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One of the most unusual things that has happened to me in both first trimesters of pregnancy is a rather intense feeling of apathy.

It’s usually directed toward the blog too, and it’s quite frustrating.

I love being creative, and am usually teeming with ideas and things to say, and suddenly the roller coaster of hormones takes over and I suddenly only care about napping and the basic needs to survive.

I was in tears last week talking to Justin about what the heck to do about it. It’s challenging to push through it. I’m in this uncomfortable time of wanting to create something but I can’t seem to put my finger on what. Working in a creative field with a negative amount of creative inspiration leads to nowhere.

And in the midst of feeling dried up creatively, I was suddenly bombarded with the thoughts that everyone else is doing cool things and I’m not. It was this weird feeling of envy. I was envious of others’ time and skills. And I don’t typically struggle with those kinds of feelings. 

So I thought about taking a break, and imagined my days without something to work on, and realized –quickly– that I think I would be more bored without something to work on. Despite the fact that I feel very stagnant in life (creatively), I want to continue looking for things to revive my spirit in that aspect.

So I’ll keep pressing on. And rest when I need to, but also work hard at finding something that inspires me again. Patience has been the trait I’ve learned is most essential for motherhood, and that goes for this season as well. This season, and feeling, will pass. I know that it will! I’m just ready for it to go ahead and pass.

Have you gone through a time like this? What do you do? Do you take a break, or do you keep pushing through? I’d love to hear any advice you may have in the comments.

 

Meanwhile, I’m bored to death with my hair. I’ve been scrolling and scrolling through Pinterest boards looking for something to strike me. There are so many beautiful hair ideas on Pinterest, I thought I’d share my 4 favorite boards.

Elizabeth Anne Designs // Hair

Mainly directed towards wedding/event, but also includes a mix of beautiful simple styles.

hair1

Ginny Branch Sterling // Doll Hairs

Classic beauties, texture, trends, and wearable hairstyles.

hair2

Elizabeth Dehn Beauty Bets // Cute Hair

A great mix of tutorials, inspiration, and cool hair.

hair3

Summer Allen // Hair

Think texture, edgy, and color.

hair4

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Comments (123)

  1. Ellen says
    Posted August 12, 2014

    I definitely felt like that during my first trimester as well, but I didn’t have a successful blog to keep up with! My advice would be to do your best to push through it, but at the same time go easy on yourself. That’s what motherhood has been teaching me lately: how to balance the need to be productive with the need to go easy on myself in this season in life.

    • Kate says
      Posted August 12, 2014

      Thanks for the support!!

      • andie says
        Posted August 12, 2014

        It’s just a phase that we all go through. I felt like this many years ago while pregnant with my daughter. …hmmm.

    • Diane says
      Posted September 4, 2014

      Hi Kate

      The loss of creativity thing is something that was explained to me by my great aunt – when your body is making the ultimate creation, you can only focus on one thing, making that baby! It seemed so very simple when she put it like that and second pregnancies are hard work because you have an active small person to look after. And you get in that groove of rushing around.

      I had a real wake up call when I fell over – taking my son to a play group – and broke my foot. That was a shock, never broken a bone before and here I was with a big belly as well. So take it at the pace your body sets, Mother Nature is wise and we’re all too modern to believe in ‘all that’. When biology is the issue, we need to re-connect and listen to what our body is saying!

      Diane x

  2. Megan says
    Posted August 12, 2014

    Oh yes! I call it mom-funk. Usually when I am extremely sleep deprived it hits the hardest. First trimesters are rough and a surge of hormones make you feel like you are totally out of control in your own body. I don’t really have any advice except to ride the wave, it does get better, but it is frustrating and sometimes the wave feels more like a long journey. I am sure you will find inspiration once the 2nd trimester comes around, I felt like I could tackle the world for those few weeks, and it was a welcomed change from the hazy first trimester!

  3. Keshia says
    Posted August 12, 2014

    I can definitely relate! Just entered my second trimester and can already feel the change back to normalcy. Patience is definitely the key to getting through it. I hope it ends quickly for you!

  4. Posted August 12, 2014

    First, congrats Kate! What exciting news!

    What you’re going through makes a lot of sense — you are creating something, a baby, and that takes a lot of energy…no wonder you feel lacking in inspiration to create other things. This also makes sense if you think about your chakras. Your 2nd chakra is hub of creativity in your body, and also manages your reproductive organs.

    I go through periods where I don’t feel super inspired, for sure. It feels kind of weird because I usually have things to say, reflections on things to jot down. When I feel this way, I tend to just allow it, knowing that my words will come back soon. I hate to force it and push myself to come up with something just because I “should.” The “shoulds” are the worst!

  5. Posted August 12, 2014

    You know Kate….we all are such loyal fans that we would follow even if you ONLY blogged about your cats for months (I love my kitties). Seriously! Blog about David, blog about your growing baby, your kitties….we would love it. Some of my favorite post are the “a day in the life” ones. No worries here from this fan 🙂

    Lisa

    • Kate says
      Posted August 12, 2014

      Ha, I should do a weekly cat series 😉 Thanks for the encouragement

      • Ashley says
        Posted August 12, 2014

        I would totally love a weekly cat series. 🙂

        • Birdy says
          Posted August 12, 2014

          Thumps up for a weekly cat series !! I’m not mom, but love to hear about David and your new little one on the way ! I love your hair tutorials as well. Your monthly favourites are very good as well, but its kind of disappointing that I can’t seem to buy any of those products mentioned in Germany 🙂

          • Ashley says
            Posted August 12, 2014

            Seriously, (most) everybody loves cat pics/videos!! And really, I love reading about David too! He is so cute! As a new momma (my LO is almost 4 months) I love hearing about what products/things David likes – it really helps us so much! And you are so cute, weekly bump updates would be awesome!! 🙂

      • Michelle says
        Posted August 12, 2014

        I totally agree with the above post. We all follow you because you are like a best friend. My hair has looked better than it ever has in my life thanks to your tutorials, but if you blogged about the color of the sky, I would read that too:) My babies were seven years apart and it felt like I had never done the pregnancy thing before. Each time is different. Hang in there and when the inspiration hits, go with it. It will come!

      • Justine says
        Posted August 12, 2014

        Don’t worry be happy now…woohoooo…(I love to sing that song to myself when I’m down)! I really don’t get bored on your blog…ever. I love when you change things up like talking about your adorable son or making a video and just talking about different things. So don’t worry if you are having difficulties in being creative right now. Posts like the one you just did make you human and humans need times to shut off (pregnant or not)! We all know you are fabulous and that’s what matters 🙂

    • Sherry says
      Posted August 12, 2014

      I agree with you Lisa, being a loyal fan of Kate’s blog means that we follow you and enjoy it no matter what the topic. I first started following because of the hair/makeup topics, but have found that the everyday life topics …David, pregnancy, family, cats (even though I am more of a dog person-don’t block me from your blog because of my preference towards dogs) have proven to be more interesting and captivating than I would have first imagined. You are a great writer and the loyal fans will continue to follow even when you aren’t feeling overly inspired or creative.

    • Ashley says
      Posted August 12, 2014

      I agree! I came to your blog for the hair tutorials, but have become a daily reader because I enjoy all aspects of your blog. I love seeing David, the cats, and just your daily life. I would love to know more about the region that you live in, and maybe that would be something to consider – What is available in that area for tourists, what places would you recommend visiting?
      I am currently in my 2nd trimester and one week away from heading into the 3rd. This is our first baby, so I am glad to know that this feeling of apathy is not just something that I am going through. I love to create, bake, cook, sew – and I have had no want, will, or desire to do any of those things since I’ve been pregnant. I was starting to worry and wonder if I was just not as excited as I should be. I am so happy to hear that this is a pretty common thing. Thanks for posting about it.

