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Every Book I Read (or Listened to) This Year

More and more each year, I’m grateful for the gift of time with my family and friends. Spending quality time with people is one of my favorite things. I’m a true extrovert in that way. The more time I spend with people, the more time I want to spend with people.

This year has been rich with quality time and experiences with so many people that I love. From a ski trip with Justin to the full family being together in South Carolina to a quick trip with my mastermind group in August and even more in between those things. I’m humbled and just truly feel so grateful for the time and travel I’ve gotten to enjoy this year.

In the middle of the year, I experienced a mental and physical shift that forced me to look inward and ask myself, “how am I really doing?”. It was necessary and while I’m still working on being honest with myself when I answer that question, I’ve already been able to recognize things in myself that I can change for a healthier lifestyle and mental state.

I share a lot of the positive and happy things with you here online, but I want to take a moment to write out some of the things swirling around in my head that I want to improve or work on for next year. It’s getting harder and harder to be vulnerable online, but I think vulnerability and honesty are what make this space important.

5 Things I’m Working to Improve/Adjust for next year:

One. I’d like to be more in tune with myself, mentally and physically. The older I get and the more I grow in my work here, the less time I spend paying attention to myself. “K8smallthings” and “Kate Bryan” are the same person, although I’ve noticed that the challenges of my job have made “K8smallthings” a harder person. I have less patience and I can be defensive when I don’t really need to be. Inbounding endless, albeit often benign, feedback has taken a toll on my patience and I’m sorry that I allowed that to happen. I want to restore a bit of softness back to myself and learn better boundaries in how I manage hateful commentary that comes along with this job.

Two. I want to prepare and be proactive in learning about my kids so I can support them as they grow. The best way I can do this is by reading books recommended by parents further along the road than me. I want my kids to feel comfortable coming to me with anything they are going through, and I always want to make sure I have the time, attention, and grace to listen and support them. I also need to be better about spending one on one time with each of them. I simply haven’t made this a priority and I need to. It’s challenging because despite ensuring that the other two WILL get a one-on-one date with the parent, we’ve had to manage hurt feelings of being left out when we’ve done one on one stuff in the past, especially with the boys. They are so close and we really treat them like twins in a lot of ways, but that isn’t reason enough to not prioritize one on one time with each child.

Three. I want to celebrate career success and feel confident about my work. I’m a “head down and keep going” kind of person, and Amanda, who I’m so grateful for, does such a good job of making me stop and notice the career wins. I am so proud of how far I’ve come in both sustaining and growing this space online, especially since it has all developed out of a creative hobby when I had extra time in 2011. Influencers, and this industry, continue to be an area that people seem to enjoy demeaning and devaluing, despite its marked success, and I want to ensure that I’m doing my best work to add to the unique, creative, and impressive community of other Influencers!

Four. I want to prioritize finding and investing in friendships. One of the hardest things to admit is that I’ve felt quite lonely this year. I had a notable shift in my social life this year, for a few personal reasons, and I’ve simply felt lonely. I work from home, I exercise at home, I’m a mom to three young kids, and I don’t have a lot of free time to commit to developing friendships. Finding friends in your 30’s is hard! I’ve had to work through feelings of being used because of my “fame” through my work, and it takes me longer to trust new people because I want to ensure they want to foster a friendship because of a personality match instead of my Influencer status. It’s hard to type this out if I’m being completely honest, but it’s been a challenge that I’ve had to acknowledge and work through this year.

Five. I want to give and serve more. I don’t know exactly what this means yet, but I’m hoping to really nail it down at the beginning of the year. Giving financially is something we do regularly, but I’d love to find more opportunities to give in other ways, like through my time, skills, etc. I want my kids to see this and hope it inspires them to do the same.

There is so much more, and so many more sweet memories from the year, but these were just a few things at the top of my mind that I’m hoping to work on next year.

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Meechelle Wismer says · 12.31.22

Thank you for sharing! To the new year and to growth as a human being, as a mom and as a influencer. Love your content!

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Kathryn says · 12.31.22

Kate, thank you for sharing. I think these are admirable priorities/aspirations for the new year. I wish you all the best!

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Alexandra Kemmet says · 12.31.22

Love the vulnerability,Kate! Love your positivity you have, but am here for all of the realness too! I imagine that you would be an amazing friend to have, so I wish for friendships for you in the New Year! I was excited to meet you at Disney this year! Thanks for chatting with me!

