Preparing for Baby #2

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The kitten eye

Much to my shock I realized I have started my 3rd trimester this week.

This pregnancy is flying by! I’m so grateful to be feeling good still, sleeping well, and feeling the baby move around so much!

Anyway, I’m beginning to think through what I’ll need to get out of storage, what I’ll need to buy, and what I’ll pass on this time around.

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1. Ergo : I think I’ll end up wearing this baby a lot more in order to have my hands free to play with David

2. Zip up swaddle : forget folding and wrapping, zippers are the way to go!

3. Rock n’ Play Sleeper : David slept by my bed for the first month of his life (then he moved to the nursery) and I liked how the rock n’ play sleeper kept him propped up and “snuggled”.

4. Newborn bath : I always feel terrible for bathing babies before their cord comes off because it seems so cold! And it will be the dead of winter again! I liked how the mesh kept David above the water, but a good part of his body could be in it too.

5. Burp cloths : these were my absolute favorite, especially during David’s peak spit up time.

6. Solly Baby Wrap : This will be much more streamlined and lighter than the Ergo, so I’ll practice a bit more with it for this next baby!

7. Our monitor can handle another camera, so I’ll need to buy one of those

8. Another diaper pail

9. fresh pack of onesies (I’d love to hear what brand you find to be softest!)

10. peepee teepee‘s (if it’s a boy). I just never used them!

11. Anything with buttons because ain’t nobody got time for that. I don’t care how cute the outfit is. Zips for the win! Or just separate tops and bottoms.

All in all, I’m excited to meet this next baby! I watched a video documenting the birth of a baby the other day and cried over all the emotions it stirred up in me! It seems like just yesterday I was laying on the cold operating table, taking long, deep breaths in anticipation of David arriving! And then hearing the first cry? OH FORGET IT MASCARA.

I would love to hear some of your “must have for every single baby” items (other than the obvious diapers, wipes, etc). Is there something I have never mentioned that was a life saver for you? Also, if you have two babies about 14 months apart, I’d love to hear any advice or tips you may have!

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Brooke Ballinger says · 11.19.14

I just wanted to say how excited I am that you are pregnant around the same time that I am! You are by far my favorite blogger and this is my first baby so all of your post are so helpful!! Thank you so much!!!

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Sondra says · 11.19.14

But a good double stroller! We actually had 2; one front and back &one side by side. I found that even quick trips to Target or grocery store that using the double stroller was easier than using a shopping cart as long as I only needed a few things. Also loved Gerber white onesies are the best! Best of luck to you and your family.

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kelty says · 11.19.14

Double-stroller is an absolute necessity for when #2 gets a bit bigger. You can totally make it work with the ergo and the single stroller for a while, though.

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Amber says · 11.19.14

I highly recommend stocking your freezer with food that just needs heated or thawed and poured into a crockpot because you will not have any free hands after your vistors leave. And a double stroller is also a must.

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Jena says · 11.19.14

Kicky pants are the absolute softest!! A family member gave us a footsie outfit as a gift, and I ended up ordering more. I’m pretty sure the have regular onsies too. 🙂

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Alison Harrison says · 11.19.14

Kickee pants are awesome! Super soft and comfy.

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Cydney says · 11.19.14

I have a Phil and Ted Stroller which has proven to be super versatile and great for two little ones (my two girls are currently 6 months and 2 years). The Solly Baby Wrap is my absolute favorite baby item and I think that you will love it. Being hands free while snuggling the tiny babe and chasing the other is so important!

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Sue says · 11.19.14

Couldn’t agree more about Phil & Teds’s strollers, or buggies as we call them in the UK! I had a limited edition one in blue graffiti that I absolutely loved. It was incredibly versatile for a baby/toddler combo and both my children napped happily in it. I found it essential for nipping around town, and it even coped well with cobblestone streets which we have a lot of in the part of England that I’m from. I would choose it again over any other double pushchair for children of different ages.

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Kami says · 11.19.14

Hi Kate! I have two children fourteen months apart. I think you have the right idea to skip the buttons.

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Kara says · 11.19.14

Good Morning Kate,
I am a mom of seven and my first two are 13 months apart. I did think to myself sometimes that it was similar to having twins just with different challenges. My second baby was the hardest for me to adjust to the demands of having a newborn. My first just had my heart wrapped up with her heart and not being able to give her the attention I was used to giving her broke my heart. It was such a time of growth for both of us and a real blessing in disguise. I tease her now that that year she was an only child almost spoiled her for life.
I’ve never had any jealousy problems with any of my children, but they are usually a little wary of the new baby at first. I always tell the youngest, from the time the new one is born, that this baby is HIS baby brother or sister.
I concur with the comment about the double stroller. I bought a McClaren double when mine were little and loved it. It’s not too large. Also, you might consider a playpen for downstairs(If you have them). I found it very helpful to have a place to quickly lay the newborn down where the baby would be safe from a curious toddler.
Blessings for your family. Always remember the Lord is a very present help, call on Him.

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Sarah says · 11.19.14

My kids are 16 months apart. They are now 5 and 4 (girl then boy). I won’t lie, the first couple years with both of them are a big blur.

