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I’m drafting this blog post as if it’s a letter to a friend, because that’s how I feel about so many of you!

I’m coming off of a hard weekend. It was very fun to celebrate the 4th of July with my in-laws in Virginia. Despite the soggy morning and spitting rain, we went to the parade and the boys enjoyed it. Fireworks were canceled that evening, but we had a small box to light off ourselves in the field behind my sister-in-laws house. We thought David would get a kick out of watching them but he wasย way too occupied with the flashlight he was holding to even care about the spectacular light show put on by my husband and brother-in-law. Just another one of those things that you think your toddler will LOVE only to find out he doesn’t really care at all!

One of myย sister’s cats, Otis, died unexpectedly late into the night on the 4th, and it was incredibly sad. I didn’t sleep that night, other than from 4a-5a. My entire family is animal lovers. Between my brother, my parents, my sister, and I there are 8 cats. My siblings grew up with cats and dogs, and I’m certain Justin and I will get a dog one day too. Our pets become a very close part of our families, so Otis’ sudden passing was both shocking and very upsetting. My heart hurt for my sister, as I know the pain of losing an animal, and I was just wishing I didn’t live half a country away from her.

I bought her a plane ticket for this weekend, so she’s coming down for a visit. Luke and David keep us busy busy busy so I’m hoping the activity with them will be a nice distraction from the emptiness she feels at home.

In the spirit of full disclosure, I’ve felt a little zapped of creativity lately. And I also find myself withholding more and more personal thoughts and feelingsย from the blog as I’m a little weary of hateful/attacking comments. I think it’s okay to be thoughtful and filter some of the things that are put out into the public, but I feel like someone pushed the mute button on me. It’s very unusual, and I’m doing my best to really think hard about “why” I’m feeling this way, versus just trying to push past it as hard as I can.

Blogging is still a completely fulfilling joy for me. I absolutely love it. I love helping you, making you laugh on snapchat, and sharing moments of motherhood on Instagram. It’s an ever-changing platform, so the rules are always changing, but the thing that can never change is the personal connection you feel with a blogger.

I like to draw the connection of blogging and a magazine to explain the difference. Both provide content, educational or just entertainment, but one feels personal (the blog you are reading) versus the other feels non-personal and just a form of media to be consumed (the magazine).

The blog posts I love reading most are the ones where I feel like I’m reading a note or message from a friend, so I want to continue to do that here!

I’ll wrap up by saying thanks. Thanks for being here, thanks for commenting and tweeting and leaving messages on Instagram. It isย always great to hear from you!

Send warm thoughts and prayers to my sister this week as she recovers from Otis’ passing–I would deeply appreciate that!

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Ann says · 07.06.16

I don’t comment on blogs often. I actually read very few. But I enjoy the tips you share and your light spirit. You do you. It’s good to hear from you. Thoughts to your sister from a fellow animal lover. Nephews are great medicine, though. ๐Ÿ™‚ <3

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Ginny says · 07.06.16

Beautifully written!

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Bonnie Gall says · 07.06.16

I have been following for over four years, as they say how time flies. I love how your blog and how it has changed over those years. I started following you, because of all your hair tutorials. Now I can’t wait to see what new tips you have or the products you gave tried. What I especially enjoy is how you have open you family to all if us. I can’t wait to hear about you,Jason and the boys. So while I can only imagine how some people’s words can hurt,know that, your true followers will always support you. Prayers to your sister. Rip It is.

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Molly says · 07.08.16

Hi Kate,

I have only been following your blog for about a year now, and only on snapchat for the past few weeks. In that short time, I have grown to view you as a friend. I look forward to reading your blog posts everyday and I love your snaps… They brighten my day. You seem like such a genuinely nice person and I always feel so personally connected to you. I love that you let all of us into your life. Thank you for that. Please know that what you do matters and is appreciated. Haters are gonna hate…. So don’t let it get you down ๐Ÿ˜•

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Cindy says · 07.08.16

Kate,
God has annointed you the the gift to love ad teach others through your blog. Remember that while we are in the world, brothers and sisters of Christ will be hated. Since you obviously love the Lord, you should expect to be attacked. You should also expect to be triumphant! The haters are why you are needed. They need to see the love of God. Go forward with the Holy Spirit and continue to reflect Christ in all that you do. You were put here or a time such as this. Love and blessings!

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Lisa says · 07.11.16

Well said! I only read a couple of blogs and you’re one of them! I love the inspiration, advice, help and humor you share. Please continue to do just what you’re doing and know that your blog helps many of us and even more importantly shares Christ with those who may have never heard of him otherwise. Please don’t ever let the haters quiet the platform God blessed you with! Matthew 5:11-12, Proverbs 9:8

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Taylor says · 07.06.16

Thanks, Kate! Just know that your readers appreciate you and the time you take away from parenting and life to share tips and tricks (and just little pieces of adulthood) with us! I know I enjoy e-connecting with you and also learning all I do from your posts. Thanks, again!

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Danon says · 07.06.16

I completely agree. You have the best positive energy Kate! Keep on being beYOUtiful. Don’t let anyone take your joy away. My heart is with your family (we love our mouser, Pete). That’s so thoughtful for you to help your sister out of the house and cheer her up. She’s lucky to have you. Can I put in a request for more water cooler convos? I love them so much!!!

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Shelly says · 07.06.16

Ditto! I couldn’t say it better! I love reading all the tips & life moments from you. You don’t put up a front, you keep it tried & true! Thank you!

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Jackie says · 07.06.16

I enjoy your blog, it is one of two I read regularly! Keep enjoying life and being YOU!

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Julia says · 07.06.16

As someone who has gotten the opportunity to watch your blog evolve over the past couple years, I was kind of thinking things have gotten less personal. This isn’t necessarily a bad thing, although it is fun to feel like, “Kate mentioned this today…” And my husband has to be like, “Kate your coworker or the blogger?” ? You gotta do what you feel most comfortable with. The things people get upset over seem so petty and unnecessary and I can imagine that constantly tip toeing that line would be tiring.

Sending warm thoughts to your sister โค๏ธ

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Krista says · 07.06.16

Thanks for sharing from your heart. Prayers for your sister. Losing a furry family member is heartbreaking.

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Kim says · 07.06.16

Sending love and prayers! <3

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Heather says · 07.06.16

I’m so sorry that there are people out there who love to steal the joy of others. I hope you can find a way to ignore them and not let them get you down. I love your blog–it’s one of only a handful I read.

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Karen Branscum says · 07.06.16

I agree with Heather here….know you are doing a great thing here sharing so much with others…don’t let this get you down. Thanks for what you do. Prayers for your sister & for you & your family.

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pearl says · 07.06.16

I love reading your blog…your warm personality comes shining through! You will always get horrible, negative people and their nasty comments but be assured that they live sad lonely lives. Sending much love, Pearl XX

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Melissa says · 07.06.16

There are always going to be people out there who see a mere snippet of your life and assume they know the entire story and therefore have some right to criticize. And the feeling of anonymity a computer keyboard affords makes them say things they probably would not say in person. I’m sorry those individuals have hurt your feelings. <3

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Bethany says · 07.06.16

I just love your blog and really enjoy everything you share! Prayers for your sister. Losing a furry family member is so so hard.

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Carolina says · 07.06.16

Most of the time I don’t comment on your blog post but it hurts that some people have the time to be hateful on the internet, specially to you, you are so nice! Anyway, I hope you don’t stop sharing your personal thoughts despite the haters. I am so sorry about Otis, as a cat mom my heart goes with Lauren and your family.

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Ashlee Laird says · 07.06.16

I’ve been reading your blog for years and don’t think I have ever commented on a post. You have changed how I do my hair and makeup (things my mom didn’t teach me). And now I spread my knowledge to my high school students. (Especially when they say “I love your makeup today Mrs.Laird!”). Thank you for teaching me the last couple of years and as my husband and I begin to discuss having children, I am loving all the posts with your boys. There will always be hateful people in the world, but they do not define you, you are an amazing mother, blogger, and friend.
Thank you!

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Jennifer says · 07.06.16

Beautifully said and I couldn’t agree more! You are fantastic and witty! I look forward to checking in on your posts everyday! I’m sorry the negative nellys have you feeling that way, it’s a crappy feeling. But I hope you know how much so many of us love and appreciate the time and honesty you put into this blog! Much love girl!

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Renee Gielow says · 07.06.16

I also do not read blogs but stumbled across your hair tutorials and was immediately inspired by your amazing talent to make all things seem possible even for us not so savvy! I love your positive vibe about life in general and now follow you on all small things that you offer! โค๏ธ

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Jennie says · 07.06.16

Great post, Kate! I enjoy following you bc we are at similar places in our lives – 2 toddler boys – and, I lived in the Triangle for a substantial part of my childhood, college, and early adulthood. You have great style and I’m inspired by your energy. So weird to me that someone would post a nasty comment…I know you know this, but those folks just have way too much time on their hands. Take care and keep doing what you’re doing!

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Allison says · 07.06.16

I’m sorry about the loss of your sister’s cat. Losing a pet is so hard and watching someone you love be devastated is so hard.

Please know that what you do is appreciated. I don’t know how you share your life with so many people, knowing that sometimes it will be met with criticism and even hate. I don’t think I would be strong enough to do so.

Prayers to you all for comfort, understanding and direction ๐Ÿ™‚

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Katie says · 07.06.16

Kate,

I am so sorry to hear about your sister’s cat. I am doing a Bible study right now called “Armor of God,” and it focuses on tactics Satan uses. One of them is highlighting our insecurities and fears to squash our passions. You have been such a light and even though your focus is on beauty, family, etc. your love for the Lord is evident. Just a thought on why you might be feeling this way and a note of encouragement that, despite the trolls, you are a beautiful, intelligent woman of God.

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Ashley says · 07.08.16

I benefitted from your comment. Thanks for sharing it.

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Gracen says · 07.06.16

I think anyone who is willing to blog and put themselves out there is a brave soul. I love, love, love your blog Kate and I get a lot of inspiration from it. I’m not a very creative person myself but I love your style and taste so I’ve gleaned a lot from reading your blogs and I’ve probably watched all of your hair tutorials. It’s taken me finding your hair tutorials to finally figure out how to curl my hair properly. ๐Ÿ™‚ I like what Ann said above….”You do you.” Whether that means sharing more of your personal life or less, do what’s best for you. And by the way, I’ve seen a few people comment on you needing to cut your hair, but I absolutely LOVE it long. ๐Ÿ™‚

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MB says · 07.06.16

My Mama always said, “if you can’t say anything nice, don’t say anything at all.” Might be a good time to remind some of that wise advice.

You’re doing a great job Kate and we appreciate your hard work!

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Christine says · 07.06.16

I’m sure you know that for every nasty comment, there are 10 of us who would sing your praises. That being said, I totally understand how weary it must be to read the negatives. I’m the type of person who takes that stuff to heart. But all I can do is give you my thoughts, which are this: your blog is, as you suggested by this post, like checking in with a good friend. I sometimes catch myself talking about you as if you were – maybe because my brother lives in Durham so I feel some community spirit or something, haha. Either way, I’ve been following you for many years. I think you should continue to operate your blog as you see fit. Follow your gut. For instance: I’m not a kid person at all, but I smile as I see your posts about the kids and know that I can still get what I want from your content in other ways. You’ll never zero in on the exact demographic, but what you have that makes you unique is you, and staying true to that is your originality. Do you, girlfriend!

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Coley Barrier says · 07.06.16

Kate, as many of the above patrons are saying, I, too, am not a big commenter, but felt I should after reading today’s post! My best friend and I adore your blog. Her son is right around the same age as your David, so it was fun to watch and read your experiences with your first as she was doing the same. I find your blog a breath of fresh air in the midst of a sometimes “heavy” world. I hate that people…trolls as they seem to be…are making your question your passion, but please know you have a faithful following of people who will stand by you in kindness and love! Best wishes to you and prayers for your family and sister!!

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Sherry says · 07.06.16

Having 3 little boys of my own, I look forward to seeing your snaps of them and reading your blog. You just have to think of the thousands of fans you have, there’s bound to be a handful of Negative Nancys who are, more than likely, just unhappy with their lives and want to vent somewhere. You handle it with way more grace and class than I would but I have very little tolerance for those type of people. Take it somewhere else. Please keep doing what you’re doing and ignore the ones you feel you have to tiptoe around and watch what you say. I, for one, appreciate it all. ๐Ÿ™‚

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Angela says · 07.06.16

Warm thoughts & wishes for both you & your sister!

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emily says · 07.06.16

I’m so sorry about Otis… It’s never easy to lose a family member, especially when it’s sudden. Sending lots of <3 to your sister and your family.

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Beth Tessier says · 07.06.16

I have no idea why you would get attacked by people. You are as genuine, nice, kind, and helpful as they come. It is true that hurt people hurt people. If someone can find something to be negative about with you, then they definitely are a wounded person. I can totally relate to you wanting to back off because of that. I feel like I struggle with that even in regular relationships. It makes me strive to be the encourager that I want others to be with me. I will definitely say a prayer for you and your family during this season of loss for your sister. I follow her on Snapchat and was very sad for what she was going through with her kitty. We have three kitties and they are definitely family. You and your family are absolutely precious, and your blog is definitely a bright spot in my day! I have no doubt at all that you will figure out your feelings and how to translate that into your blog. Have a blessed day.

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Laura says · 07.06.16

I’m sorry you’re dealing with hateful comments. I know the world and especially the internet are full of hateful people, but I imagine it must feel so invasive when they come into your blog where you share so much about yourself.

You seem like such a genuine, sweet person, and I’m so thankful for all that you share. Hang in there, mama.

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Jessica A says · 07.06.16

My daughter was born last year and I went back to work when she was 10 months old. Since then I’ve stopped reading 90% of the blogs that I used to because I simply don’t have the free time to read read read like I used to. Yours is one of the blogs I’ve kept in my feed. As a Believer and a mom in her twenties who loves hair and beauty products, I love your blog, Instagram and snapchat. I really connect to the content, your perspective on life and I identify with many of your day to day “mom” moments. So thanks and please keep blogging!

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Kelly says · 07.06.16

I’m a believer, as you are. So, be encouraged. You are a sweet light to the world. It’s no secret that we live in a very broken world. There is so much evil. And hatred. And jealousy. I understand you feel weary. Lately, I have felt weary, and, to be honest, scared of what is happening in America. So, we just need to remind ourselves, and each other, to filter out the negative, don’t even read it. I know it’s hard. Your vulnerability makes some of us not feel so alone and let’s us know that all moms/women go through a lot of the same things. It connects us. I’m lifting you and your sweet family up in prayer. Keep shining bright and sharing your joy!! ?

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Jenn says · 07.06.16

Hi Kate,
I’ve followed your blog for years now and I still remember crying when you announced you were expecting your first baby. I think you have something wonderful that makes many of us check in with you at the breakfast table over a cup of coffee. I think motherhood is one of the most exceptional gifts you’ll ever receive but I also think it’s important to keep a piece of yourself. As moms we often lose ourselves and it can become tiresome. Whether it’s blogging or being behind a chair and having your hands create an impressive style, I hope you continue to feel creative and most importantly respected by your readers. My best, Jenn

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Kate says · 07.06.16

You keep doing what you are doing, Kate and give no thoughts to those who wish to burden or bring you down. I have followed your blog for a few years now, and as one of your ‘more mature’ readers, I delight in learning and following your tips and journey with your lovely family.
Your warmth and honesty is refreshing. As a mom of a 22 and 25 year old, you have provided many a smile to me as I remember what it was like to have a small family. You are doing a great job.
Thanks for letting me share and sending a healing hug to your sister.

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Jen Agent says · 07.06.16

Kate, I am so sorry for your loss.. Losing a pet is losing a family member, definitely thinking and praying for your sister. On a different note, I have been following your blog for years… I’ve loved watching you grow as a blogger and seeing the changes in your life. From watching an awesome hair tutorial to seeing you be a mommy is so fun. You’ve always remained easy to connect with despite your growth in popularity. Please don’t let others rude comments put a damper on your creative outlet. People are hurtful and jealous. Stay positive! ๐Ÿ™‚

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Alyssa says · 07.06.16

So sad to hear about your sister’s cat and am thinking about her and your family! You’re the sweetest sister.

Thank you so much for sharing all of your thoughts and feelings in this post. Every single day I get excited to see what you post.

I think I can get a sense of why you might be feeling the way you’re feeling. I got that way too when I used to blog. People get verbally weird about things and it can really zap your creative energy. You’re a business woman who is allowed to look for different opportunities, and a human who is allowed to voice your opinion and change your mind. Please know that there are SO many of us that come to your blog every day and light up whenever we see that you’ve posted, no matter what it is! You’re truly a light on this dark dark place called the internet! Thinking of you and thank you for every thing you do!

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Jessica says · 07.06.16

You’re awesome and appreciated. Anything you put out here I’m interested in reading or trying. It’s gotta be hard to put yourself out there on a public platform. Have you read anything by Brene Brown? Or if her style doesn’t suit you, I’m about to start a book by Glennon Doyle Melton. May be the inspiration to get you over the hurdle. ?

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Stephanie O. says · 07.06.16

Aww, you are one of my favorite bloggers because I feel you are so real and light hearted! I love everything you provide to us and hate that you feel attacked by people. Keep doing you, boo!

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Chaile says · 07.06.16

I’m so sorry for you loss and I want you to know I am a long time, avid reader of your blog. So many of the things I use in my daily life came from recommendations from you. I don’t comment much because I don’t feel like I have much to offer but I hope you know that your posts are meaningful. I recently went through a major surgery to remove tumors from my liver (all benign thankfully). It was a very big procedure with a long hospital stay and even longer recovery. Having your content to read and your Instagram updates and snapchats gave me a sense of normalcy and comfort. I know putting yourself out there isn’t easy but please know it does make a difference.

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Sandy Danielson says · 07.06.16

Hopefully a commenter didn’t say something that was hurtful towards you but sounds like that might be so. It’s great to filter and the attacks always sting. There are more lovers than haters so be reminded that more readers enjoy your content and look forward to seeing/reading it! Sometimes we get all trapped up in our thoughts – why do I feel this way, should I feel this way, why can’t I get unstuck? I think acknowledging our frustrations & feelings to God like David does throughout Psalms and asking God for help in those moments and allowing peace to settle us down is key. Maybe you are pushing against a mental wall because you are on a cusp of a breakthrough – creatively, new level of business owner, and new leadership. Just some thoughts as I’m dealing with all of this now. And so sorry about Otis. My kitties, Pounce & Panda, are my family, and so sorry your sister is walking through this!

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SWall says · 07.06.16

Love your candid thoughtfulness, great tips & humor. You navigate this ever evolving e-world with grace & others could learn a lot from your example. Sending a big virtual hug to Lauren. Here’s a great article from a fellow WWSHS grad on the loss of a furry friend. They really do become like family & add so much joy to our homes & lives.

http://darlingmagazine.org/coping-with-the-loss-of-a-pet/#article-top

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Ginny says · 07.06.16

Kate- I’ve followed you for years, but never comment. Your tutorials are amazing, but I love following you on Snapchat and Instagram. Your boys are precious and they always bring a smile to my face. Please keep sharing!

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Jessica says · 07.06.16

Rising Strong by Brene Brown or Carry On, Warrior by Glennon Doyle Melton are the two books I was referring to by the way!

Also wanted to add that I have been trying to be more frugal with makeup and loved your post about the two Maybelline shades. I bought one on my way to a date night with my husband this past weekend. I never wear listick. I loved it!! Romantic Rose I think is what I went with ๐Ÿ™‚

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Mandi Depke says · 07.06.16

I recommended Brene Brown too! I hope Kate
looks into her. She’s amazing ๐Ÿ™‚

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Ann says · 07.06.16

I love your honesty and openness about your life and challenges you deal with. You are who you are and you don’t pretend to be something you are not. Which is awesome in a world where several people try so hard to make their life look ‘perfect’ online. Thanks for being you!

I can’t remember how I found your blog… I think through You Tube, but ever since I have been an avid reader. I have also taken more of an interest in my make-up and hair because of you. So thank you!!!

Many hugs to your sister and I hope that this weekend helps her.

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Sarah says · 07.06.16

Your blog is the only one I read. I love your personality and sense of humor. Thanks for sharing what you do!

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Sarah says · 07.06.16

I’ve commented a few times on your blog, here and there. Like many of your other readers, I found it in its early days. Since then, I’ve come to read it as often as I read the news, even if that means rereading old posts. Your hair and makeup tutorials are so helpful, especially for someone who was never taught how to do their hair or makeup. Your videos are almost liking having a big sister around, one who’s always willing to help me figure out how to do my hair, my eyeliner, even make some nifty recipe I never thought of. (And now? Even my fiance loves reading. As a fellow climber, he’s gotten a kick out of your husband’s occasional posts.)

It’s hard advice to follow but, don’t pay attention what other people have to say. Particularly when it comes to negativity. Some people just live to troll the internet to make up for the lack of happiness and fulfillment in their own lives. It’s sad, but true, and it’s better to just ignore their hateful, rude and unwarranted comments. Your readers know and love you.

As for Otis, there’s nothing quite as hard as losing a pet and I can’t even imagine what your family is going through. My family lost our dog, Oakley, last year and I still cry thinking about him. I went through middle school and high school with him by my side. Whenever I came home, no matter how late, I could rely on him to be up and waiting to cuddle. I hope that all of your are able to find comfort in the fact that he’s in a better place, even if that means he’s not with you. Losing a pet is hard, but sometimes it’s for the best.

This is long winded, especially for this early in the morning. But, thank you. Thank you for being that blogger that I can rely on to post some of the most helpful, heartfelt and humorous posts.

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Chris says · 07.06.16

Hi Kate,
I was thinking about you the other day as I was getting ready, remembering a comment I saw on one of your posts telling you to grow your hair out. It’s not the first time I have seen that here, but always wondered why in the world anyone would even say something like that? Granted, it’s not necessarily hateful, but it’s still not kind and definitely wasn’t solicited. I’m always amazed how mean people can get when they are commenting on a blog — it’s kind of scary actually that so many folks in this world have no filter or concern about others’ feelings. Anyway, a long way around to say I enjoy your blog, will pray for your family (especially your sis) & hope that the mean kids can just hush their mouths.

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Mandi Depke says · 07.06.16

Some food for thought on the negative ninnies…. They lack insight into what it’s like to be open and vulnerable. They lack empathy and compassion for humanity. They find Joy in being hurtful and judgemental of others. Time is precious and it’s unfathemable that they would waste time being negative but that is the sad reality of their shallow existence.

Have pity on them, they need it. Being open, vulnerable and genuine can be scary but it’s what made all this possible for you. Don’t let them rob you of anything you value.
Ps… Watch Brene Brown’s TED talk or look her up. She has really great material on vulnerability. Lots of humor too.

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Alyssa Phillips says · 07.06.16

It is so horrible to lose a pet ๐Ÿ™
You are my favorite blogger by far! I am a daily reader. I love how your posts are genuine and the variety of topics. And your snaps are great!

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Jenny says · 07.06.16

This is my first ever comment on a blog! Kate, I wanted you to know how much I’ve enjoyed your blog over the last few years – it is one of the first things I read in the morning, as well as the ONLY blog I follow ๐Ÿ™‚ I love all your tips, comments, thoughts on all aspects of life. I almost feel as if I know you, which is a testament to how talented you are!
My thoughts to your sister – I’m so so sorry for her loss. I know how it feels.
Big hugs!

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Amber says · 07.06.16

A few weeks ago, I went back and looked at a blog that you had posted a few weeks before that to find something about a product you had suggested. And there were ridiculous comments about left by people who have apparently too much time on their hands commenting on something that lead to others defending and then a long, ridiculous argument broke out. Seriously, what is wrong with people. I thought to myself, that if I had a blog, and was being attacked by keyboard bullies my first instinct would be to pull away from the blog. I’m guessing all bloggers have this. i hope you keep doing what you are doing. I enjoy your blog.

And we lost our dog after 12 years 2 months ago and man o’ man that has been tough. Hugs to you sister.

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Maria says · 07.06.16

There isn’t another blogger or snap chatter on the web that compares to you. I’m being so honest here. When I watch your snaps I feel like you are one of my friends. You are hilarious but you don’t know it! Genuine, a natural, & so smart!! I understand going through emotional dips & taking a breather too. I hope you will find, through many comments, that you will be dearly missed. I have learned so much from you. I’m praying for your sister…. I know how painful that is. ๐Ÿ™ Take time to be together, it’s the best medicine of all.

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Liz says · 07.06.16

I am so sorry to learn of Otis’s passing. Losing a pet is so difficult. I will be thinking of your sister and praying that the years of his companionship and the memories of him will eventually bring her comfort. I’m sad to know that people comment hateful things on your blog when you are always kind, fun, and helpful! There are people in this world that seem to find pleasure in bringing other people down. Try to disregard them….they aren’t worthy of taking up space in your head!! Truly, they are probably jealous. (This is what I always told my kids as they were growing up.) People who are happy and confident don’t find the need to criticize others. Keep doing what you are doing, Kate! You are a doll!

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Bryna says · 07.06.16

I have never been a “blog follower” until I came across you and your sister. I love everything you both share. I have used a lot of the tips you give or suggestions on makeup. I also enjoy your snapchats and instagrams and just fell in love with your sweet boys. I feel as though you and I are friends even though you have no idea who I am. โ˜บ๏ธ
Bottom line is you have a beautiful gift of sharing with such a graceful and genuine character. Sending hugs and prayers your sister’s way. Hopefully we will continue this friendship. ?

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Amber Willamson says · 07.06.16

I hope you know how much your blog means to me! I’m in my thirties and have three kids and a part time job. Right now in my life I pretty much have no friends because God put in my heart to focus on my family right now at this point of my life. I was praying for a friendship due loneliness and your blog popped up. Well they say God works in mysteries ways. I honestly consider you a friend. There are days when I check your blog before I even check my emails. There are days I will be feeling empty and alone and I see your posts and I get rejuvenated. Please don’t worry I am not obsessed or a stalker just an appreciated fan that is routing you along. Please don’t let negative people steal your sparkle God gave you a gift that blesses more lives then you know! God Bless and have a great week!

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Emily says · 07.06.16

Like so many have stated, I never comment but felt I should today. I hate that you have to read negative comments, I know that must hurt so I figure I should do my part in sharing something positive. My best friend and I were talking the other day about how you kind of brought us together! We teach together and talked often at school, but weren’t really close. However, one day she complimented my hair and I responded with “oh I just watched a curling tutorial by Kate from The Small Things Blog!” And she said, “OMG I read her blog too! Your curls look just like hers!” And of course this was the best compliment I could’ve ever received! ? Ever since that point we have bonded over all things beauty and life in general and become the best of friends. We talk about you like you are our friend as well! Keep up the good work Kate! You are awesome!

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Ashley says · 07.06.16

Thanks for sharing. I’ve been really bothered by the negative comments recently too and they’re not even about me. I’m sure it is hard to hear/read them and hope you know that for every negative commenter there are probably 50+ people who read and love your blog, but don’t comment. I really enjoy all of your content and through you I’ve tried new things (makeup, hair, recipes) and found comfort in your realness and sincerity.

Keep it up!

PS. thoughts and prayers for your sister and family, pets are one of us and they’re certainly never with us long enough.

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Tracy says · 07.06.16

Love your blog! Your snaps and everything. I look for them everyday!
Canadian follower.

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Whitney says · 07.06.16

I am a regular follower of your blog (and snapchat and IG) although I rarely comment. Sorry about that! After reading your post, though, I felt you should know that you’re one of the most relatable bloggers that I follow. You are always so down-to-earth and, even though we are different in a lot of ways, I always appreciate your perspective on things. It’s sad that people actually waste moments of their day to leave negative/hateful comments, but I hope you know it’s not a reflection on you or your blog. Keep doing what you’re doing!! There are a lot of us who are glad to have your voice in Internet-land.

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Megan D. says · 07.06.16

Hi Kate,

I don’t comment often (read: at all), but I absolutely love reading your blog. In fact, I’m not big into social media, and other than a couple of links you’ve given that I go back to on occasion yours is the only blog I read. I feel a bit like I’ve gone on a journey with you over the past couple of years. We have been married nearly the same amount of time, I have two boys and our younger sons are the same age. You have helped me so much with my personal style, creativity and confidence. Even my home decor has some “Kate” in it!

I say all this so you know that you have supporters, silent or otherwise, that you may not have realized you had such a positive impact on. It breaks my heart to know there are some who are silencing your voice here and on other sites, and I hope you are able to find a place you feel comfortable with for yourself. Saying “just ignore them” is easy enough to type, but a much different struggle in reality, and I understand that. So we are here for you, however you decide to move forward, and I look forward to it!

Thank you for all you do, and the joy and goodness you contribute to our community of women. You are a light in so many ways!

P.S. Please send my deepest sympathy to your sister and your whole family. Losing a pet is awful. ๐Ÿ™

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Tracy says · 07.06.16

This is the only blog I read on a regular basis. I love reading your tips, looking at your pictures, and your silly days with your boys on snapchat. I am sorry that people say mean things, especially about your sweet children. I hope that you will see how many people enjoy seeing your life. Thinking of your sister, losing a pet is very hard. Take your time sorting things out, we will all be here waiting for you!

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Gerley says · 07.06.16

First off I wanna say how sorry I am about your sisters cat. I don’t have any pets and didn’t grow up with any but I can appreciate how they are family members and their loss leaves a huge gap in your life. Will be sending warm thoughts!

I very very rarely read comment sections these days on anything I read online (other than recipes since those comments will ususally provide some form of feedback/info about said recipe) because they annoy me so much. People will ALWAYS find something to complain about.
Oh you support charity X why don’t you support charity Y?
Why did you paint your wall that awful color?
And I am pretty sure someone will read this and tell you how there are more tragic things to be sad about than your personal loss of a beloved pet in the grand scope of things blabla.

It really is a case of “And that’s why we can’t have nice things”. Some people just ruin the fun for everyone. Then again the other “Saviour” type is just as destructive. Constructive well thought out criticism and disagreement can be really inspiring in a comment convo and I am also put off by the “jumping-on-every-disagreeing-comment-to-save-the-author-brigade” some blogs have.
You as a blog writer don’t have the option to say “I will skip the comments” since you are interested in feedback and need to moderate the spam. I can appreciate the content as a reader and ignore both posts and comments I don’t care for and you as a content provider really don’t have that option.

I for one always appreciate the honest and raw posts online but I am well aware that the writers put themselves out there as martyrs in a way so we as consumers of the content can compare our secret thoughts anonymously “.This motherhood thing is hard/Sometimes life gets to me/I need more patience/Marriage is hard etcetc” Things people don’t want to admit to their friends and get judged for in real life. It’s something of a service you provide with your content: You say it and also take the backlash.

Unfortunately I don’t have any ideas on how to solve this since I can fully understand your need for self-protection and at the same time I have thirst for honesty as a reader. It’s the same direction that celebrity interviews take: either you get the PR angle (So much fun working with X/I drink lot’s of water so I stay young) which tells me nothing and bores me and no-one wants to hear that anymore OR you get honesty and- unfortunately- judgement.

I really hope you can find a solution that works for you!
Much love from Germany xxx

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Abi says · 07.06.16

Kate,
I am so sorry such a joyous weekend was so hard for you and your family. Thanks for being so open and sharing your heart and love for all things beauty, life and such on the blog! It’s a true treat to read your posts. This verse popped into my head as I began to type this comment “Do not let your heart be troubled and do not be afraid.” I know you and your sister are both struggling but I encourage you to take heart in this situation. You aren’t alone and although there are haters there are millions more that love you and what you do! Take today or maybe this week to refresh your heart, soul and mind. You deserve it!

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Kathy says · 07.06.16

I have always thought you were so brave and I’m grateful for it because you absolutely were the turning point for me investing in myself after kids and working from home. I understand how you are feeling and it’s unfortunate some people can turn this wonderful thing you’ve created negative. Please know you are a bright light for so many of us and we wish you all the best!

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Leah says · 07.06.16

Love reading these posts!! If you are searching for more topics to post..how about how you guys made that toy car ramp for your boys!? I’m dying to know!!

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Krystin says · 07.06.16

I have followed your blog for a long time and I normally don’t comment but I have seen too many of my favorite blogs shutdown because of mean spirited people. Just because someone has a thought doesn’t mean it always has to be shared. I think sometimes commenters feel a sense of separation from the blogger and forget to take into consideration that there is a person on the other side of what they are writing.

Keep doing what you are doing Kate! I adore the tips and the little look into your family life with your hubby & two boys, especially being a mom of a 15 month old myself. Just know that there are people out there who love your posts whether they are sponsored or not and we appreciate you sharing your knowledge! ๐Ÿ™‚

Ps. Sorry for your family on the loss of your sisters cat!

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Sherry Tomasso says · 07.06.16

I only read two blogs and yours is one of them. I am at a different place in my life (having two grown daughters) but you are so relatable that you DO feel like a friend! Your hair and clothing tips are the best! Please don’t stop sharing! You do you! We’ve got your back!

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Kerri says · 07.06.16

I love your blog and I feel like you’re a friend!! You have taught me so much about hair and I have loved reading about your boys!!
Praying for your sister, it is devastating to lose a pet!

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Jessica says · 07.06.16

Kate-

I started to read your blog when I found a hair style I liked on Pinterest. Since then you and Lauren have become a part of my daily life (not at all in a creepy way ?). I love that you are so real and share not only your joys but your struggles. You have a beautiful family and do what you need to do for them! Give your sister a big squeeze and help her through this difficult time. I trust that God will help you through these times.

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Samantha Stegenga says · 07.06.16

Kate, thank you for keeping it real! I appreciate you and your blog so much. I look forward to reading daily. I always learn something new! Praying for Lauren, hope you have fun spending time with her this weekend! ๐Ÿ™‚

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Adrienne from Toronto says · 07.06.16

Hi Kate!
I have followed you for about a year now, first finding you on Youtube accidentally, then your blog. To be honest, I’m not one to do my hair and make-up as artfully as you do in these tutorials, but I watch so that I can learn for my daughter some day, and because I just really enjoy your sweet, witty and all-around lovely, positive personality and energy!! I do hope you continue in a way that celebrates who you are, and where you are in your life right now… Maybe turn off the comments when it suits you, or have a third party screen them?
Sending love and hugs XO

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Amanda says · 07.06.16

Keep on keepin on, Sister! I can’t imagine anyone having a legitimate negative thing to say about you or the blog.

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Kathleen Elliott says · 07.06.16

Hi Kate!
I just have to tell you how much I appreciate your blog and especially the snap chats. I get so excited when I see your name pop up. My 3 girls are grown and I happened upon your videos of different hairstyles when I was looking for a style for my daughter’s wedding and have been hooked ever since. I keep telling my daughter to follow you, she would love your style and your boys. I joke with her and tell her what my best friend, Kate, says. I love your transparency and i am sure that you help more people than you can imagine. I’m not sure why people feel the need to make negative comments but try to only take to heart the positive ones. I’m sure it’s hard though.

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Myra says · 07.06.16

I love your blog and really enjoy reading it everyday. So sorry for your sister in law. Sending love.

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Jaclyn EC says · 07.06.16

You are amazing despite the rude and hurtful comments that you may receive sometimes. Do not let them mute you because I am such a genuinely true fan and am always looking forward to hearing those personal thoughts!

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laura says · 07.06.16

I love your blog! I especially love your snaps they are hilarious. I don’t understand why people have to be mean. If they don’t like what you have to say than they should just move on. Keep doing what your doing and don’t let the negativity of others get you down.

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Kallie B says · 07.06.16

I’m gonna join in on the “I don’t usually comment” club :).
How anyone can say mean, rude or hateful comments towards anything you post just baffles me. You bring so much to the blogging/Instagram/snapchat community and you’re hilarious.

Also – I’m so sorry to hear about your sisters cat. Losing an animal is hard. The fact that you bought her a plane ticket to help her through it shows just how big your heart is. You’re loving her well!

Alright – i feel like a complete creeper now. ๐Ÿ™‚ have a good one!

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Lynn Wilson says · 07.06.16

I don’t think I’ve ever commented but speaking as someone who is old enough to be your mom (even if a young one-ha), I want you to know that you are the only blogger I read regularly. I started reading because I am a hairstylist but love the way you purposefully meander through life and share your journey. That’s the way life is–sometimes “gung-ho”, sometimes “whoa-nellie”, sometimes “blaaaa”. I appreciate your honesty. So sorry about your sister’s fur baby ? They give us so much joy and losing them is certainly heartbreaking. Glad you and your boys will be able to love on her this weekend.

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Victoria says · 07.06.16

Kate,
Your blog is one of the few that I ready daily (as well as your sister’s blog) and I’ve been doing so since 2012! My husband hears about “what Kate said/did” on the regular ๐Ÿ™‚ Your style and personality are joyful so it is sad to think there are others who try to hurt that spirit. You are force for good, remember that! I’ll also be keeping Lauren in my thoughts- so very shocking and sad what happened to little Otis.

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Stacey says · 07.06.16

Hi Kate, Even though I am old enough to be your Mom (my kids are your age) I enjoy reading your blog. You are a ray of sunshine and speak honestly and clearly of your love of family and life.
Reading about your children is a joy and makes me remember the days when I was in the place you are right now.
I am sad to hear of your sisters loss of her dear pet, I too am an animal lover and have lost many pets in my lifetime. It is one of the most difficult things to endure.
I am mortified that you have people post hateful comments regarding your blog. They must not have very enjoyable lives.
Keep using your voice, you have a great outlook on life. Your positive and joyful vibe is something we all need more of.

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Heather says · 07.06.16

I love your blog, and you, Kate! I check in daily, and I do talk about you like a friend! I hope you find the joy in blogging again because it is so fun to read. Keep it up please ๐Ÿ™‚

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Kady says · 07.06.16

I absolutely adore your blog. I read several and yours is my favorite. You are so personable and relatable. So much so that I’m certain we could be real friends haha I love your snaps and seeing your sweet boys. It’s so disheartening that people can be so negative on a blog that is nothing but happy and positive. I’m sure it’s hard to deal with, but you have to remember that some people are only happy when they can bring other people down. It’s sad.

I saw yours and Laurens instagram yesterday about Otis. I’ve honestly never been so sad for someone I didn’t know. Losing a pet is so very difficult. My heart hurt for her and Milo. Otis was obviously incredibly loved and had a wonderful life. I hope she can take comfort in that, though I know that the only thing that will help is time. It’s so sweet that you bought her a plane ticket. You really are a lovely person, Kate. Don’t forget that!

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Kristen says · 07.06.16

Don’t let the haters get you down, Kate! It stinks that sometimes we feel we have to filter our thoughts to protect ourselves from what other people will say. I can never understand why someone would post negative comments on a blog they are choosing to read. I just don’t get it! Anyway, just wanted to send you some positive vibes from NY! I love reading your blog every morning with my cup of coffee and hearing your take on motherhood–I’m a first time mama over here and I consider you to be a part of my online mama “tribe” : )

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April Lemons says · 07.06.16

Hi Kate, I can’t imagine doing what I love to only have it nit picked by people who hide behind a phone or screen to spew out unkindness. It would be tough to deal with. Thank you for sharing these thoughts and feelings with us. Remember why you started blogging in the first place and what your goal is. As difficult as that is, keep your eyes on that. You know who you are and whose you are. God did not give you a heart of timidness. You have taughy me so much in the area of hair and makeup. You also have shared your faith. If God is for you, then who can be against you. I’m talking to myself too. It is very easy to let Satan and others attack your joy and make you question what your doing. But, God uses it all for His good. Even this blog is speaking volumes to women who feel like we have to shield our doubts and any feelings of weakness. Prayers for you and your sweet family!! You’ve got this!

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Julie says · 07.06.16

You are the only fashion/lifestyle blogger that I feel is truly authentic and I love that about you (even though I don’t really “know” you). Thank you for showing that you are a real person, with real emotions ๐Ÿ™‚

As someone that has lost a pet, I know what that empty sadness feels like. Time does help. Sending positive vibes to you and you sister from Indiana.

Keep on keepin on girl
xoxo, Julie

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Kim says · 07.06.16

I hope you realize how much your readers look forward to hearing your daily tidbits, life adventures, and, of course, helpful tips. I am a longtime reader, while other blogs have fallen by the way side, yours is a staple of my daily reading and enjoyment. Keep being YOU, Kate! Thoughts and prayers to your sister, big hugs!

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Elozabeth says · 07.06.16

Kate- I read your blog everyday! I love reading your thoughts on makeup, life, etc. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve tried a new product because of your recommendation. Beyond that, your posts are often a bright spot in my day. I am sorry about the ugly posts. I am convinced people who trolls blogs and write ugly things are people who
Have miserable lives. It’s really pathetic. Please keep doing what you love- so many of us appreciate what you do! God bless. xo

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Kate says · 07.06.16

I’m so sorry to hear about Otis. Thank you for sharing your life with us and being transparent. I’ve loved and followed your blog since you were pregnant with David. I was pregnant with my first child at the time also, and it was so nice hearing your mom side of the blog come out, over the years I have noticed the more personal content get lighter and truly I’ve missed it but I’ve understood completely. When I had my daughter 2 years ago she was born with a tongue tie that caused feeding difficulties – nothing serious and is healthy and thriving now but my husband and I really found out who loved and supported us during that time and sadly also, who didn’t. It was such a heartbreaking experience to walk through before she was diagnosed and then to have people we thought loved and cared for us were suddenly talking about our newborn negatively- well that was devastating. For the past 2 years I’ve felt like I really am cautious and filter who I share information with for fear that they will twist the truth again. It’s sometthing I continue to struggle with 2 years later and feels fresh again as we’re preparing to welcome our 2nd child into the world soon. But stories like yours ground me and help me remember I’m not alone in this wonderful yet sometimes heavy journey of motherhood. So, thank you for all the times you’ve been candid with us and kept it real.

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Stephanie says · 07.06.16

First of all, you’re great. I love reading your blog–personal stuff, tutorials, makeup info–I love it all! I’ll never understand why some people haven’t grasped the concept of “if you can’t say anything nice, don’t say it at all” but I’m sure I speak for the vast majority when I say that you’re fantastic and the fact that you put your true self into your posts makes you that much braver and better ๐Ÿ™‚ Have a happy week!

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Laura says · 07.06.16

I wrote a long thing but I decided to delete it and leave this instead – <3<3<3

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Whitney F says · 07.06.16

Hi Kate,

I just wanted to let you know how much I love your blog!! It’s become as much a part of my morning routine as my coffee and I look forward to it every day. I originally found your blog because of your amazing hair tutorials but I’ve kept on reading because you come across as such a genuinely kind and wonderful person. I really feel like I’m checking in with a friend every morning as I read. I often tell people how glad I am that I didn’t have this type of social media when I was a teenager, having said that, at 29 I still feel hurt and sadness over hateful things people say online. The only good thing is that I can more easily remind myself that it probably (read “definitely”) isn’t about me. Haters gonna hate. Just keep on being your wonderful self!! For every one negative comment there are a hundred of us that will sing your praises!!

My heart and prayers go out to Lauren and your family!! My pets are as much a part of my family as any human and I know the pain she’s going through. I’m also very close with my little sister so that is another reason why I love both of your blogs. You are a wonderful blogger, sister, wife and mom and I feel honored that you share your life with us readers!! Thank you!!

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Col says · 07.06.16

Dear Kate, so sorry to hear about Otis. I love your tutorials and blog. This is a great quote from the Dalai Lama…. “Don’t let the behavior of others destroy your inner peace”
Keep that bright light shining. You are such a sweet soul and please know that you help so many people.

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L Evans says · 07.06.16

Kate,
I’m sorry that are feeling down. I look forward to your blog each day. It’s so clever and I enjoy the helpful information you provide. There’s nothing you can do about negitive people so focus on the sweet friends and family. Keep up the good work!! Prayers for your sister and you.

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Laura says · 07.06.16

Kate!!! Oh, no!! I’m also a “never or hardly-ever commenter.” I’ve followed your blog for years and LOVE it! Like many others, I had to comment today! Please don’t stop being the sweet gal we fell in love with! Even though we’ve never talked, I feel like we’re friends (hopefully that doesn’t sound weird). I have young children as well and appreciate the real life stories you bring us in addition to your awesome hair and makeup tutorials.

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Jill says · 07.06.16

I have noticed a lot of lifestyle bloggers being conspicuously silent lately. I don’t like it. It’s not a good look. I may not agree with your opinions but I’d rather you state them than say nothing.

“If you stand for nothing-what will you fall for?”

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KG says · 07.06.16

I loved this post. I remember the first time I found you on the internet. I was looking for something to do with my hair and there you were. This was years ago. I love seeing how you are changing, your family is growing and growing up, and how you and Justin continuing to grow as a husband and wife, mother and father, and friends. I am long from my “baby” days, but get to relive them through you and your boys. I have a daughter, so raising boys is foreign to me. Your boys are rays of light and they always make me laugh. Oh and I love your little “snicker laugh” when you are on SnapChat and you are filming your boys. Through you, I was directed to your sister’s blog. It is a delight to see her and where life is taking her. I will definitely send her my thoughts at this hard time. I have noticed the being behind a monitor and using a keyboard has brought out the worst in some people. It is almost like they have no filters anymore and feel that words don’t hurt, and that their words have no consequences. Don’t listen to them. In our everyday life we encounter people who don’t like us, don’t understand us, and are just not happy people and to make themselves feel better, they make others feel bad. At this point in my life, I truly believe that “if you don’t like me – there is nothing I can do about that and I wish you good day”. It is easier said then done. I think as women, a majority of us, are people pleasers. We want people to feel good about themselves and we want people to like us. Well both are impossible. We should all remember what our mothers repeated to us all of the time when we were children “If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything”. I check your blog daily and feel like a friend has stopped by when there is a new post. I know I will never meet you in person, but I feel like we would be fast friends.

Keep on keeping on Kate!

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Erin C. says · 07.06.16

Kate,

I have been reading your blog for years. I look forward to a post every morning, almost like a chat with my best friend. We will never meet in real life, but I feel like I count you as a friend.

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Chelsea says · 07.06.16

I don’t take the time to comment often enough but I appreciate your honesty and openness in this letter. Love your blog and loving seeing you on all social media platforms but i understand how raw and mean it can sometimes be. Always remember your reasoning for starting the blog and don’t feel so pressured for content. Your true followers love the variety and anything and everything you post. Prayers for your sister

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Laura says · 07.06.16

Your blog is one of the only I read, and I read it almost everyday! Love it!

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Katie says · 07.06.16

When I started reading this post I thought it was going to end with you saying you wouldn’t be blogging anymore… I almost cried!! Thank you so much for being you and sharing your life, thoughts, tips, and family with us. I’ve been reading since before I had a son, and love all of it. Sometimes I wonder why people even take the time to post negative comments… If you don’t like it, don’t read it. But please don’t ruin it for the crowd who loves you! Deepest condolences to your sister as well. I follow her on Instagram and read her blog too. Losing a pet is so very hard.. I’ve wished numerous times that our dogs would be with us for our lifespan. Anyway.. thank you again for being who you are and sharing inspiration with others.

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Hannah says · 07.06.16

You are a wonderful blogger with such a joyful spirit that I really enjoy having in my life. I look forward to reading through the week to kind of give me a fun little boost for the day. My favorite things to read or when you get to learn more about somebody’s life. So thank you for doing what you do for your readers. You are great.

I have also thought so much about Lauren and I hope she can have fun this weekend since it has been such a tough time lately. I was so sad to hear about Otis because I know that it is never easy to lose a part of your family. I will keep her in my thoughts.

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Charlotte says · 07.06.16

I enjoy your blog so much! I believe some people find it very easy to attack and criticize others from behind their keyboard and that’s so very unfair. I hope you will continue to share your thoughts and stories with us. I truly enjoy them! I will definitely say a prayer for your sister. I am so sorry to hear about Otis! I am a cat & dog lover myself and my heart hurts for her.

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Kristin says · 07.06.16

I love your blog! It’s the only one I read every day! I work full time and have a 9 year old. What I hear in your blog post is someone who is beat down tired and sad for her sister. I am so sorry- I wish I could give you a hug and big starbucks. All pet lovers know the pain of losing one of your fur babies. It is true that to flip side of the love for/from pets is also the pain of losing them.
As a mom- I realized when my daughter was in her toddler days- that holidays were just becoming a beat down for me. Traveling with 2 little ones is hard – no matter how much you want to see relatives. I would plan these great magazine worthy activities and meals – but no one really cared and the kids certainly didn’t . My holidays became enjoyable when I gave up all of that. At Christmas we eat off paper plates (instead of the china I have to hand wash) so that I have time to actually play with my child and her new toys. At 4th of July we spend the day swimming and eat out. That way we enjoy each other instead of my fretting and being exhausted from getting to the store and grilling a big feast. Pick and chose your battles. The most important time is you with the boys – not travel to family, activities, meals or events.
As the person above me on the comments says – Keep on keeping on Kate!
…And ignore those negative comments! BTW – my favorite is the cubicle chats. Those are sooo fun! I really feel like you are in my office chatting with me!

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Kristan says · 07.06.16

I’m so sorry to hear about Otis. Sending thoughts and prayers to your sister. I love your blog, Kate. My blog recently went through a crisis of identity and I realized that I was limiting my voice and making it bland and boring. I was afraid of turning people off. Your blog is one of the ones I turn to for inspiration on the way that I want to blog. Obviously, you’re doing something right and connecting with your audience. Hopefully one day my readership will grow and I’ll make connections with people the way you have. Keep doing what you’re doing, and don’t mute yourself too much (though I totally understand wanting to avoid yucky comments!) xoxo, Kristan

PS – I tried that Seche Vive top coat you mentioned on Snapchat a while back and I’m obsessed with it. So much so that I wrote a giant post about it (publishing on Friday).