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Kristin says · 12.31.22

Kate, I love this post and share many of the same feelings. You’ve inspired me to sit down and write out how I’d like to focus my time and energy in 2023. Most importantly I also want to be more intentional with my kids and other relationships. Cheers to a new year and keep being you because you’re fabulous!

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Emily Smith says · 12.31.22

This is great stuff Kate, thanks for sharing. A great book on friendships is Jennie Allen’s, book Find Your People. Super great stuff about about relationships in all areas of our life. I found it to be a great read for another gal in her 30s dealing with the same.

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Cheryl Carter says · 12.31.22

Love love you. My favorite to follow. So brave to share your heart in this judgey world. May your 2023 see the desires of your heart come to fruition. Blessings

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Terri Haley says · 12.31.22

Thank you for being you Kate, you are the account I look forward to seeing when I open my Instagram. I really appreciate you and your content. I want to do the same for my children and would love if you felt comfortable sharing the books you find helpful. Thank you, and take care, look forward to seeing what 2023 brings! Xx

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Dani says · 12.31.22

I may have found you 11 years ago for your hair tutorials, but I’ve stayed through the years for your honesty and vulnerability. I love how real you are, it always encourages me to do a deep dive within myself and check in with how I’m actually doing too. Praying for you in this season of feeling lonely and excited for another year of virtual friendship with you! Happy New Year, Bryan Fam!

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Steph says · 12.31.22

I just accepted a new job where I will be almost exclusively working from home. I already workout from home. A large number of my friends have always been from my career environment. I’m also nervous about feeling lonely. I’m going to try to research some advice about how to keep up with friendships while working from home. I feel like it’s going to slip by without me realizing it and I want to try to prevent it. Balance is so difficult sometimes in life.

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Audrey says · 12.31.22

I couldn’t love this post more. Thank you for your transparency! I hope you have great success with these goals this year. I’m about to work through the list of questions you posted on your story yesterday. You inspire me!

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Jennifer says · 12.31.22

A great post Kate. Thank you for your honesty . Praying you have a blessed 2023 and that doors are open for those deep friendships you long for.

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Anita Nixon says · 12.31.22

Thank you for being so honest. I think many people think these sorts of things. You are not alone! Happy New Year!

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Megan Upton says · 12.31.22

Thank you for your vulnerability in sharing these. I relate to all of these so much. I’ve learned this year that I don’t manage my stress as well as I thought I did, and I need to do better for myself and my family. And adult friendships are so hard! I joined a gym in February last year and it has been the best thing for me! I work from home and needed to get out of my house. I’ve been following you since the very beginning and feel like we’ve experienced a lot of life things together. You continue to be an inspiration on all the things, and I’ve always admired how you handle your platforms. Here’s to 2023!

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Lindsey says · 12.31.22

What beautiful transparency in sharing your vulnerable feelings, but also your optimism for growth. I empathize with a lot here and I am often inspired by so much of what you share!

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Amy D says · 12.31.22

Thank you for sharing this! I am a long time follower (since before you had kids) and I am older than you but I’ve valued your makeup and hair tips and enjoyed watching your family grow! I’m also from IL, sw suburbs too,…so it was interesting to watch you create a life in a new state. Your story about moving to SC for college and knowing no one gave me the courage to let my now 20yo daughter go to ASU without knowing anyone. It’s been such a good move for her and so I’m grateful you shared that part of your story with “us”. I also had a very big shift in my social life 2 years ago and it made me more careful as I meet new people and try to form new friendships. I give you so much credit for sharing what you do…knowing that there are more than likely a bunch of negative comments you get regularly. It makes me want to comment and like yours (and other influencers) posts more so you know you have people out there who appreciate you. Happy New Year and thank you for all you share! (I am also a Madewell fan because of you! Bought my first pair, the Riadtrippers, because of you and haven’t looked back! Lol!

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Leigh says · 12.31.22

Reading this makes me happy to “follow” you. You are a mom of three still finding balance in the roles of work and motherhood-this has been my biggest struggle since having my daughter! Just feels good to be reminded I am not the only one.

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Amanda Hall says · 12.31.22

So much of what you said resonates with me but especially being lonely. It is so hard making friends and connecting with people when you have small kids. Just wanted to let you know you aren’t alone and I appreciate what you share with us every day because you inspire me so much. Thanks for sharing your life with us.

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Kristen Biloki says · 12.31.22

Thank you for sharing and being vulnerable. I have been following since 2012 and look forward to your presence here. You have helped me feel more confident in myself. The small things are not small but help us in ways we don’t always see we need. I am thankful for your “ friendship “ and look forward to all you share in 2023 ❤️

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Rebecca says · 12.31.22

Thank you for writing this post. I can relate with many of the things that you mention in your blog post.