    • Posted August 12, 2014

      I couldn’t agree more. I think the more you write about things that are going on in your life, the more most of us enjoy it. We come to the blog because we enjoy you and your personality, and your honesty. I also suffer sometimes from creative malaise. Then, I give myself a break (although I certainly don’t have anywhere near the amount of loyal readers you do;)). Thinking of you and wishing you rest and happiness:). Jess

  6. Stella says
    Posted August 12, 2014

    I have defiantly gone through seasons like this. However I will say this.. Your season right now is mother, woman in her 1st trimester, and wife. And most of your followers are in one of these seasons as well! So even tho I love your hair toutorials I also love your David post because we can all relate in one way or the other. Just keep it real. Let life, your hubby, and son inspire you. No matter what you post it will reach and touch many. Just like this post Real, honest, & transparent. Helps everyone to know that there not alone!

  7. Deb says
    Posted August 12, 2014

    Well, my sons are grown and married, in fact, I did your French Twist for both of their weddings, and it came out beautifully! When I carried them I was still working full time, and never had much time to indulge in my creative passions. My advice is to go back thru your reader’s comments and questions and use that as a springboard to ideas. Even if there is less creativity, it would still be issues in your field of expertise and a connection with those of us who value your knowledge and advice. Maybe there was that time when you though you just didn’t have the time to address so many questions, and now you can use that to keep writing and connecting until either something there fires you up, or this dry period is over. And don’t worry, seriously, don’t worry! As Lisa said, your loyal fans will still be here, enjoying all that you write. Take care (and a nap)! Deb

    • Kate says
      Posted August 12, 2014

      I think that’s a great idea, I’m going to do that!

      • Posted August 12, 2014

        I agree – this is a great idea! I can honestly say that I love reading your blog, regardless of the content, because you do a great job connecting to your readers and showing your personality through the blog…so it’s enjoyable no matter what! Just be you!!

      • Deb says
        Posted August 12, 2014

        Oh how very cool! Makes my day that I could help. BTW, which are you going to do-the blog idea or the nap idea?? Hmmm??

  8. Laura says
    Posted August 12, 2014

    If it makes you feel better, I am always envious of your skills and creativity 🙂

    I can definitely relate to the first trimester funk and think it was worse the second time around with another little one to care for.

    Second trimester you will probably be a creative machine!

    Third trimester you might be stuck on the ground most of the time, so I would recommend keeping a laptop or tablet on the floor (speaking from experience, with the second one you do not realize how often you are on the floor playing or changing their clothes, bathing, etc. and it is hard to get up when you get that big!)

    • Kate says
      Posted August 12, 2014

      I feel like I already live on the floor! But yes, that will continue as I start to get huge 🙂

  9. Melissa s says
    Posted August 12, 2014

    When I was pregnant with our second (who was a little unexpected (: ) I felt the same way. I love to create, and my outlet is sewing. I couldn’t get motivated or excited about doing anything other than sitting on the couch. This feeling caught me off guard because it is so out of character for me.
    During this time I just gave in to my need to rest my body and mind. When I felt a a little spark of energy I took advantage of it. Pretty soon I started to be still less and get back to my old self. It was a gradual change. Hang in there. I know how you feel, even though there are no words to explain it! Praying that you will feel back to your self soon!

    • Kate says
      Posted August 12, 2014

      I think that is what is so surprising is this is so out of character for how I usually am. Thanks for the encouragement!

  10. Nilda says
    Posted August 12, 2014

    Just take your time, I feel that way all the time… And I’m not pregnant!! Ha Ha Ha… You do a great Job being a mom and a blogger. The motherhood takes a lot of our energy, and you are pregnant also, so of course you are more tired than usual and that means that the creativity cames slowly. I remember that I was so dumb when I was pregnant… Thanks
    God it was just a phase… Just take the time to rest enough and enjoy your little baby and your pregnancy. Xoxo

    • Kate says
      Posted August 12, 2014

      lol “I remember I was so dumb when I was pregnant” — that made me laugh, thanks! 😉

  11. Rosanna Stessman says
    Posted August 12, 2014

    Dear Kate,

    I have a two and three year old and while I was pregnant I had the same feelings you’re going through right now. Actually, it lasted until my second was about 6 months old. It wasn’t depression but just a blah feeling. My body felt frumpy, I was emotionally and physically exhausted. So I made some changes, went part time at the hospital working only two days, which involved extreme new budgeting. I also cut my hair and have loved it ever since! I was always a long haired country girl but my short hair feels fantastic and it takes 10 minited to do compared to 30 which is a huge lifesaver with two toddlers! Just give it time and make some changes to your life to mix it up and give you a renewed creativity…change your hair, or go on a weekend vacation! You’ll begin to find yourself as a momma, it just takes time and is one of the hardest but most rewarding jobs on the planet!

    Much love,
    Rosanna

    • Kate says
      Posted August 12, 2014

      Thanks for the encouragement–it’s nice how a fresh haircut can lift your spirits too isn’t it? 🙂

  12. Angie M says
    Posted August 12, 2014

    As others have said…I experienced it too. I only have one child, she is now 7…but I still have times where I am dying to be creative or take on a project that I know will make me feel productive and happy when I am done. I’ve never been one to shy away and just go sit on the couch instead. Working, being a mother, wife, daughter, sister, friend….all the roles we have wear on us. Don’t guilt yourself into doing something, but when you do feel like it, do it with gusto!

  13. kendra burton says
    Posted August 12, 2014

    I think most Moms can understand your feelings. All I have to offer is to remind you that God created you, that baby, and while we don’t understand His reasoning, He also created those hormones. Take all this to Him and lean into Him for direction. That is the only way you can never go wrong.

    Psalm 32.8: “I will instruct you and teach you in the way which you should go; I will counsel you with My eye upon you.”

  14. Jessica says
    Posted August 12, 2014

    I blame the super moon! Seriously, though, I’ve been feeling like i’m living in a creative vacuum lately… and I don’t have pregnancy to blame. As a creative person, I like to think of these stretches as my ‘cocoon phases’. When I’m cocooning I like to just breathe and relax and wait because I know that everything is happening under the surface. My brain is just recalculating and I’ll soon be creating with riotous joy again.

    Also, I just cut off 5 inches from my hair. So yeah… hair boredom!

  15. Amanda says
    Posted August 12, 2014

    Kate – I would take the fact that you feel uncomfortable over not being creative as proof that you are a very creative person! It’s who you are, otherwise you wouldn’t feel so out of sorts because you aren’t actively creating! You have a lot happening right now and your energy is going towards your growing baby(ies) and all the life changes that are happening. Envy is an uncomfortable feeling and it is unnerving when we suddenly feel that way over what we perceive others are doing/living/creating. I believe it will pass – we all have our “seasons” and leaning in and feeling them and then being done with them tends to work the best (in my experience!).

    Girl…you can make a messy bun look elegant and rock a pair of maternity skinny jeans like nobody’s business. Somehow grey isn’t boring on you. And your curls last all day. Take those victories and keep on being amazing. 🙂

  16. Lisa says
    Posted August 12, 2014

    I didn’t even finish reading your post, I just had to come here and say that I have felt this way for most of the last several years. I thought it was just a messed-up-me thing but now I’m starting to wonder if it’s hormones.
    Congrats on the second pregnancy and focus on this unique time in your life! There will be plenty of years ahead for creativity when hormones won’t rule your body and your brain. 🙂

  17. Lynne says
    Posted August 12, 2014

    I can empathize with the funk. When it happens to me, I try to do something new – basic embroidery, take an art (or any kind of ) class, go for a day trip, try a recipe that’s always sounded daunting, like crème brulee. Good luck! We’re routing for you!!