Our #1 baby item is The Ultimate Crib Sheet. It’s about $20 at Amazon or Babies R Us. You need 3, one for each bed and then an extra. As the kids get bigger, diapers and pullups are more likely to leak. And of course potty training comes into play too. With the Ultimate Crib Sheet, you just pull it off and snap on a new one whenever there is a leak. Total lifesaver in the middle of the night to not have to strip the bed down and remake it. My 4 year old still uses it on his toddler bed.

We got a double stroller but didn’t use it a whole lot. My oldest preferred walking around.

One great benefit of having children so close together is that they pretty much play with the same toys. Both were into trains at the same times, then Duplos, now Legos. Keeps the playroom less cluttered. MagnaTiles are one of the greatest toys we ever got. They are pricey but the kids still love them.

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Amy says · 11.19.14

Ditto on The Ultimate Crib Sheet! I have three at all times and they have seen me through all three of my babies.

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Kate says · 11.19.14

good to know, I’ll look into it!

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Valerie says · 11.19.14

I didn’t use those sheets specifically, but I always put a few layers of sheets on the crib at a time. So big flat liner (I liked the carter’s brand one), then sheet. Then another liner, then sheet. Then liner, then sheet. Then when the baby spits up or explodes around a diaper, you just grab the top set off and the bed is already made for you, so no fumbling around the in the middle of the night!

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sarah says · 11.28.14

That is so smart!!

Ashley says · 11.20.14

You should check out QuickZip crib sheets–similar idea, except the top sheet zips on and off for easy middle of the night changing. Best invention EVER!

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Kayla says · 11.19.14

I have two waterproof mattress protectors, which I think is essentially what you are talking about. This was not my idea but a GENIUS idea I read, is to layer the waterproof sheet with a regular sheet, and then layer another waterproof sheet and regular sheet over top of it. The reasoning being that in the middle of the night if there is some catastrophic bodily fluid explosion you can simply take off the top layer of sheet and waterproof mattress protector and go back to bed. No wrangling another sheet set over the mattress. I think with two little ones, this quick tip would also help. Bodily fluids happen at the most inopportune times.

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Mallory says · 11.19.14

My nieces are 14 months apart! They are almost 10 and 9 now(oldest born in Feb, second born the following April)
The twin thing is actually relatively accurate, at least once they’re out of the newborn/infant stage. My nieces are actually even almost the same height and weight and have been since they were toddlers.
The youngest walked early and she was speaking full sentences when she was 2.5. The downside(or upside, depending on your view) is that because they’re the same sex, they have been getting the exact same Christmas presents, like a twin might, their whole lives. I know it’s done in fairness, but they spend all their time together and their age makes them then want the same toys!
But, they are the BEST of friends and have always been super close, it’s been fun to watch them grow up so close together!
My SIL also said the on of the best parts of them being so close in age was she basically was able to potty train them at the same time!

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Tracy says · 11.19.14

I recommend Kissy Kissy onesies. They are the softest onesies I have come across.

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Colleen Mercer says · 11.19.14

I really loved the onesies from Carter’s! They have solid white long-sleeved onesies that are a must have for a newborn in the winter months. I found they are much softer than Gerbers or the like and last through all those frequent washings. Best of luck to you as you become a mother to 2!!

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Laura says · 11.21.14

I echo Carter’s brand onesies. You can get them at Target, they are soft, and I’ve also found them to be a more reliable fit than the original Gerbers onesies.

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Clair Jenkins says · 11.19.14

Merlin’s magic sleep suit! If you have one that struggles to begin to sleep through the night this will be the best money you have ever spent! You can put them in it around 12 pounds or 3 months. The first night I put my son in this he slept through the night and I’m not the only one I know that had the same experience. Look for it on amazon and read about it. We used it until he could turn himself over in it.

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Laura says · 11.21.14

We really liked the MMSS too but I wish our little guy could have used it longer. He really only used it from about 4-6 months old because you’re not supposed to use it once they can roll over.

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Amy says · 11.19.14

To keep baby warmer during bathtime, use a receiving blanket. Loosely wrap baby and put in the bath sling. Uncover areas you want to wash and then cover again. This is a trick I learned while my grandson was in the NICU. We continued this when he and my daughter came home. Skyler really enjoyed his baths doing this even after the cord came off and he could be submerged in the water. He would even fall asleep during his baths; that’s how comfy he was.

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Christen says · 11.19.14

I cannot rave enough about the Peanut Shell sling I used for my second. I, too, had two little girls pretty close together and baby wearing the second is the way to go! I regularly took my girls to the Children’s Museum or the library and just putting the infant in the sling keeps them warm, cozy and away from the germy hands of strangers 🙂 Here’s the link to the sling that I used: http://www.thepeanutshell.com/Products/Baby-Carriers/Adjustable-Baby-Sling

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Katie@LifesNextBigStep says · 11.19.14

Snaps are the WORST!! We always specify that if someone is buying something for the baby (or even our 17 month old)…if it has a bunch of snaps, look for something else. It sounds rude but honestly, ain’t nobody got time for snaps, especially with wiggly little ones who don’t ever want to sit still ever…

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Angie teagle says · 11.19.14

I am currently pregnant with our 4th baby. And something I wish I had done a LONG time ago, when I was pregnant with my 1st is watch “The Business of Being Born.” The full documentary is on YouTube and the second film is on Netflix. I truly believe it’s a necessity for every mama!