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Carolyn says · 12.31.22

Grateful for your candidness. Happy New Year❤️

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Vickie says · 12.31.22

You are such a good young woman. I wish I had your wisdom when I was a young working Mom. Keep doing what your heart tells you is right. God and family first. I think you already do this.

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Kim from MN says · 12.31.22

I so appreciate the vulnerability of this post especially the part about making friends as an adult. Countless times when I see questions for influencers come up, the most common question is always how to make friends as an adult. And I think that’s because it’s literally hard for everyone. So many demands pull people in so many different directions. For example, there are people who have no time really for anybody outside of their immediate family (spouse and kids Plus parents and siblings). There are friends that can only include that group and people in their immediate vicinity (that group plus the neighbors on either side of their house). It’s a season of Life thing, and unlike School / college, where you constantly intersect with the same groups of people over and over again, thereby providing the soil for friendships to develop, that just doesn’t exist in adulthood unless we make it exist. And the older we get the more tired we are and it’s harder to create that soil. The recent global health crisis did not help with developing new friendships either.

To me it’s helpful to know why you might shrink back from DM’s. I’ve been following and watching daily for however long Instagram has had stories, Plus all the time I’ve spent watching your videos and reading your blog, and I have never received replies from you, which is fine. I never take this personally, I’m actually MORE surprised when I hear from people with big accounts, but it helps to know why people, especially extroverts, might avoid the DMs. There are a lot of people without manners out there and it’s hard to understand how that exists especially when you have been raised to be polite and can’t imagine sending a mean personal message. Anyway I always like to hear “how the sausage gets made” and why people do or don’t do things. Everybody’s motivation is different and it’s fascinating for me to learn about it.

I hope you are able to have all your hopes for the new year come to fruition. I’m moving into the new year gently, with only optional General ideas for what I might like. I’m spending time being curious rather than committing to strongly too any one thing.

Mazel and happy new year!

Kim from MN

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Wendy says · 12.31.22

❤️

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Nicky says · 12.31.22

Bless you, Kate! You are doing a fabulous job and have a Creator who loves sees you through every trial and triumph.

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Sam says · 12.31.22

Kate – thank you for being vulnerable in this space! I can resonate with so many of these, but especially the difficulty of having strong friendships in your 30s. My challenges with friendships are certainly different than yours, but maybe you can take comfort in the fact that other women are also experiencing this challenge in their own way.

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Emilee says · 12.31.22

Beautifully written.

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Morgan Paeplow says · 12.31.22

Kate,

I never leave comments but felt compelled to let you know that you are great and I thoroughly enjoy your content each day! Thank you for this vulnerable post. I am sure your job comes with a lot of hate and that makes me incredibly sad. Please know that there are SO many people that adore you! Thank you so much for what you do.

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Julia says · 12.31.22

Thanks for sharing your heart!

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Jessica Chmielewski says · 12.31.22

I LOVE what you wrote here and your honesty! Keep going strong! -Local Follower

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Terri says · 12.31.22

I really feel that friendship statement. Maybe it happens to everyone in their 30s? You grow apart or maybe you become tired of putting in so much effort for so little reward. Anyway, thank you for being vulnerable.

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Jill says · 12.31.22

I really love how real you are and I enjoy your content daily. From the funny, everyday life stuff, to outfit recommendations and lastly your gorgeous hair and make up demos. You are a gem and may God bless you in 2023!

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Mandie says · 12.31.22

Thank you for being vulnerable and sharing this. I’ve followed you for years and appreciate all the tips, tricks and glimpses into your life and family. Wishing you all the best in 2023.

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Anne says · 12.31.22

Thanks for sharing your heart, Kate! And thanks for talking about the challenges of outgrowing friendships and struggling to find new ones in your 30’s. This is something I’m experiencing too, and it often feels like others are not in the same boat. Your vulnerability is appreciated!

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Jennifer says · 12.31.22

Kate, I’ve been following you from the very beginning YouTube hair tutorial days. I have always loved your realness. I became a mom about the same time as you and feel like I am in a very similar time of life. I know what you mean about friendships and can definitely relate. I pray all the best for you this year!