  18. Posted August 12, 2014

    Kate,

    I was exhausted during my first trimester… I only wanted sleep and Ben and Jerry’s (not a great combo for being healthy)

    I did put some things on hold during my first trimester, because with working full time I just needed time to nap. You and baby are #1 so rest if you need to 🙂

    I really loved the Ask Kate videos! If you did more short videos like that it would be great. I would also like to see some pregnancy posts mixed with the David post.

    Finally, I love you honesty!! I think people could look at you and be jealous that you have perfect hair, are adorable while pregnant, have an incredible blog and are super creative. It is neat to see that even you have doubts sometimes.

    Keep it up! I love your blog!!

  19. Posted August 12, 2014

    I wish I could blame my recent feelings of apathy on pregnancy! But alas.. I cannot! Just in a regular old rut is all, and finding nothing inspiring. I like one of the comments about recommending you go back through reader comments. That sounds like a great idea!

    I always enjoy reading your posts regardless of what they are on, so if you want to write about what you had for breakfast, hey I’ll read it! 🙂

  20. Virginia says
    Posted August 12, 2014

    I read the suggestion that someone just posted about taking this time to read comments and answer questions! I think this is brilliant! Taking that into consideration, I have a question for you! In your last favorites video you mentioned a tarte product that you were going to try under your eyes. I am just itching to find out if you have tried it yet and how it is! I know you have done a few posts on under eye concealer but I am pretty new when it comes to the ins and outs of make-up knowledge. So I would love a post on what products are great but also which ones stink and why. I tried tarte’s eye primer (I think it’s called “creaseless”) and I can’t decide if it’s doing it’s job or not. I might take it back because I feel like it is flaking towards the end of the day. But is that normal?? I followed your tutorial on how to apply your under eye concealer and it made a big difference!! But I would love some help on how to shop for these things (especially a primer) and what to look for and what results to look for as well. Hope your first trimester funk goes away soon!!!

  21. Posted August 12, 2014

    Yes! I am feeling the exact same way and I’m not pregnant. I thought after my honeymoon and taking a week away from my shop would help but I am still in this funk. I need to take new pictures and get going on designing my fall & Christmas bows but I just don’t want to. I even took this weekend off to do some fun projects and I wasn’t even into them! It is so not like me to be this way. Just last night I came home, took a nap, ate dinner and went back to bed when usually I am go go go.

    So glad to hear I am not the only one!

  22. christina says
    Posted August 12, 2014

    When pregnant, my motto is do whatever you need to do to be healthy; physically and emotionally. I could barely walk with my 2nd, for almost 6 months. If you need to only blog once a week, we will still be here. Never feel guilty for taking care of your family. Best of luck – you can do it!

  23. Brittany says
    Posted August 12, 2014

    I love your blog! You’re doing a great job. I’m not a mommy yet so I can’t relate to posts about motherhood. But I absolutely love your fashion style. I’d love to see more creative inexpensive outfits 🙂

  24. Nicole B. says
    Posted August 12, 2014

    Hang in there, Kate! My feeling of restlessness/bored as heck came in my third trimester. Begin huge in the summer and all I wanted to do was get out and hike. My bf kindly told me that was the worst idea ever and to read or watch a movie, because hiking a mountain was out of the freaking question. I feel ya. I think a lot of readers gave you some great advice! This is just an idea, which may not help since your super tired, but may help with the creative-juices? You could throw out on FB that you are looking for a few hair models in your area and you could change up their hair style. Then you could document it on the blog & you’d feel good about creating a beautiful style.

    Thinking of you,

    Nicole B.

  25. Chrystal says
    Posted August 12, 2014

    Hi Kate! I commend you on your transparency on this topic. I think a lot of new moms struggle with feelings of trepidation during the transition to motherhood. I’d say that all your feelings are “normal.” I had a friend share with me (mostly in reference to her career) that after baby, everything that seemed meaningful to her changed in comparison to what her baby meant to her. I have two small children myself and will also say that I struggled with finding my identity as a mom. I felt guilty (and still do now and then) fir leaving my nursing job-that I worked do hard towards- to be a stag at home mom. I had a hard time feeling “okay” with my decision. But now that my oldest is four I am feeling more confident in my job as “mom” and loving it. In the big picture, I feel like if I stayed home with the kids for the next 10-15 years, I am still young enough (at 31) to resume my career as a nurse for 20 years -after raising kids- if I want!
    I hope that I can encourage you to follow your heart. Of course you have many followers and fans, and we love love love reading your blog, but if you feel like taking a break nobody will judge you. You will be your hardest critic I’m sure. I will pray for you. Pray that you feel encouraged, that you get some inspiration and clarification about your feelings. Best wishes.

  26. Juliann says
    Posted August 12, 2014

    I think it’s definitely a pregnant lady thing, I have at least one day a week where I’m just so bored that it brings me to tears. I think also when your a stay at home wife and mother your days become this routine of no change. For me I seem to do all my to do’s in the morning and then I’m just left waiting for bed time for the next boring day to come haha. Good luck to you though, it’s the hardest thing for me right now as well

  27. Lindsay says
    Posted August 12, 2014

    I totally understand that feeling of being behind. It’s a strange thing to be exhausted and panicked at the same time, isn’t it? You should be doing SOMETHING faster, better, more often, but what?! Hopefully, all the great suggestions here will help.
    On a related note, this is the only place in the whole damn internet that I ever subject myself to the comments section. I suspect it’s a testament to how great a person you are that your readers generally say only the most supportive and helpful things.

    Feel better!

  28. erin says
    Posted August 12, 2014

    Kate,
    I am also on my second pregnancy! Congratulations on expanding your family! Chasing a toddler and trying to keep up with mommy and house duties in my first trimester was tough!!! When you feel unmotivated or have a lack of drive, just take some time, don’t feel guilty about it either. I think its just your bodies way of saying “hey, Im growing a baby here, so take it easy!” I will say after the first trimester you will probably feel better :0)

    Erin

  29. Candace says
    Posted August 12, 2014

    Kate,
    I have a jewelry business and I was feeling the same way….
    I got to the point where I didn’t want to look at another rhinestone!!!
    I put everything away, and took the summer off….
    It really helped to just to step away for a while.
    I’m back at creating now 🙂
    You take all the time u need… We aren’t going anywhere!!!
    Big hugs!!! 🙂
    Candace

  30. Abby says
    Posted August 12, 2014

    I appreciate your transparency through this difficult season. Although I do not have children yet, I can very much relate to the feeling of apathy at times and extreme lack of creativity. It is at those times where feelings of jealousy & envy creep in making us feel so small. I am doing a study called “Stuck” by Jennie Allen and she talks about how we compare, wait, long for, flaunt, pretend, whine, and complain…we miss the most important thing. We miss the God who adores us, sees us, calls us, loves us, and wants to give us a story within His beautiful story. Keep pressing on understanding that your honesty is impacting so many women. We all go through seasons but praise the Lord that he walks through those seasons with us :).

  31. Jen says
    Posted August 12, 2014

    1. Thank you for your raw honesty online about your struggles. I’m sure that took guts to get it out there. You are not alone. and thanks for that.
    2. This too shall pass.
    3. As far as creativity goes, try MEDITATING. Here is a 21 day guided meditation by Deepak Chopra and Oprah. I’ve done these a few times. It’s FREE, just sign up.
    https://chopracentermeditation.com/

    I’m a painter and get stuck in a rut often. Instead of trying, trying, trying…. It helps me to step back, breathe, mediate and let my mind get quiet. It’ll help clear distractions and your true inner self will come through and you’ll get a few new ideas. God Bless~

  32. Posted August 12, 2014

    Although I don’t have children, I have definitely gone through a dry spell for inspiration. Lately I have been getting back into running (I use to run half marathons but stopped about 2 years ago) and a lot of my focus has been going into that and getting on a good schedule so I don’t fall back into old habits. For some reason though it’s really difficult to find inspiration as to my blog everyday because I feel so tired after making sure I get the proper workouts in, the food I need to make, etc. I guess I just need to find a balance! I wish you the best! Congrats on the baby as well! XX

    • Kate says
      Posted August 12, 2014

      way to go on running 1/2 marathons! And finding the balance is hard for sure!