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Sarah says · 07.06.16

I am keeping Lauren in my prayers as she grieves the loss of her Otis. Our animals become such a part of our families and loosing them, especially so unexpectedly is devastating. As a younger sister with 2 nieces similar in age to your boys, I can tell you I often times choose to be around them as much as possible through a rough time, there is an undeniable joy that little ones can bring to you even at the saddest of times. Your blog is truly a pleasure to read and I am confident it will continue to be that way! Sending lots of positive thoughts yours and your sisters way!

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Jen says · 07.06.16

Reading your blog has become part of my morning routine. I look forward to it. I know it is hard, but I hope that you don’t take those negative comments to heart. Your content has varied more since your family has grown, and I see it as being more helpful. I think you described it well when you once said in a video that you’d like us to think of you as a friend sharing popcorn at Target. That’s how it really feels. So sorry for your sister. Pets really do become family members and it hurts so much to lose them. I will definitely keep her in my thoughts.

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Amy says · 07.06.16

Kate, I never comment on blog posts.. but I must say by far your blog.. instagram.. etc. are one of my favorites. I think you have an amazing family and I love how uplifting and genuinely sincere you are with your posts. Your snapchats with the boys make me LOL at times. So cute. Your content is so refreshing to view. Especially in a world with so much despair and drama. I hope you will feel more comfortable sharing (should you desire) things with your readers/viewers without fear of ridicule. Those type of people troll the internet looking for opportunities and have no sincerity to them. They’re hard to take, but are not worth your time. Thank you for sharing your life, family and talent with us.

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Jennel Mills says · 07.06.16

Kate, You are a beautiful soul and so inspiring! I think it says infinitely more about a person being mean than the person they are attacking. Easier said than done, but please don’t let it get you down! I always look forward to your posts and think your blog is one of the best. Prayers are going out for you and your family.

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Diane says · 07.06.16

Hi Kate, I don’t know why people post mean things. “Hurt people hurt people.” I can’t remember where I read that recently. Maybe Gretchen Rubin? But it is true. What people put out into the world is most often a reflection of themselves. You are such a blessing, and I am so grateful every time I read your blog. You inspire me to be more open with others.

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Katrina says · 07.06.16

Like a number of other people here, I find your blog, instagram and snapchat to be such a fun addition to my days. My son is just a little over 2, so I love to hear what your boys are up to. In the evening when I get home, my son loves to see what other kids are doing, so when he hears kids voices coming from my phone he quickly chimes in “I wanna see, I see!” I really hope you continue to do what you do (as long as it makes you happy) and not let the rude people dampen your outlook sharing a small piece of your life with others.

Thinking of your sister during this hard time. Love seeing you together and the fun you have! I love being an aunt almost as much as being a mom, so I hope the trip gives her as much joy as possible during these hard days.

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Amy says · 07.06.16

Kate,

As many before me have said, I don’t think I have every actually responded to a blog post before! I hope that you can see by these messages and comments that the work you do on your blog inspires so many of us day in and day out. It takes a special type of person to be vulnerable and share your life online with so many strangers, but I hope you can see how much we as readers value what you do. I’m sure I’m not the first to say that you teach me so many things about beauty products, hair styling, and more importantly life. So many of us see you as a “long-distance friend” and as a valued part of our daily lives! I’m always telling my friends, “Kate from the Small Things Blog is doing this with her hair today…” or “Kate from the Small Things Blog is talking about this make-up today…”. I started following your blog during my college years as I was trying to find myself and my place in the world. Today as a young adult, your blog still inspires me the way it did while I was in college.

It’s hard for me to encourage you to “just look past the negativity” because I hold onto negative comments for an absurd amount of time. While all of us are here commenting and letting you know how much we adore and value you, how you process negative comments is a personal matter. Take time off if you need time off. If you need to stay muted for a while as you work through this, take all the time you need. As you can see there are many of us that appreciate the work that you do and we want to continue to see your light and gentle spirit!

Thank you for everything, Kate!

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Elena says · 07.06.16

I’m sorry to hear about your sister’s loss. Pets are a big part of the family, and I know it’s hard to get over losing a close life companion. I’ll keep her in my prayers.

You’re one of the few bloggers I follow, and I think it has to do with how real you are. With that realness comes the good and bad. Unfortunately, we live in a critical world where negative comments seem to be the norm. I don’t think it’s fair to sit behind a computer and judge someone for doing what is right to them and what makes them happy. I’ll never understand it.

I’ve learned that if you send out positive vibes (sometimes easier said than done) the world will return the favor. So, although I don’t typically comment, I want to thank you. Thank you for taking time out of your busy schedule to share tips and advice. Thank you for being real and sincere. Thank you for inspiring me.

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Marsha says · 07.06.16

Hi Kate,
I’ve been a loyal follower for years. The saying “sticks & stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me” isn’t true. Words, in fact, can hurt a lot. Your post brings to mind Matthew 12:34-“From the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks.” People who spew cruel & unkind words are showing the true condition of their hearts so it’s really a heart problem w/ them that shouldn’t be directed at you. Keep your chin up! You are appreciated!

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Donna says · 07.06.16

I have never commented before to someone I don’t know, but that’s just it, I feel like I know you. Each day I get to see a little glimpse of your life and it lets me know that there are still hard working, caring and loving families out there trying to make it and and above all, trying to make the world a better place. Thank you for teaching me new things, for giving me courage to try new things, for taking me places I have never been and for sharing your world. Your Snapchat always makes me smile.?
Thoughts and prayers for your sister. Our pets make our lives so much better and they are never with us long enough.

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Beth says · 07.06.16

Your blog is the only one I check daily for new posts or videos. And I’ve always been most impressed how you have handled or even been able to pass commenting on trolls or rude comments. Keep up the good work. You have set the bar high for all other bloggers!!!

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Aaryn says · 07.06.16

Love you blog and snaps and everything in-between, Kate. Warm wishes/thoughts/prayers to your sister, your family, and YOU as you are also going through a time!

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Melissa M says · 07.06.16

I get teary eyed just reading this. My cats are my babies so my heart goes out to your sister. I hope this weekend will bring a smile to her face. Ive been a longtime silent reader of your blog and love following on snapchat. Thank you for sharing your life!

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Rachel says · 07.06.16

I love your blog and can’t imagine how hard it must be to have people criticizing your photos and posts. You handle it with a lot of grace! I’ve been reading since my college roommate showed me your hair videos. Now I’m married and have a toddler of my own and a second baby on the way. I love reading your personal stories for entertainment, encouragement and advice and I love your tutorials and product recommendations (I can’t tell you how many things I’ve bought that you’ve suggested and you’ve never steered me wrong). I follow your sister a bit as well and was so sorry to hear about Otis. He sounds like he was a fantastic cat.

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April says · 07.06.16

Hi Kate! I really enjoy your blog and hope you feel back to yourself soon! I love your snapchats, periscopes, and blog posts. I really look forward to them and learn so much. So sorry to hear about your sister’s cat. I follow her as well and I am so sad for you all. Many thoughts and prayers!

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Sara says · 07.06.16

Kate!
Your blog is one of a small handful I read. I’ve never commented on your blog before, but just wanted to leave you a note today to let you know I love your updates, videos and pictures! Keep them coming! And ignore the trolls…

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Nikki McQuaid says · 07.06.16

Hey Kate.
I want you to know that Ii absolutely adore you! I check my email and your blog daily. Inlove ypur journey from being a young hottie to an amazing mither. I even searched your second c sections on your blog to re read about your experience for advice on my second. I also have 2 kids and have had similar experiences as you with the transition of being a parent. I also looove love loooooooooove your hair and make-up tutorials. I also love your fashion tips. I am so sorry you have had a drop of negativity on your blog. But I just enjoy you so much!

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Maggie says · 07.06.16

Kate,

I’m so sorry for your sister and loosing her kitty! I just wanted to say I look forward to your blog everyday. I have also learned so much from your tutorials and love your warm, engaging nature. I also enjoy watching your boys grow and sharing in the experience with you (from afar) as a fellow mom of 2 young kiddos very close together! I hope that you find comfort in all the previous comments and continue to use the blog as a creative outlet, because as a reader I really do love it.

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Sherry says · 07.06.16

Can’t even imagine why anyone would have a hateful response to you. Love your blog and thank you for sharing.

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Jennifer says · 07.06.16

Hi Kate, I live in a large town called Loughrea, in the west of Ireland. I love your blog. I first found you on youtube when I had little income to get my hair done to go to a friends wedding and I found your videos that were so easy and manageable. I didn’t know then that you wrote a blog but when I discovered it I just loved it. I find it fascinating to see firstly another mother in a whole different country raising her family at the same time I’m doing the same here in Ireland and secondly all the different content you put on it. I just don’t get why people would even find something negative to say about it, even if they didn’t like it, you are just one click away from them NOT reading it or leaving hateful comments. That’s terrible about your sister’s cat. Grief and love are so personal. We have a dog that drives me crazy but I still secretly love her. I hope she can feel better soon. Keep spreading the love, happiness and the few minutes sanity you give to your followers every week, we love it!!!

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Elizabeth says · 07.06.16

I echo many of the same sentiments that others here have said as well. You and Lauren are part of my daily life and my sister and I feel so connected to both of you. Your friendship and love with each other reminds of ourselves, and between both of your make up suggestions I have found a few of my all-time favorite products. I remember when you first opened up about your struggle to become pregnant with David and how you were determined to stand in your faith in God during that season and it so resonated with me and where I was at in my life at that time. I appreciate the way you have opened your life up to us, I can only imagine the struggles at times of living in front of so many people. I believe that God has given you favor with men and given you an audience because your heart has been focused on him and not on the attention you receive. I love your voice and hoping that you’re able to break through this creatively dry time! Praying for your dear Lauren, and you also in this time of difficulty for you both. I wish you TONS of laughter and joy this weekend together!

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Amanda says · 07.06.16

Kate,

I have been reading your blog and following your social media for a few years now. You are such a sweet soul. I’m sorry to hear of the attacking comments, and for that I say that strong women build each other up and not tear down. If they’re attacking you, then the problem lies with them and not you. All you can do is pray they can find something to do with all that spare time ๐Ÿ™‚ Keep on doing you, girl……

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Kelsey says · 07.06.16

Hey Kate!

I have been a long time reader, but never really commented. I do adore you and this space. I love your sense of humor, your “realness” and reading about your life. It always shocks me that people feel they can say such hateful things from being a keyboard. I hope you know (and I think you do) that there are so many who love what you’re putting out there. Reading your posts is always a bright spot in my day! Thanks for being you!

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Jennifer says · 07.06.16

I’m so sorry about Lauren’s cat. I’m a mom to a teenage son but my cats are like my babies. When one dies, I’m absolutely destroyed.

And I’m sorry to hear about the mute button thing.

I’ve been meaning to send you a thank you note for the great interview you gave to Lauren Hooker. So thank you! That was really inspiring to me as a blogger trying to figure out her niche. Hang in there.

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Erin @ Her Heartland Soul says · 07.06.16

I’m so sorry about your sisters cat!! ๐Ÿ™

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Lisa Hays says · 07.06.16

I’m so sorry about Otis. My cat went outside (normal occurrence ) 3/22 and I haven’t seen him since. Cat lover here………..

I follow 6 blogs and they have similarities but are different as well. They are my guilty pleasure with coffee. I save yours for the last because it’s like dessert for my mind. Life is treating me a little roughly right now (altho I am incredibly blessed) – and so I have decided to have my dessert BEFORE dinner!

I love what you do and am happy you have the ability to do what you do from home. Please continue!

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Nicole A. says · 07.06.16

Losing a pet is the hardest thing in the whole world. So I will be sending out some positive and loving thoughts out there to your sister. So nice of you to fly her to spend some time with family.

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Misty says · 07.06.16

I’ve also been one to read your blog for the last several years but I think I’ve rarely commented before. Just wanted to again reiterate how GREAT it’s been to follow you the last couple of years and see your personality come out through your posts!! I have absolutely NO experience in blogging, haha, but I can imagine it can take a lot to be creative and share both professionally and even personally! I almost feel it’s probably normal to go through moments in life where creativity is lacking a little.

I’m more of an introverted extrovert that always needs recharging after being around people lol; just want to say I admire and appreciate your candidness with your posts and feeling like you have the openness and trust to share through your blog despite what negative people/comments are out there!!

You have been able to create such a wonderful following (evidence being ALL these wonderful people/comments above!) by sharing your life with us and I hope we can provide some of that support and trust right back to you right now! Thinking about you and Lauren and the whole family right now!!

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Helen says · 07.06.16

I never comment but like others have said wanted you to know I read your blog every day and appreciate all that you post and share. I’m also so sorry for the loss of Otis such a hard thing for your sister and family. i have seen some of the negative comments and really can’t comprehend why someone would do that . I hope you are able to surround yourself with love and light and find a way to not let the negativity bother you….so much easier said than done. Take good care and know that there are many of us who you don’t hear from who care and appreciate what you do.

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Meagan @ My Life as Mrs says · 07.06.16

Sending love to your sister! I can only imagine how devastated I’m going to be when my Shadow dies. Pets are so precious so my heart is sad for her <3

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Jen @ On the Money Menu says · 07.06.16

Kate- I LOVE your blog! It is the first thing I check every single morning! I have gotten so many great and inspiring makeup and hair tips from you!! In fact, after ordering some of your makeup recommendations I have had coworkers comment on where I get my eyeshadow and what brand I’m using!! Never have had someone ask before so thank you, thank you, thank you for all your tips and suggestions! You have even inspired me to create my own blog which features money tips, weekly deals and savings ideas. Keep up the amazing work!!

http://www.onthemoneymenu.blogspot.com

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Emily F says · 07.06.16

Hugs to you. I just want to say that I love reading your blog! My sister-in-law and I talk about you like you are our friend. “did you see that thing Kate shared?” You are so caring, informative, bubbly, and just fun! I’m sorry that some people feel the need to attack others and try and steal their joy. It’s just not right… And I hope that you continue to share with us. I love to read/see/watch what you have to share!

And hugs to your sister. I don’t even know what to say… Losing a pet is just awful. My heart is breaking for her. I pray that she is able to remember all of the good times and feel peace knowing that they had each other. She provided him with the best life.

Thinking of you both today!

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Lauren says · 07.06.16

I recall seeing this somewhere this weekend – and my heart broke. As a fellow animal lover, the thought of the loss of a furbaby hurts deeply.
I am inspired by how thoughtful you are in helping your sister be distracted for a bit.
Love to you both.

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Catherine says · 07.06.16

I am so sorry about sweet Otis. Losing a pet is so hard. We had to put our 16 year old lab down the day after Christmas a couple of years ago. It was awful You guys are all in my prayers.

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Lynn says · 07.06.16

Dear Kate, I’ve read your blog from the beginning, don’t recall how I ever found it, but I digress. A day without Kate is a day without sunshine! I love your blog! And I’m at least 25 years older than you! You have fantastic hair and makeup tips, I’ve never worn eyeshadow daily until you made it look so effortless and not overly made up. I have learned oodles of hair tips, even though mine is just above the shoulder length. I love reading about your cute little boys, as mine is all grown up. Just an idea, maybe you could do some hair and makeup tips for us older gals…find some models, use your mom, just an idea.
In closing, I have a lot of respect for you. I adore your blog and never miss a day. I’m so sorry about your sisters cat…I had one for 14 years no losing her was tough. We now have a crazy beagle we adopted from the shelter, she completes us:)
Hugs, and hang in there!

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Melanie says · 07.06.16

I, too, rarely comment. But, I feel compelled.

I hate that people are so cruel, hurtful and just plain spiteful. I wish there was a way to get rid of it or prevent people from being so awful. For what it’s worth, there are so many of us out here who adore you and the fresh, honest and realness of your blog. For me, you make beauty, life, and motherhood relate-able (not a real word, I know). You don’t come across ‘holier than thou” or superficial. Your priorities are in the right place and you are real. I’m guessing the trolls are simply jealous; not that that condones their behavior or justifies it in any way. I hope you’ll continue to be who you are and take care of you and your family. This sort of thing makes me very afraid of the world we live in and they type of environment and social norms we’re bequeathing our children.

I’m so sorry for the loss of Otis. The loss of a pet leaves a hole in your life. It leaves people feeling isolated, raw, and incomplete. My heart is so heavy for all of you! Your sister might find some solace in “Cat Heaven” by Cynthia Rylant. We received a copy when our dog died and even though it is a picture book, it is beautiful and provided some peace while we said good-bye and adjusted to an unexpected death of our previous dog. If anything, it might be a title to remember for the day you need to help your children grieve. It certainly helped us when our daughter was 18 months when we lost our dog. Cynthia Rylant has a way with words that is beautiful and comforting.

I hope you find some peace in the enormous amount of love all of us non-commentors (another made up word) are sending you. You are touching lives with your work. Thanks for having the courage to do what you do, make yourself vulnerable and bring such joy to the rest of us. I’ve been reading a lot of Brene Brown lately and her words on vulnerability remind me of you. You have been very daring to put yourself out there and should be commended for it. I admire you and the way you conduct your life! I hope all of these comments from people all over the world give you just a tiny glimpse of the ways you’re impacting the lives of countless people.

Hugs!

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Stacy says · 07.06.16

Sending positive energy your way Kate! Keep up the excellent work as usual!
Maybe you just need a good ole’ vacation from work and take a week off?!?!
This intense heat in NC isn’t helping either.

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Kelly says · 07.06.16

Haters gonna hate! It took me a long time to realize that some people are just toxic, or unhappy, and it is more to do with them than you, and they recreate this dynamic everywhere they go. There is no sense in trying to please, because they will only find fault- in fact, I’ve found the more you try to please them or make things right the messier things get because they are intent on being discontent and finding fault. Sometimes people still shock me though! I am not the “blog commentor type” usually… love your blog and you- I check it religiously since I discovered it a couple of years ago!

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kimberly oyler says · 07.06.16

even though i don’t have any kids or pets, and i know i’m probably not going to actually get around to doing whatever tutorial you post #lazy, i still come read your blog everyday. i love hearing stories about your day, your husbands crazy adventures, and your time with your family. when you posted on instagram about justin surprising you with a birthday party at one of those escape rooms, i felt SO genuinely excited for you! that is because you have done such a good job making this blog feel personal; we feel like we know you! i think you have a good head on your shoulders and are obviously someone who genuinely wants to help others, so you have my permission (not that you need it ;)) to continue being exactly who you are! that’s why we read this blog after all, we really like you! ๐Ÿ™‚

happy hump day, kate!

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Tracey R says · 07.06.16

Kate,

I don’t know you, but I love you. I love watching your hair tutorials. When I’m watching you I feel like my friend is helping me with my hair. I always get compliments on my hair when I’ve done one of your tutorials. I always give credit to you. I love watching you with your cute little family. Enjoy your children while they are little. They grow up to fast. I have 3 chilfren a 15 year old boy, and 13 year old b/g twins. It seems like yesterday and I was right where you are at now.
Hopefully, you will find some more i inspiration soon. I and many others enjoy you! You have been such a blessing to so many people. I understand your feelings though. I tend to be more reserved and choose not to comment on a lot of things because there are many people out there almost like vultures just waiting to pounce on someone’s post. I can’t imagine anyone saying anything bad about anything you do. I find you positive and uplifting. Try not to dwell on unkind things others may say, instead focus on the good.

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Mikki says · 07.06.16

I’m so sorry for your sister’s loss. Losing a fur member is never a fun thing to go through but I can verify that nephews help with the sadness. Its amazing the healing that can be brought my a little one’s sweet hugs and cuddles.
I’m also sorry you feel muted, I’ve been dealing with that personally as well. I love your posts. I feel less like I missed that class in school where we were taught how to do girlie things like braids and makeup and more like a grown adult that doesn’t ALWAYS need to rely on a ponytail holder to deal with my mop. And that I have a go to friend out on the interwebs for help or a smile. I’ve loved watching your family grow and enjoy the little insights into your life that you share. I hope you find a balance that makes you happy. And that you and your sister can have a wonderful visit.

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Christine says · 07.06.16

Hi Kate! Just a quick note for you to realize how much I look forward to your posts Snapchat’s, Instagram posts, Twitter…you name it! Through the years I have felt your joy of having your boys and watching your family grow. Please keep being you; the smart beautiful articulate mommy and wife and blogger that you are ! I wish you didn’t feel this way. I hope you read all the comments and gain confidence and know how much your readers adore you And only wish you the best ๐Ÿ™‚

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Patty says · 07.06.16

Don’t let mean people get you down. Don’t let them change your voice. I love your content and amount of family, tutorials, makeup reviews and everything. I’ve followed for years and appreciate how much you share, keep it going ?

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Amber says · 07.06.16

I’m am so very sorry about the passing of Otis. I had watched your sister’s snaps about him being ill, but I didn’t know he had passed. My heart hurts for her as well.

I’m sorry that you’ve been feeling a creativity lull. Hurting people hurt people is a saying I feel is so true. I believe we are living in a world of hurt, or just a world where people feel the need to hurt others as much as they are hurting, both with words and actions. No one person will ever please everyone and I do hope that those with hate to share won’t silence you from sharing with us. I only downloaded periscope so I didn’t miss out on that avenue of your sharing. ๐Ÿ˜€ Hope your week gets a little brighter.

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Amy B. says · 07.06.16

I’m really sorry about your sister”s cat. I could feel your family’s pain in your post. It is ao hard to lose any pet, but unexpectedly makes it even worse.
I don’t usually comment, but I wanted to tell you that I enjoy your posts.
Being a mom is hard work. Mine are both in college now. Still, it can be demanding. It means your doing things right though.
The sleep thing, I wish I had answers for! Women stress at night. It kinda stinks!
Hang in there. Sending you some love from Ohio.
Amy

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Katlyn Huff says · 07.06.16

Always love your honesty and openness. Thank you for allowing us in your life. Your snapchats bring so much joy!

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Heather says · 07.06.16

Hi Kate, I work in social media for a living, so I know how ruthless people can be. I don’t quite understand it, except that a lot of people out there are hurting and they can project it easily onto others, usually with a lot of anonymity. Everybody goes through periods of low creativity. I suggest reading Psalm 139. That always grounds me. As well as getting enough sleep, exercising and having fun. Easier said than done.
I am so sorry to hear about your sister’s pet. I know how it feels. You are a good sister. God knew that she would need you guys. Hang in there. This too will pass.

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Melanie Smith says · 07.06.16

I’ve rarely commented on your blog, but I have been a faithful follower for years. Love seeing how your family has grown. I am old enough to be your mother (and then some!) but I so enjoy your posts. I often send your posts to my daughter who is currently in cosmetology school and has just recently started a You Tube channel with a friend. May the Lord strengthen you as you share your heart with us all. It can’t be easy laying open your life for others to see and to have some attack you or criticize you. Prayers for your sister during this sad time and for you as you endeavor on in your blogging efforts.

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Lora says · 07.06.16

I don’t comment much but I’ve loved your blog for years. It’s totally your call on how much you feel comfortable sharing and I’m sure that will evolve over time, especially as your kids grow up. I can’t believe how much negativity and just plain nonsense YouTube-ers and bloggers have to put up with. I’m grateful for all the help you’ve given me. In fact, just today on a video conference a co-worker complimented my hair and makeup. The hair was straight out of a tutorial of yours I found on Pinterest and the makeup was remarkably similar to something you did on Periscope recently. You’re my secret weapon Kate! ๐Ÿ™‚

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Dana says · 07.06.16

I am so grateful for your blog. My kids are older than David and Luke, but I do enjoy seeing pictures of them and hearing the stories! I also love your beauty tips and all around advice. I often tell my husband things I learned from my “beauty-blogger-girl!” He mostly doesn’t care, and let’s face it, he’s a guy, but he humors me!

Thank you for being you and sharing your life with us! I follow your sister on Snapchat and have been on “Poopwatch 2016” right along with her. I will say a prayer for her and sweet Otis that he’s welcomed with open paws on Rainbow Bridge. โค๏ธ

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Traci Hartmann says · 07.06.16

I had to help my cat cross over a couple weeks ago only to have my other cat suddenly pass not a week later, I think they we’re meant to always be together. Big warm hugs for your sister and you as well as it seems you could use it as well. I lift you all in prayer.

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Michelle says · 07.06.16

I rarely comment, but I love following you on here, Instagram and YouTube. We live in the same area and I always wonder if one of these days I’ll see you ๐Ÿ™‚ Your words are always so positive and uplifting. I hope you’ll keep sharing.

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Andrea says · 07.06.16

So sorry for your sister’s loss, I’ll keep her in my prayers. I love how honest this post is! There can be a lot of negativity in the blogging and social media world, but there is also a lot of positive people out there that will support and love what you are doing ๐Ÿ™‚

http://www.thebeautydojo.com

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Amanda says · 07.06.16

Kate –
I’ve been a reader since before you had David. I have to tell you I totally got caught up in reading some of the hate out there and I can’t believe these people have the time in their lives to go and post how much they hate someone on another site. It’s appalling! They seem to criticize every single detail of anyone’s life. No body has time for that much hate!!

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Jamie Preston says · 07.06.16

You are my favorite blogger!!! There is nothing you say or post that I don’t relate too or like! My 2nd daughter and your cute David are a week apart and its been a joy to watch your boys grow thru your blog!! I hope one day to run into you somewhere, but then I’m afraid I’d weird you out because I feel like I know you so well!! Ha-ha Thank you for all the time you out into your blog!! I hope your creativity gets sparked again because you are awesome!!

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Lauren says · 07.06.16

Like many others have said, I don’t comment often, if at all, but feel compelled to do so today. Reading your posts on the blog, Instagram and watching your snaps has been so fun for me. My hair and makeup have never been better, but more importantly, your kindness, enthusiasm and fun spirit have made an impact on me as well. Thank you for sharing your life with us. I, for one, absolutely love it!!!

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Amanda says · 07.06.16

Kate, I am so sorry to hear that you are feeling weighed down by all the negativity from commenters. I can certainly understand how difficult it would be to deal with that on a daily basis, no matter how many supportive comments you may also receive. I just wanted to chime in as another “rare commenter” to tell you that I have loved your content from the very beginning, and while I still LOVE your hair tutorials, I have so enjoyed getting to “know” you more personally over the past couple of years through glimpses into your real life via instagram, snapchat, and periscope. I adore your blog and your social media presence!!!!!!! Thank you for sharing your gifts and talents, and also little pieces of YOU with all of us!

Thoughts, prayers, and hugs to your sister and your family on the loss of Otis. Losing a pet is so difficult.

Amanda

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Fran says · 07.06.16

Oh Kate, I am so sorry about Otis and how you have been treated. I love your blog and have for years. I am not as brave as you to reveal the background as to how I came across your blog, what I was going through and how you helped so much, but know that you were a big part in helping me through that period. I look forward to your posts so much and will even do Archive Roulette if I am going through sleepless weeks and devour the older posts. My husband even asks after you, or if I have done something new with my hair, he A. Notices (shock horror! Aha) and B. Asks if Kate Smallthings showed me ? you have touched so many lives in such a positive way, I wish it had been the same in return so you could truly know your worth.
Sending so much love and understanding, take it easy. โ™ฅ

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Marisa says · 07.06.16

I think all writers experience that ebb and flow of creativity, especially when they feel like they’re constantly on the chopping block because of all the criticism they receive. For me, I like to take a day away from the internet completely and recharge by having some good conversations with people who are close to me. That always gets me going again.

Also, I find it odd that people would leave harsh comments at all. I mean, I know it happens, but I can’t figure out why. If you have the entire internet in front of you, why would you spend so much time and energy on the blog of someone you don’t agree with? I’m sorry you’re dealing with those kinds of people right now.

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Lisa says · 07.06.16

So sorry to hear about your sister’s cat. It’s also sad to hear that people feel the need to be mean on blogs and say hurtful things. I look forward to reading your blog and I check out a lot of your recommendations. It is always great to see your pretty, smiling face on your blog page. Don’t let the nasty people get you down. Much love from Arizona.

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Christy says · 07.06.16

I’ve been reading your blog for a couple years now on a very regular basis, and now that I have snapchat (which by the way I love and feel we could be best friends)I follow you there, too. It’s sad that people can’t keep their rude comments to themselves, and especially for someone like you. Just ignore them and keep doing you! You’re amazing!

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Karen says · 07.06.16

Oh my…what can I say!…everything I thought after reading your entry today has been said by all your million readers! No need for me to repeat what has already been said!
You ROCK GIRL…love everything about you! I’m old enough to be your mom and you inspire me!
So sorry to hear about Otis…it is so hard to lose an animal…they are so much a part of our family! We lost our dog five years ago…we were a mess for a long time! Prayers to your sister for her loss!
Love, from Wisconsin!

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Shasta says · 07.06.16

I’m so incredibly sorry for your sisters loss. Pets are a part of the family and it’s so sad when you have to say goodbye to them. Hang in there! As for the hateful comments, there’s always going to be someone that is jealous or hateful and will say mean, nasty things. Just keep your head up, and don’t let them get to you.

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Cassandra Russell says · 07.06.16

I’m sending good vibes and prayers up for your sister. I feel like it’s so cruel that our animals cannot walk beside us for our entire lives. They certainly become family. On another note, I enjoy reading personal blog posts the very most- perhaps because that’s what blogging began as for me. If I don’t like or agree with something a blogger posts, I just stick to what my mother always told me: If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all. I don’t know why some people feel the need to be hurtful, but I hope they find some peace and happiness within themselves one day, because hurting others never really makes anyone happy (or at least that’s what I believe). I feel that people often think that they can say what they wish because the internet offers anonymity. I, on the other hand, as a shy person, often speak up and complement or congratulate someone online who I might not get to tell in person. At any rate, I love your blog, and keep being you! You’re awesome!

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jennifer says · 07.06.16

Kate-
I’m so sorry about your sisters cat.We,too,are animal lovers & our pets we adopt become our babies.I know the pain of losing a precious cat,ours died in 2012 and I cried uncontrollably for days.Its was so painful to lose her & we think of her daily(even thought we have a dog now) But she knew she was loved and we cared for her- even have a photo album full of just her and us. We rescued her from the outside world she was so afraid of.Knowing that she was loved made it a little easier.My prayers & hugs go out to your sister.

As for you leaving your thoughts to yourself….You should write whatever you feel like writing.You have to remember,no matter what,there will always be someone negative out there who can’t wait to type back ugly words.That is their insecurities on themselves.NOT yours!!!
I enjoy your post.I read very few blogs.In fact,currently,yours is really the only one I keep tabs on.I related b/c I love your hair tutorials,weight issues after having kids& now,I enjoy seeing your precious boys & wishing our girls were still that little.You have a very nice blog.Do not let the negative people out there get you down.You are adorable!

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Laura says · 07.06.16

Please don’t listen to negative comments. Your blog is fabulous, you have really inspired me to try out different hairstyles, practise make-up techniques, listen to pod-casts and eat really healthily. All of which have resulted in people commenting that I look fantastic. So, people who are negative towards you are clearly jealous of your success and the number of people that follow you. Ignore them! They don’t deserve your thoughts or your time.

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Cindy says · 07.06.16

I’m sorry for your sister’s loss as well as your whole family. A loss is sad of any kind. May God comfort you all. Time with your sister is always best. At least that has been my experience. ? I agree with others; you can’t live for others. Be you. That’s why your fans started following you. Negative people thrive on putting others down. You shine as you always do; we’ll keep following. As a former teacher coming up with new content is difficult, so with blogging I can’t imagine. Collaboration always helped me when I got stuck, so maybe talking with other bloggers may spark your thoughts again. ?Thanks for all you do.

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Jennifer says · 07.06.16

Kate,
I don’t even remember how I stumbled on your blog a few years ago, but I honestly love how it’s evolved! You give your readers a little bit of everything! I am a mom of 3 and I appreciate how you show us how to keep it simple and how to step it up when we want to. Keep being you, that’s why we all keep reading!

Love your snaps!

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Danette Bartelmay says · 07.06.16

There are no words for how sorry I am for the sudden loss of Otis. My husband and I are animal lovers too. We’ve raised our two lovely daughters and are blessed with four grandchildren. We currently have two dogs, two birds and one cat in our family (our empty nest babies). I will pray for your sisters broken heart at this time.
With love,
Danette

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Juliene says · 07.06.16

Kate, I have been reading your blog from the beginning, please continue to be yourself,that’s why I enjoy your blog! There will always be haters,but don’t worry, that is just a reflection of their hearts full of jealousy and envy. You keep your head up and proud and you ge the last laugh anyway, because you are getting paid to do what you enjoy!

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Juliene says · 07.06.16

Kate, I have been reading your blog from the beginning, please continue to be yourself,that’s why I enjoy your blog! There will always be haters,but don’t worry, that is just a reflection of their hearts full of jealousy and envy. You keep your head up and proud and you get the last laugh anyway, because you are getting paid to do what you enjoy!

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Jenn says · 07.06.16

I don’t think I’ve ever commented on your blog but I’ve been a follower for years!! I love all your tutorials, makeup and hair advice, and it’s been so much fun to follow all of your family’s milestones! I am sorry about Otis; I myself am a huge animal lover, especially cats, and my 2 fur babies are the love of my life, so my heart goes out to your sister and your family on the loss of Otis. It’s so hard when they cross the Rainbow Bridge and we are left behind. ๐Ÿ™ I can’t imagine anyone leaving hateful or mean comments on your blog – I hope you don’t take them seriously, although I’m sure it’s difficult not to. Keeping you and your family in my thoughts during this sad time.