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Holly says · 12.31.22

You are one the of the first people I followed on Instagram (I found you in You Tube searching hair tutorials and loved your content) and will be a follower for as long as you do this gig. I, too, feel lonely and trying to make new friends is so hard. I hope you share your friendship journey. I know it will be encouraging for others especially me! I never comment so you inspired me to say thank you for being awesome!

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Trinity Chappelear says · 12.31.22

You are my “must see what Kate is up to” account! I love how you intertwine beauty, home, family, encouragement and life. I even love Grits! Healthy boundaries are important, and I can’t even imagine the garbage you have to put up with being a professional Influencer. Hope it is okay to offer the follow prayer over you.

Father, You know and understand every challenge, joy and wound felt by Kate. Shield her heart and mind from those who only want to wound her spirit. Speak to her when it is appropriate to shield herself and her family and when You have placed people in her life who have/will love and protect her.

Thank you for creating Kate!

In Jesus’ name, AMEN!

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Maria Crain says · 12.31.22

Thank you for this post. I think many of us feel similarly at times. I love your blog/social media, I don’t follow many and pay attention but with you I do. Wishing you all the health and happiness in 2023.

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Kerri says · 12.31.22

First, I love your transparency. Second, you are doing a great job with your kids! Third, it IS hard to find friends – at any age, even as an extrovert. I feel your pain! Keep doing what you’re doing ❤️

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Jordanna says · 12.31.22

Oh Kate!! I just love you and this list and identify with so much! We’ll, I’m not an influencer at all, so not that part, but the feeling lonely and connecting with others and knowing my kids and learning who I am parts. With you from San Diego. Been cheering you on quietly for 9 years and maybe should be more vocal about how much I like you and wish we lived closer to be real life friends! I’m 36 and have 4 kids similar ages to yours – they’d all love each other! Happy new year!

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Amber says · 12.31.22

I loved this post and your vulnerability. I resonate with how hard it can be to develop good friendships in this stage of life, and one of my main focuses this next year are my kids too especially when it comes to giving them my time (time in prayer for them also). Cheers to us and grace and growth!

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Joy says · 12.31.22

Such a thoughtful post! Thanks for sharing. Happy New Year to you and your family.❤️

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Jennifer Bruck says · 12.31.22

You’re one of my favorite accounts to follow just for your positivity and kindness! Keep going!

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Debi Padgett says · 12.31.22

Kate, thanks for being one of few people here who seem like “real” people. I just don’t understand why people feel they can be mean..just because they’re online! I appreciate all the things you share, love your kids & family. I hope you accomplish your goals for this new year, but I enjoyed 2022! Hang in there….love & best wishes for 2023!

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Ali says · 12.31.22

Thank you for being willing to share this! Rooting for you in all your goals for the new year.

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Diana says · 12.31.22

Thank you for sharing. I cannot imagine how challenging it is to be vulnerable in your role.

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Susan Edwards says · 12.31.22

Thank you so much for sharing and being vulnerable. Reading through this has been eye opening for me. Knowing that others, (that we think have it all together) go through some of the same struggles make your space so relatable. Love your space.

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Tara Yeoman says · 12.31.22

I have been following since before you had children and I have really enjoyed watching your life unfold! Remember that the haters are not a reflection of you but of themselves😘

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Alicia says · 12.31.22

Thank you so much for sharing your heart with us. I too feel like these are some things I’m hoping to work on this next year.

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Stacey says · 12.31.22

I’ve been following you since your Pinterest days and I look forward to your posts/stories everyday. Thanks for being vulnerable because it allows others to be that way too. I appreciate you!

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Meg Eversfield says · 12.31.22

I so appreciate you sharing your heart ❤️ I’ve been around since the early blog days and genuinely adore your candid nature and feisty spirit! I know I can rely on you for sound advice and daily laughs. Thank you, Kate!

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Tyler Heinz says · 12.31.22

I so enjoy the space you’ve built here! I’ve been following since around 2013. I’m thankful for the tips, recommendations and humor you provide! Happy New Year to you!

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Pam says · 12.31.22

Kate,
Thank you for being so real. I am sorry that you have to deal with negative comments and criticism. Best wishes to you and your family in 2023!

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Shantique says · 12.31.22

Kate, this is so genuine and real. Things many of us moms go through. I feel as I’ve gotten older I have changed a lot. I thought it was me having less patience, but really it was less tolerance. However, I’ve come to terms with that not being a bad thing. What I no longer tolerate is being treated less than, I no longer tolerate people treating me or my time with disrespect. I learned I have value and deserve to be around people that appreciate that. This past year that brought me new friendships and a new job!
I know there is a level of uncertainty for you because of your work, but making friends that you can share your real self with will be so good for you!! I found my friends through a local moms group and it’s been awesome. I hope you get that joy in your life soon!

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Meaghan says · 12.31.22

Thank you for sharing! Especially about friendships. I understand your point about it being hard to be vulnerable online, so I appreciate this a lot. I know you’ve said before that anyone’s IG stories are their “highlight reel,” but it was still a surprise to me that you are working on friendships because from this outside perspective you always seem so busy socially! So thank you for this and for all that you do Kate

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Jennifer says · 12.31.22

I rarely leave a comment but wanted to let you know that I appreciate you and your content so much! I’ve been a long-time follower and most often buy hair & beauty products based on your recommendations. I also just enjoy you – your warm and funny personality brings a little light and positivity to my day.
I hope 2023 brings you genuine and sweet friendships and a lot less haters.
Happy New Year to you and your fam!

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Misty Friedrichs says · 12.31.22

Thank you Kate for sharing! You are the first blog + influencer I ever followed and you’re still at the very top of who I search for if you don’t pop into my feed immediately. My prayer for you is that you will find a Peace that passes all understanding & a regenerated strength in working through your adjustments in the new year ❤️

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Jennifer says · 12.31.22

I like this Kate! So open! It IS hard to have friends in your thirties and even forties which is where I’m at. We’ve had 4 friend couples divorce this year, one of which were our best friends! It’s been ugly and hard! I hope you have a wonderful 2023 and love following! ❤️

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Ginny Hensley says · 12.31.22

Beautifully written. Even though I turned 50 this year I feel many of the things you just shared. You are not alone and I hope that 2023 brings the gentleness and grace that you deserve.

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Beth says · 12.31.22

Kate, I’m sure it felt a little raw and vulnerable for you to write this. But the beauty of what you share is that it resonates with others (Hi, It’s me.) and validates how others may be feeling. I’d like you to know that others feel the same way you do, maybe in different ways, but I want you to feel validated in your feelings, too. You are inspiring as a business woman and family woman. I hope you can take the negativity of people with a grain of salt, and know the majority of people are good and appreciate you. Wishing you and your family a happy & healthy 2023.

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Breanna says · 12.31.22

I’ve followed you since before you had kids, I was wondering if you would unblock me on Instagram? I was blocked last year during the Christmas season after making a comment in regards to your travels. I still remain blocked and would love to be able to see your content again, I wasn’t trying to be offensive last year. Thank you!

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Jessica says · 12.31.22

Hey, Kate! I appreciate you letting us in on your personal thoughts. I’m hoping for a lot of the same adjustments as you in 2023. I’m local to Raleigh – out towards Wake Forest. I wish our paths would cross one day in the real world – I would totally want to be your friend! Happy New Year!

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Kelly says · 01.01.23

Sorry, you can’t be her friend. She’s famous and you will just use her.😂

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Laura Reese says · 12.31.22

Kate, I’ve been here since the beginning and I so admire the way you’ve been able to handle your explosive growth with grace, kindness, and maturity. Your vulnerability makes me continue to be a loyal follower, even though beauty-wise I am the lowest of low maintenance. Keep your chin up and don’t let the haters get you down.

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Catherine says · 12.31.22

I love this Kate. I’ve been following you for many years and you have always been a light and an inspiration. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and for being vulnerable. I know it’s hard but your feelings are very relatable. Happy New Year!

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Jen Madsen says · 12.31.22

Kate you are simply lovely. You are such a beautiful, genuine soul and I truly am grateful for your expertise, humor, and vulnerability. I wish I could wave a magic wand and make all haters disappear, because I hate that they steal your energy and patience sometimes. But most of us here love you to pieces! Never forget that. Happy new year, Bryans!

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Lynn says · 12.31.22

Thank you for being vulnerable on here. You were one of my first Instagram follows. Even though I’m a good bit older than you I’ve learned a lot about doing my hair over the years from you. You’re the reason I started using Aquage uplifting foam. I’ll never use anything else now. Anyway, thanks for being you and keeping it real. Happy New Year!

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Whitney Shafer says · 12.31.22

Kate, I have been following you from the beginning, and you remain the only Influencer I continue to look forward to seeing content from year after year. Our lives parallel in many aspects, including the age gap in kiddos. My two boys, who are also our 1st and 2nd children of 3, are about the same age distance as your two. I love to see that you are also prioritizing one on one time with each child. I struggle with this, and the “mom guilt” of treating ours like twins as well.