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Sue says · 11.19.14

As one of your followers from the UK, I have to say I’m completely with you on no.10. The peepee teepee’s were just gathering interest over here when my second son was born and I just didn’t see the point. On the rare occasions that the wee/pee made an unexpected appearance when I was changing either of my baby boys, I found it easier just to throw a wet wipe or 3 over their boy bits. I certainly didn’t see the need to purchase yet another baby product aimed at helping me in such a small way, they just seemed destined to sit gathering dust in the changing box, along with the baby brush 😉 Also, you use less products the second time round purely because you have less time when there is a toddler doing their best to ‘help’ with everything, or pull their baby brother off the changing mat the moment your back is turned. Have fun, it’s the most chaotic of times when they are both so small, but also the most fun and you’ll have the most treasured memories because of it! 🙂

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valerie says · 11.19.14

What’s a necessity and what can be skipped was a recent conversation I had with friends. We all laughed at ourselves at being rookies first go round and feeling tricked into needing every silly thing on the market.
Glad to see the Ergo on there, as every time I imagine having 2 (working on it 🙂 I envision a lot more baby wearing.

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Michelle says · 11.19.14

I found with my second one, I needed more places to ‘put’ him. I got 2 Fisher Price products that were life savers when I needed to be chasing my 2 year old. An Apptivity Gym and a Sit-Me-Up floor seat. Also, I used my Solly wrap almost daily!

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Maggie says · 11.19.14

As far as a double stroller, I bought the City Select because you can use it as a single or double. I was psyched! However, I really don’t like the attachment for the baby’s bucket seat (seems really wobbly), the baby can only use the actual seat once they’re around 6 months old, and in my opinion, it’s REALLY heavy. All in all, not psyched about that purchase. I wish I would have gone to different stores to try them out before buying. Since you’re totally into doing you’re research, I’m sure you won’t make the same mistake I did!

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Linda says · 11.19.14

We have two girls 13 months apart. Yes on the double stroller down the line! When my youngest daughter was still small I used a moby wrap with her and a single stroller for my oldest daughter. But once my youngest was big enough, the double stroller definitely came in handy. I love carters for onesies and Mustela foam shampoo for cradle cap. After the newborn stage if you can get them on the same sleep schedule it will save your life!!! Having two so close together is a challenge but an incredible joy.

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Angela R says · 11.19.14

Aden and Anais swaddle blankets all the way! They are great for everything, spit up, blankie, nursing cover. Wish I found them with the first kid.

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Aubrey says · 11.19.14

I would fill your freezer and pantry with as much food as humanly possible. I prepared spaghetti sauce, casseroles, soups, stocks and beans right before our second one was born. Our first 2 are 16 months apart and I am pregnant with our third. We will have 3 under 4 and I know I will stuff that freezer and pantry with even more food this time around! The best thing I ever did having so many close together was create a changing station in the hallway outside the girls’ rooms. That way if one was asleep and the other was awake, I wasn’t sneaking into a room to change anybody. ALSO, I made myself a padded seat to carry from room to room with me for right after delivery, when everything is still sore and tender. When you have a toddler and a newborn, you will spend a lot of time on the floor and that is no bueno for a sore bottom!

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Alli says · 11.19.14

Oh my goodness yes! I made a million meals before #2 (and now none before #3!) and it was SO helpful!

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BiancaZ says · 11.19.14

You are really blessed! I am sure it wont be easy….but very very very beautiful!

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Sara W says · 11.19.14

there are challenges with every spacing, you’ll do great! Your keep, buy, pass list is great-having three boys myself (a girl in two weeks hurrah!) I totally agree that the pee pee tee pees are a novelty gift…and girls pee on you just as much 😉 have a wonderful last trimester!

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Alli says · 11.19.14

I second having a playpen to put the baby (or David) in when you need to walk away for a minute. This was a huge help for me when my second baby was born! And I think the best advice I ever read was to enjoy it, embrace the chaos. It will be crazy, but just learn to relax into it and go with flow. It will only last for a season 🙂 I can’t wait to see the new little cutie!

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Nabetsi says · 11.19.14

First I love your blog! I too loved the snuggle sleeper and still use it occasionally with my 4 month old. We also loved the bouncer and used that a bunch. Have you tried Lasinoh Momma Bottles? They are by far my favorite and we had been given Tommy Tippy and Avent ones. Good luck!

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Sara W says · 11.19.14

Oh! And I forgot to add my must haves: with my second, I learned how to use a ring sling. Life. Saver. I still love my ergo, but this is snug and secure and makes grocery shopping solo with two possible. A really good double jogging stroller (I love my double bob more than I can say) especially with how active you are. I always love the sweet pea nightgowns in the beginning and my last two boys got a lot of use out of baby legs leg warmers-made night changes a breeze while keeping them warm. It’s amaIng how much you realize you don’t need with subsequent kids but there will always be some fun new things that come out between kids, even as close as yours where even if you don’t use it a ton, it was fun for the novelty. Again, enjoy the rest of your pregnancy. I could kiss you for your bump nest recommendation-where has this thing been for all my other pregnancies?! Saved the best for last I guess 😉

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Amy says · 11.19.14

A bouncy seat or something similar is a must when you have an infant and a really mobile toddler. It will give you a safe place to put baby down while you get your toddler out of mischief, but also give you a place to set baby in case David wants some baby free time in mommy’s lap.