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Alli says · 07.06.16

I dont follow many blogs, but i follow yours religiously. I feel like i know your sweet family, and i so enjoy reading what you have to say. I think everyone gets a little burnt out sometimes, particularly when life outside of your blog gets busy or challenging. I will follow your blog until you decide to be done blogging, which i hope isnt anytime soon! Thank you for including all of us readers in your life and in your blog!

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Megan C. says · 07.06.16

I rarely comment, but I loved this simple post. I’m pretty sure we’d be actual friends in “real life”. You are so REAL in your blog posts, snaps, Instagram…I get a kick out of the real life posts. And you’re a cat lady (I have an 18lbs long-haired orange cat – I may have more pics of him than my kids). We could be soul mates. Keep up the good work!
And I feel your sentiment from the 4th, I’m in Virginia as well and what a gross day it was!!

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NIcole says · 07.06.16

First time commenter here! Enjoy your blog and following you on instagram and seeing what you and the boys are up to on snapchat! Pay no attention to the negativity!

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Becky says · 07.06.16

Just a note to say that reading your blogs is one of the highlights of my day. I have 2 little girls, age 1 and 4), and I can so relate to your days. It’s comforting to me to see other mamas “in the trenches” and it helps create a little perspective. So thank you.

On another note, I started using the Arbonne Perfecting Liquid Foundation 6 months ago after your recommendation and it is Life. Changing. Ok so not really. But I LOVE it.

Keep doing what your doing. Or stop doing it if it makes sense for you. I will be here reading without judgement or negativity, as long as you are around.

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Arijana C. says · 07.06.16

Ditto to what everyone else already wrote. I love your blog.
You are the reason I have “good” hair!
Keep up the good work ๐Ÿ™‚

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Kaelyn says · 07.06.16

I am so sorry for your family loss! I cannot even imagine the day that I will lose my fur baby, and is something I dread all of the time. I love your blog and I think you should keep putting yourself out there! I think all bloggers go through a lack of creativity and frustration periods during their blogging journey. All of your devoted followers have faith in you!

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Caitlin Gillis says · 07.06.16

Sending light and love to your sister and family, and you during this time. Losing a fur baby is so hard! Some extra snuggles with her adorable nephews definitely will help! ๐Ÿ˜‰ Yours is about the only blog i religiously follow and I always feel like i’m getting the inside scoop from a close friend! I’ve grown along with you as your life has changed, and i absolutely love the content that you post, even as it has shifted with your life. I’m currently expecting our first child in September and really enjoy all the parenting hacks and advice that you offer, as well as the beauty and clothing advice that i’ve always loved! Haters gonna hate. Your biggest fans (myself included) will always have your back. I always try to remind myself this little tidbit – The ones who matter don’t mind, and the one’s who mind don’t matter. Keep doing you Kate! We <3 you!

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Cami says · 07.06.16

I, like so many others, love your blog. I’ve been following your blog since the beginning and have learned many things from you. Thank you for putting yourself out there. No judgements here.

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Ashley Bleyer says · 07.06.16

I dont know how anyone could say anything mean to you. I love your blogs and snapchats! They are always funny and entertaining. Heck, i feel like i know you! I hope you can move past the negativity. There are alot of people who love you and your family! Stay positive!

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TamiLee says · 07.06.16

I love your blog! It’s the only one I read. I’m in a different season in my life, as my children are both in college, but I enjoy reading about your adventures in motherhood along with recipes, hairstyles, make-up tips, and anything else you share. Keep doing what you’re doing and hit “delete” on any negative comments you may receive!

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Aileen says · 07.06.16

I’ve never understood people who comment just to be nasty. What is the point of that? I’m sure it’s very hard to ignore.
I’m sorry about your sister’s cat. That is never easy. I hope you and the boys can cheer her up.

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Samantha says · 07.06.16

I appreciate your honesty Kate. I love following your blog and have learned so much from them! It does seem like I’m reading things a friend wrote. Hang in there. ๐Ÿ™‚

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Bonnie says · 07.06.16

A big cyber hug to Lauren in the loss of Otis. I have a cat who is now 12 years old. I can’t imagine my life without him even though I am a total dog person (and have four of those). I don’t think I’ll ever get another cat as I’m horribly allergic (but not to him?) but who knows. He is such a love.

I’m sorry if you have gotten hurtful comments. I guess I have missed those but I suppose it’s inevitable if you put yourself out there. Kate, your blog has soared because of your sweet personality, your obvious gifts in the area of makeup and (especially) hair, and your willingness to share those gifts and your family with all your readers. Your sweet self shines through every blog post and video. You are so loved by so many.

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Michelle says · 07.06.16

So sorry to hear about Lauren’s cat ๐Ÿ™ My husband and I have three fur-children, and can sympathize with the feeling of the loss of a furry family member. As so many above me have said, I don’t know you, but I feel like I do. I’ve been following your blog for years, and I love every kind of content you put out there, be it personal or not. I always seem to receive compliments on my hair after I’ve followed one of your tutorials. It really, truly feels like one of my friends is helping me with my hair. Please don’t let the party-poopers steal your zest. I look forward to watching your snap story with your daily life with the boys. Please remember that your real fans support you, and any nay-sayers are just jealous. We love you!

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Kelly says · 07.06.16

I’m sorry to read that you are experiencing some negative comments and have lost a pet family member. Please take some time to recharge your creativity. I love seeing what you are doing.
I blogged every week, sometimes twice/week for nearly 18 months. I loved it. It was therapeutic and then someone I looked up to made a negative comment about my writing and even though I knew they were being unjust, it still hurt.
I tried to continue to blog and got some paid gigs with magazines but still I could only hear that one negative voice. I didn’t know what to do so I took a break from blogging. Found out I have some lasting health issues from mission trips to Africa and now I only write when I find a huge prompting by the Holy Spirit. Thinking of you!

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Dana says · 07.06.16

You do you, girl! I love reading your blog for hair and makeup tips and have enjoyed watching your life and blog evolve over the years. You’re a beacon of light in the dark internet hole! The personal touches are part of what makes your blog unique and keeps me coming back, but I can imagine how hard it is when the negative comments come through. Don’t let the haters get you down! You’re great! Sending loving thoughts to you and your sister.

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liz says · 07.06.16

Sorry to hear about the hard weekend… and I’m sorry for the people who aren’t lifting you up. I enjoy your snapchats so much!! And I love the “realness” you have to connect with your readers. Thanks for being you!!

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Megan says · 07.06.16

Kate,

I’m so sad to hear that you’ve been feeling discouraged by hateful comments on your blog. I know there will be people who disagree with you, but there’s absolutely no excuse for anyone to be mean or hateful in their comments! After all, if they don’t like what you’ve said, they can simple choose to quit reading your blog! Am I right? As to why you’re left feeling “mute” because of this, I have a theory. I heard a psychologist say once that in any relationship (friendship, marriage, etc), for the relationship to be harmonious and both people be happy, the ratio of positive to negative comments must stay at least 5 to 1, anything less will leave one or both people feeling discouraged. Maybe the same is true for you with your blog? Maybe a lot of negative comments, over time, leave upu discouraged if you don’t hear a much higher ratio of positive ones! I am a nurse and once was on a committee for patient satisfaction. Through some research, we found that people who received good service (either in the hospital setting or even at a restaurant, hotel, etc) were less likely to give feedback than people who had a negative experience. Seems crazy but I guess people that are mad are more motivated than people who are pleasantly satisfied. So my guess is that for every one mean person who leaves a hateful comment, there’s hundreds more who love your blog but sadly don’t make a point to tell you so! I can totally see how this would discourage you, but please don’t let it get you down! As a fellow believer, I will tell you that this discouragement you’re feeling is probably an attempt by the enemy to silence your witness! Please don’t give him that satisfaction but instead keep letting your light shine! I have been reading your blog since before you were pregnant with David, and I can’t tell you how many times God has used something you’ve written to strengthen my relationship with Him! Most notably, there was a time you wrote a post about your struggles to conceive. While I haven’t walked that specific road, I was at the time struggling with the fact I was single when so many friends were getting married. There were many parallels to the two situations, especially the struggle to wait on God when you’ve beek praying for something for so long and haven’t seen it answered yet. God used this post in such a mighty way for me, and I have been so overjoyed to see how He has answered your prayers! Please keep shining for Him and letting Him use you to minister to others! I will be praying that He will help you conquer this discouragement. Love and prayers, Megan

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Samantha says · 07.06.16

Yet another small voice in the crowd who doesn’t typically comment, but religiously checks your blog. You’ve helped me through the awkward “hair is too short for a real ponytail but too long to wear down without doing anything to it and I’m too broke to get a haircut right now” phase that I dread. And I love checking your snap story – without fail, it makes me laugh. Bras are seriously the worst and I’ve cracked up at your commentary on them.
You do you, whatever is best for your heart & your family. Just know that you have a crowd of readers who truly love your content and your realness.

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Sara says · 07.06.16

Thanks for the update. I saw your sister’s post on insta and you both have been on my mind. It’s so hard to lose our fur babies. As for you, I have been reading for years and always love your updates. Thanks for spending so much time and effort on your blog and giving us readers a steady stream of thoughtful and personal content.

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Bethany Johnson says · 07.06.16

I’ve read through most of the comments above and you’re truly blessed to have so many supportive, encouraging women who love you and follow your blog! Keep your chin up and don’t allow hurtful comments to injure you. Prayers for your sister.

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Beth says · 07.06.16

Love your blog! Especially updates on your boys and fashion. Don’t listen to negative comments…you’re obviously doing something right. You should have a PA to delete them for you so you don’t have to concern yourself with all that negativety. I’m sorry about the loss of your kitty-nephew…pet losses are so difficult.

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Maggie S says · 07.06.16

Kate,
You know who goes before you and who stands behind. Be encouraged by all of us who love you and your blog! You are just the best out there and like everyone else has said, you keep doing what you love!
Hugs!

p.s. so very sorry to hear about otis

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allison w says · 07.06.16

I love your blog and i love watching your snaps….you are hilarious! I wish all the mean people on the internet would go away. You are your family are awesome, thanks for sharing your life with us. And condolences to your sister….so devastating!

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Chesney Abel says · 07.06.16

Beautifully written! Animals are such a blessing to us and such a hard loss. Sending good vibes to her! ?

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Missy says · 07.06.16

Hi Kate,
I just don’t get it! Why can’t we all just be a little kinder, treat each other a little more gently? This parenting thing is hard! I wish I had something like your blog to read when my kids were small. You are a bright spot in my day. My 14 yr old twins also enjoy watching your snaps.
I recently attended my 35th high school reunion. I am sure you remember the joys of high school. We now all have genuine concern for each other. We have all taken different paths. Some have had great success, others not so much. We all realize how our early bond helped to form the people that we are today.
I wish all mothers could come to this point. We should be kind to all who have gone before and after us. It is that bond of motherhood that has help to mold us. None of us have done it perfectly! I do not have a prominent social media platform, but I have learned from you what a post. You have set a marvelous example for my teenagers. Your grace when being criticized makes you an awesome role model. These people are bully’s. I dare say they would not want their CHILD to be cyber bullied I can’t understand why they do it to you. Keep your head up, get those creative juices flowing, and don’t let the ninnies get you down.

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Tracy says · 07.06.16

As so many have said, keep being you Kate! I look forward to your blog everyday and truly think of you as a “friend” I refer to your blog so often that my kids and husband consider you part of the family, lol. Haters are gonna hate, that’s a reflection of them and who they are, not you and who you are. Your sincerity and integrity is truly appreciated by most of us. Continue to do your demo’s with whatever product’s you may have been given by whoever gave them to you, they are well earned and have been given to you to you to do an honest demo and that, you will do! I enjoy every aspect of your blog, your recipes, fashion, hair, makeup, your boys and following along on Justin’s adventures. I have purchased many things on your recommendations, so thank you! I know its easier said than done but don’t waste any more time worrying about the negative comments , just keep scrolling by and continue to be “you” again tomorrow ๐Ÿ™‚

My condolences to Lauren, losing a beloved pet is never easy. May she find some peace and comfort with you this weekend.

~XO~

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Katie says · 07.06.16

I ABSOLUTELY LOVE YOU! Your blog is wonderful and I check it everyday! I love watching you on snapchat and following you on instagram. People are just the worst sometimes and its awful that words can have such an impact on us. You’re the best Kate and I love everything you do. You’re hilarious and so easy to relate too! Thank you for being you and continue to be you! I live in Idaho and my sister and brother in law are currently living in Durham. My BIL is attending Duke and I jokingly asked him if he has seen your husband on campus. haha! I even showed him a picture of your husband! I also think about making a trip to Durham and then go to one of your hair classes you put on! That would be so much fun to meet you! anyway, you’re amazing! Don’t let those people put you down because you are a wonderful person! ๐Ÿ™‚

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Myra says · 07.06.16

Hey! First off, I love your blog. I really, really enjoy reading it each day and love hearing your stories. You even inspired me to start my own little blog, if only for my own viewing and a few of my sweet friends. I am mom to two kids and work full-time so I don’t have the time to commit but, I totally enjoy the few posts that i do and I totally look to you for inspiration. I know one day when I have more time I will be more committed. Also, so sorry for your sister. I love reading her blog too. You guys are very creative and offer readers a chance to take a minute and catch up with you guys. It feels like we are friends! Anyways, don’t let the negativity get to you.

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victoria says · 07.06.16

I have read your blog daily for about 4 years. My friends and I all speak to each other and refer to you as Kate – as though you are more than just our blog friend. So you are our friend. It is hard to hear that people are so harsh towards you! We will continue to read our “notes from our friend Kate” and chat with each other about what we have learned from you or what hijinks you and your kids have gotten into. Thank you so much for opening yourself up to all of us and for sharing what you do!

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Lynn says · 07.06.16

Please keep being you. I love reading your comments. Your love for God and your positive energy shine through. There will always be people who try to knock us down, but please don’t be discouraged by them. I know there are more of us who are affected positively by your blog.

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Heather says · 07.06.16

Kate I am going to chime in here with the other commenters and say that while I never comment, I read your blog religiously and have recommended it to so many of my friends! You will always find those negative people ready to pounce on whatever they have found to make fun of or be nasty about. And that says way more about them than you…..I find it sad really that people are so quick to be mean spirited in a forum like this where no one knows who you are. Rise above ( as hard as that is when it’s personal like it has been) and keep doing what you love…..there are a lot of us out there that love reading it!

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Tiffany says · 07.06.16

{{hugs}} to you Kate. And prayers for your sister as she deals with her loss. I’ve missed that personal connection I used to get from reading your blog but totally understand why. You always have to do what is right for you and your family. It’s summer time so have you thought about taking a blogging break. Some time away might be what you need. I’ll still be a faithful reader–I love the hair product and makeup info you share. And a photo or two of your cute boys will always bring a smile to my face.

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Jennifer O. says · 07.06.16

Reading this made my heart hurt for you. I’m praying for you tonight, that you know you are loved and valuable. May the encouraging words ring louder than any others.

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Jennifer P says · 07.06.16

Don’t think I’ve ever taken the time to comment on blog post. ? However, wanted to send out some encouragement since you provide that for all your readers. Your snaps, videos, post really are uplifting and fun. Just what a mommy needs during nap time. Thanks for keeping up with it, even though you are so busy with your boys. Now get to snapping โ˜บ๏ธ??

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annie says · 07.06.16

Hello, I live very far from you (near Montreal, Canada) and I’m french. read your blog since the time you didn’t have your lovely boys. Actually, I read many blogs but yours is one of my favorites. Your advices about make-up are so helpful! And those about hair are also significant for me because my two daughters wear their hair long and I wear mine short. So, please continue to help us with those two girly subjects and forget about bad comments(seriously)!
Thanks sincerly,
Annie

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Chelsea says · 07.06.16

Hello Kate,

I am sorry that you are feeling like that. I just want you to know how much you and your blog (and snapchat!) mean to me. Even though we don’t know each other and I live on the other side of the US (in Seattle) I feel like we are friends and I look forward to your blog everyday. Yours is the only blog that I check every single day to see if anything has been added. You are a bright spot in my life and I hate to think that some of the negative things I have heard people comment on your blog is bringing you down. I see the negativity and it bothers me to see it because I feel like we are friends so I just want to let you know that i love everything you put out there but I especially love learning more about you, Justin, the boys, and the rest of your family. So I hope that you are able to find a way to feel more at home with blogging again because your voice matters and it is needed!