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Becky says · 12.31.22

Very wise ideas about fostering friendships. I am 57 and it does not get easier, so good for you to recognize this need now. In my experience it is worth investing time in and quality connection with a few people is far more important than having a lot of friends that are more like acquaintances. Best wishes Kate!

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Karen Hobson says · 12.31.22

You do a great job on your stories and managing to keep your personal life in check. I admire the time you give your kids and your relationship with Justin.

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Jennifer says · 12.31.22

Thank you for being willing to be honest and vulnerable. It can be easy to look from the outside in and see things as perfect and amazing. It’s refreshing to hear honesty in the rawest form. ♥️
I live locally and have actually NOT reached out to you because I didn’t want you to think it was for the wrong reasons, I just think we would get along. I moved here from CA years ago and it has been HARD finding a new tribe of friends so I definitely relate.
I am sure this career makes it really hard to be honest when expectations often contradict each other. Praying for you and your family and that you see the progress you are aiming for!

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Cassie says · 12.31.22

Kate- Thank you for your honest words. I miss you. Continued love, light and positive energy to you and your entire family! Happy new year old friend.

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Dina Bradshaw says · 01.01.23

Love your Blog and IG. Love your honesty and your sweet spirit. Thank-you for sharing of your time and you thought provoking information and inspiration with us.

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Melissa K says · 01.01.23

Kate,
In so many ways, I find your posts, blogs and life so relatable. In 2021, I became a Mom to a beautiful baby girl, but with that came some loss of friendships. There is nothing in the world I love more than my Daughter and family, but that doesn’t mean a girl doesn’t need someone to gossip with, talk new recipes, products etc. So I hope for that in the new year for you, and I, as well, for new genuine friendships.

I’m an 80s baby, 90s kid, if you will & I grew up using the internet. Good old, AIM, MySpace.. and it blows my mind how so many women (some older even which blows my mind more) and some younger have so much hate for someone they don’t even truly know. Influencers are booming, there is no slowing down, and kudos to you for always being vulnerable with your followers and keeping it real, but the strength you have to have for dealing with all the hate has to be astronomical. With that, please know there are little people who tend to root for you quietly in the back, excited for your victories and sad for your losses and support you from afar!

Cheers to 2023! Thanks for what you do, helping a first time Mom, navigate all things motherhood, family, hair, make-up and fashion! Many blessings to you and yours!

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Amanda Lenweaver says · 01.01.23

I’m proud of you…always have been. Always will be!

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Heather Micheels says · 01.01.23

You are one of my fav accounts to follow. Laura Tremaine has a book coming out likely this year all about adult friendships, she has a book already called Share Your Stuff, I’ll go first.

We don’t much for one on one time either. My kids also won’t love hearing what the other was able to do. I suppose the it’s good for them tho? I don’t know.

Also, reading a lot about loneliness. It’s very common and thanks for sharing.

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Chelsea Eriks says · 01.01.23

Kate! Gosh, I’ve followed everything K8 forever. I loved this post-kudos for having the guts to write it! I just wanted to comment to offer a little positivity. You work so hard and make it look so easy. I love how you handle yourself online and you always bring out a good, “Oo! I should try that!” or a “lol, she’s the best.” I loved reading your goals. From the outside, if I may, I encourage you to first be softer with yourself. I know we don’t see everything, but as a fellow mama, I know we’re hardest on ourselves. I loved #4! My closest friend relationships were made with the moms of my kids’ friends. They are some of the most invaluable I have! Perhaps #4 and #5 can find their way together? Regardless, trust that the organic development will find its way! I’ll say a little prayer for your continued success and happiness in 2023…so happy to follow along! Xo

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Janelle Field says · 01.01.23

Thank you so much. Such beautiful words.

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Alyssa Quinn says · 01.01.23

Hi! Are you in the PTA? I have met most of my friends that way. When my kids were younger I met many through MOPS. Just curious…. The friends that you have made that were only friends because you were an influencer…. What their end game? What is it they wanted from you because you were an influencer? That seems so bizarre to me. Hope you meet all your goals this year!

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Tiffany Coleman says · 01.01.23

Kate- I have been watching you/following you for yeeears. I love all of your content. Please continue to keep you head held high. Yes, finding good friends in your 30’s is very hard. I still lack true friendships. I always go above and beyond and never get that in return so I gave up trying to find those “true friendships.” Life is so challenging these days and to trust someone is so hard for me too. I am a mom of 2 with a huge age gap and finding that one on one time is very difficult. I as well, am trying to do better and spend more one on one time with the two of them but the jealousy is real. Keep your chin up 🙂

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kyly says · 01.01.23

your real, raw posts like this are my fave!

