I think when people hear the term “self-care” a lot of people, especially women, think of face masks while sitting in a hot bath reading a book.
And for some, that is exactly what they would want to do if they needed to recharge at the end of the day. But for others? It’s going on a run, it’s organizing a pantry, or it’s spending time with a friend.
After a turbulent year, the need for taking care of ourselves is more essential than ever before. I’d argue to say it’s vital to your emotional and mental well-being. There are certain stages of life that foster an environment of abundant opportunities for self-care, and there are others where you don’t have a single minute to spare for yourself.
Amanda and I were speaking recently about self-care and hobbies. I think this conversation came up because we both shared that neither of us really have “hobbies” that we actively engage in within our lives right now. It’s difficult to find time for a hobby when you’re a working mom, which we both are. It’s hard to find time for a hobby if your job is in the home raising your kids. It’s hard to find time for a hobby if you have zero kids and a demanding schedule. It’s hard to find time for a hobby if you suffer from an illness.
So in thinking about the fresh start of a new year, I thought it would be timely to share what I’m doing to try to develop some hobbies or simply make time for things I enjoy next year.
It sounds incredibly elementary, but keep a list of things you enjoy doing. Make a note when you are doing them if you find that they bring you joy. If you’re presented with some free time, for whatever reason, it’s helpful to have a little list of the things that fill you up instead of defaulting to housekeeping tasks, errands, or life-sucking activities like a dentist appointment.
On my list are the following:
I love cooking and baking (90% baking, 10% cooking)
I love exercising outside, including walks with friends
I like getting my nails done
I like to play the piano
I like to take photos of my kids
I hope it’s beneficial for you to think through the answer to the question: “What does self-care look like for you?”. And I hope you’re able to find a way to implement some of the things on that list in the new year.