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Denise says · 11.19.14

You can do it! I’m a military spouse, and had a set of twins then a third child 18 months later. My husband had to deploy not long after that, and I wasn’t anywhere close to family or friends. It was hard, but it’s amazing what us mom’s can do when it comes to our sweet babies! You’re going to do amazing, and your babies are so lucky to have you! ;0)

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JNJxn says · 11.19.14

God bless you!! And what sweet encouragement!!

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meredith says · 11.19.14

Thank you so much for your service to our country. The families of our military members are what holds this country together. Again, thank you.

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Michelle says · 11.19.14

My girls were 18 months apart. I have heard since they’ve grown up that having 2 that close is actually harder than twins… and that they were!!! I don’t want to scare you…. you may actually have an easy time of it… but for me it was hard. My 18 month old was such an easy baby, and my newborn was anything but. She cried all the time… to the point of me not wanting to leave the house because if she cried in public people just gave me dirty looks. She seriously cried for HOURS everyday. My 18 month old was like “PUT HER BACK IN!!!” lol Everyone’s experience is different, obviously. And it’s all worth it in the end.. now that my girls are teens they get along fabulously. … Sometimes they are even the best of friends. I wish nothing but the best for you and hope your experience is better than mine! 🙂

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Michelle says · 11.19.14

Let me say this – a vibrating bouncy seat was what we used the most. It was a lifesaver!

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Jenny says · 11.19.14

I do not have children, though your posts about your babies has helped to ease my fear of having kids… but one of my friends has 2 girls that are 14 or 15 months apart, and she does beautifully with them, and she’s about to have a third baby! She told me she read the book BabyWise and followed its advice and it’s what saved her, and helped her to get her kids on a sleep schedule of 11-13 hours each night (that sounds like a miracle to me).

xx
Jenny // Mish Mosh Makeup

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Sara says · 11.19.14

Girl! Don’t forget the Boppy! Keeping one upstairs and one downstairs is the most time and sanity saving thing I ever did! Lord knows, our babies needed to eat in the middle of the night and I didn’t want to have to go downstairs to find that pillow! Love the Boppy! I even had to pry it out from under my husband who found it to be the best fitting neck pillow when lounging around the house!

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April says · 11.19.14

I had two boys 11 months apart (now 7 & 6, I survived!) and it was definitely challenging at times! The hardest part for me was that as one progressed (the baby) the other regressed at times. Sort of two steps forward, one step back! BUT despite the blur of that first year I wouldn’t trade it for the world. They were each others best friends back then and even now! Plus, you get the world’s best arms from carrying two babies at once! Ha! Fast forward 7 years and I just had my 4th baby 3 months ago. Look into the Puj tub. It’s amazing. Also, the aden and anais bamboo swaddle blankets (bamboo version is waaaay softer than the original). Good luck. You got this! 🙂

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Kristin says · 11.19.14

Because I didn’t know any better with my first, we just registered for the Gerber onesies at Target because it’s what they had. A few months after our daughter was born, our Target (finally!) got the Carter’s Just One You onesies, which I was stoked about because they were cheaper, thicker and MUCH softer. We switched over from Gerber to Carter’s in the late spring, and then didn’t do onesies in the summer because layering was totally not necessary.
Now that we’re back to winter and layering is an absolute necessity in Minnesota, I’m discovering that I don’t like the fit of the Carter’s onesies as much because they aren’t as snug. It’s especially hard with the sleeves because there’s so much extra on them that the onesie sleeve gets caught when I put her shirt on and bunches up by her arm pit. Each morning, I have reach up her sleeve and pull the onesie sleeve down. Or, on my lazy mornings, I just use a short sleeve onesie, which kind of defeats the purpose of warm layering for cold Minnesota winters. All of this to say, when she grows out of these onesies, I think I will end up going back to the Gerber’s onesies.
I will say that this could totally be individual to my daughter. Maybe she has toothpicks for arms and the Carter’s onesies fit snug on most other babies. Just one more way that these things are different for each kid.

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Alison Harrison says · 11.19.14

I would highly recommend a Sakura Bloom ring sling. I used the Moby wrap with my daughter until she was about 5 months old and then switched to the Sakura Bloom. It is so much easier and comfy for mom and baby. It does take a little while to get the hang of it, but once you do it is a breeze!

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Corey Elliott says · 11.19.14

My first and second were 15 months apart. My second and third were 21 months apart. So the last four yers have been busy and crazy for us. I had to have all three of mine by c-section as well. I found that the best way to prep for the next one was to start teaching the bigger one(s) to be easy on Mama about a month before the new one was born. This helped them prepare for me not being able to just scoop them up or play rough. It is awesome. And don’t let people get you down, having two that close together is not that hard! David will be at a perfect age to accept the baby into your lives. My oldest was walking so I had him “help” me all the time. The easiest way to do that was to have diapers where he could reach and then have him bring me one when I was ready. I also kept spare outfits where he could reach when the need arose. It made him feel really involved and he is still super helpful at almost 4! Good luck, it is going to be GREAT!

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Nicole says · 11.19.14

This is great advice! I’m pregnant with #2 and currently have a 17-month old. I will definitely keep this in mind for our little ones. Thanks for sharing!