  33. Penelope says
    Posted August 12, 2014

    I came to your blog for hair and beauty. To be honest, you might want to change your overall blog tone and topic to a motherhood one. I think you are struggling because you are trying to continue with a beauty blog when you are not “there” anymore in your life. It would be less frustrating for you to change direction and blog about what’s reality for you in your life now. You will likely lose some of your initial beauty and hair followers, but you will also gain readers who want to follow a mom blog. Just my two sense, but based in some of the comments of readers lately being disappointed in your content as of late, this might be a good move……

    • Joyxe says
      Posted August 12, 2014

      What Penelope writes makes sence. You have entered a new phase of your life and I noticed from your posts that the ones about David and motherhood are lively written with humour. i can feel that you really enjoyed to write them whilst the ones about fashion and hair are less enthusiastic, a little plain so to say. Perhaps you haven’t realized that your creativety now lies in other areas. Life is a challenge, it changes, we change, that’s good because we can learn and grow!

      As a mother of two boys just 17 months apart I now all about it. I studied international marketing, was going to have big career traveling the world. But than we got two boys who were so beautiful that they became my whole world. They are twelve and thirteen now and for some more years to come they will take up most of my time but sometimes I dream about how it will be when they are all grown. That can feels scary but I know it will also give me a lot of new opportunities even though it might take some time to figure out.

      Good luck, you will be successful whit everything as long as your heart is in it!

      • Kate says
        Posted August 12, 2014

        I’ve thought about transitioning to more family/motherhood but I actually lean towards the private end of the spectrum (even though I have a very public blog) and want to be sensitive about how much I share, you know? I think it would be hard to write a lot about David + family because I don’t want to over share. But it’s good to think about what direction my blog is heading.

        • Joyce (not Joyce:-) ) says
          Posted August 12, 2014

          Kate, you are absolutely right about that.

          Give it time, give yourself time, follow your heart and it will work out.

          • Joyce (not Joyce:-) ) says
            Posted August 12, 2014

            Sorry meant to write Joyce ( not joxce 🙂 ) apperantly It is very difficult to write ones own name :-/

      • Lisa says
        Posted August 12, 2014

        I think this comment is right on target. With motherhood comes tremendous change. And there is so much to embrace and share about this new chapter in your life. If I was in the same chapter I’d be thrilled to find a blogger like you to follow! Since I’m not in the new mother stage and I’m back to caring about ‘the small things’ lol (hair and make-up and outfits….). I can’t pretend I won’t be sad that your blog becomes more new mom related…,but as a loyal reader and mom, I wholly understand!

    • Leigh Ann says
      Posted August 13, 2014

      Kate, I’ve followed since 2011 (I think), and I think Penelope nailed it. When you provide posts that stick to your original blog concept, they don’t ring quite as true for me as they once did. The family ones are where your heart is from where I sit. Maybe preview some other mom blogs. Pay attention to how they strike a balance between sharing without oversharing. What kinds of topics do they cover? Seriously, I just followed an instagram account called “My Toddler’s Lunch,” she literally just posts pictures of her toddler’s meals. Who would have know I would be at this point a year ago, but now I find it wildly interesting, ha! Don’t be afraid to move and flow as the seasons of your life change. It’s the only way you’ll remain authentic to both yourself and your blog. Sure, you’ll lose some readers, but there’s a whole different group to tap into. Best of luck. And I’ll be following either way.

  34. Lauren says
    Posted August 12, 2014

    Hello Kate,
    Due to the fact that I have no children and am not pregnant I cannot relate. But I would like to tell you that I love your blog! I read it daily and am always excited to see what you have to say. Especially the post about babies! 🙂
    I pray that things get better for you soon and in the mean time just breathe! This baby is a blessing and so is your blog.

  35. Posted August 12, 2014

    Well, honestly, I’m laying on the couch reading your blog instead of working on my own. Lol. I feel you lady!! I usually do a photoshoot for tje blog with pregnancy outfit ideas every Wed and that did NOT happen this week.

    If only pregnancy made us more empathetic, rather than apathetic, am I right?

    When I just can’t be bothered to be creative, I’ll go take a stroll (read: go to the mall in the mornings) and people watch. I’ll see what people are doing well, vs. what they need help with. That gives me inspiration.

    I would LOVE a long (thick) hair tutorial on loose waves. My hair is SO THICK that if I take 1 inch sections, I am doing it for 30-40 min. Do I still use a 1″ iron? Not sure how you would film that… but I’d love it.

    Keep your chin up, chica. This fellow preggo feels your pain. 🙂 Love and hugs from KS!

  36. Posted August 12, 2014

    Kate,
    Blog about things that you are excited about, inspirations and aspirations. You are a mother of 2. It’s okay if your main priority isn’t beauty products and styled hair. Blogging about what other people are inspired by is not the same as blogging about what inspires you. If your main focus right now is motherhood – blog about motherhood.
    I love your blog. I am a very down-to-earth, small town girl and I love reading your blog because you are completely you. Lately I’ve wondered if your blog has been about what others want to hear instead of what you really want to write about. Be inspired by your own passions 🙂 Feel free to message me if you want to talk more.

  37. Debbie says
    Posted August 12, 2014

    Kate,
    When I’ve felt like you do, prayer is what gives me strength and courage , and yes, even creativity, sometimes. When I had little ones, I spent whatever spare time I had reading Christian authors about parenting and child development…I wanted to parent creatively. To think about the parenting styles of my parents and my husband’s, to keep some of their style, and to design my own. It’s a life-long process of trying, tweaking and rearranging, but it sure is the most rewarding project you can take on! So, pray for wisdom and strength and look to some great Christian authors. You’ll be totally inspired!

  38. Sharyn Busick says
    Posted August 12, 2014

    Hey Kate! I totally get this post! As a creative person myself (I design stationery) sometimes I just feel completely void of fresh ideas and even interest at all. I think this time of the summer is a downer, too – everything feels heavy and sticky in North Carolina, no? It is so helpful to remember that things are constantly changing and you will get your zest back – I am certain. Immerse yourself in things that inspire you big time and be patient. All the best to you and your cutie-pie family! 🙂

  39. Posted August 12, 2014

    I think that feeling is so normal for this stage of your pregnancy, especially with another baby you’re caring for! It’s hard to balance work and family, and for me it’s hard to remember that my husband and baby come before all other responsibilities. Some days when I feel like that I just give myself permission to not feel guilt and take a nap, snuggled up with my baby or let her crawl around while I read or something, just taking it very slow. This time will pass (as you know) so it’s okay to give yourself a break 🙂

  40. Heather Anne says
    Posted August 12, 2014

    When I’m in a place like that I usually do two things…. (1) I take a break. Like when you study and study for a test and it just feels like your brain isn’t getting it. I just put my books down and walk away for a little bit, take a break and get my brain going on something else. (2) I usually find myself doing something “drastic” because I “need a change” – I’m too much of a scardy cat to color my hair because I’m afraid I’ll never get my natural highlights back, but I have been known to make an impromptu hair appointment and come back with a drastically new do. Sometimes it’s just the perk I need. So… girl, it’s totally fine to tap the brakes…. sometimes when we get so focused on getting where we “think” we need to go, we miss all the sights out the window on the way. Tap the brakes and observe…. heck, with all your hair inspiration – what about a new color to kick start your creativity again?

  41. Amanda Whitley says
    Posted August 12, 2014

    I know how you feel! I remember during my first trimester with both of my pregnancies just wishing I could sleep and eat all day long. I have always heard never to do anything drastic to your hair while you’re pregnant because you’ll more than likely hate it. I didn’t listen to that advice and had my (boring) brown hair colored burgundy-ish and I HATED IT. I went back to the my stylist a week later to change it back. 🙂

  42. janie says
    Posted August 12, 2014

    Hi dear Kate,

    Thanks for sharing this with us. Not to get intensely personal, but I have also experienced this feeling of apathy with my anxiety and occasional depression. What helps me is not necessarily pushing through it and forcing creativity but, rather, stepping back and letting my mind be peaceful…taking a short break (just two or three days), getting outside, and experiencing life without forcing anything. The creativity then tends to make its way back to me and inspire me 🙂

    Hopefully that wasn’t too hippy dippy. …as I get older, I’m learning that being gentle with yourself and realizing that the journey has ebbs and flows and that you WILL undoubtedly get back to that creative space.

    Jane

  43. Maria says
    Posted August 12, 2014

    Fatigue in the first trimester is extremely common. If I remember correctly (it’s been a long time) one of the issues is the development of the placenta. You are growing a new organ that is filled with hormones – of course you’re going to be tired! Take it easy on yourself. This too shall pass.

  44. Bibi says
    Posted August 12, 2014

    You are being very creative. You are creating life and while you are in the middle of it you may forget that it is extremely energy draining. It is not only hormones that wreak havoc with your day. So take it easy, rest when you can, take your time, set realistic goals and next thing you know you will start to regain your old energy back. Think of it as a low maintenance hair day, phase of your life. We appreciate you and will patiently wait. 🙂

  45. LeeAnna says
    Posted August 12, 2014

    “I’m in this uncomfortable time of wanting to create something but I can’t seem to put my finger on what.” Kate! You are creating something! A baby!!! You can deal with us later. 😉

    • janie says
      Posted August 12, 2014

      Lol looove this 🙂

  46. Stacy says
    Posted August 12, 2014

    Hi Kate, I definitely understand the whole apathy for things while being pregnant! I was in nursing school when I became pregnant with my daughter who is now 1! Boy how time flies! I struggled so hard trying to stay interested and motivated to keep going. I cried many times trying to figure out of I should keep going or be a stay at home mommy. I prayed and prayed, and I decided that I should stop nursing school and stay home with my baby. That was just he right thing fore at that time. But no matter if we press on or take a break. God uses every situation in our lives for His glory. We understand if you don’t have the extra time right now to put into your blog or if you just can’t seem to find the creativity you would like. We love you and will always support you. Something will come and it will be the perfect timing! Don’t be hard on yourself 🙂

  47. Faith says
    Posted August 12, 2014

    Oh, I feel you on this one. I’m pregnant with my first, and the last 14 weeks have been some of the most unmotivated of my life! I’m a full-time writer/editor, but these past weeks have been such a struggle to stay focused and chug along. Obviously, I don’t want to be jobless, so I can’t take a break. But the result is that I come home many nights or weekends behind in work, and end up spending that time making up my writing.

    I think it’s slowly improving, most likely due to the the fact that I’m getting into my second trimester and feeling more like myself. But, I’ve also found that praying about my apathy, confiding in others about my apathy and looking for new ways to do the same old, same old have also helped. I’ve also noticed how “self-centered” this apathetic attitude leads me to be, so that’s also kicked me into gear to change things. Hope it improves for you soon – looks like you are still doing a great job!

  48. suzanne says
    Posted August 12, 2014

    You ARE creating! Your body is working overtime to create a new human being and those first few months are rough and exhausting. I think, way back in the day, I read something that compared those first few months to climbing a mountain! Now, you’re not only taking care of yourself and baby on board, but also David and your home and your job. Try not to put pressure on yourself.(I should tak emy own advice)

    I’m a former teacher, whose daughters are 21, 18 and 14. Yup, all girls. I grew up with brothers!! Go figure. I had such a hard time finding my way when I stopped teaching. After baby #2, motherhood was what I was doing and there was no time to think about anything else. I read in the evenings and that was about all I did for myself, other than get some cardio in the morning. I think teaching was my creative outlet for years, and then there was no outlet, which was a challenge. Then I put my creativity into our home. Finally, I had to do something else and began sewing after my hubby gave me a new machine for my bday.(He was tired of listening to my grumbling/swearing whenever I tried to use my old machine.:) ) I started making handbags and find inspiration everywhere. When I get “stuck” I go do places that I really enjoy, like Zest, in North Raleigh. I wander around and just “soak it up”. I will happily meet you there one day for lunch! Be kind and patient with yourself….surely that’s what you would tell your friends! Right?!
    PS-I started following your blog because of your hair styles on pinterest. I’m also blond, Scandinavian and married to an engineer.(turned sales) All of our commonalities hooked me, plus I LOVE babies. My girls call me the “baby stalker”.

  49. Breanna Carroll says
    Posted August 12, 2014

    You are such a friend to all. I always have conversations with my husband that start with “Did you hear that Kate is pregnant?” or “Kate said…”….my husband always responds with “is this the Kate from your favorite blog?” Apparently I talk about you as if we have coffee all the time haha! Thanks for being a friend and sister in Christ through your blog. You are such an encouragement! I enjoy your creativity, but equally enjoy reading about your family and cats (and I dont even like cats, so that is saying something). Keep on keeping on…you are doing a great job!

  50. Chantal says
    Posted August 12, 2014

    Though it sounds like you’ve found yourself in a similar spot at this point in both pregnancies, I would like to challenge you to think differently about your “creative drought.” While it may very well be hormone/nesting-related, the fact is that lots of us go through these ups and downs in creativity, regardless of who we are. I’m not married, not pregnant and not a mom, yet I have these droughts/low points all the time. What’s important isn’t what’s causing it but how you’re choosing to think about how you get to the other side. Perhaps linking it to pregnancy in your mind is keeping you in that low point because you associate it with your current state — a mom who is pregnant. Maybe if you think of it more as something we ALL deal with at different times in our lives and careers, you will find yourself more inspired and less “stuck.”

    I had a writing teacher who used to talk about “writer’s block” quite a bit. He always said that if you’re feeling “stuck” or “blocked” or “not creative” that the most important thing you could do is KEEP WRITING. Even if you think it’s garbage, even if you think it’s not good, even if you think it’s uninspired. Just keep at it and the mere practice of doing it (blogging, writing, painting, whatever “the thing” is) will help you get re-inspired.

    I’ll leave you with this last thought. My guess is when you were “behind the chair” you may have had lots of days when you weren’t inspired. But you had clients with appointments, so you went to the salon, took care of your clients, and perhaps got inspired once you were there. The same applies to everyone who has any kind of job that earns a paycheck. Lots of days start out with us feeling little or no inspiration but we go to work, we crank some things out, and often the day goes better than we thought. And sometimes, in the middle of just getting things done, inspiration shows up. Yes, blogging should be fun and it’s great to feel inspired — it’s a kind of high. But some days, you just have to crank out some work and hope that the inspiration comes. It will come. I’m sure of it.

  51. Robin says
    Posted August 12, 2014

    Hey, Kate!
    I can relate. Though my 3 are older now, I recall often my MIL’s advice, ‘hang in there, you get a big prize at the end!’ My creativity shifted, needfully, to food during that time. Investigating inexpensive ways to make the dollars stretch meant doing as much as I can from scratch, which accidentally uncovered an enjoyment for the creative in bread baking. Also homemade baby food is so stinking easy. The tides will shift & your creativity will emerge again and delight you in unexpected ways. One suggestion for you to consider-your answering questions or how-to’s could shift you from ‘trying to be creative’ to problem-solving for others, which you have done often professionally, so Kate to the rescue might be fun. I know I have appreciated your tutorials, using the ones I can, as a coping strategy until my hair grows back out to be able to enjoy them all. Pinning back the bangs in attractive ways & the Triple whatever it’s name was has been my go-to for a few weeks now. Thanks for taking the time to put those together, they’ve blessed my sanity. 🙂 Hugs to you.

  52. Posted August 12, 2014

    Take a break if you need to…….or take some pictures!

    We haven’t seen your new house and I am dying to. It’s okay if it isn’t done, but it’s nice to see little glimpses of your life. Take a picture of your desk or a view off you deck or just a picture of yours and Justin’s dinner. You purchased a nice piece from Cost Plus World Market and I would love to see that in your home. I always enjoyed pics you posted.

    It’s okay if your posts aren’t jammed packed with makeup and stuff – just share what you want or rest and don’t 🙂

  53. Lauren Ford says
    Posted August 12, 2014

    Kate,
    I’m way past the baby stage (mine are 21 and 25) however I don’t think ‘creativity funks’ are just part of pregnancy. Menopause can be challenging to both body and spirit too. When I feel like Man, I got nothin’ I turn to others and bask in their creative juices. I began an inspiration book several years ago. I bought the prettiest 3 ring binder I could find, several packs of those tab dividers and ivory card stock It’s not completely organized yet, but when I can, I sit with my home magazines, websites I’ve booked marked (yours included!) and cut/print out things that I really love, find interesting or intriguing, etc. Color, home decor, gardens, recipes, art, fashion& beauty ideas, travel, whatever you like. I tape or quick glue the photos to the card stock (or slip them in clear pocket dividers) and file them according to my categories. There is so much creativity in this world and letting others inspire us can lead to immense personal discovery. It’s something you can do when you don’t have a lot of energy too.

  54. Evelyn says
    Posted August 12, 2014

    Hang in there, we wait!!

    As a suggestion, you can ask on FB what type of make-up we want to see, do a video tag, review your birchbox (I always love that). Talk about maternity creams/nutrition/clothes.

    It’s all good! Take care of your babies!

  55. Melanie says
    Posted August 12, 2014

    I am in my first trimester and can absolutely relate! It’s quite frustrating because this is my first pregnancy and I don’t think I expected to feel so “blah”. I also find that I am moody which is so unusual for me! I’m normally pretty happy and positive! Just this morning I decided to pick up a new devotional book and start with some spiritual refreshing! I am also going to go for a walk this afternoon. Someone told me a light workout helps. I work in a pediatric hospital with a very delicate population, so I can’t afford to be off my game for too long. Hope that helps! Oh, and wearing my hair up always makes me feel more “put together” and ready to get down to business. Plus I live in Florida where it is currently a bizzillion degrees.

  56. Beth says
    Posted August 12, 2014

    Kate, if you wrote a post comparing soft and medium bristle toothbrushes I would still make myself a note to check them out the next time I went to the store. I’m in my second trimester and have never been so busy at work. In the rare moments I get at home, I seem to do nothing but lay on the couch and give myself pep talks to go measure the nursery for curtains. I have yet to successfully accomplish this feat of tape measurement; it is my Everest. So, if you find your mojo…can you draw me a map?

    Also, I’ll be waiting on that toothbrush post, I’m due for a new one.

  57. Nicole says
    Posted August 12, 2014

    I’m pretty sad that you’re in this season of lack of creativity. Everyone goes through it, though. Maybe ask your readers what they would like to see and start from there

  58. sandie says
    Posted August 12, 2014

    never having had children myself, i can’t even begin to imagine what you’re going thru! (the hormonal swings must be CRAZY!) I hope you will (and i KNOW you will) get thru it!

    i DO have a question for you…maybe something to distract your woes 😉 I just signed up for my first half marathon, the Disneyland Tinkerbell Half to be exact. It’s kind of a big deal around these parts, and everyone does costumes, etc for the run. I REALLY want to do some coloful rainbow hair! My hair is dark blonde (colored that way, naturally brown). Is there a way to add rainbow colors temporarily? I work in an attorney’s office during the week, so I’d want it to wash out fairly easily. But I don’t want crunchy color that will drip down my face when I sweat. Thanks for any tips/ideas! 🙂

  59. Vicki Molnar says
    Posted August 12, 2014

    I felt the same way when I was in my third trimester, I also had no motivation to make any changes. I occasionally still feel this way (especially when it’s that time of the month). I always just tried to move through it and try not to make any big decisions until the feeling passes. I kept/keep reminding myself that it is most likely the hormones and the feelings will pass. Treat yourself to a nice spa day and just relax and keep your mind off things. Don’t worry, this will pass.

  60. Christy says
    Posted August 12, 2014

    Not only are you pregnant and tired, but you’re caring for a little guy, too! I say definitely take it easy on yourself and do what you can when you can.

  61. Katie says
    Posted August 12, 2014

    I completely know what you mean! I felt like that through both of my pregnancies. Even though I wasn’t able to do anything creative (or find inspiration to do anything creative), my husband reminded me that I was in the midst of creating a human being and all my creative energy must be going towards that! This season will pass. Thanks for being so honest with us about how you’re doing. Go easy on yourself and rest as much as possible. It is amazing having two kids close together in age (mine are 22 months apart), but I am learning that self care is so important so that you have the strength and creativity to take care of those two kiddos!

  62. Posted August 12, 2014

    100%
    My creativity drought has lasted 5 years. I’m so ready for it to be over. I know yours will be shorter. It’s just who you are.
    Hair. That’s why I cut off 11 inches! I’m growing it out some now because it’s at that awful sticks-in-your-collar length. Horrible with this heat. Gotta get it just beyond my shoulders and just keep it there.

  63. valerie says
    Posted August 12, 2014

    Hoping not to be redundant since I can’t read the previous 87 comments. I can totally relate to that first trimester feeling. I summed it up to being extremely tired. I spent most of my non-working hours in bed. I loved every second of it. I know now that I have my daughter my next pregnancy will not have this luxury (?).
    Being a hairdresser as well, I understand the stagnant creativity zone. I kept on one day at work, and even though I make almost zero money, I can justify the time away because it’s such a huge part of my creative outlet and the person I was before my daughter. Don’t get me wrong I love being mommy, but I also love spending a few hours a week identifying with something that is JUST ME.
    Hope it helps that so many of us relate to you in this period of time you’re going through. I love the blog and check it every morning. Keep on keepin on my friend. This too shall pass.

  64. Cary Leigh says
    Posted August 12, 2014

    I am pretty sure that every one has a time in their life when they feel blah! Just take some time to recharge!!! You are very creative and I love your blog. Follow your heart and keep being your own special self. I was a stay at home mom for years and I had a hair salon in my house. I went back to college and finished my Masters degree and taught 3rd grade for 10 years. I loved it but starting to feel blah. I just switched jobs I’m an ITRT for an elementary school now. I just started this week and love it! It has recharged me. Take time to recharge and keep doing you!! Maybe change the blog a little bit to fit your new life style of being a mother. I know lots of mothers are always looking for advice on their babies. You are good at educations your followers, why not educate them on what books are good read alouds for each age, or when can they start teaching the alphabet, or fun activites to do with their child to promote thinking skills. Many blessings and prayers to you! Take care!

    • Cary Leigh says
      Posted August 12, 2014

      Meant educating. Not educations. Sorry for any other typos. 🙂 Long day and my youngest leaves for 2nd year of college tomorrow!!

  65. Gina nieto says
    Posted August 12, 2014

    Kate, wishing you well. I have never been pregnant but am an adoptive mom. My little girl was given to me almost 26 years ago. I longed for that day. But I must confess, I was so happy and content, but I rember going into my bathroom and crying in fear. Thinking what did I ask for and now I have it. I was terrified! I have never told anyone this. But, I splashed water on my face, got my game face on, strapped myself in for the ride and did my job, with love, with faith. It all worked out. You will be fine. A wise man, pope john paul, said in old age and I believe this pertains to motherhood, “the days are long and the years are short” do not wish ant stages away. In my dotage, I would give anything to relive my days with my baby

  66. Rachael says
    Posted August 12, 2014

    Kate,

    Thank you so much for your honesty with what you are going through! I have been reading your blog for about 4 years and I’m not one to comment usually…

    I just want to say that I understand what you are going through… I think this can happen in all the areas of life that need creativity. Whether it be needing “creativity” in my marriage to keep it alive (so important after having a baby and being married 5 years)… I so often just have to stop all the busyness of life and start thanking God for blessing me with such a wonderful husband, and I ask Him for ideas on what I can do to keep and maintain a passionate heart felt marriage. I think the same thing goes in all areas of life, including your blog! I have to stop and remind myself that all creativity comes from The Creator! I think sometimes He allows for times like this to get us asking Him for help.