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Heather Ritchie says · 01.01.23

Kate, your humility is a breath of fresh air and something the world needs more of. I hope you reach all these aspirations in 2023! Thank you for all you share and give here. Happy New Year!

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Susanne says · 01.03.23

I am utterly humbled by her grace and humility.

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Lindsey says · 01.01.23

❤️

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Katie says · 01.01.23

I have felt this so much, especially the lonely part. Also here with the young kids and working full time. Hugs. You are doing great.

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Christina says · 01.01.23

Kate, thank you for sharing you, your business and family. I’ve been a follower while you were doing hair and no kids! You truly are one my favourites to follow. You are genuine and I appreciate your page. Hope the nay sayers and negative people don’t pull you down, truly they aren’t a reflection on rest of your followers. Thanks again and happy New Year!

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Lydia says · 01.01.23

Happy New Year! Thank you for being raw and honest with strangers. You are consistently a breath of fresh air on Instagram and I truly enjoy your content.

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Candice Powell says · 01.01.23

Sorry you are the subject of negativity. As much as we all love technology and the platforms it has given, it unfortunately allows people to be so mean.
I’m 51 years old and a mom of 2 girls, 17 & 20. Both my girls are amazing and well accomplished for their age. If I can give you advice on number 5, volunteer in the organization/activity your kids are involved in. It allows you to give back to the organization and community and at the same time, you get to spend time with your kids and they also see that you are involved in the activity they are passionate about. My older daughter started doing musical theater when she was 8. When she was in rehearsal, my husband and I volunteered at the community theater from making props, painting sets, sewing costumes, etc… I volunteered so much that I eventually became the executive producer ( a volunteer position) of the theater. My other daughter, plays softball. I was always the team mom, then was on the board of the softball league. Spent hours volunteering, ordering uniforms, budgets, hiring coaches, etc… Both of these volunteer opportunities allowed me to spend time with my girls, be involved on what they are passionate about and teach them to give back to organizations. My oldest is now a TV and film major at UCLA and my youngest, a senior in high school, was recruited to play softball at an Ivy league college next year. I attribute their success to mine and my husband’s involvement in their academics and extracurricular activities.
Wishing you and your family a happy 2023!
Candice

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Brandy Knight says · 01.01.23

Kate, I love this post so much. I’ve been inspired by you since 2011. I am a fellow hairstylist that first fell in love with your hair tips and tricks and I’ve really enjoyed watching you expand into the woman that are now. You’re still an incredible inspiration and show me how much can be accomplished. Thank you for being vulnerable with your audience.
Happy New Year.
Brandy

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Brittany says · 01.01.23

Thank you for sharing such a vulnerable list of resolutions. I have a few of the same ones too, such as better celebrating my successes and developing friendships.

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Mandy Henry says · 01.01.23

As a long time follower, I love following K8 & Kate :). Thank you for sharing. I’m not an influencer but I do wrk from home and I have felt more lonely too. I’ve also noticed a decrease in patience and increase in irritability seemingly since the pandemic times. It’s something I also want to work on. You aren’t alone— thanks for putting yourself out there to be our “online friend”. 💜

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Meg says · 01.01.23

Kate, I’ve type deleted, type deleted many times trying to find the right words…there’s so much I want to say but with a prayer holding these next words- this is your year!

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Christina says · 01.02.23

When you choose where to volunteer/ do service, you can look for a place that will allow you to meet new friends (ie a place where people similar to you volunteer). Also joining a fitness class with other moms might help! Maybe if you didn’t tell anyone you were an influencer at first you wouldn’t have to worry about them having ulterior motives for friendships, too!

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S Mello says · 01.02.23

Kate Bryan. It is preposterous that anyone could have anything negative to say to you here. You are such a delight and breath of fresh air. I have never felt anything but authenticity from K8.

If people would spend the amount of time they spend on others, on themselves, think of the world we could live in.

It is precisely these types of posts that keep me coming back for more.

Everyone needs that one friend who is just ahead of them in life. Especially if you’re the older sibling ;).

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Susanne says · 01.03.23

Agreed. She is flawlessly delightful.

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Tina Vetruba says · 01.02.23

Thanks for this. Great reminders for us all, really. You’re brave to be online and your content is so fun and inspiring! As a mom of older kids, you’ve helped me really learn how to improve myself and try new beauty things! Love following you, I pray you have the BEST year!

