As we enter into the holidays soon, and we are likely to either be hosting or attending get-togethers with co-workers, friends, and family members, I just want to remind you that it’s okay to set boundaries on what you will or will not engage with during a conversation.
We’re nearly 2 years into a pandemic that has changed so much of our lives, albeit more dramatically for some than others, and I think we could all agree that emotionally and mentally we feel a bit taxed.
I’m *weary*. I’m tired of talking about the same thing over and over. Whether it’s the state of the world, or if I’m with a group of friends postulating about something we may never have a concrete answer to, my personality is not one that enjoys lingering in a world of hypotheticals and “what ifs”.
So for me, personally, I find it really helpful to construct a sentence or two to have “in my back pocket” in case I need to remove myself from a particular conversation.
I cherish the pure delight in my children’s eyes during the holidays, and I want to lean heavily into that this year. My oldest will be 8 soon and it already feels like my kids are growing at the speed of light.
If I find myself in a potentially heated discussion about something that regularly sends me down a path of worry, despair, or feeling helpless/overwhelmed, it will inevitably affect my ability to be fully present and joyful for my kids and family this season.
So, prepping that sentence is just something I’m doing to prepare. I will feel more calm and able to handle a potentially disruptive conversation in a group if I have a sentence that I’ve already thought of to bow out with.
Because it’s the *internet* and I’m 100% ruined after being in the public eye for 10 years, I have to share a bit of a disclaimer here: I am not saying ignore everything, all the time, at all costs. I am sharing that this is a way I prep for potentially uncomfortable conversations (especially with people who I may not know well) that may come up this season.
Hope it’s helpful. And now back to regularly scheduled programming: