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Whew. It’s been little bit turbulent around here lately, and by here I mean my home. Justin is back from climbing Mt. Kilimanjaro and upon his return he was struck down with strep throat. We were concerned it was Malaria or some other obscure foreign illness, but thankfully a single shot and some R&R had him feeling better just a few days later.

The thing is though, I had mentally prepared to have my partner in crime back, so when I suddenly had another person to care for on top of caring for my boys, I was thrown a little off. Basically, I dropped everything except the survival type stuff and I finally feel like my head is coming above water today.

I hadn’t realized how dramatically I would be affected by Justin’s absence. He will occasionally travel for work, but 2 full weeks with very limited communication was hard on me. I missed him to the point of feeling physical pain.

Over our time raising these boys, I’ve come to learn something about parenting with him that I hadn’t quite anticipated. I knew he would be helpful and dive physically into all that goes with parenting (diapers, baths, wrestling, etc.), but I didn’t realize how deeply important the emotional support would be. There’s a camaraderie sense in a “we are in this together” sort of thing, you know? I felt like half of a human when he was gone, and am very glad that he is back.

With sadness I must also share that Justin lost an Aunt and Uncle this past week as well, in completely separate situations. So we are hurting for their immediate families, and other close relatives who lost a loved one. So if I seem a little detached, just bear with me for a little bit, okay?

On a much much smaller scale, I’ve had a handful of back to back migraines over the past week. Do you get migraines? Mine are so strange and lately haven’t even led to a significant headache. The biggest impact they have on me is impairing my vision and sometimes my speech. I go almost completely blind in my left eye, and see zigzag lines and shaky images in both eyes. It’s really strange and usually it doesn’t last more than about 30 minutes. On Sunday, shortly after getting another migraine, I was trying to ask Justin, who was looking at the baby monitor, if Luke was on his belly but instead I asked him if Luke was on his “grubby”. I immediately heard that I didn’t say the correct word, and when I went to correct myself I couldn’t do it. I said “grubby” again. It was alarming and I started to panic a little bit. Justin does so well at remaining calm at times that I become upset, but we both thought it wouldn’t hurt to go see a neurologist. So, hopefully I can learn a little bit more about why this happens and perhaps lower the frequency.

I’m getting back into the swing of things around here and have things in the works to share soon! Did you enjoy watching the hair makeover I did on my girl Julia last week? I’m hoping to film a few more of those soon. . . I just need to find willing models 😉

 

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Hildy says · 09.09.15

My husband is gone a lot for work (often weeks at a time), and I totally agree that there is a definite, tangible void when he’s gone. After all, we’re a union of “one flesh” so when one half is missing it’s gonna hurt, right? 😉 My kids are getting older and process the separations in different ways, so it’s taken huge amounts of grace to get through those times. Reunions are so, so amazing though. There is nothing like seeing “him who my soul loves” after months apart!
I’m sorry to hear about your family deaths and your migraines. Hopefully you will get some answers soon and will get some relief!

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Amanda says · 09.09.15

Definitely see a neurologist. Migraines can be WEIRD. But some of the symptoms you describe remind me of what my mom went through before she was diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis. WHAT YOU HAVE IS PROBABLY NOT THAT. I don’t mean to be scary. But I do think that as moms of little ones, we often put our own health and well-being at the bottom of our lists of priorities… and it’s really important not to do that! So please do get checked out! 🙂

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Karissa says · 09.09.15

I was actually just going to say the same thing re MS. However, also don’t want to alarm you, migraines can certainly do the same thing. Feel for you Hun, sending lots of hugs to you guys. Xxx

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Chantall says · 09.09.15

Hi Kate,

Those migraines sounds scary! I would panic too if I wouldn’t be able to say the words I wanted to say. And that blindness… I’m glad Justin has such a calm (and calming) personality. Visiting a neurologist is probably a good thing. Even if it was only to ensure you both that it’s a migraine-thing and will pass.

So sad to hear about Justin’s Aunt and Uncle. Such a shock for their immediate families. Sending them the strenght to cope with this loss from across that great pond.

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Emily says · 09.09.15

Hi Kate,

I work in an outpatient clinic and we hear those symptoms a lot. Sounds like you may get a form of an ocular migraine. Seeing a neurologist is a good first step though. Hope you get some relief! And I absolutely love your blog!

Best,
Emily

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Tammy says · 09.09.15

I also have similar migraines with squiggly lines. I was assured by my Eye doctor that it is just a type of migraine. I have found that consuming too much chocolate will bring one on. You are smart to have this checked out by a doctor just to be sure all is okay.

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Jillian says · 09.09.15

I also get the squiggly, zig zag line migraines, and also told they were an ocular migraine. They tend to lead to a really bad heachache. Mine are triggered by exhaustion and dehydration. It is really hard to not be able to see during one. I do not get the speech part though. That sounds super scary.

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Brenda says · 09.10.15

I, too get the bright squiggles and tunnel vision. Once in a while my ocular migraines result in a bad headache. I have found that mine are hormone driven. Estrogen or lack of- can cause wacky symptoms in the body . Keep us posted on what you find out- as I have never had mine treated.

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Laura says · 09.09.15

I would strongly recommend you speak with your doctor about your symptoms, especially if you are on birth control. Changes in vision and speech could be side effects that may warrant a change in birth control due to risk of stroke. Take care!

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Catherine says · 09.09.15

Oh Kate, I am so sorry for you and your husband’s loss. My heart goes out to you guys. You definitely have a lot on your plate. I can relate to the way you feel about your husband. My husband is my teammate too, and raising our little boy when he is away is so much more difficult. I hope that you can get some clarity and relief at your neurologist appointment… Not having your brain work correctly is so scary! Big hugs to you.

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Liz @ I Heart Vegetables says · 09.09.15

Wow, you guys have a lot going on! Hang in there!

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Susan says · 09.09.15

Kate…I get the same type of migraines. I’ve had a full neurologically workup and now I’m treated daily for prevention. It was so scary to lose my vision and ability to speak. Hang in there and ask a ton of questions.

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Chelsea says · 09.09.15

Susan – what prevention are you on? I have an appt next week with my neurologist to discuss prevention meds (my migraines are primarily driven by the weather), and I’d be interested to hear your experience.

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Katrina says · 09.09.15

Me too!

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Susan says · 09.11.15

Hi ladies…I take Topamax every day. It took about 12 weeks to get to my correct dose and I’ve now been on it for 8 years. I occasionally get a breakthrough migraine, so I always have “rescue” medication on hand. The Topamax has decreased the frequency from 2-3 times per week to once every 2-3 months (knock on wood!). I wish I didn’t have to take a daily med, but honestly my migraines had become debilitating and scary.
Hope you are both able to find relief and answers.

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EmilyB says · 09.09.15

I get migraines like that. Super annoying. I hate when my vision goes crazy. My triggers are when I combine being hungry with bright lights, especially like those at Target or glare from the sun. Also hormones, depending on where I am in my cycle. I had read about taking magnesium and thought *whatever*, but then my Dr told me to take it too. And it works. I still have to watch the hunger+light but it’s worked really well for hormones related ones. I take 500mg/day. I would really pay attention to your cycle and what you were doing right before the crazy vision started to see if you have a trigger.

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Alyssa says · 09.09.15

My triggers for those visual migraines are the exact same thing. I have to be especially careful with light that reflects off water and snow!

