Ashley says
      Posted June 17, 2015

      So, I don’t usually post in the comments, but I have read so many nasty and harsh comments towards Kate lately that I decided to finally say something. It is absolutely EXHAUSTING to read such negative comments from people such as you about how Kate raises her kids or who and how many people Kate has helping her or what products Kate decides to write about or where Kate travels to or what Kate is eating or whether Kate is working out, or how many bibs she puts on her kid etc., etc., etc. And if I’m exhausted by it, I can only imagine how she must feel. If you don’t like Kate or what she is writing about, then just don’t read her blog or follow her on any other form of social media. The fact that people such as you take so much time to read her posts and then criticize and nitpick them to death says more about you than it does about her. And in my opinion, Kate does have a right to whine sometimes- it’s only human. Being a mom is the best thing ever, but it can also be HARD sometimes. Like, REALLY HARD. I have a full-time job, I recently moved while I was 9-months pregnant and now I have two little boys that are a little over 2 years apart, and even though our weeks are crazy busy and can be logistically hard to maneuver since my husband and I both work out side of the home and have lots of other things to try and cram into our evenings and on the weekends, you know what? I would say that being a SAHM is way harder than being a full-time working-outside-of-the-house mom any day of the week. At least at work I can sit for more than 2 minutes at a time. Add moving and traveling and trying to write blog posts that will make everyone happy into the equation and I can’t blame her for wanting to vent sometimes. And by venting, she is just being real with us. And, if I remember correctly, you all want her to be real rather than be a liar or a fake that people like you have also accused her of being. So rather than making her feel like she is damned if she does and damned if she doesn’t, either just read her blog and move on or unfollow her. Please.

      • Ashley says
        Posted June 17, 2015

        And this post was also directed towards Fran- didn’t mean to click reply under your post, Cindy K!

  53. Angela says
    Posted June 3, 2015

    Well done for noticing that corner so quickly Kate! It took me a while to realise that my screaming baby was becoming a much happier chap (he had reflux, longest 10 weeks of my life before we got meds for him). That corner is a beautiful thing.
    You may get to see your kids playing together sooner than you think. My children are 18 months apart, and I found that once my son turned 5 months old, he became much more interesting to his big sister. They play together all the time and it melts my heart (and occasionally my eardrums).
    And please ignore trolls like Fran ^, having a baby who screams ALL day and night IS hard, and getting help from others is the wisest thing you can do – I know I would have lost my mind without the help I received from friends and family.

  54. Posted June 3, 2015

    I’m so happy that things have turned around! Little Luke is so adorable!

    Kristi | Be Loverly

  55. Adrienne says
    Posted June 3, 2015

    This made me tear up! Even though I didn’t have a colicky baby I understand the ups and downs of motherhood in just the past 9 months I have been one. Thank you for sharing your experience. It truly makes other mommas feel less alone.

  56. Ginger says
    Posted June 4, 2015

    My heart hurts for you. 14 years ago we went thru the same ordeal. I finally remember rocking with her crying (I was too exhausted to walk any longer) and finally just crying along with her. I had held up pretty well until then. It was like a release. It did get better. I will tell you that she is now one of the sweetest, brightest, yet still high strung girls I’ve ever known. Motherhood is the hardest job you’ll ever have but the one you’ll love the most!

  57. Heather says
    Posted June 4, 2015

    I haven’t read this post yet, but will catch up shortly. I just wanted to let you know that I recently realized your blog started going to my RSS feed. I use feedly and rarely visit sites directly. I realized I hadn’t read anything from you in awhile, so I looked it up and my feedly hasn’t updated since August 2014! I’m going to try to figure out why not and how to get you back in my RSS feed, but I thought I’d give you a heads up in case others are having the same issue and there is something that happened on your end.

    I’m looking forward to catching up on the past 9ish months!

  58. Heather says
    Posted June 4, 2015

    Me again – just thought I’d update you that I got it working in the feed. I’m guessing your URL or something changed back then? I don’t know – it’s weird. But we’re all good now! 🙂

  59. Michele says
    Posted June 4, 2015

    Awww, so glad things have turned for the better. We had difficulty with a crying baby as well, and it’s excruciatingly difficult. Bless you for doing your best and utilizing every iota of patience & energy you had. I’m hoping and praying for you, that you can now Let the Good Times Roll !!!!

  60. Kerry says
    Posted June 4, 2015

    My daughter just turned 12 and was a colicky nightmare. I can still remember those dark days with a chill. But as awful as that time was, I agree, it makes you a better mom in many ways. Glad to hear you’re turning a corner and able to enjoy some happy times. Side note, when my 12 year old gets whiny and filled with drama, we just say it’s her colic coming back:)

  61. Megan R says
    Posted June 4, 2015

    Hooray for you! Enjoy your new (and well-deserved), refreshing normal. The hardest times make us so appreciative of the good ones. Your boys are adorable. Cheers!

  62. melanie says
    Posted June 4, 2015

    Has anyone recommended cutting out dairy and soy? (it’s hidden in so much) It may be a food intolerance that is making him so cranky. 😉 JUst curious.

  63. Jen says
    Posted June 4, 2015

    Luke is just adorable! Love his blue eyes! Glad to read that things are going better for you!