    I know it’s even humbling to admit so I appreciate that!

    I love reading your blog and I just want to thank you for all the ways you have inspired me!

  67. Stephanie says
    Posted August 12, 2014

    As many have already mentioned, you’ve got to take it easy on yourself and your loyal followers will be there.

    In terms of ideas to get your “creative juices” flowing I love the suggestion of reading old comments and unanswered questions.

    I also think you could so some “Top 10” series fairly easily (not that I know much about blogging! Ha). But you could make it a once a week series- top 10 lipsticks, top 10 High end splurges, top 10 drugstore finds, top 10 hair products, top 10 hair and/or makeup tools, top 10 favorite clothing and accessory stores, top 10 blogs you enjoy reading, etc.

  68. Dana says
    Posted August 12, 2014

    You and your family are the most important thing and never forget that. Don’t forget to take time for yourself. You will figure it out. Always remember you are not alone, we are all behind you. Love your blog and congrats on your new addition.

  69. Sydney Theriot says
    Posted August 12, 2014

    Keep your head up! My husband and I just started trying to have a baby and your posts are keeping me positive. Making the decision to start on this journey for the first time is scary but exciting at the same time.Any advice you can give would be great! I will be praying for you!

  70. Lisa Salazar says
    Posted August 12, 2014

    Your honesty is why your loyal fans keep coming back for more … be it hair tutorials, favorites videos, family posts, beauty finds, etc. Like many, I started seeing more and more of your hair ideas on Pinterest and became captivated by your blog. Now it’s part of my daily routine to read your blog, then hop on over to Lauren’s page. I just love the balance you find in your family, faith, and all the fun things in life. Posts like this make you human and all the more relatable to your readers. I’d love to see a “day in your life” or a tour of your house. You have brought joy and inspiration to the lives of countless readers, don’t ever stop doing what you do!

    Lisa

  71. Natalie says
    Posted August 13, 2014

    um DUH! Kate! you are CREATING a human!! Don’t you think that’s enough?? And please trust me when I say that I would be happy, as I am sure so many others would, to read about Grits and Gravy adventures as well as what’s going through your mind about David and baby #2. Maybe it’s time to start testing out nursery #2 ideas?

  72. Katie B in NE says
    Posted August 13, 2014

    Kate,
    i was wondering about hair dying during pregnancy, did you color your hair with your first baby?
    I am in the process of planning for a baby and was just curious if i should stop dying before i get prego?

  73. Posted August 13, 2014

    Oh girlfriend, I am right there with you. I have a 13 month old and just found out I am pregnant again. I have a blog too, mamaworksit.blogspot.com, it is by no means as professional as yours, but I am feeling very Blah about everything. I hate it because I think it come across as lack of excitement, but it is just wanting to survive each day and not be tired out of my eyeballs. Just know that you’re not the only one.

  74. Jena says
    Posted August 13, 2014

    I am definitely not pregnant and am going through the same thing. Although I have a completely different job, it is in a creative field, and have been feeling very creatively drained both at work and personally. It made me feel a little better to read that someone else has been going though the same thing and feeling just as frustrated.

    Here’s to finding inspiration!

  75. Melissa says
    Posted August 13, 2014

    Hey, growing a little human is hard work, and said little human tends to suck our brainpower. 😉 You do what you gotta do, girly, and we will all still love you!

  76. Posted August 13, 2014

    Yeah, I know exactly how you feel about having zero motivation after having a baby. They take up so much time and energy, it feels like you can’t get anything accomplished. I suggest you make a list of everything you have accomplished in a day. Not really a to-do list per say, but write down what you accomplished after you do it. It will help you get some of that motivation back. Not only that, you do need to take a break, and don’t feel guilty about it. Your priorities are going to shift, and that is totally acceptable. 🙂 Good luck on a new hairdo in this process.

  77. Amber says
    Posted August 13, 2014

    I guess what I would say is that accepting these season is important. I don’t think you can go your whole life without these times. I am certainly in one myself, not pregnancy related, and I just keep telling myself that ‘this too shall pass.’ If I tried to make myself feel bad about it or ‘solve’ it, I would only throw myself into depression over the fact that I am not meeting my own standard. I don’t know that there is a cure/solution, I think we can’t always be on our ‘A game’ and sometimes it’s better to stop resisting it and ride it out. I would also say that I am taking fish oils….said to help the brain ‘fog’ and great for baby too!

  78. Jessica says
    Posted August 13, 2014

    Hang in there Kate! I think it’s admirable that you’re so honest about what you’re going through – hope hearing all the positive thoughts on the blog gives you some comfort. Blogging is a tough road with plenty of ups and downs – which I am quickly learning. It can also feel really isolating when it’s just you and your computer but remember there are so many of us out here who love what you do! I know you’ll get through this 🙂
    Jessica
    http://www.thebellevoyage.com

  79. Julie Brown says
    Posted August 13, 2014

    I just want to leave a quick message for you. When I read your blog yesterday I felt compassion for you and the mood you were in. I follow your blog and you are so talented and kind and blessed and to have an off day (or week) probably for someone like you is really hard to accept. Meaning…you might be your own worst enemy. I am a mom of three adult children and a grandmother of two. What you are experiencing feeling all of those feelings is totally normal and ok so don’t beat yourself up. You most likely are bone tired. Being pregnant and having an 8 month old is EXHAUSTING and you need to lessen the pressure on yourself…sit back, rest, spend some time by yourself, do something for yourself and just reboot. You will not lose your creativity I promise. Most importantly accept the fact that you are human and you will be blue from time to time.

  80. Paula says
    Posted August 13, 2014

    Kate – I have been so inspired by your blog over the years. Hair, makeup, clothes, family and personal devotion alike! I have read, re-read and urged others to read your original “about me” section as I think it says a lot about who you are. And I love that at your core you know who you are as a daughter of God. I am the mother of 2 sons who are 13 months, 9 days apart in age! Like you, that wasn’t exactly our plan but God had his own plan! They are grown and married with children of their own now, but I can remember the struggle of children so close together, including that pregnancy time. I did not work outside of my home at the time, but my husband was a pastor during those pregnancies, so that did involve me to a good extent. Even though we were not in a full time pastorate during their pre-school years, I can remember feeling overwhelmed and frustrated as I tried to maintain the same level of involvement I had always had in my “ministries” that including leading worship and teaching a small Sunday School class as well as trying to be a support to my husband’s leadership. On a particularly frustrating Sunday morning my mother spoke this little nugget of wisdom to me and I’ve never forgotten it. She said, ‘There are seasons in your life for everything Paula. Your main ‘calling’ right now is as the mother to these boys. Everyday, month and year will get easier and just because you’re not able to do everything you want to do right now (even though they are good things) doesn’t mean it will always be like this.’
    I share this with you now to encourage you to be open and discerning as God leads you through this most ‘wonderful, frustrating and tiresome season of your life’. The journey may look nothing like your best laid plan but you will most likely find right where you’re supposed to be and do just what you’re supposed to do with a renewed energy or possibly new vision or direction!
    With blessings and prayers of renewal,
    Paula