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Leigh Ann says · 11.19.14

I liked the plain Carter’s onsies for under shirts. I didn’t like any of the Gerber stuff I had. For the first few week when the umbilical cord was on, I preferred the side snap, Kimono style shirts (also from Carters). They aren’t as tight across the stump and the open bottom allows air to circulate around it better and aids healing. They also have the sleeves that fold over their little hands so you don’t have to worry about the mittens falling off.

I’m assuming you have a swing/bouncy seat in storage as well? Or are maybe using the RNP as your bouncy seat. And maybe a Pack n Play. While it’s easy to leave a baby on the floor and walk away for a bit when he’s the only child in the house, it’s probably better to have a more contained option around when you have a toddler running around 🙂

A double stroller for sure with them both being that young. And I’m happy to see some babywearing options on your list. I think babywearing is essential when there is a toddler in the picture! Double strollers are bulky, so it’ll be easy to have a more streamlined option like babywearing for those quick trips!

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Melissa says · 11.19.14

I second the kimono-style shirt. L’oved Baby has some great onesies with a few front snaps. Although they are technically snaps, the quality is very nice and worth the money. They have the mittens, which come in handy for that constant nail battle, and they are easy to remove (especially when diaper accidents occur!). I bought my little guy 3 of these things, and they still look nice after many washes.
Congrats on your baby!

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Celina says · 11.19.14

I just had my second boy (they are 3.5 years apart) but I honestly could not manage without my coveregoods nursing cover. I can’t remember if you are the one who introduced me to them… Anyways, if you are planning on nursing this baby it is a must! Full coverage & can be used easily while at the park with the other one,etc. It also gives you the option of how to wear it – one arm out – which is always nice to have a free hand and not be worried about flashing everyone. Also, it double as a car seat cover! Seriously considering getting another one once the strong winds come around just have on hand for that purpose. Best wishes to you & your babies!

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Virginia says · 11.19.14

My first two girls are 13 months apart and my next two are 17 months apart. And I now have a 6 month old three years apart from the fourth born. You can baby gear yourself up to your eyeballs, but can I just say that if you don’t train your children (yes that means even an 11 month old) to “…obey your parents in The Lord for this is right.” Then all that baby gear and zipper vs. Snaps really won’t mKe a huge difference. This literally will help you in all situations. David is doing something unwittingly dangerous for the baby. You are across the room. If you say stop he will stop if he knows you require obedience. And practice good behavior at home. Sitting quietly in the Dr’s office or at church? Do that at home where you aren’t actually worried about bothering other people and are free handle the situation right in the moment without disturbing others. My kids had trouble with staying close and not touching EVERYTHING when we went shopping. So my husband and I started pretend shopping trips where we had no intention if buying anything but we were their to teach our kids. We made a game of it. Obviously, hard days exist no matter what. But cling to The Lord and His instructions to parents and I think you will have a leg up on a lot of other young moms.

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Heidi P. says · 11.19.14

Agreed!
We are still working on this one!

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Lisa says · 11.19.14

Have you heard of Magnificent Baby (I’m sure you have 🙂 )? You can get the full body suits without the snaps and use the little magnets. Super easy and their patterns are really cute.

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Carolyn says · 11.19.14

My son is 17 months. My niece alsmost 25 months. My sister and I are very close and my mom babysits both kids while we work, but I have them both pretty often as well.

I completely relate to what you said about them being “like twins but different” But I can tell you this… David is 14 months now, and each month will get a little easier and better with him. He will become so much more independent almost overnight. I look back at my son at 14 months and I feel like in these 3 short months he’s grown leaps and bounds. And my niece too. She is so helpful. Such a little helper – they are of course cray cray some days.. but not usually!

Your kids will get into this sync. And you will too. XO

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Jen says · 11.19.14

Hi Kate! Congrats on your impending new arrival! I have three kids that are 19 months apart. My son turned 19 months the day after my twin boys were born. They are now almost 2 and a half and 9 months old. It has been hard, but wonderful! My recommendations are to get a good double stroller (or two – a side by side is nice for walks and a single-line is easier in stores and tight spaces). Depending on how often you need to leave the house, you don’t necessarily need to break the bank. I don’t love my side by side, but it was relatively inexpensive and since I don’t go out much it works for what I need it to do! Definitely have bouncy seats, and later a jumper, both upstairs and down so you can pop the baby in if you need to have your hands free. Also, if at all possible, try to get the baby and David on the same schedule! It took about 4 months until this was realistic for my kids, but once they were all eating and napping and going to bed around the same time, everything felt a lot more manageable and less chaotic. Good luck – it’s hard and stressful at times, but a true blessing and gift!! You will do great!

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Lacee says · 11.19.14

I highly recommend a Nose Frida! That thing saved my life with my daughter and I plan on using it with my next as well. Congrats to you 🙂

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Heather says · 11.19.14

For baths…..our hospital taught us how to do a swaddle bath and it is the best thing ever! We use the same tub you have. I kind of rolled my eyes when they told me they swaddled the babies for baths, but it is amazing! My baby gets SO relaxed and super Zen during bath tulle. It is so sweet that I just love giving him baths. You just swaddle them in a thin blanket and pour nice warm water over them. Then you can take a body part out at a time to wash them. Then get them covered back up again and pour more water over them. Logan only cries when it is time to be done. Pretty sure I would love to have a swaddle bath myself. Lol

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Brenda misch says · 11.19.14

Having an 8 year old step son and a 7 month old daughter and a deployed husband, I’ve had to Handel two kids on my own since the baby was 7 weeks ( only a few months until I’ll no longer have to do it alone!) i love my moby wrap, takes a little to get use to wrapping it but is easy to use for the newborn stage especially when you need your hands free to help a sibling, make dinner, clean, or just help with those fussy moments! I also love Carter’s onesies! They seemed to hold up best and I like how they seem longer verses wider ( even my chunky daughter never was wide enough for some onesies). Also I highly recommend a carabiner for your stroller (they sell them in the baby section at target) I hook the little hand baskets onto it so it hangs on your stroller while your shopping so you don’t need to drag a cart around with the stroller, but can still get more then what your hands can hold.

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Armida says · 11.19.14

My daughters are 12 months apart, they are 3 &4 years old. Maybe I’m just lucky but it has been easy peasy! Their is no jealousy and they are always together. My must have has been my double stroller (still using it even at this age! Best investment ever!) and when they were younger the high chairs. We do a lot and I’m just not going to be pushing a stroller and walk hand in hand with the older toddler so early on the double side by side McLaren became my best friend. As soon as my younger one was able to sit up, the high chair became essential to (the kind with a big tray). I used it for feeding (duh) but also like a desk of sorts. Coloring, play dough, blocks, etc… It just sort of calmed them down and gives them something very specific to do. Good luck!

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Susan Kerr says · 11.19.14

Congrats on your blossoming family! I have 3 kids; first 2 were 16 months apart, then 3 years before #3 came along (the 3rd is easier than the 2nd in my opinion). Advice: Double stroller – mine knew they had to stay in it or we went home. Had lots of treats/toys/special little activities just for the stroller. Take all the help you are offered. Hire some regular help if you can just so you can run errands, etc. Take one day/hour at a time. It’s tiring and a bit of a blur. I grocery shopped late at night because otherwise you have one cart full of kids and then pull another for groceries. Get groceries delivered sometimes and don’t feel bad. I too used to wish for twins! My napping schedules for them were constraining, but rested kids = happy kids. We used white noise machines to help mask noise during napping. Good news is they will play together as they get older, be very close, do camps together, will be excellent at sharing/waiting/taking turns. A large swingset absolutely saved my life in the spring/summer – older one plays/little one watches/swings. Did lots of splashing in a small pool – one naps/one plays. Make use of nearby parks & trails for short adventures & picnics, and can come come quickly when you need to. Go out on short dates with your hubby. Give yourself a lot of breaks – mentally and physically!!

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Kristen says · 11.19.14

I had 3 kids in 3.5 years (all girls and all C-sections!) and we let go of a lot of things by the time we had our third. One new thing we tried with #3 that has been EXTREMELY helpful is a white noise machine. With two big sisters running around and playing/screaming, the white noise machine really helps my youngest to sleep soundly (we started using it when she was a newborn and never stopped!). We got the HoMedics SoundSpa from Target for $20 and we are still using it 10 months later for naps and nighttime. It also has the benefit of batteries, so it’s very portable and we take it with us if our daughter needs to nap while we’re visiting friends or family. My motto for having babies is: “Prepare for the worst, and then be surprised when it’s not as hard as you thought.” Ha! 🙂

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Christine says · 11.19.14

a double stroller is a must. I have 3 kids who are 4, 6, 7 . My oldest 2 are a year and 5 days apart, and if im honest it was 10000 times harder adjusting to #3 then it was having 2 so closer together..

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Laura Weitzel says · 11.19.14

I just wanted to chime about peepee teepee’s–they didn’t work for us! Either my son would squirm and knock it out of place, OR he would pee and knock it out of place :). I just tear a baby wipe in half and cover him with that. *full disclosure, I have been peed on many times 😉

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Heather says · 11.19.14

I agree with wearing the baby. I used the Moby Wrap, and only did with the youngest and was constantly wondering why I hadn’t used them before. I know I used it daily until he was 6 months old, and then I used the hip side wrap till 1 year. It was perfect for frequent airport trips to pick up out of town family. My sister loved her ergo it just didn’t fit right for me so just find your best option and go with it.

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Libbie says · 11.19.14

Mine are 13.5 months apart and I think all of the items you have a great! Definitely baby-wearing is a must with the second, especially during that newborn phase. My girl is now 22 months and my boy is 8 months. I feel like we are finally getting over that crazy hump. Two tips I can give you to start working on now with David are.. understanding the word “gentle” so you can use it when the baby arrives. Also teaching him to hold your hand in public. If you have a carseat in one hand and need to walk into a store, restaurant, etc, its great if your toddler can hold your hand. Good luck!!

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Alli says · 11.19.14

SO true. ‘Gentle’ and ‘nice hands’ were a huge help to me! And the walking, OH THE WALKING! Or else you need a stroller every stinkin place you go!

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Jennifer says · 11.19.14

Carters onesies- short sleeve, long sleeve, tank sleeve…. in general, the Carters onesies were the softest, most affordable and the most durable. The Gerber onesies were SO flimsy, after one wash holes were forming at the seams, they never retained their stretch/shape- and definitely didn’t provide that “extra layer” of warmth in the winter months. Carters also makes onesies that has the snaps, but instead of snapping between the legs, there is a panel that stretches up to above the belly button, making it MUCH easier secure before/after diaper changes, as well as to check on the umbilical cord.