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Beth says · 09.09.15

I have the same thing and mine trigger from light as well and I have noticed that sometimes I’ll get them when it gets closer to getting my period. Thanks for the magnesium tip. I might have to try that!

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Alicia says · 09.09.15

My 13 year old has got migraines since she was 7. Magnesium has seriously been life changing for her. She takes 400 mg a day and was started on it by a pediatric neurologist at Columbus Children’s Hospital. (Nationwide). She went from having 2 headaches a week to having maybe 3 a year.

I’m praying for you, Kate. <3 And I'm sorry for your loss.

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Courtney says · 09.09.15

I occasionally get migraines. I get the aura with mine, and occasionally my arm and face go numb. It freaks me out, but I had an MRI 7 years ago, and they didn’t find anything. Hope you get it figured out!

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Ashten says · 09.09.15

Me too. I have problems with my face, neck and left arm going numb and I loose all strength momentarily as a result of migraines. Glad to hear I’m not alone!

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Jamie says · 09.09.15

Migraines can be so strange. I think seeing a neurologist would be a great idea.
I have two girls that are 6 & 9 and a husband that travels about 75% of the time. It is HARD. It has gotten so much easier since the kids are older, but he has been doing it for 8 years. We also homeschool, so I am with the kids ALL the time. Of course, that is a positive and a negative all rolled in to one! I hope you have a great week and that everything settles back into a normal rhythm.
Praying for both you and Justin to feel better and for the loss that has been experienced in his family.

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Brandi says · 09.09.15

The hair makeover was so fun to watch! As a reader with a long standing relationship with my stylist, I’ve always wondered what your style would be behind the chair. It was so exciting to see you in action! And, of course, the outcome was gorgeous. (I don’t think you will have ANY trouble getting models!) Thank you for sharing that!

Thank you for being so candid about all the different ups and downs your family is going through. It is so inspiring to see such successful people are still just people.

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Ellen says · 09.09.15

Kate, I am also a migraine sufferer with an “aura”, it’s awful. I found huge relief when I took 2 teaspoons of liquid CoQ10 ( I bought it at Costco) I take one shot every day preventativly and then a shot whenever I feel a migraine coming on. Totally worked for me, you might want to give it a try! Good luck and love your blog.

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Leah says · 09.09.15

I get that kind of migraine too. It is so unsettling. It’s so brave of you to write so candidly about the hard parts of your life. I admire your courage! I sincerely hope you get some peace soon.

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Julie says · 09.09.15

With my husband being in the Navy, he leaves for weeks and/or months at a time and with my girls being just 14 months apart I know that physical pain of missing someone all too well. Parenting is so hard with your SO by your side…w/o them is a whole other thing. I’m so glad he’s back! Absence does make the heart grow fonder! So we have that going for us! lol. As for the migraines I’ve been getting them so badly lately too and a lot of times I think they are stress related. I love my girls and we have a great time every day but I think internally you are always a little tense just getting everyone what they need, taking care of the house, listening to them cry, etc…on the outside I look calm and collected but on the inside I think I cope with it all and the tension just gets to be too much at times…especially when the guys are gone and you are managing it all as well as the pain of missing someone. You seem to be doing a great job with the kids! Surviving is really all you can do sometimes! Hope all goes well with the neurologist and I’m glad Justin is back on his feet!

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Courtney says · 09.09.15

I also have experienced migraines like that in the past, usually when I am under extreme stress. Like when my husband was out of town for 3 months due to work. I visited a neurologist as well and they weren’t able to find anything. Once he came back home, they slowly disappeared. I also cut out artificial sweetners and noticed a reduction in the migraine frequency.

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Lindsey says · 09.10.15

I agree with the artificial sweeteners. They caused the same symptoms you described with your migraines. It can be very scary.

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Heather says · 09.09.15

I love your blog and look forward to reading your new posts. I felt compelled to write when you mentioned the migraines. I do not suffer from them, thank goodness. My cousin did…very debilitating, like yours sound. She started a paleo type diet, and for the first time in years, she is free of the migraines. Just a thought. I know there is a ton of information on the web about this.

I’m very sorry for your family’s loss as well. Hang in there!

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Karen H. says · 09.09.15

My mom has migraines when the weather is changing. She figured out years ago that if she takes a Benadryl when she first sees the waves in her vision, it leaves in about 10-15 minutes. About 25 years ago, my sister lost half of her vision (it was either the top half or the bottom half) and it was due to birth control pills. She went off of them and it never returned. Migraines are hard to deal with because it seems different things set them off in different people (really bright lights/sunshine affects my mom) and treatments vary so much. Praying for you for answers and the right treatment : )

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Victoria S. says · 09.09.15

My husband is currently in “across the pond” in England for two weeks and so I empathize. Going about my daily activities just feels empty without him here. I am glad that Justin made it back safely- but boy do you have your hands full. When it rains, it pours 🙁

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Gracen says · 09.09.15

Hi Kate,

I’ve also had those types of migraines many times. Before I had children, they seemed to come around my period and then I had several in my third trimester with my first child. For me, I think it was hormones or fatigue/stress. I also had one occasion when I was pregnant with my first child and I was talking to myself in the car (just reminding myself of what I needed to pick up in the grocery) and I could not say the right words. I had the word in mind that I wanted to say, but it came out sounding like jibberish. This went on for just a couple of minutes but it did alarm me. It happened right after I had one of those migraines so my head was hurting quite a bit at the time. That’s been well over two years ago and I did not go to the doctor. It never happened again so I’m sure you are fine, but seeing a doctor can never hurt.

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Jenny J says · 09.09.15

Hi Kate- Whew, you are going through a lot! I’m glad you are going to the doctor, it should help to put your mind at ease and rule out things it’s not. A year ago I had, not migranges, but tingling in my face and head for two months, it was really scary. I went to three doctors including a neurologist and had an MRI. They all concluded it was anxiety from stress (and I think hormones). I had two little ones, was working full time and my husband was out of town for five weeks. I’m better now, but it was a life changing event for me. Praying for you!

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Alison says · 09.09.15

Wow. Life can get overwhelming at times but you’ve got the right mindset! I developed food allergies in my late 20s that were triggering migraines.

On a brighter note, I am in Raleigh and would LOVE to be a hair guinea pig!

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Elizabeth says · 09.10.15

Hang in there! Stress does crazy things to the body!
I just moved to Cary a few weeks ago and would happily volunteer my hair 🙂

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Susan says · 09.09.15

Those sound like occular migraines! A few summers ago I was experiencing the same symptoms and very concerned. I made an appointment with my regular physician and within seconds of explaining the symptoms, she diagnosed occular migraines. They are very common in women our age. I got a prescription that I keep with me at all times and the minute I feel the blindness coming on, I take a pill. You wouldn’t believe how fast you’ll feel relief, it’s amazing! I never comment on blogs, but wanted to share this to help ease your mind! Take care, I love your blog!

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Nicole` says · 09.09.15

I haven’t had a migraine in a couple years, but they were always brought on by extreme stress. When I started getting them, I had just decided I was transferring to another university across the state and was trying to finish the semester up with good grades, and trying to reconcile moving away from my mom 🙁 My migraines always start by half of my side going numb, usually starting with my hand and working its way up to my lips, tongue, etc..

It’s probably too late, but try not to self-diagnose yourself with anything. I was convinced I had bell’s palsy. I know now that being really, really stressed brings on migraines with aura for me. I went to the doctor and he ordered a CAT scan, just to be on the safe side and nothing was found, and luckily I haven’t had one since then!

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Morgan says · 09.09.15

Kate,

So sorry to hear about your migraines. I have gotten them since I was 3 years old, but I do not have the vision loss like you mentioned. That is scary. Please report back what the neurologist says if you are willing, or any medication you find that helps. I second the comment about taking a daily magnesium supplement. It does help prevent, or can even help one that is already starting to subside. Vitamin B supplements pair well with magnesium as well. Take care!

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Sherry says · 09.09.15

Hi Kate,
Thanks for sharing so much about your life with us. So sorry to hear about the losses in your lives lately, and glad to hear Justin is doing better. You should definitely get the migraines checked out, hopefully just stress related and maybe hormonal, but still a good idea to get some things ruled out.
I absolutely loved the video of you cutting your friends hair, her hair looked absolutely fabulous by the way. I read your blog every day and when I saw that little bit at the end of your entry today I figured I would see in the comments that lots of people were volunteering to have you do their hair……instead I read mostly comments about concern for you and your situation and how caring your readers all are (myself included). That has to make you feel good and loved and cared about. Most of us have never met you yet somehow we all feel like your friend through your blog. Take care of yourself and that beautiful family of yours.
Sherry

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Jan says · 09.09.15

Kate,
I do get migraines. I have Fibromyalgia, which along with migraines, I get body aches. I also have been diagnosed with 3 different types of arthritis. It has caused me to be a lot less ambulatory that I used to be. To answer your question about vision and speech, my vision is always impacted by the headaches. As for speech, my speech is often impacted as well. I don’t know why that is. I have never met anyone that is affected the same way by the migraines as I am however. I have PTSD and thought maybe that was why I was affected that way. Hope you are feeling better soon. You and your family Kate..

Sincerely,

Jan

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Meghan says · 09.09.15

I’m a willing model! My hair and I would love your assistance! Hope you’re feeling better…always love reading your blog ?

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Emma P. says · 09.09.15

I am so glad that Justin is back and feeling better and can understand the grieving you are going through with Justin losing an Aunt and Uncle. I know you have dabbled in Essential Oils – have you tried any for your migraines? I have found my doTERRA oils immensely helpful when I get a migraine (I get blurred vision, light & sound sensitivity and major nausea with mine). I use Frankincense and Peppermint rubbed undiluted on my temples and back of neck (peppermint has a sensation like icy/hot), I will also diffuse both into the air. I have had great success with this but I know depending on a persons body chemistry it is no the answer for everyone, but it might be worth a try.

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Alyssa says · 09.09.15

I admire you so much for the way you care for your family. It’s really wonderful. I’m so sorry to hear about the rough times your family has been having. Keeping you in my thoughts!

Side note: I get migraines like that too and have been getting them since my teens. I get the ones that cause weird vision a couple of times a year and I’ve learned that eating a granola bar or piece of chocolate (sometimes I think it’s a blood sugar + stress thing), and popping ibuprofen first thing really helps nip it in the bud. The one time I didn’t take ibuprofen for hours, it eventually progressed and I had trouble talking too. So definitely keep ibuprofen handy if you can take it!

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Lauraf says · 09.09.15

Migraines are the worst! I feel for you.
Just so you don’t feel alone, I too have a-typical migraines. As a child I would get the seriously painful dabilitating migraines. Now that I’m older I get the messed up vision/blurriness/wavy lines, my mouth and tongue go numb along with my arm and hand. At one point I was hospitalized for a possible stroke because we didn’t know what was going on.
Hang in there mama!

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Cynthia says · 09.09.15

My husband left for 3 weeks over the summer and I didn’t think it would be that bad. About five days into it, I lost all my marbles. The emotional support that he provided was HUGE! I never realized how much I needed him in my corner making sure that the kids did what they were told, or making sure I wasn’t getting too crazy over something, or telling me to check myself. Those 3 weeks away were a blessing, for me to see how much his presence truly means to me. I always feel like half of myself is gone (I mean, our God made it that way, so how could you not!?), but this time it was so unbelievable how much I needed him.

I will be praying for you and your neurologist appointment. It can’t feel awesome to have no control over your speech. My dad was diagnosed with early onset Alzheimer’s, which can be hereditary… Every time I forget a word, I get stressed out, because that was super common for him before his diagnoses.

I live in Toronto, Ontario, Canada and my family and I have some big things coming up next year–which will include traveling in the States… I would love for you to completely makeover my hair. It’s down to my bum now… Super long and thick and I would die for the chance for you to get your hands on my hair.

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Ashley Hlavaty says · 09.09.15

When it rains it pours, right? I hope that things settle down soon for you.

As for your migraines, that sounds exactly like something I dealt with a couple of years ago. I remember walking through Target with my son in the cart, and my vision was being weird. The next thing I knew I couldn’t really see at all, except for a bright zigzaggy fuzzy light. I felt like I could almost see past it if I could just blink enough, but it never got better. Luckily I had my mom on speed dial and I called her and she literally had to come to Target, find me, and escort me out. It was terrifying. My speech was also affected I knew what I wanted to say, but the words just wouldn’t come out or if something did it was slurred or wrong. I thought I was having a stroke or TIA. My head hurt, but I’d never had a migraine before so I wasn’t sure if that was what it was. We got me in to see my doctor that day, had an MRI of my head immediately, and all was fine. After seeing a few doctors within a few days because the same thing would happen each day, it turned out it was because of my birth control. I hadn’t been on birth control because I was pregnant and then nursing, and once I started it back up the hormone levels were too much for me. Oddly, the same thing happened to my sister in law, and two of my friends. Now I stay off of birth control and we use other precautions. Not to be too personal, but if you are on some type of birth control pill, be sure to remind your doctor of that. Sometimes just a change in medication can fix it. I haven’t had another “episode” since stopping the pill. And no headaches either.

I hope this is some helpful info for you, and that you get things figured out! I know it can be scary to have that happen to you. Best of luck!

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Hannah says · 09.09.15

I feel you on missing justin. My husband goes on a 2 week hunting trip each year and I can only talk to him about 2 times and it’s super hard!! With having 2 kids now it’s even tougher! So glad he’s back and feeling better! So sorry to hear of the losses in the family though. Praying for you guys! I’m praying that your migraines subside and that the neuro can help give you some relief and peace of mind that it’s nothing serious. I appreciate your blog and knowing you are a woman of faith!

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Emily says · 09.09.15

I, too, suffered from ocular migraines (blurred vision). I discovered that espresso was the trigger. I haven’t had espresso in almost a year and haven’t had a migraine either! Just a thought!

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Marisa @ enigmarisa says · 09.09.15

Oh Kate! I hope everything is okay! I have only had a couple migraines in my life and I can’t imagine how scary it would be to have your speech mess up! I’ll be praying for your family!

enigmarisa

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Sara says · 09.09.15

Hi Kate,

I am with you on the migranes. I get ocular migraines and I have had them since puberty. Extreme stress almost always is a trigger for me. I bet the stress of having your husband gone, the loss in your family and just being a mom in general brought them on. The inability to say what you are thinking is called aphasia. It can be scary and very frustrating. This is also common with ocular migraines along with the loss of field of vision (you actually lose an area of vision out of both eyes) and numbness in your hands/arm. I have Rx medicine that really helps mine but I couldn’t take it when I was pregnant/nursing which was the pits. Hang in there, as my mom always tells me, “everything is temporary.” Prayers for peace and guidance your way.