Also so so so sorry to hear about poor Otis ๐Ÿ™ I can’t imagine how hard this is on Lauren. Sending you all a BIG virtual hug!

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Lynde says · 07.06.16

Kate, I don’t think I’ve ever commented before, but I’ve been reading for three years and your blog has inspired so much! Because of you, I challenged myself to put just a little more effort into my daily look, and it has improved my confidence and self-worth. You showed me how it doesn’t take a lot of money or time to show pride in your appearance. I used to think, “well, it’s just the kids and the hub around here, who do I need to look good for?” But the answer is ME! I deserve to smile and not sigh when I look in the mirror. I just want you to know that you are a great writer, blogger and person. Don’t let the haters get you down!

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Lindsey says · 07.06.16

Trust yourself and your faith – those two things will never lead you wrong. And the positive you give and find here far outweighs the negative, so try to focus on that!

Thank you for giving so much of yourself and helping us to be more confident women and mothers!!!

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Suezi says · 07.06.16

Thanks for sharing! I love your blog and it has been a privilege to watch your cute family grow. I love your tutorials and all the great info you put out there. I can only imagine how hard it can be to share and then have those few certain people take the joy right out of something that means so much to you! Don’t let them win! Praying for your sister and her sad heart! What a great weekend you two have ahead of you! Enjoy your time with her!

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Kat Root says · 07.06.16

Hi Kate, I started reading your blog because of your hair tutorials as well but more so now I enjoy reading about your experiences as a Mum (you can tell I’m Australian) and I appreciate it when you talk about your faith. I am praying that God will give you the strength and courage to keep doing what you’re doing and sharing your life with others as an encouragement to them.

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Evelyn says · 07.06.16

I tell my husband that I couldn’t have a blog because I would not stand all the free hateful comments that contribute nothing to your work. But I love reading blogs, and honestly, I now follow more on youtube than written blogs, but I do love to read your posts on so many different subjects and I feel like I know you and your family. Hope you feel better, and do tell us about your garden!

Best,

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Meredith says · 07.06.16

You are a light Kate! Of course there will be those who will try to put you out, but don’t let them. Most of us are silent and enjoy reading your thoughts and learning from you. It’s usually the complainers and haters that speak up. I need to be better at encouraging you and the one other blogger I follow.

Love to you and your sweet family!

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Michelle says · 07.06.16

I don’t read blogs because I don’t have time. But, I read yours. I literally signed up for SnapChat to follow you, because sometimes my day isn’t so fun and you crack me up for a minute. I am so sorry people have to be so nasty. Please be encouraged. Praying for your sister.

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Lynn says · 07.06.16

Oh boy this hit home for me. Our 19 yr old cat suddenly got sick late Fri night. Spent the weekend trying to nurse her back. Being a 3 day weekend, vet was closed. Went to emergency vet clinic far from home on Monday the 4th. I have not cried so much in a very long time. She is hanging on, but I know, she is 19. It is not a good outlook. We have been married for 27yrs, and never had children. She is our world. I feel for your sister. She is in my thoughts. Love your blog. LOVE your hair demos. Keep up the good work on your blog. It is a fun read for me while I have my morning coffee.

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Lindsay says · 07.06.16

Kate, you are the best! I have been following both Lauren’s blog and your blog for years now! Thanks for always sharing what’s on your mind with us. It’s been so enjoyable to watch the blog grow with you through the years.

Don’t let haters get you down! I’m certain that all of us that follow faithfully outweigh the “not so nice” people ten folds!

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Tiffany says · 07.06.16

Oh Kate! I’m so sorry for your loss. I am not a cat person because I am highly allergic, but Otis was a fur baby! And fur babies are a big part of ones life! Also, I love the way you talk to us like we are your friend! And so I’m gonna write this as for friend… God doesn’t give a spirit of fear. That is from the devil to inhibit you from being encouraging. Tell him to “get thee behind me!” And be a blessing to your readers that you are! Kate you are a beautiful person, and I have truly learned so much from you! I pray Gods blessing on you and your sweet family.

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Karen O says · 07.06.16

Kate, the way you teach hair, make-up, etc. is so easy to follow, you are the only one I have found that I can understand, put it together and do it myself. And it comes out looking fabulous and I get so many compliments. Please don’t let those nay sayers discourage you. They’re usually just jealous of your positive energy and wish they could be more like you, so they’ve got to say something to try and bring you down and put out your light. But you Shine on Sister!! Just be you and know how many of us really really like your stuff you put on your blog. You do a really good job, thanks for the time and effort you have put into it.

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Marcy says · 07.06.16

Kate,
Similar to what others have written, I rarely comment even though I’ve been a reader for about 3 years now. I’m starting to realize how important it is to comment to encourage and show appreciation for the work you put into your blog. I truly look forward to reading your blog and occasionally save up some posts so I can sit down and read them all at once (omigosh that sounds so nerdy). Even though I do not have children I’ve enjoyed reading your mommy/kid-related posts too and appreciate that you share that part of your life with us! Your blog is one of my favorites, without you I would probably still be sporting a “not messy enough” bun and Iwould not know about all the glory of Tarte make-up. And how could I forget…the Lotus Youth Preserve face cream is the bomb dot com! Thanks for all you do and all you share. I’m sorry to hear that people are being lame-o’s with their comments.

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Demi says · 07.06.16

Ugh as a kitty cat Momma of 2 myself my heart breaks for your sister and your family. Please know that all the fellow pet lovers out there are mourning with you.

On another note, I was just thinking to myself, “Hey, where’s Kate’s June favorites?” Don’t let the sad, ugly people of the world get you down. I know easier said than done, but please know you inspire me to embrace my messy house & cat obsession. I always applaud your ability to just keep it real. It’s so refreshing to see and hear such a realistic approach to life and beauty. Keep it up girl!

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Demi says · 07.06.16

I would also like to note that I went through 23 years of my life without knowing how to curl my hair without those tacky clamp marks everywhere (dark days I tell you dark days) until I came across your channel!!!

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Sarah says · 07.06.16

Kate, you are amazing! Thank you so much for always providing fun, interesting, personal, funny, and useful information to your readers. You are a breath of fresh air in my day! I used to skim tons of blogs, but I just don’t have time anymore and I’ve grown weary of some of the content. Your blog is one of maybe three of four that I check in on every week. You feel like a friend and a teacher, and I would miss you very much if you were gone!

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Kelly says · 07.06.16

Just wanted to say that I love your blog and the fact that you’re so genuine. Be encouraged and don’t lose heart – you’re a beautiful person inside and out and you’re truly living out your life’s calling. I’m so sorry too about Otis; I lost two cats once and I cried for weeks. Time heals our wounds but it sure does hurt for a while. Much love to you and your sister from Florida.

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Becky says · 07.06.16

Oh, Kate! My heart is heavy for you. I’m thinking and praying for your sweet sis. I follow her on Instagram. You are an amazing person. I enjoy all your blog posts, tweets, Instagrams, and snaps.

You truly seem like a dear friend to me and we haven’t even met! Even though I had a dream that we did meet, but that may be kinda creepy. Anyways… You just keep doing you because, quite frankly, you are darn good at it!

Lots of love!

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Sarah Wynne says · 07.06.16

Hi Kate!

I’m so sorry to hear about Otis and his passing. My thoughts go to your sister during this time. I’ve been a follower of your blog since 2012, and I’m sorry to know that you receive hateful/unwanted comments. You’re one of the sweetest people I’ve come across in the blog world and I adore that you’ve always stayed true to who you are. Hugs to you and your family. I’m always happy to read whatever you decide to share.

Warmly,
Sarah

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Roxie says · 07.06.16

Sweet Kate,

I love reading about your family, especially your precious babies. You’re open and honest – as well as helpful to your audience. I hate that the haters step in and ruin your happiness. Keep on keeping on and don’t let them try to steal your joy. You are good at what you do and you keep doing it until YOU decide not to do it any more. You may have to get tough with those haters who hide behind a computer and say horrible things. Those of us who are faithful readers will have to stand up for you more often!

Prayers to your sister in the loss of her fur baby. Having lost one in the past, I know it’s terribly painful.

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Lauren says · 07.06.16

I have noticed a change in comments, too- people can be so harsh! I have visited this blog daily for the past few years (it is virtually the only one I read) and I so enjoy reading! I hope a few noisy critics don’t discourage you from sharing your light and love. All the best from Canada!

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Danielle says · 07.06.16

Yours is one of the few blogs I follow and I really enjoy the positive vibe that you exude. Unfortunately so much of our world is negative and judgemental. I keep a quote on my chalkboard all yearfor my students to read. It says “in a world where you can be anything, be kind.” Thank you for always being kind in your posts.

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Tracy says · 07.06.16

I’m so, so sorry for your sisters loss. It is so hard losing a pet. I lost my cat a couple of years ago and it was absolutely horrible.

I also love, love, love your blog! I love your videos. It sucks that there are such negative people out there and no matter who you are, they will eventually get to you….just get back up and brush yourself back off because the rest of us love you!!

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Christina says · 07.06.16

You, your sister and family have every right to feel sad or even a little lost. Some pets treat us better than humans at times. How sweet to fly her out for some loving distraction. Don’t feel bad about losing a little of your creative spark. It happens to everyone and with as much content as you produce, it was bound to happen. My kids love watching your boys in snap and though it feels strange that I feel like I know you despite never meeting I guess that is one of your goals met. Humans crave connections. Thank you for your little, positive space on the internet.

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Michelle says · 07.06.16

Kate,
I am so sorry that people have used their words to hurt you – it is absolutely not deserved. You are the bright spot in my mornings when I have time to myself before the day really begins. I have been following you since 2011 (what?!) how are we that old??

I suffer from anxiety on occasion, and watching your tutorials has helped me calm down in the most bizarre of situations. Your voice and energy are so kind, it really shines in all that you show us and write. You really feel like a friend after all these years (I hope this isn’t sounding strange!)

Please remember that you have so many “friends” here. We may be non commenters, but you have so many loyal fans, friends & followers. I hope that you know how much you are loved and respected by us!

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Chris Arbin says · 07.06.16

My goodness, can you tell how much we LOVE you? Lets be honest, negative comments are hard to hear…for all of us. I will say, the few times I’ve seen them and you’ve commented, I’ve been so impressed with how you’ve handled them. I’m not sure what/where the Lord is leading/teaching you, but I know you will be open to hearing Him. In the song, Breath, by Johnny Diaz, he says, ‘lay down what’s good, to find what’s best’. Maybe the Lord is shaping you for something better! How exciting!

My prayers have gone up for Lauren. I’ve been there, and that loss is painful. In my silly desires as I talk with the Lord, I’ve asked Him if He would allow all my kitties that have/will go before me, to be present with the angels as they escort me into heaven! Oh, my, if that actually happens, when I bow down in His presence, I’ll just have to say, “You, Da, Man!” Blessings…..

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Jennifer says · 07.06.16

Oh my goodness, Kate! I have thought about leaving a comment SO many times, but feel you probably have more than enough to read; BUT tonight reading about Otis’s sudden passing made me write. My Grandfather was a vet in Dallas and he actually performed the very first glaucoma surgery on a dog! My house was always filled with cats and a dog. I just wanted to say that when a was a little girl and lost my BFF cat, Muscles, I swore I would never have another pet! My Granddad then told me that I had given Muscles 12 happy, fun years and she had given me the same. The return on that investment is a few months of very intense pain, but it was so worth it! I gave a stray kitty a home and she gave me love, comfort, and a sense of purpose. Hugs to you and your sister

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Deborah says · 07.06.16

Hi Kate,

I know this is a sad time with the loss of Otis. Our pets are our family, aren’t they? It’s so hard when they leave us. I can almost feel Lauren’s broken heart.

I have never posted a comment before online, but I feel compelled to tell you how much I enjoy your blog; I learn a lot! I don’t have a daughter, but I often find myself thinking you are like the daughter I never had. You keep me current on new styles, products, different ways to do hair. Well. . . you keep me cool. Kate, you are a gifted writer with a kind soul, and an ability to connect with people you’ve never met across the world. You will never really know the impact you’ve had on people’s lives by sharing your gifts and talents.

There will always be mean spirited people. Be brave. Shine bright!

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Connie says · 07.06.16

Hi Kate. My daughter’s service died in March. It was peaceful, pain free for him but broke our hearts. This week has been awful. He fought so hard. He was ready to fight for another day when my daughter and I told him it was time to go. She held him in her arms while he passed from this world. Our life has changed so much since then. My heart breaks for your family. The loss of a family fur baby is so hard. Hugs.

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Emily says · 07.06.16

I stumbled across your blog in 2011 and immediately bookmarked it. I look forward to checking it every morning, and I’m not a blog follower. I’m usually in running shorts and one of my brother’s t shirts, with a quick ponytail or headband. My mom is a busy doctor with a no fuss ‘do and one Revlon lipstick–a great example of a strong woman, but I am made of softer stuff and didn’t have anyone to show me how to do hair or makeup. Every other fashionista I’ve seen online I find hard to keep up with, personally. I love how authentic and realistic your blog is, and I’m inexplicably appreciative for the example you set as a Christian woman doing life as best you know how. I never comment anywhere, but a cheerful heart is good medicine and you’ve been helping me for years with your blog content. Even my husband loves to see your Snapchats with the boys.

We lost our first cat to FELV and it crushed both of us. We were heartbroken to hear about Otis, and know how a sudden loss, and the chaos of emotion and logistics that comes with it, can just drain a person. We’re praying for you and Lauren. Thank you, both, for sharing and putting yourselves out there.

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AnnW says · 07.06.16

Delete the hateful comments. I know you won’t believe this, but the feelings have nothing to do with you. You are just a convenient target. I have learned a lot from you. I still have to see all your hair videos. I would like a tip or two for long hair, I need to make a low bun. I also read all your makeup posts and actually go to the pages you link and look at the colors. I often buy just what you recommend. I think you do a wonderful job. I look forward to your posts. I have unsubscribed from so many blogs, but not yours. You are just going through a hard time with two kids. It will get better. Take some time off. But come back to us!

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Teri says · 07.06.16

Kate…I am 55 and read every post. My hair and make up thank you- but I most love reading about your journey as a Mom of two boys. Mine are 26 and 28 and it seems like yesterday we were in a stroller at the 4th of July parade. You have lots of loyal readers and “haters are gonna hate, hate, hate”. Just keep on making a difference kiddo. How else will old ladies like me learn about bye bye under eye, Mac painterly, and kenra etc… Be the badass you were born to be and we will all keep reading!

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Katie says · 07.06.16

I’ve been reading your blog for the last two years and love reading your posts there and on snapchat. Your tips have been extremely helpful and I enjoy getting updates on your family. Please don’t pay attention to the haters. It’s not worth your energy.

Also, sending prayers to your sister. We had to put down our family pet earlier this year and we’re heartbroken. I can only imagine what your sister is going thru.

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Shawna says · 07.06.16

Hi Kate..sorry to hear about Otis~Glad you could get a ticket for you sister to come stay with you… I know that will mean a lot and help her a little over this sudden loss.
Sometimes when I feel like I am in a rut, or can’t move forward…that weird ‘stuck’ feeling…it’s the Lord telling me just to take some time out. Maybe you need a little break~just a couple of weeks during this summer…focus on your hubs and 2 precious babies and just BE!! We are all in need of times of recharging and quiet times and I am sure with all the blogging and youtubes, etc, you really need a time-out. We will all miss you if you take a break, but maybe you need it. As far as the negative people and naysayers, they will ALWAYS be there~unfortunately!! I really don’t know why or how anyone could be ugly to you…you don’t post anything that would warrant that!! But, I am sure they are out there!! Just try to put it behind you and don’t dwell on what they say!! Blessings and enjoy your weekend with your sister!!!!

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Kendall C says · 07.06.16

Hi Kate!

I started following your blog shortly after I had my son in September. Your blogs are so incredibly helpful and easy to follow. I want you to know how much I appreciate you and the time and effort you put in each entry, especially when your juggling work and family. I’m quickly finding out that it is NOT an easy task, especially in a house full of boys ?
What you are doing is amazing!! Just know that you have SO many people who love you and support you. So sorry to hear about Otis, prayers sent your way!

“I AM the Daughter of a King who is not moved by the world. For my God is with me
And goes before me. I do not fear because I am HIS.”

Blessings,
Kendall

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Sarah Chavis says · 07.06.16

I am so sorry to hear about the sudden passing of your sisters cat. As an animal lover myself I know exactly how you feel. It is hard to loose a pet that you consider family. Otis will always be with you guys!

I have been following your blog for two years now, since I was pregnant with my daughter. You are apart of my morning routine. Once Sophia is in her high chair eating breakfast and I start to drink my coffee that was once hot. I hop on my iPad and think “I wonder what Ms.Kate has in store for us this morning.” Everything that you have ever recommended that I have tried..I loved. Before I buy any expensive beauty product I check to see if you did a review on it first. You are always right on point.