    Jen from http://www.appledapplepancakes.blogspot.com

  64. Stephanie Donnelly says
    Posted June 4, 2015

    I don’t really follow your blog much but wanted to find the description for the angled bob you had way back when – maybe you still have it. Anyway, I just noticed the pics of your new baby and noticed the rash he has. My daughter was born very red and by about 1-2 months she had horrible “baby acne” which my doctor proceeded to pooh-pooh away and suggested different formulas to try. (No, I didn’t breastfeed – don’t bash me for that) By 3-4 months she had developed full blown eczema which started off looking a lot like an all over rash before it clustered up into the typical eczema patches in her elbow, wrist, and knee creases. She had also had bouts of screaming but thank goodness nothing like colic. Please keep an eye on your baby’s skin. I spent about $300 on different lotions and creams until I found California Baby’s calming cream and it cleared her skin up in 2 days. It’s expensive but it works and she was a much happier baby. She is now five and we still battle sensitive skin and the occasional flare up of her eczema but overall her skin is in much better shape. We also have Honest Co products in our rotation and I’m happy with them as well.

  65. JennyBC says
    Posted June 4, 2015

    Oh, I am so happy for you! I had two colicky babies at one time and I really thought I would lose my mind. I remember trying to keep it altogether at night because my husband actually had to go to work and so I thought I should let him get some rest. I was a stark raving mad woman ~ so sleep deprived, so discouraged and so soul weary. When it finally passed it was such a blessing. Praying for you to get some deep needed rest and each day gets a little easier. Having two close together is hard and you have to fight to enjoy the second one’s first year. You are a good mama. Hang in there. His grace is indeed sufficient…lean into HIm.

  66. Sarah says
    Posted June 5, 2015

    A fussy and irritable baby can be a sign of a subluxation in their nervous system. It’s basically a vertebrae that is out of place or misaligned (could be from a number of things: birth trauma, sleeping positions, etc.) and is causing interference in the nervous system. Or more simply, the vertebrae that is out of place makes it so the brain has a harder time communicating to the rest of the body by way of the spinal cord.

    I’ve seen babies who screamed endlessly and had all sorts of problems with sleeping, nursing, and even bowel movements because they were just subluxated. It sounds crazy, but taking a baby to the chiropractor (make sure to find a good one who specifically corrects subluxations and works with kids!) can do wonders for their overall health.

    They don’t need medicine or more sleep or some other invasive technique, all it takes is a simple adjustment to help their body be the greatest self-healing machine it was created to be! 🙂 Here’s a short article that explains subluxations a little more: http://welladjustedbabies.com/why-parents-take-children-to-chiropractors/

  67. Nicole says
    Posted June 5, 2015

    Yay! So happy for you and your family to finally have some relief from the crying – and the prospect of happier days ahead! Now, please Mama, share your sleep routine with the rest of us! 10-11 hours a night at Luke’s age is AWEsome – I’d love to read a blog post about that!

  68. Laura says
    Posted June 6, 2015

    Mine was colicky from 2 weeks to just before 5.5 months, and those were a super hard five months. If I only cried once in a day, it was a good day. When it finally ended, it felt amazing to go a couple hours without hearing screaming! You are right, though – it does equip to you to be more helpful and compassionate to others. She’s 10 months now, and she’s still an intense screamer, rather sensitive, and not the greatest sleeper, but it’s WAY better than the colicky phase where nothing would comfort her. Plus she smiles and giggles often, which is just precious.

  69. Alicia says
    Posted June 8, 2015

    My most colicky and unhappy baby is now the best teenager. I love her so much. I pretty much thought I was going to go crazy the first few months of her life, and it wasn’t until she turned 6 that I saw her really change, but she is the best! Sometimes we have to experience the worst, to appreciate the best in life. Hopefully things start looking up!

  70. Lily Contac says
    Posted July 7, 2015

    I’m glad he’s over with the colics..I know exactly how hard is it to have a colicky baby..My first son had colics for the first 3 months, my second had colics back and forth till 9 months and now I have a daughter, she’s 3 1/2 months and she’s also very colicky.. Almost after each feeding she gets colics.. I use some drops from Whole Foods called Colic Ease, and they seem to work, but sometimes she gets them so bad that even those are not helping..it’s a hard season for me and my husband, but I pray that she will get over too, soon..Even though sometimes I feel like they will never came to an end..
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  71. Karla says
    Posted July 9, 2015

    Oh my goodness thank you so much for posting this!! I think as mothers we feel like failures when we can’t help our babies calm down and feel better (I know I did) especially when I would hear other mothers say they had such “an easy going baby” or “my baby never cries.” As a first time mom of a 14 week old the first two months were quite challenging and utterly exhausting. For me two things I would recommend for colicky babes is getting the book Happiest baby on the block, this cost me .99 on amazon and is just a hilarious book on normalizing baby behavior also swaddle, swaddle, swaddle. I can’t say how much this has helped. I had gotten a few swaddles but to no avail my little houdini can get out of anything until I invested in the ollie swaddle (when you are sleep deprived you will try anything and pay anything) the ollie is worth every penny.

  72. Shannon says
    Posted February 13, 2016

    I just had my second baby (Christmas Eve) and am in the throes of colic. I remembered you had posted some things about it and decided to google it to find them. I’m so glad to see that it does just “end”. Last night my daughter cried off and on from 9pm-1:30am. It so heartbreaking and frustrating that nothing you do is helping. I also have an older daughter (Henley) that turned 2 last month, and I thought she was a hard baby… But she was nothing compared to this! My youngest (Everly) has been this way for about 3-4 weeks now and I’m hoping the end of the colic is near. My husband and I are truly struggling with this and everyday I dread nighttime. I know God is just making us stronger as people and a couple, but I feel nice and strong now ;). Thank you for posting “real” posts about what happens in real life. It totally does feel so lonely sometimes going through colic.