  81. Traci says
    Posted August 13, 2014

    I feel for you. Though it’s been 8 years since my pregnancy I remember barely having the energy to create dinner for just the two us, let alone be creative professionally. I’m a stay at home to a full time school kid. Haha. I find it more difficult to be creative in my ho-hum world these days. If you need, or want, I’d be happy to come by and let you be creative with my hair. You know…for a change of pace. I live on the other side of Raleigh. 🙂

  82. Lindsey says
    Posted August 13, 2014

    Kate, I have three sweet girls and struggle more with the I have so many ideas and no time side of life. Not sure which is worse really. BUT, one thing I really miss about your blog are your clothing/outfit posts. I know now that you are back to maternity but maybe coming up with cute outfits and styles and then showing them on your blog would be fun for all of us. Just stay focused on the style and not the fact that it is maternity. It will translate and pregnant gals like maternity ideas! Also, styling your sweet man (the really small one 🙂 ) for a few with you would be great. I know this would require some extra effort as David is probably not up on his photog skills just yet but what a wonderful memory and capture for down the road. Anyway, I liked one reader’s idea to look back through comments so I thought I would just add my two cents in here about what I have missed most. You are not alone and we are all rooting for you. I have no idea how you do it all but so glad you do! —Lindsey

  83. LPatter says
    Posted August 14, 2014

    Yes! Currently 31 weeks with #3, and have felt that kind of malaise and stagnation in EACH of my 1st trimesters. I think with this one it was the best, because with 2 littles on the ground and life stuff all around, there was more structure to push me forward and just keep divind back in. But it definitely takes an intentional effort to either find some motivation or just fake it and do your best anyway. A trimester is long enough that I’m always (pleasantly) surprised when it lifts – like the breath of fresh air (mental clarity and energy!) that comes as I turn the corner reminds me that it wasn’t all my fault after all! 🙂 Hang in there.

  84. Susan says
    Posted August 14, 2014

    Envy is such a strange emotion…we know in our heads that we shouldn’t be envious, but we can’t help this very typical human emotion. For example, I am 57 years old and still feel the same inside as I did when I was 37. So I am often shocked and surprised when I catch a glimpse of my face in the mirror and wonder how this happened so fast! I read your blog and see this BEAUTIFUL girl with perfect hair and a big smile, flawless make-up, the cutest most adorable little boy, another sweet baby on the way, a popular creative blog, and a fun personality, and the first thing that hits me is I’M SO ENVIOUS!!! I would love to have my younger body back, my parents healthy, and most of my life left to look forward to. So it’s all relative, isn’t it? My advice is to give yourself permission to feel like crap once in a while. Get as much sleep as possible. You will find your way. You seem like a terrific person, Kate! Thanks for sharing your thoughts–good and bad. There is a reason why so many people love your blog!

    • Shyanna says
      Posted August 20, 2014

      Wow. Susan, I could have written this word for word..especially the healthy parents part. Glad to see I am not the only one that feels this way. Isn’t it funny how you blink and you are in your 50’s and you’re going, um, where did my 30’s go?? lol.

  85. Aleassa says
    Posted August 14, 2014

    I have felt like this in different ways 4 times–with each of my 4 pregnancies! With my last 2 pregnancies, I had just started big projects, (one was a blog, the other was a home improvement project which I was blogging about) and then suddenly I was pregnant, sick, and completely uninterested in doing anything except reading other blogs and watching copious amounts of HGTV. Neither of those projects ever got finished. However, once I was out of that slump and past the newborn stages, I found myself interested in being creative again and started new projects that were successful–a new blog and two accessory shops called The SugarBow Shoppe (girlie stuff) and Little Bow Blue (boys’ bow ties) that I had been dabbling in for awhile–but they suddenly took off.

    THEN, just as that was really getting successful, the Lord started leading our family in a different direction–towards a third world country–and I knew I was going to have to give up my little businesses. I thought it would be heartbreaking, but honestly? God changed my heart and I don’t even miss it. And He has helped me start a new creative project and a blog to support it which I enjoy even more!

    SO, all of that rambling to say, sometimes its just that you feel cruddy. And other times, it’s God changing your heart and moving you on to a different path. Who knows? Either way, I love your blog and will keep reading!

  86. Becky says
    Posted August 15, 2014

    Can I tell you what I do when I’m in this little funk lately? Too tired to do anything I feel pressure to do, too bored to do *nothing.*

    First I assess (like when I’m working out) is this discomfort or actual pain? If it’s actual emotional, spiritual, social, or physical pain, I’ll have to address the issue (my style is either logically head-on, or writing emotional letters I never send.) If it’s discomfort … I get comfortable and give myself a break.

    Step two involves acceptance and letting go of any resistance. I typically do this in a couple of different ways:

    I find a mindless creative task and get to it. Usually, a new box of crayons and My Little Pony coloring book.

    Or I’ll start purging. Too much stuff not making me happy, let go of the things until I am only left the things that do make me happy.

    Hope this helps. Sometimes I find that the reason I’m uncomfortable is because I haven’t been getting enough quality sleep, or my routine is changing, or something entirely unidentifiable. You’re not the only one that feels this way, and it’s totally ridiculous and also totally normal. Thanks for sharing with us 🙂

  87. Kristen says
    Posted August 15, 2014

    You’ve gotten so much great advice here that I’m not sure what I can add. I haven’t been pregnant in 7 years.

    However, I am finding too, that I am in a funk. I’m trying to grow out a pixie cut because my girls would love to see me with long hair. It’s been so long since I’ve had even a trim or a color and it looks horrendous.

    Top that with not being happy with my body or my clothes and my makeup.

    Complete FUNK A DINK.

    I do concur with the others, I don’t care what you write about. I love seeing David and the cats and well, just anything.

    Kristen

  88. melinda says
    Posted August 15, 2014

    Yes I too find myself in that place more times than I would like. I am constantly creating things for my booth and my blog but still end up feeling as you described. For me, when this happens I have discovered that I need to reconnect to the things that fill my heart. I spend time with God praying, bible study, and sitting in his presence allowing him to fill me; I walk around antique malls, I watch shows I Love, and talk to friends I haven’t heard from in a while, and I read blogs that inspire me (I happen to be in one of those moods today so I decided to read your blog and saw this post). Before I know it I’m back on track and feeling inspired. I hope this helps… Melinda

  89. Ashley says
    Posted August 16, 2014

    Press On by Building329 comes to mind– I listened to it on repeat last year while I was at a bad place in my career. It got me through the last few months! (Not that you’re in a bad spot; this sing just reminded me where to pull together some hope when I needed it!)

  90. Megan says
    Posted August 31, 2014

    Kate,

    You are not alone! I’m not pregnant, but I can definitely relate to the feeling of apathy towards the creative expressions that we’re fulfilling in the recent past.

    It sounds like you are already on the path of healing – you recognize what you’re feeling, you’re reaching out to your family and your community to seek and find support, you’re not giving up on your projects, you’re recognizing hormones and differences, you’re recognizing the need for patience (always the hardest for me).

    I guess my advice is to recognize that you’re already doing those things that you need to do which will help your creativity past this “writer’s block” and envy stage of your life.

    Did you journal during your first pregnancy? If so, going back and reading your journals may give you peace or inspirational. If not, maybe having a personal journal or place you can draw or create visual art may inspire you.

    Lastly, I want to let you know how you’ve inspired me. I started my blog after reading yours for a few months. I hope that I can create the community on my blog that you have here.

    Thank you for being open and honest.

    Good luck and many thanks from this reader!

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    Posted October 22, 2014

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  92. Posted February 7, 2015

    Ooh, that lip palette does look really versatile! It’s not something I’d need in my collection (though I’m loving the sound of a glossy-but-solid formula), but I bet it would be great for someone just starting to explore makeup artistry!

  93. Posted September 19, 2016

    Skin health pretty much comes down to what goes into your body. That should be priority and then you can play with the results 🙂