Keep being who you are no matter what. If you want to write a post that is on the more serious side…do it. Don’t hold back, this is about your journey too!

You kick butt Kate!

Ps: Have a fantastic weekend with your sister.

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Jordan says · 07.06.16

I’m pretty sure I’ve never commented on a blog post before either, but just wanted to say how much I love everything about yours! Like others, I started following for hair tutorials several years ago and still read almost every post. I have 3 little boys of my own, so I love hearing about your boys and your everyday life. Don’t stop sharing!! I have sooo enjoyed following you on snapchat! You’re so fun and your snaps brighten my day!! I have missed them lately!

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Cher says · 07.06.16

Sending prayers and hugs. My condolences to your sister & your family as I know how hard it is to lose a fur baby. This world needs more love and positivity. The haters will always be haters and don’t take it to heart just continue to do what you do. Karma has a funny way of working things out. Always stay you and don’t let negativity bring you down. This world defiantly needs love placed back in to it.
Keep doing what you do! ?

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Ashley says · 07.07.16

First I want to say I am so sorry to hear about your loss ? The loss of a pet is one of the hardest things we go through !! Second I just want to thank you for all of your inspiring posts and your real life snaps ! You have become like a dear friend to me and I don’t even know you ๐Ÿ™‚ you have inspired me to go to beauty school !! I have always had a desire to do hair I am 32 and I have a plan to go in 5 years . All because of you and your tips! You are so sweet and funny and open ! I am thankful you decided to start blogging !
Enjoy your time with your sister ! ?โ˜บ๏ธ

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Dana says · 07.07.16

Kate – So sorry to hear about Otis. They do become part of the family. Wow, I have been reading through the comments and you have a lot of fans that love your blog. I am one of those faithful readers that rarely comment. It is hard to get past the hurtful comments, but you are a strong woman and you will move on and it will only make you stronger. Do what is in your heart and stay true to yourself. Hope you find inspiration from all the heartfelt comments. You make a difference in so many lives. Don’t mute yourself, now is the time to be heard. Love your blog. We are all here to listen and stand behind you.

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Britney says · 07.07.16

I love love love your blog- it’s one of the few I still read, for the reasons you mentioned above. I hope you and your fabulous content stay around for a looooong time!

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Amber Milligan says · 07.07.16

Hi Kate,

I’ve been reading your blog for a couple of years now all the way in New Zealand, and I just want to say that I love your blog! You are so honest and funny and I think its so awful that the horrible people in this world try and take that away. I have an 11month old girl so I love the posts on David and Luke (they are so cute!) and also your snapchats are hilarious. Anyway I’m not much of a commenter but just wanted to say that I hope you find your mojo soon and don’t go anywhere because I am sure there are a lot of readers like me that would miss your blog x . Also I’m terribly sorry for your sisters loss – animals always become such a huge part of the family and leave a massive hole when they are gone)

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Nicole says · 07.07.16

Dear Kate, I have followed your blog for three years. Please don’t stop being who you are with us. You have been such an inspiration to me. I was a Mom to a toddler when I first found your blog and going through some heartache but watching and listening to you reminded me of how important it is to love yourself and to believe in the beauty we carry with us each day. I can only thank you from the bottom of my heart.

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Angela says · 07.07.16

I have followed your blog for a few years and I just love every single post. The make up tips, the hair styling videos, the monthly favoritites, water cooler chats, thank you! Thanks for being a blogger and sharing YOU. Ignore the haters, for every one of them there are so many of us who are following along quietly, thinking how awesome you are!

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JeanAnn says · 07.07.16

Kate,

Just wanted to drop in and say thanks! Your blog is one of my favorite parts of my day. I usually pull it up when I get to work before I start my day. So its just me, you, and my coffee before the craziness begins! ๐Ÿ™‚ I enjoy reading every single post. My husband even knows you as ‘that Kate blogger lady that you like so much’…. ๐Ÿ˜‰

So thank you for doing what you do!

Jean Ann

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Meg says · 07.07.16

It hurts my heart to think that some people have said unkind things to you, and that it is making you feel hesitant to keep sharing about your life. And what a beautiful life it is! Your blog is by farโ€”leaps and boundsโ€”my favorite blog. Keep being lovely and kind. You (clearly) have many readers that love you!

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Becky says · 07.07.16

So sorry to hear about your sister’s cat. I truly believe animals go to heaven. Like each of us, God creates each animal to be so different and so unique from any other. It seems out of His character that He so lovingly creates them, knowing the pure joy they will bring us . . . only for their lives to last only a moment. He will give us the desires of our hearts, and I believe that includes seeing our pets in heaven. I just know Mr. Otis is in heaven waiting for your sister now. Until then, I’m praying for your sister’s broken heart to mend quickly.

As for the negativity here . . . yeah, I’ve noticed it too. So much that I no longer even bother to read the comments. It just makes me mad to see such rude people. I’d wondered how you can read them and not take them to heart. I would bet money that their rudeness comes from sheer jealousy. You’re beautiful both inside and out, you have a wonderful family, handsome husband, darling kids, a solid, unshakeable faith, and a dream job most of us have only daydreamed about. Some people just can’t handle that, sadly. What about filtering comments like some sites do? Just don’t let the rude comments through. Maybe your fabulous assistant can screen them so that you don’t even have to see the rude, jealous hurtful ones?

Just know most of your bloggers love you and consider you a dear friend, although we’ll probably never meet this side of heaven. I appreciate you keeping me company and entertained at work! Hey, how’s about another Cubicle Convo? ๐Ÿ™‚

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Krystal says · 07.07.16

Hi Kate- Just want to join and affirm your sweet fan club! ๐Ÿ˜‰
I’m so happy to seemany people standing up for you and encouraging you!
Please keep up everything you aspire to do. You are a joy, one of the most upbeat people ever, and a true inspiration to women everywhere. THANK YOU for sharing you! I pray that immature, uncontent people’s narcissistic actions don’t bring you discouragement (it is SO sad & honestly min-blowing that people make time to be so insensitive & plain rude). You bring women everywhere encouragement that we can do little things to gain some of the confidence you portray. You are a true beauty shining from the inside & out! Thank you for your sweet inspiration and transparency. God bless you.

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Kassie says · 07.08.16

Such a sweet comment. I totally agree!!!

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Traci says · 07.07.16

I very rarely comment on blog posts (I think I’ve commented here once or twice), but I want you to know how much I have enjoyed reading your blog for 2+ years. I have used so many of your hair tutorials and hair product/make up advice. Your blog has a permanent link on my dashboard and I check it almost daily. I am always so happy to see a new blog post. I hope you will be able to find a balance that feels good for you.

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Stephanie says · 07.07.16

Hi Kate! I normally would never comment but do enjoy reading your blog filled with great ideas and tips.THANK YOU!! I understand wanting to hold back.You place yourself/family openly out to everyone. Any good friend would tell you to follow your heart. If your heart says hold back then hold back but if it is fear then kick it out the door! Take some time and figure out what or where the root of the issue is then you’ll know how to deal with it. Prayin for ya and for your sister with the loss of Otis.

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Patti says · 07.07.16

Sorry for your family’s loss. It was a dark time here when we had to put down our 17 year old best (mutt) dog ever.
I would recommend getting the children’s book “Cat Heaven” by Cynthia Rylant as a comfort for your sister.

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Katie Sheldon says · 07.07.16

People that don’t have animals, truly don’t get it when you lose one. They really are part of the family and I don’t think that your heart hurts any less because it’s “just an animal”. Sending lots of love to your sister and family during this difficult time! xoxo

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Kelley says · 07.07.16

It is sad that someone will try to steal your joy when you express your own personal opinions and feelings. They are yours. Be confident in knowing that God is good. He is Faithful. He is always near. He is our Comforter. He is our Peace and He is our Joy…ALWAYS!

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Andrea says · 07.07.16

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Patti says · 07.07.16

I’m so sorry to hear about your sister’s cat. I too lost our cat a month ago on June 4th and understand how heartbroken she may be. They are truly a member of our family with their unconditional love. Nobody can truly understand unless they ever have a pet. I hope the wonderful memories she has will help ease some of her pain. Hope you’ll have a fun-filled weekend. Lots of Hugs to your sister!!! BTW I love your blog!!!!

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Sal says · 07.07.16

I adore your blog. I am a busy school teacher and mother of two boys and truly love reading your blog and watching your videos. It brings a real little glow of sisterhood.
Thank you
X

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KIMber says · 07.07.16

I started following from your beautiful pics on Pinterest showing hair tutorials. WOW, how far you have come since then with marriage, baby’s, make-up tutorials, etc.; but still gorgeous! Never mind the negative people! Positivity will always win ๐Ÿ™‚

Sorry to your sister………Otis is probably chasing butterflies with all of his friends!

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Kristin S says · 07.07.16

I still stand by that very first email I sent to you years ago when I found your blog through your lovely face on Pinterest. Before I knew you loved Jesus, I knew you loved Jesus. Before I knew your story and that we had a mutual Greenville friend in Caitlin, I knew to pray for you as the spotlight grow. You have a dear heart and are in a very public genre. I’m so sorry there are people out there who simply feel some freedom to be mean because they are behind a screen. You handle it better than I would (notice I went from posting 4-5 times a week to posting every few months because of some mean words).
I’m still and will continue to pray!

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Nicky says · 07.08.16

Oh Kate! What a heartbreaking time this has been for you and your family! I am so sorry about Otis’s passing, knowing what a huge loss that is. I’m still grieving the loss of my kitty over a year ago. I am also saddens to hear about the negativism you’ve encountered. Please know that many of us are blessed by you and your blog. Your blog helped me through my cancer treatment with uplifting entries and hopes for what I could do once my hair grew back.
Love and blessings,
Nicky

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Katey says · 07.08.16

It’s funny. The posts people love most are often the hardest ones to hit publish. I so thoroughly enjoy you and your personality, but especially your character. I often feel like I’m reading an email or letter from a dear friend when reading your blog. To be honest, I’ve started skimming (and sometimes just skipping) other bloggers, but I can never resist your posts. I’m not super into hair and makeup, etc. but I still find myself reading through even those posts of yours because of how beautifully your personality shines through them. Please don’t hesitate to continue to be genuine and honest…the world needs that more now than ever, but please also give yourself grace and space to process through those feelings without feeling guilty. You’re doing a great job!

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Andrea H says · 07.08.16

Hi Kate, I have seen some of the snarky comments at times and I am appalled people would publicly post such rudeness. I LOVE your blog! It is a place I can visit on the web that is beautiful, calming, inspiring and most of all informative. I am wearing my hair long for the first time in 20 years. Your blog has taught me so much on how to wear fun, fashionable, and flattering styles. And don’t get me started on the make up! I love all of the nuances you add the make each look different. My best friend lives in Raleigh and when I visit her, I can just imagine a glimpse of you and your darling boys passing us in the aisles of Target! Everyone has phases of ups and downs, that just this life we live. Use this time to spend with your boys and when the spark hits, post something fun that YOU enjoy! Those that visit your blog to spend a minute with Kate will love it!

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Nancy Jean says · 07.08.16

So very sorry to hear of the loss of your sister’s cat. The loss of a family pet is like no other kind of loss.

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Anne says · 07.08.16

Kate,

I am so sorry that you are feeling weighed down by negative comments. I don’t blame you one bit. I look forward to your blog so very much! I am so sorry I don’t make more of an effort to let you know that. We have a duty as your readers to offer you that feedback. It is so apparent to me that you give so much to your husband, children, cats and extended family. You are teaching me a few lessons. I am older but not wiser than you. Your spirit reminds me to seek joy and beauty in myself and what surrounds me.

Thank you for reminding me to think more positively and to remember that what you say to someone is going to affect how they feel.

Have fun this weekend!

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Stephanie Holcomb says · 07.08.16

Kate,
I can’t tell you how much I love and appreciate your blog and your sweet family! You are the reason that I like my hair and can put it up in a messy bun or actually curl it – I never thought I would figure that out. You offer great advice on products – I have tried several and you never let me down. But more than your tutorials and reviews, I really respect that you show so many people what it means to be a Christian mother and wife. You put your family first and we need more role models like you on social media. Thank you for staying true to who you are!
Take care,
Stephanie

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Maggie says · 07.09.16

Hi Kate,
I just wanted to tell you how much I enjoy your blog. I never miss it. You have such an uplifting vibrant personality. I begin to feel like I really know you. I love it. I teach middle school and it is my passion. I go at it like you go at your passion. One thing I have learned is that the negative comments people make about you speak more about them than it does you. Thank you for making it real.

Maggie

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Kari says · 07.10.16

God bless your hearts! Love ya Kate.

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Kate says · 07.10.16

It is not the critic that counts… Theodore Roosevelt

It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat.
Theodore Roosevelt

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kerry mcelligott says · 07.10.16

ive been following your blog for years and I sometimes I forget we aren’t actually friends IRL. that’s how good your blog is ๐Ÿ™‚ Love you and your sister!!!!!

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SaraJ says · 07.11.16

In the spirit of full disclosure.. I will admit I’ve been one to leave maybe not-so-positive comments your blog. I’ve told you I think you wear way too much grey, that I would be sad having two boys instead of a girl, makeup looks are too muted, etc. However I want to add that I also find you incredibly inspiring which is why I continue to read your blog! I imagine what it would be like to be a stay-at-home mom, discover new products and write a blog, and be able to do my hair like you can. ๐Ÿ™‚ So know that even the criticizing comments sometimes are shot off quickly and not from a place of “hate” – at least not from me.

I honestly just hate when every comment is kissing the blogger’s butt and doesn’t add anything to the conversation. I will say I’ve noticed the blog has avoided, like you said, more personal entries recently. I think that’s too bad as it’s my favorite thing about this blog.. and your jeans recommendations, haha! But please don’t be afraid to tell us when you have a bad day or a hard time with your kids. We are all human. It actually makes us relate to you more vs. judging what’s in a picture or video, you know? I would come here more often if there was a more personal touch (as it used to be).
Know that you are inspiring and a great writer. Keep it up.

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Carrie says · 07.11.16

Kate,

I’m so sorry to hear about sweet Otis and it truly hurts my heart that you ever receive negative comments. I strongly believe that negativity and mean spirited comments reflect the insecurity or unhappiness of those making the comments rather than the person the comments are directed at.

I read very few blogs but yours is one I follow regularly. I adore your snapchats and your instagram is just beautiful. Your lighthearted energy is contagious, I LOVE your style (I’m a grey all day kinda girl too), and you are a fabulous mother. I love to watch you interact with your boys ๐Ÿ™‚ Thank you for having the courage to share your life with the world!

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JennyBC says · 07.13.16

I so enjoy your blog and cannot imagine that someone would be mean. Goodness, it’s all fun and enjoying life and you do it so well. I am a good bit older than you (20+ years) and I have learned a lot about hair and makeup from you especially with new products that get me out of a rut. You are a doll and such a good mom to those precious boys. Your pregnancy journeys were much like mine including the closeness in age of your boys ( I had a boy then a girl.). You have handled it with grace and you should be so proud. Take the time you need to guard your heart and mind. Your faithful readers will be here to cheer you on!

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milo says · 07.14.16

Thank you for sharing your life. I’m so, so sorry there are hateful comments. I wish I could make them go away, but all I can do is add my voice to the positive comments.

You bring light, levity, beauty, style, education, and thoughtful inspiration to my life. Your perspective, priorities, and faith give hope and refreshment. I’ve learned so much from you besides how to do my hair and makeup (although I totally learned those things too) in the past year or so that I’ve been reading. I so appreciate you letting me into your life journey – with all the twists and turns, people, places and things along the way. I just love you and want to be like you, okay? <-I'm not good at talking about feelings, but I hope "you're the best" came through somewhere in that comment <3

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Deborah Lindsay says · 08.02.16

Dear Kate,
I love your blog- both the practical tips and techniques and the joy and positivity you put out into the world. I’m truly sorry you’ve been the recipient of hateful comments- that says more about the writer than it does about you, but you already know that and it still stings. Keep sparkling and putting โค๏ธโค๏ธ Into the world!

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Lindsay Hill says · 08.14.16

Hi Kate :))
I’ve been following you for quite a long time now and I sooooo appreciate you!
I’m also a lover of The Lord, a wife to an amazing man, a mama of 2 precious little ladies, and for work: I’m a Pilot at a major airline in Canada. Can I just tell you how many woman pilots follow you?!?!!!! Many. Many. Many. We aren’t supposed to wear our hair down at work so a big huge THANK YOU to you for showing us cute, fun, easy styles to pull our hair back. Something different than the usual “pony”.
You are much appreciated, oh sweet one. Please keep doing what you do
โค๏ธ Lindsay

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