I also recently discovered the JJ Cole Bundle Me for my 10mo old. It’s the softest slipcover blanket for a car seat and/or stroller, and it stretches around, securing to it. The best part is that it has zippers that go around the sides, so you can zip your little ones inside and it keeps them warm and toasty! That way, you don’t have to mess w/blankets flying off the car seat, or- in my case- the little one trying to play peek-a-boo and pull it off! Also, it solves the issue of trying to keep them warm w/o safety issues of wearing a huge coat in the car seat! It has been such a time saver and my little guy LOVES it!!!

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Melissa says · 11.19.14

I’m totally getting the Rock ‘n Play Sleeper when I have another baby. It’s genius.

As far as onesies I really liked Carters brand, but it was for one reason and one reason alone: They were the ones that fit my babies’ long bodies the best!

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Amber says · 11.19.14

Get the uppababy vista with the rumble seat!! You already know how awesome the uppa is ;). My 1st and 2nd are 16 months apart, and I found it crucial to set up a “nursing station”. Inevitably, my older babe was hungry, thirsty, or bored every time I was stuck on the couch nursing. So in addition to the stuff I wanted/needed, I always kept a snack, sippy cup with water, and a book in a basket next to me (and I’d refill/rotate the book between nursing sessions). It was a lifesaver for me to be able to reassure my older one that I could still take care of her needs despite having a new baby. And the book was great for having her sit next to me staying occupied rather than causing mischief in some area of the house I couldn’t see.

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Lis says · 11.19.14

Uhh yes I have twins and you are correct that I want to slap you in the face for saying that. Newborn twins are not on the same schedule especially when you come home with preemies since the average gestation for twins is 35 weeks (I came home with a baby that was less than 4 lbs and another slightly over). Sorry momma I love your blog and I know it will be really hard adding another child to the bunch, but having newborn twins meant that my husband and I slept in shifts for around 6 months and I was up for the day at midnight even after going back to work. Ok so I also had two horrendous sleepers that I was encouraged not to sleep train by the pediatrician because of their size for quite a while. But you saying twins would be easier for that reason is crazy to me. Also there were just times that I had to let a child scream at the top of their lungs for extended periods of time because I couldn’t hold or feed two babies at once. Now that they are 1 they semi understand and have more than 0 seconds of patience. I do know it will be hard so good luck!

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meredith says · 11.19.14

I have to agree, that was an insensitive and unnecessary comment in her post. Especially since twins are a surprise. She chose to have two close together. As a mother, she should know that taking care of two infants at once is not easier than taking care of an infant and a one year old. Different challenges? Absolutely. Hard? Absolutely. I for one wouldn’t be able to do it alone. But when she just said last week that she had such a hard time with one newborn, then acts that way towards mothers raising two at a time, it makes no sense.

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Kate says · 11.19.14

Uhg, sorry you had tough sleepers! And just to clarify, I did not say twins would be easier! I made sure to NOT say that because I don’t think it would be, I just think the challenges are different (like I wrote in the post).

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meredith says · 11.19.14

It was pretty much implied, otherwise you would not have invited moms of twins to slap you in the face.

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Kate says · 11.19.14

I was attempting to be lighthearted, but it is clear that didn’t come across as such to some readers.

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Lisa says · 11.19.14

No worries, I seriously didn’t take offense, but the beginning was really. really. really hard. And don’t really think some people, especially at work, realize that. I am still standing though!

Heidi P. says · 11.19.14

My sister had twins when her first was 18 months old! They did not have similar sleep patterns. I found out I was pregnant with my second while she was in the hospital with them and watching her for those next eighteen months made me pray that I would NEVER have twins. I have never seen my sister so completely stressed. But she just had her sixth a few days ago so I guess it wasn’t as bad as I thought! 😉

I have four kiddos and there isn’t a lot outside of the basics that I think is really necessary. I wish I would have had a moby wrap with my first 3 because I really loved it with my 4th.
I nursed my kiddos and for the first month with each of them, the boppy pillow was extremely helpful. I’m long wasted so it was hard to hold baby up high enough and get him/her to latch on properly. The pillow held them while I maneuvered things.
I saw someone mentioned a double stroller: YES YES YES! I didn’t have one until my third and I felt so stupid for not having it with the first two. And they were 23 months apart so I think this may apply to you even more. I walked a lot though so it may not have been so helpful if not for that???
One thing that we HAD to have with all of ours were swaddling blankets. They slept so well all swaddled tight. I’ve had many people tell me it was mean or that babies don’t like it but I did not find either to be true. We swaddled for at least the first 3-4 months.
Last but not least, Babywise. There are a LOT of haters of this book and the methods taught in it. Most people have a hard time with it as it does require you to allow your baby some tears on occasion, but our kiddos are and always have been some of the best sleepers around. Our first slept through the night at 3 months and the others by 6 months. It sounds like you actually follow some of the methods in there? Anyway, its super nice to have kids that go to bed on their own and don’t need to keep mommy and daddy up all night.
Sorry, that’s a lot of words! Other than that I think what you have in pic is right on the money!