On a lighter note, I am in your area and I am more than willing to be a model. I work from home and have an 8 month old. My hair hasn’t seen a pair of scissors or color in months. 🙂

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Kate says · 09.09.15

Thanks for your comment, everything you said makes a lot of sense!

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Jessica Horton says · 09.09.15

Hang in there!!!

I haven’t read all the comments, but my sister experienced “complex migraines” about 2 years ago. It also affected her speech! Only she couldn’t make sentences, not just words. She would riddle off nonsense, it was really scary. She was actually hospitalized for a few days while they ran tests, but ultimately diagnosed it a complex migraine… initially they’d thought it was a very minor stroke! So… anyways, go see someone!

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Kate says · 09.09.15

That’s scary! Glad it wasn’t anything more severe!

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Sherah says · 09.09.15

I prayed for you today!

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Asra says · 09.09.15

I am a fellow mom of two with a husband that works crazy hours, sometimes we don’t really see each other for days in a row as a result. I feel your pain on needing the emotional back up! Glad to hear that Justin is back and that you are getting back to the swing of it and I am very sorry to hear about your aunt and uncle. May their souls rest in peace and may God bless the families with strength and patience to get through the difficult days to come.

On another note, I live in the Chicago area and would love to be a hair model for you. 🙂 I never get time to go get my hair cut with the two babies… I could definitely use a hair makeover!

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Kris says · 09.09.15

I get those same types of migranes!

Last summer, though, I started having very severe headaches the point it would wake me in the morning. It was like a migraine quality headache, without the vision loss. After a couple of times of having that, I insisted on an MRI. Long story short, they found out I had a blood clot in my head and I was very fortunate I was not having seizures/stroke. They feel that my estrogen birth control pills caused the clot. It landed me in the hospital for a week. So now this past year I’m off those birth control pills and on Coumadin. Quite crazy!

You know your body and what is normal for you – good for you getting it checked out. I am so glad I didn’t let the doctor’s brush me aside and that I pushed for the MRI. Could have been a bad situation.

Feel better!

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Erin @ Her Heartland Soul says · 09.09.15

Sending prayers to your family! I definitely don’t think it will hurt to see a neurologist! I just had an MRA for my migraines since my mom died of a brain anuerysm. I was so happy to find out I have a happy, healthy brain!

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Heather says · 09.09.15

I’m so sorry about your migraines! I get them (mine just hang around forever and this last one settled in my mouth), and I also know several that get them. Point being, migraines this past week have been bad for everyone I know. I don’t know if it’s the weather or pressure or what it is. Just thought that it was interesting. I’m so glad you have your husband back. Love hearing about a great marriage!

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Debi says · 09.09.15

I get them – they are called ocular migraines. Vision disruption without the headache. Very scary and annoying – especially if you are driving, etc. They usually last about 20 minutes and then everything goes back to normal.

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Kate says · 09.09.15

Yep, that sounds exactly the same!

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Aaren says · 09.09.15

The migraines you have are most likely Aura Migranes. I started getting them three months after having my first child due to hormone changes. I went to my doctor and saw a neurologist and they said the symptoms are similar to having a mini stroke. I would get the blurries in one eye for about half an hour as well. You also become very sensitive to light. There was nothing they could do. The doctors said there are numerous things that trigger those types of Migranes (chocolate, coffee, and stress being the most common).

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Dominique says · 09.09.15

I love how close you and Justin are. I am glad your marriage is so great and you put each other first. I blogged about, just that today and it seems like most blogs I follow are in sync! I’m glad Justin is doing better and you can finally breathe. I know how it is when your partner in crime is there but can’t really help. I have had migraines here and there, but not as bad as yours. I hope they go away completely! xo

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Amy says · 09.09.15

I will add your recent situations, deaths and migraines to my prayer list. That does sound weird and scary. I think the speech part sounds the most alarming. My infant is a couple months old now but a few weeks back I was having a similar vision issue. It hasn’t happend since then but scared me. I wonder if yours could possibly be a result of having a baby, lack of sleep, lots of computer work, etc? Maybe a weird combination of things? Either way I am glad you are going to get it checked out. Take it easy and keep us all posted! We want the best for you!

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Kate says · 09.09.15

It could definitely be a combination of all of the things you mentioned! Hoping to figure it out soon!

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Amy says · 09.11.15

I came back by the comments of this post and didn’t know why, till I saw a couple negative comments that are below this comment. Can I just share that my husband was gone for ONE WEEK and I missed him so terribly and felt so heartbroken? It is hard when you have been used to having them and then they are gone, for whatever reason and for however long it may be. I’ve gotten used to having him while we’ve both been on maternity leave and soon we will be back to our work schedules. That means I’ll go without seeing him for 4 days out of the week. And while 4 days or one week isn’t as long as years, I will still miss him to the point of feeling heart broken. Still. So lets just remember that we all love and miss our spouses when they walk out the door and that we should share that together along with support and respect.

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Karol says · 09.09.15

i, too, suffer from the exact type of migraine you described. I find that stressful situations can trigger my migraines. I come from a family of migraine sufferers and had my first one at 8 years old. At 25, I had an MRI and was assured that my headaches were normal and I have worked hard to use biofeedback to help lessen the severity. I hope that life slows down a bit for you and you can find some relief from these migraines.

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Brittany says · 09.09.15

The migraines sound terrible! I hope the neurologist can help give you answers and relief from the pain. My husband travels every month for one full week at a time, and I completely get you when you say it physically hurts. I just started staying at home with our son, and I’ll be honest that it’s harder now than it was when I was working, because I had the distraction of work and Walker at daycare. Now? It’s just me for 7 days, 24/7. It’s so hard and exhausting! I can’t imagine doing two weeks with little to no contact. Go you!

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Leigh says · 09.09.15

I am so sorry for your loss. I relate so much to feeling like a half a human when my husband isn’t around. In our case, I’m the one who’s gone more and he’s home with our boys. It’s such an odd feeling when the other one isn’t there though. I also get migraines where I lose vision in my right eye and get very sick (I won’t describe the sick, I think you can figure that out). You definitely need to see a doctor. Taking magnesium has helped. I have noticed that my migraines tend to start when the weather goes crazy. I actually had some that hang around for days and have ended up in the ER on more than one occasion. Good luck in figuring all that out!

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Kate says · 09.09.15

the ER sounds scary! Glad the magnesium has helped you!

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Claudia says · 09.09.15

I would be making an appointment ASAP for those migraines. When you have people whose lives depend on you, I wouldn’t waste time.

Maybe there’s some Armed Force Wives support group you can join, those women go months/years without seeing their husbands, who are often in the frontlines of warfare, so I am sure they can give you pointers for the next time Justin is away for two weeks. It’s nice you have mom and sis to help out, though, many military wives do it all on their own, without falling apart. I’m sure you could learn a lot from them.

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Kate says · 09.09.15

I hope I’m reading this comment wrong, but it sure seems like you are being demeaning and putting words in my mouth. I would never dare to compare my husbands traveling to that of a military spouse, so I’d ask that you not either.

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Julia says · 09.09.15

That troll comment-er was totally out of line, and it certainly sounds like s/he is making this about their issues instead of yours. I hope that the 1 rude comment out of 60something concerned comments doesn’t bring you down! After trying 5(!) different migraine meds, I finally found the perfect one for me. I’d make a doctor’s appointment and then go from there 🙂

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Emily says · 09.10.15

Bravo! My husband has done three back-to-back deployments with the first one just 21 days after my youngest was born. And Kate feels physical pain after two weeks. Haha. Laughable at best. We all know Kate’s mom is at her beck and call.

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Laura says · 09.10.15

I’m sorry you have to be away from your husband. I can’t imagine how difficult that must be. However, I want to say that Kate’s pain in her own personal situation does not take away from yours nor is it’s expression meant to belittle you. Maybe the first few weeks of your husband being away hurt just as much as it hurts now, if not more? I don’t mean to make any wrongful assumptions or accusations, but I do want to defend a person’s right to their own experience and response to it. Loving someone often has the effect that we miss them when they are away, no matter how long. Years of separation is of course much, much more tragic than mere weeks, and we all know there is no comparison. You have a right to your pain, and even bitterness if you wish, but it would be kind to not let it hurt others so.

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Kate says · 09.11.15

I couldn’t have said this better myself. Thank you Laura

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Ashlee says · 09.11.15

There’s no place in this blog for comments like yours, Emily. Your post is so unnecessarily rude and unkind. Regardless of your circumstances in life, it gives you no right to take away from Kate’s experience just because you feel as though yours is so much “worse”. You should be ashamed of yourself. And Kate, I think this goes without saying, but you are a generous, caring, hard-working, genuine person…do not let one person’s small-mindedness phase you!

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Emily says · 09.14.15

Ashlee, I didn’t realize you were the moderator of these comments. Once again, if you share your life on the internet, you are subjecting yourself to opinions from ALL sides. But I love the irony in your comment. Calling me “small-minded” while you relentlessly defend a complete stranger on the internet. Do you believe everything you see on the internet??

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Samantha says · 09.09.15

Oh wow, that’s a lot! I’m so sorry! Glad Justin is feeling better and will be praying your appointment goes well! Hopefully the headaches decrease in freuency as your stress levels go back down! My body goes nuts when I’m stressed!

Loved the makeover you did on your friend last week! So gorgeous! If you ever want a head of curly hair to work on, you just let me know. I’d be your model in a heartbeat. 😉

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Kim says · 09.09.15

wow, I’m so sorry you’ve been going through so much! I’m also sorry for you and Justin’s loss. I hope things look up for you.. I’m sure they will! 🙂

Kim

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Julie says · 09.09.15

I’m usually just a reader — but wanted to reach out since you mentioned your migraine issue. I have chronic migraine and feel for you! It sounds like you are on the right track by going to see a neurologist. I have one as well, and he’s been a great resource. The symptoms can be scary — especially if you experience one you hadn’t before (I know!). Hope everything works out and your doctor can help you get them under control.

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Karrie says · 09.09.15

Even though my kids are now grown I totally related to your post! My husband traveled for work a lot when we were raising our kids and it was hard. Also, at about your age I also had similar migraines. I’m sure there are many possible causes and you are obviously going to see a specialist, but in my case I ended up having to change from birth control pills to another method. Once I did, I have never had another migraine, ever. That was 20 years ago. Hope you find some relief soon!

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Wendy says · 09.09.15

I get mirgranes too mostly without too much extreme pain but always with the same visual disturbances you mentioned. They are called optic migraines. I don’t get the speech issues though!

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Jocelyn says · 09.09.15

Hi Kate,

I know you’ve received several emphatic cheers from the masses to go see the neurologist. I think your willingness to seek this out is a practice in strong proactive care for yourself, and ultimately for the benefit of Justin and the boys too, so add me to your supporters.

I get migraines that typically have the ocular symptoms and wavy lines, but this summer I had my first where my speech was effected in a similar way to what you described. I saw my neurologist (I’m one of those super scary cases where I had a stroke 3 years ago at 29 with no preemptive symptoms or concerns except occasional migraines. Fortunately I’ve had a complete and full recovery); she reassured me that all was well, but not without confirming that migraines are definitely very unique and shouldn’t be taken too lightly.

Good luck with moving forward with this, and with the other curveballs being thrown. I’m sure you’ll approach them with your admirable grace. Keep your heart up!

Jocelyn

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mary says · 09.09.15

Hi Kate, your poor family! Sounds like things are piling up. I hope your load lightens soon.

I have a request, that others may have requested too. As a woman with thin hair, I am often on your blog looking for product reviews and tutorials. My first baby is now 7 months old and post partum hair loss is in full swing. I have much thinner hair than you but would love some tutorials on styling/cuts/products for thin hair. The cherry on top would be if you had a model to demo on (too bad I live in TN). Thanks for considering some content geared toward us less fortunate ones. 🙂

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Stephanie says · 09.09.15

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Donna says · 09.09.15

I get those types of migraines too. I believe they are called optical migraines. Sometimes it is mostly just the vision thing where you can’t focus and usually if I close my eyes and lay quietly for a bit it goes away. Other times, I get the full blown headache along with it. Triggers can be hormones (in my younger premenopausal days) or bright light triggers. Stress too can bring them on. My daughter went into the Navy when she was 18 right out of high school and got honorably discharged when she got one during basic training and tried to hide it but could not take anything for it. Good luck. Looking forward to hear what the neurologist has to say.

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Kara Griffith says · 09.09.15

Ummm. I will be a hair model anytime:)

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Haley says · 09.09.15

I get those exact same migraines! they pretty much have gone away since I went off the pill a couple years back but I get them sometimes still when I am ovulating. I got a full work up MRI and they said I was fine, but it is terrifying. Sometimes my hands and one of my arms go numb as well. I definitely feel your pain. what works best for me is just trying to stay calm and know it will pass. sending prays your way!

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Susan says · 09.09.15

I get the occasional migraine but have yet (knock on wood!) to have the vision or speech issues (well no more than usual, I wear contacts and have never been very good at communication). But I do have experience of worrying about something being wrong with me and the time between realizing something is wrong and going to see the doctor can be the worst! What helps me is knowing that I’m not alone in more ways than one. I have my friends and family who love and support me and I have seriously gotten on the phone and have had multiple receptionists/nurses/assistants tell me that I’m not the first to have this problem.

When dealing with something that seems out of the ordinary for me I tend to obsess and panic thinking I’m dealing with something a lot more serious than it actually is. The first time I fainted, the blacking out happened really slowly and I thought I was going blind and screaming about it panicking right before my knees gave out under me and I collapsed unconscious (so grateful their were 2 people by me who caught me before I hit the ground and I was in a medical facility at the time.) I’m hoping hearing that you aren’t the only one who has these issues from others helps you deal with your situation.

On another note I’m local, have hair, and would love to be a model and/or guinea pig . I’ve been experimenting with homemade honey hair masks recently and have been playing with the idea of doing something new with my hair.

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Amanda says · 09.09.15

Hi Kate! I have been reading your blog for quite some time now but this is my first time commenting! I wanted to let you know that I have had exactly the same migraines as you have had described. I was told they are called “ocular migraines”. Do you see a chiropractor currently? Once I started visiting a chiropractor regularly they stopped. When I was pregnant with my daughter, I had a period of time where I wasn’t seeing the chiropractor and during that time they started up again. Once I started up my visits again they went away again. Just something I thought I would let you know if you want to try it!

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Katrina says · 09.09.15

I’m sorry to hear about your losses and your otherwise already tough week! Please keep us up to-date on what the neurologist says about your migraines. They sound exactly like mine (except mine are on the right side). I’ve seen a neurologist twice and he considers r them “normal” (I don’t!) and just keeps prescribing more drugs- all of which are only 50% effective and don’t really provide me with any log-term solutions! I’d love to hear any tips!

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Chloe says · 09.09.15

Kate!
Thank you so much for sharing that beautiful artist. Such beautiful prints to choose from! My mom has been going through a tough time and I think one of these will really cheer her up.
I’m so sorry for your family. Losing anyone in your life is tough, but to lose two people close to you is just unfair.
I hope the neurologist provides you with good tips to prevent your migraines from coming back. There was a reporter, Serene Branson, that had a migraine aura on live TV and the poor girl could not let the right words come out. At the time, I laughed about it because I thought she just had stage fright, but a migraine that effects your speech is much worse than just that. I hope things go well!

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Stacy P. says · 09.09.15

After a visit to the neurologist of course, try this book: HEAL YOUR HEADACHE, by David Buchholz, M.D.. It has really changed my life and I can avoid taking medication often prescribed for headaches like those. (My Rx would have been actually a heart drug.) Also make sure your heart is ok!

Hormones, smells (esp. eucalyptus/chamomile/lavender), lights and being dehydrated are the biggest triggers for me. This book taught me to assess where my threshold was each day so I knew what triggers to avoid for sure. And, most importantly, to avoid my migraines…I make myself drink at least 20-30 ounces of water each morning before anything else goes in.

It is so scary, a person really does feel like they are having a stroke when this happens, but if you get yourself checked out you can just relax and that makes your vision come back faster. I empathize with you!! I’ve had them since I was in high school and I wish someone would have told me there was a way to control them. No prescription needed!

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Katrina says · 09.09.15

I’ll have to check out that book. I have many of the same triggers (although artificial smells bother me more than natural ones), but as a teacher, avoiding bright and artificial lights, is impossible for me!

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Julia says · 09.09.15

Hello Kate, I have been following your blog now already quite a while but have not got a comment made. I am sorry about these losses and struggles, it is indeed hard to be separated from your dear ones- we had months of separation after wedding with my husband and that was something, but with babies it is still another story. God bless you and your family in all that recovery, all the best! ‘Julia’

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Lindsay says · 09.09.15

It can certainly be difficult without your partner around to share in both the difficulties and the joys of parenthood! I experienced a similar feeling when my husband had to work out of state for 6 weeks when my older son was little. And to add to that, being struck with migraines while still having responsibilities as a mom must be so frustrating! I am a mom of boys here in the Cary/Raleigh area as well and I’ve found so much strength from forming friendships with other moms, whether we’re just meeting at the park or finding time for girl’s nights, it’s so nice to be able to connect and vent and feel supported! I have a loving, supportive husband as well, but there’s something special about a girl-bond that can be a huge help in discouraging times! I hope all starts to get back to normal for you! You are such a wonderful mom, you’re doing a great job!

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Erin says · 09.09.15

I get the exact same type of migraine. When it first happened to me, I was sitting in a college class taking notes and I lost the ability to read. I couldn’t function at all and then came the zig-zag lines and blindness in one eye. It was very scary! I never get a headache with mine, but always have the visual changes. I did end up going to a neurologist for mine and had a CT scan as well as an MRI, but the doctors told me some people have this type of migraine. If you search on YouTube for ocular migraine, you will find videos that are very similar to what you experience. Also, I began taking magnesium every day (when I was pregnant bc I got several then) and I truly think it lessened the frequency and duration of my migraines. Stress is a huge factor…and it sounds like you’ve had your fair share lately. I hope things calm down quickly and you don’t have any more migraines.

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Diane Adams says · 09.09.15

Hi Kate. I too started having migraine after my two boys were born. I was treating with low dose Inderol which helped a little. I wrote down foods and situations that I found would trigger them. My cycle and the barometric pressure would also influence my migraine. I also had a whooshing sound in my ears (my heartbeat) and I also had dizzy spells occasionally. In 2011 at the age of 51 I had a TIA, a “mini stroke” I had no pain, only a visual disturbance. After that I had a CT with contrast and was diagnosed with Fibromuscular Dysplasia in my Internal Carotid Arteries with dissection. FMD is a frequently undiagnosed disease, that many in the medical field have very limited knowledge of. My intentions on telling you this is to bring awareness to this disease because so few Doctors ever see it and therefore don’t even consider it when they look for answers. My prayer for you is that FMD is not your diagnosis and that you can find relief from your symptoms. I know how difficult it is to keep going when you really just want to hide under a rock.
Loved the hair makeover!!! When you’re in the Chicago area and you want a curly, fine, frizzy hair challenge, let me know!

Blessings to you and yours!
Diane

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Erin says · 09.09.15

Diane, I have the whooshing sound in my ears, too. It has only recently started, maybe within the last month or so and isn’t constant. Now I’m worried!

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Misty Friedrichs says · 09.09.15

Kate – will be praying for you & your family! I find it encouraging to remember at times like this that His strength is made perfect in our weakness (in this case weakness = life’s draining moments)!! *deep breathe* So sorry to hear about Justin’s Aunt & Uncle as well. Tough thing no matter the situation. Hang in there – I pray peace & some down time will rest on you soon!!!

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Megan says · 09.09.15

I have very similar migraines and have had them since I was 8! You’re one of the first people I’ve heard of having them. I lose my vision, get numbness in my hands, face and mouth, lose the ability to form words, get a terrible headache and throw up a lot. Mine usually last a few hours and the only way I can get rid of them is to sleep them off! The most I can gather from my neurologist is that they are “atypical migraines” and that mine are most likely caused by hormones. They will probably do a CT scan just to be safe. They’re very inconvenient but don’t seem to be a whole lot more than that! I hope you’re able to get some answers!

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Steph says · 09.09.15

Hi Kate!
Migraines! The bane of my existence. I have three boys, all 18ish months apart, and the headaches that come as a result of lack of sleep and stress is seriously intense. I actually saw my neurologist today! Definitely go because they can give you preventative meds and some meds for the pain that is pretty instant.
I also get auras and have found that at the onset of the “lights” I have a strong, strong coffee and it really helps with the lights and the pain.
I hope they subside soon.
Steph

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Elle Matthews says · 09.09.15

You’re having an aura before your migraine. I get the exact same symptoms including the speech difficulty. There are new meds available to abort a migraine if you take them at the first sign of the migraine. By the way, sometimes I do not end up with the headache part, even though I have the aura. My niece goes through the same thing. We call them painless migraines. Also can feel very spacey. So relax. Just get under the care of a good doctor.