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Angie Simon says · 01.02.23

So well written I enjoy your content so much. Keep up the great work. 😊

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Morgan says · 01.02.23

I so appreciate your vulnerability, Kate. I struggled with some of these things as well and it helps to know it is okay to not have it all together. Heres to making progress on these things in 2023 for both of us!

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Sarah says · 01.02.23

Oh Kate. This speaks to me. I want to know my kids better and spend more time just enjoying with they enjoy. Friendships are hard, and I imagine with your ‘status’ it’s even harder. Thanks for being genuine and a hoot to follow 🙂

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Kelley says · 01.02.23

Kate! This is post is so great. I can relate to this so much. I’m an OG follower and always look forward to your content. Your vulnerability I think will resonate with a lot of people. Wishing you a happy new year!

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Diana says · 01.03.23

Love this!

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Robyn says · 01.03.23

I think I was affected by number one and I was disappointed to be blocked on Instagram. I don’t know what I said but I know I had no I’ll intent. I followed since Pinterest days. roooooobyn on insta if you want to unblock me 🙂

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tracy says · 01.03.23

One thing I’ve learned through therapy is that “hard things are hard”. 🤣 We don’t have to justify why something is hard, it just can be. Being open and vulnerable is a tricky thing but I believe it makes change more likely to happen. You have been a fun person to follow online and have given me lots of tips and help along the way. Good luck managing the difficult and happy that come your way. We have two boys similar in distance apart and they seem like twins in so many ways so we have helped them to celebrate the wins in each others life’s, one on one time with parents included. You do a very good job intentionally parenting that comes through the screen. Your kids are lucky to have you as a mom. Keep up the good work!
Happy New Year and blessings to you and your family.

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Leslie says · 01.03.23

Kate this was wonderful to read! Your honesty and transparency is refreshing and why I follow you! Continue to be YOU. You have grace, kindness, compassion, knowledge, and beauty.
My boys(now men) are 14 months apart. They did not always get 1:1 time. However, they are best of friends now at 25 & 26! It warms my heart to see their close knit bond. ♥️
Thank you for sharing your thoughts.
Leslie

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Arlene says · 01.04.23

Kate, thank you for sharing. I find your content to be helpful, relatable, and fun, but I can’t imagine the daily toll it must take. Thank you for sharing and I hope you are able to fill your cup to the top in 2023. Much love.

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Katie says · 01.05.23

Kate, this might be one of my favorite posts to ever read. Your vulnerability in opening up about things that you are struggling with really resonates with me, as I feel the same on many of them. I have followed you since the beginning and have always come back because of your kindness, humor, and realness that radiates through any platform. I appreciate all that you do and hope you have great success on your goals for the year. Thank you for being here and being you! xx

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Erin Briesath says · 01.08.23

Beautifully said!! I hope you accomplish what you want this year. 🥰 My love language is quality time, so I can relate to you wanting to spend time with your friends and family. I make it a priority to do so and make plans ahead of time for those who are harder to get together with.
I also have been starting a list of which types of books I want to listen to this year and all on parenting. I just had a conversation with my older sister on parenting. She has 3 daughters 10-15 years old. She is absolutely amazing with making sure the lines of communications are open, that she is honest with them and no matter what they do, she will ALWAYS love them. Our son is 9, so those conversations are so important right now so they can come to you when they ever need to.
Please share any books you find on parenting!! I’m looking for good ones on teaching respect, only child, and puberty as well. ☺️
As always, Thank you for sharing. I LOVE listening and watching you and your family!! ❤️

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Stephanie H says · 01.08.23

Thank you for sharing, Kate! I really resonate with your list, especially with finding friendships after life changes and wanting to serve.

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Nicole says · 01.10.23

Thanks for sharing Kate! I hope you are able to find some deep, meaningful friendships this year. Making friends when you are an adult is challenging. It takes a lot of effort and when we are so busy with our own families and jobs, there isn’t a lot of time/energy to devote to pursuing new friends. However, I hope that you are able to find some people that make you feel comfortable and valued for who you are as a person, not as an influencer. All the best!

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Valerie says · 01.15.23

Thanks for sharing! I am a first time mom to a 7 month old and I struggle with friendship. I long to have a few deep friends to walk through this season with but I struggle with being away from my little one.

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Kate says · 01.17.23

Congrats on your newest addition! It takes a bit of time to get your footing as a new mom but I’m sure you’re doing amazing!

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