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Heather says · 09.09.15

I’ll throw my migraine feedback into the mix too – I had a history of migraines similar to yours – weird vision, speech difficulties, numbness – getting maybe two to three a year for probably a decade. Then, after the birth of my second baby I chose to get an IUD. Over the course of the next six months my migraines significantly increased along with a host of other problems (ridiculous hair loss (like visible bald spots!), extreme fatigue, a few panic attacks, chronic numbness in my hands, the list goes on…) I think we all just wrote it off as being a stressed mom. My blood work was always normal and eventually my doctor ordered an MRI because she felt like she wanted to rule out MS. My scan was normal, I still didn’t have answers and I was only getting worse – to the point of daily awful migraines and exhaustion. One day my husband somehow discovered some blogs about the connection with my symptoms and the particular IUD I had. Figuring it couldn’t hurt I had it removed. The next week was the WORST but within a month nearly all of the symptoms that had popped up over the past 6-8 months were gone and I haven’t had a migraine in almost two years now. I know it may not be the case with you, but on the chance that it could be I felt compelled to share and at any rate after my experience I strongly believe that hormones play a big role with this migraine business and are worth keeping in mind. Wishing you all the best in figuring out your issues! Take care of yourself, momma!

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Lauren says · 09.09.15

My heart goes out to you both in this loss. I hope your doctor can find an ‘ easy’ fix for you.

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suzanne says · 09.09.15

Sorry to hear about your migraines. I have had them for years, although they have subsided in the last few years. Hormones, I think.

My husband has always travelled for work. He once left me with three kids, the youngest of whom was 12 mos, to go to Israel for 10 days. Oh, and they all had hand, foot and mouth disease. I got through, but I wonder how sometimes. When he would come back, it was hard. You get a groove going with the kids, and then hubby comes back come and the routine has to change. After a number of times, where we would get “at each other”, we named it “re-entry”. It IS a thing. I do love my hubbs and wanted him to come back.(wink)Now my kids are older and it’s very lonely when he travels. 🙁

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EmilyW says · 09.09.15

I understand about your husband’s absence! Any amount of time away is difficult when you are so used to that daily support. I am so sorry to hear of the losses in your husband’s family, too. May God bring peace and comfort to both of you and to his family. Take care of yourself and your family, and do not worry about your blog! Us followers are loyal and will be here. 🙂
Please do go and get yourself checked out! Those are scary symptoms. I work in healthcare and am worried for you! If they continue or become more frequent, you might consider going directly to the ER, especially if your specialist appointment is a ways off. Sometimes things like that need to be checked while they are happening to know what’s actually going on anyways, and you want to rule out things that might require immediate intervention, such as stroke. I don’t mean to scare you; just can relate in having a heart condition, and being a woman, we often put our own health on the back-burner.
Your blog is such a joy to me, and I feel like I know you!! 🙂 Thank you for all the encouragement and joy you bring!! I will keep you and your family in my prayers. Praying for healing, comfort, and answers!

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Evelina says · 09.09.15

I’d love to hear more about his climb! It’s definitely not something I could see myself doing but it sounds fascinating! I’m sorry to hear about his aunt and uncle though. Losing a loved one is never easy and I can’t even imagine two at once.

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Natali C. says · 09.09.15

I experienced symptoms identical to yours and with the added effects of my hearing being affected and my left hand going numb. The cause of these migraines in me was determined to be a pinched/misfiring nerve in my back caused by an excessively heavy backpack I wore daily at the time. It was very scary (I had many neuro tests, too.) but thankfully it hasn’t recurred since. If you have any tightness or soreness in your back/shoulders/neck that could indicate a similar cause. I hope that helps.

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Beth says · 09.09.15

I got occular migraines like that when I was on YAZ…there are some bad side effects to birth control known as “ACHES” (abdominal pain, chest pain, headache/severe, eyes/vision changes, and swelling in legs). Anytime you have any of those side effects and your taking birth control it could be the sign of a blood clot. I would call your OB/GYN.

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Beth says · 09.09.15

I got ocular migraines like that when I was on YAZ…there are some bad side effects to birth control known as “ACHES” (abdominal pain, chest pain, headache/severe, eyes/vision changes, and swelling in legs). Anytime you have any of those side effects and your taking birth control it could be the sign of a blood clot. I would call your OB/GYN.

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Jessica says · 09.09.15

Wow, that’s a lot to deal with at one time! As several people have mentioned, I don’t know if you’re on any type of birth control right now, but my doctor advised me to stop taking mine almost a year ago due to new symptoms with my migraines & the correlation between migraines & risk of a stroke. I’ve had migraines for years & took birth control off & on for about 13 years with no issues at all, but for some reason the last time was different. I had my daughter in July 2013 & nursed for a year, then started back on bc pills. My migraines started affecting the nerves in my jaw, neck, shoulders and one side of my face. Even my ear would feel tingly & weird. Since I stopped the pill those new symptoms have been greatly reduced…now it’s just occasionally instead of every single time I have a migraine. Hope you get some answers & some relief!

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Gail says · 09.09.15

Migraine headaches can be stress related. It sounds like you have trigger point muscle tension in your upper trapezius, scalenes, temporalis, serratus posterior superior, levator scapula, and probably your scm. You had mention neck tension a few weeks ago, which probably increased with stress causing a migraine. A professional massage or Occupational Therapy could help you avoid being put on daily medication (just make sure they perform medical massage for trigger point release and consult with your neurologist). I have been an Occupational Therapist Assistant for 19 years and this has almost completely eliminated my migraines. I have the same aura and speech difficulties with mine.

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Abby says · 09.09.15

Hi Kate,

I just wanted to say I noticed a few people mention Multiple Sclerosis. I have MS and I don’t get migraines. Just wanted to say that. Hope you get some answers when you go for your appointment!

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Sarah says · 09.10.15

Wow! You’ve had a ton going on! Glad to hear your hubby is better and sorry for your family loses! I have had migraines and the blindness and zig zag lines is pretty normal with migraines so try not to fret. It’s called Aura and you can have it with migraine
Pain and even without. As far as not being able to say the right word that’s a little odd, but I’m sure it’s just some weird response to the migraine. Glad to hear you’re going to a dr. Praying for you all!! Take it easy, lady!!

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Susie Oh says · 09.10.15

my heart goes out to you and your family. I hope you find some small piece of rest during this stressful time. My prayers are with you.

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Emily says · 09.10.15

Great–another blog post where Kate complains about her oh-so-hard life. *eyeroll*

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steph says · 09.10.15

wow. really? why even read her blog and then take the time to make such an idiotic comment. did that make you feel better?

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Emily says · 09.10.15

Did replying to my comment make you feel better? Sorry I’m not a brainless fan-girl who fawns all over Kate and worships the ground she walks on. I used to love her blog back when it was actually focused on hairstyles, fashion, and beauty. Now it has just become a platform for her to whine about her life and beg for head-pats and validation from mind-dead little girls like yourself. 😉

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Jacqui says · 09.10.15

Sounds like you have had a lot going on lately and l hope that things settle down for you now.. Migraines can do weird and scary things to you. I also get migraines and it usually affected my vision. Then in January this year l was in Ikea with my son asleep in the stroller and l started to walk unsteadily to the point that if l wasn’t holding onto the stroller l would of fallen over. Also had a wooshing sound in my ear and felt really sick. Made it to the food court and rang my husband to come get me and he nded up having to be put in a wheelchair to get to the car. Went to a Nuroligist and after many test he said it a vistibular migraine, having aspirin as soon as l feel it coming on and a heat pack on y neck to help with the headache really helps. I hope you find out what’s going on and what triggers your migraines. (I have yet to find mine).

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stacy says · 09.10.15

Kate, I’ve suffered from very similar, classic migraines with aura most of my life with tingling and numbness and shimmering lights on the perimeter of my vision and ,yes, definitely confused speech. The symptoms got so intense a couple of years ago that I was convinced I had something more (along the lines of MS was my fear) but thankfully after much testing it was simply migraines. I took myself off of hormonal birth control and the symptoms improved dramatically. Hormonal birth control can lead to an increased risk of stroke for women with this type of migraine so you might discuss with your doc. Hang in there!

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Stephanie B. says · 09.10.15

Hi Kate,

I don’t ever leave comments but I also lose my vision with migraines and have had other very similar symptoms. I am under the care of a neurologist since I had my second child 4 years ago. One of the first things he did since I asked to try to treat the issue as naturally as possible was to have me take riboflavin (B2) and magnesium daily. It has made an ENORMOUS difference in my symptoms and headaches overall. I haven’t lost my vision for 19 months since taking that religiously and making some changes to my diet. I take a minimum of 250mg of riboflavin each day and 200mg of magnesium. It was also fine to take these while pregnant and nursing. I hope that you feel better!

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Aleassa says · 09.10.15

When my husband returned from a trip to Central America this summer, I was so excited and relieved to have him back! Then he immediately came down sick for 3 weeks, and I was totally thrown for a loop! So I know a bit about how you were feeling!
Those migraines are interesting in that they only last for 30 minutes and upset your ability to speak. I’m interested to hear what you find out at the doctor!
Hope things start looking up for you, and my prayers and condolences go out to your family during this time of loss.

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Kim says · 09.10.15

Sounds like mini strokes not migraines

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Lindsey says · 09.10.15

You are not alone! Thank you for sharing your migraine issues, because everyone’s comments have been helpful to me as well.

When I was 9 weeks pregnant with my first, I had the same thing- trying to write a check for lunch money (I’m a teacher) and I couldn’t see half of what I was writing. Within an hour my hand went numb, it traveled up my arm throughout time, and ended up at my face, tongue and lip. Just half my body. OB was worried so I had a CT right away that didn’t show anything. ER doc and OB doc thought I was having mini strokes, since it presented that way. My OB was extra careful and followed up with a neuro appointment, echo of my heart, and a thrombophilia panel to check for and blood clotting disorders. Just a heads up: many neuros are too smart for their own good and can have horrible bedside manner. Be warned. I walked out thinking I wasted my money!

Come to realize, they are just an aura migraine that present like mini strokes. Mine are triggered by hormonal changes, hence why it happened in my first trimester. With my second son, I had 5 episodes in the first trimester, and I knew I was going to go into labor with him soon because I had one 3 days before my water broke (body releasing hormones to get ready for labor).

Just be your own health advocate! if the first doctor you see doesn’t provide enough answers to reassure you, see another! Also, you may want to look into a thrombophilia panel if you plan to have more kids. With your history of infertility, you may have a clotting disorder.

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Brie says · 09.10.15

Hi!
First, I love your blog, your style, your hair, everything!

Second! Those migraines sound a lot like ocular migraines. I’ve had a few before and they are SO strange! You see weird colors on the outside of your vision and (for me at least) get blanks in your vision where you literally can’t see. It’s like there is a blank hole in your vision.
I also have a ton of experience with migraines caused by neck injuries. If your neck goes out of alignment it can cause some pretty fantastic headaches. I hope that’s not the case for you but if you don’t find anything at the neurologist maybe you could look into that? Only a suggestion of course!
I hope you get to feeling better really soon! Prayers!
PS: I am an artist and I think you are the most adorable thing. Keep your eyes out for a tag on Instagram of a little picture of you!

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Amber Smith says · 09.10.15

Your headaches sound like migraine with aura. I have this…the headache isn’t awful, but my whole right side will go numb and blurry and my speech and vision get weird. I take 2 aleve when I feel them coming on and usually I can head it off. I hope you find something that works for you!! Mine are almost always stress induced.

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Allison says · 09.10.15

Kate- Everyone is saying similar things but I wanted to add my two cents! I have been experiencing migraines since I was 10 and they were worried I was having a stroke because my words wouldn’t come out correctly, I had numbness in my left arm and hand, and my vision gets blurred. The pain is very severe and usually makes me throw up. When I met with a neurologist, he said those are all very common symptoms of migraine! My triggers were stress, not getting the rest I needed, and not eating well. I just wanted to help you feel better and say the symptoms are normal. It sounds like some relaxing would do you some good! I’m sure that would be easy with your two babies and all. ;). Thanks for your blog…I love it so much!

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Alli says · 09.11.15

Good call on seeing a neuro! Our first married Christmas I woke up feeling exactly as you describe, I could not form sentences and jumbled words- I was terrified. A trip to the ER gave us nothing…. but a neuro was able to tell me I was having migraines with a complicated aura- he gave me a med when I felt one coming on, but now I just go lay down when I feel it (and call mom for backup for the kids!). Praying for answers for you, it is scary to experience!

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Jerri C. TN says · 09.11.15

Don’t freak yourself out. I too got these type of “aura” symptoms that go with migraines, soon after child birth and they always coincided with hormones. Yours are just getting back in sync after baby & combined with stress, these auras will happen from time to time. For me “Goody” headache powder & a real Coke works wonders. Glad your hubby is back.

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Jen says · 09.11.15

Oh my goodness Kate! I get the same migraines too! I have NEVER had them before until I had my twins about 5 years ago. They first time it happened I thought I was going blind I was so scared, I didn’t know what was going on! Then 3 more migraines later I started doing the research and found out they are optical migraines. Wish I knew what caused them and wish there was some medication to take. Nothing has helped me 🙁 anyway, I pray yours occur fewer and fewer times. As the babies have gotten older they have lessened to maybe one or two a year. I believe they all started from all the hormones of having babies, as I never had one before. Small price to pay for 2 healthy precious babies. Anyway you are amazing and I love your blog!

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Emily B says · 09.12.15

Hi Kate-mom of a LO here in Raleigh and would love to offer to get a cut from you. You have many people willing, but didn’t want to lose the chance to put my “name” in. Finding that I too am in a rut or cut to the basics of starting with my hair down but ending up in a pony tail and gym clothes from walks. Would love a good cut to get me further days of hair down as soon as fall shows up.

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pf says · 09.13.15

Feel free to tell your husband no in the future. That’s too long to be away from his kids. I feel guilty just leaving for an afternoon.

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Sandy says · 09.14.15

I want to let you know that I have had the same migraines since I was 11. Chiropractic treatments helped immensely – I’ve only had a handful in the last ten years. I have had NONE since starting on ASEA (Redox Signaling Supplement). ASEA is more of a replenishment of redox signaling molecules. These molecules help every cell in the body communicate more efficiently; detect rogue/ damaged cells and repair or replace them with healthy cells. Healthy cells = Healthy body.

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Angela Poteat says · 09.15.15

Would love to be your hair model!!

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Michelle says · 09.17.15

I’ve suffered from migraines my whole life, mostly around the time of my period so I’ve always just blown them off as hormonal. You’re lucky Justin is such a hands on dad, mentally & physically. My husband worked 2nd shift for many years & hardly saw our boys. Now he’s on first, but it’s too late …. he’s pretty detached. My boys are older now – both teens — so …. whatever happens, happens.

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