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Karen says · 11.19.14

I agree with the swaddling! Babies R Us had swaddlers that are velcro and fleece – so much easier than wrapping and tucking! They work awesome!!!

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Miriam says · 11.19.14

How exciting! You are already prepared I think 😉

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Heather Gatewood says · 11.19.14

I have a 6 month old boy and here are some of the items that I love:

-Children’s Place long sleeved onesies- super soft and thin enough that you can layer baby
-Kumquat Baby sleepers! So soft and adorable (but they do have snaps)
-Loved the kimono style tops for Sam when he was teeny. I hate putting something over his tiny head. I got the ones from Babies R Us and they were ok.
-Footed pants- I love these because keeping socks on a baby is impossible!!
-Aquaphor

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Karen says · 11.19.14

Just wanted to say congrats!!!! I have three boys and the first two are 16 mos apart. It is soooo like having twins esp b/c mine are the same size since the middle one was 4… he’s 11 now! Having said that… I went into the second pregnancy thinking, “I got this, ” which is NOT a good thought to have. My first son was so easy and I thought the second would be the same. My best bit of advice is to not go into it with an preconceived notions about how the second one will be. They are totally different (not always a bad thing!) but it took me a long time to realize this. With our third… I went into it expecting whatever comes will come and it was so much easier! It is great having them so close together… they don’t know any different and I think that is wonderful. They are also super close to each other. Enjoy the last trimester!

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Karen says · 11.19.14

A lot of people have mentioned a double stroller…. they are awesome and I had two (one for shopping, going out in public etc and a second jogger). The shopping one was a front to back double – best thing ever!!!!! The side to side is nice but hard to fit around displays while shopping anywhere. I always wished my jogger was front to back but it was given to me and at the time I don’t think they made one. If they do make one now, I would go with a front to back jogger that can handle a baby carrier (sometimes they can’t and you can’t put a newborn in a jogger).

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chelsey @ clean eating chelsey says · 11.19.14

I have twins, and I don’t want to slap you. 😉

I think in some ways having children so close in age is harder than having twins… and in some ways not so much. I think as long as David is walking, you’ll be okay. It’s hard carting around two that can’t walk! 🙂

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Beth Maybee says · 11.19.14

Just had my second 2 months ago and my boys are 18 months apart. My oldest is super active (walked at 9 months) so my necessity for#2 is a bouncer seat or something similar. Mine is actually stationary but I can keep baby on the table up out of reach of curious hands. I’m also loving sleep sacks for baby, because like you said ain’t nobody for time for extra snaps or whatever when baby keeps you up at night and toddler is demanding during the day.

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Jessica C. says · 11.19.14

It sounds like you are on point with all of the products! I have two girls that are 14.5 months apart. I second a previous poster’s comment about the Uppababy Vista with the rumble seat. This stroller is perfect and so much less bulky than those side-by-side double strollers that can barely make it through doorways! It’s also nice to have the option of NOT having a double stroller (you can very easily remove the rumble seat) if one of the babies is with the grandparents, at school, etc.

We also have the same Motorola monitor. We just purchased a second camera and it works perfectly. It didn’t at first…we actually had to take the first one back to the store because we couldn’t get it to “pair”. The second one worked though,

On a more important note…man, the first few months after I had my second daughter were tough. My oldest turns 3 in January and my youngest is 18 months. My husband and I now refer to the first few months as “in the weeds”. Just know it gets better and lean on your husband, family and friends for help! You CAN do it…and the first time you see David kiss and love on the new baby…well, there is nothing better. Best of luck to you!!

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Emily says · 11.19.14

My 2 are 22 months apart. I miscarried one in between and would’ve and the same space as yours are. I would buy another ergo for your hubs if you both like to be hands free and your going out somewhere. I actually like the snaps for newborns because then I could just unsnap the legs and leave them warm and buttoned on top instead of chilling them out of their zipper jams and zip their skin and they’re awake for sure!

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Katie says · 11.19.14

Did you use a postpartum support belt after your first C-section? I also had two C-sections and was given a support belt by one of my nurses after my second was born. It was amazing, and I wish I’d had one the first time! Belly Bandit is the most popular brand, but there are tons of companies that sell them. Many offer helpful support during your pregnancy as well. Definitely check them out! You will surely appreciate the extra support when carrying David and the baby.

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Kate says · 11.19.14

I didn’t, but I also didn’t feel like I needed it? It could be totally different this time around, and I know people that have one in case I want one!

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Emily says · 11.19.14

I also used a nipple shield for nursing the first few weeks to help baby latch and it was so helpful during the engorgement period. Also have your doctor check for tongue and lip tie. My kids have both been “tied” and after getting them clipped they’ve nursed much better. If the doctor or nurses aren’t familiar with it, find someone who is if he or she is having a hard time.

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Jenn I says · 11.19.14

my brother and I are 15 months apart. I don’t have kids, but I often look at my friends that do and wonder how the hell my mom did it. I’m in awe. Good luck, I’m pulling for you Kate!!!

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Amanda says · 11.19.14

My son is almost three now, but we found the Burts Bees organic cotton onesies to be very soft (although we thought they ran a little small)!

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Alli says · 11.19.14

I’m having #3 in TWO DAYS! I can hardly believe it, this will be my first time walking into the cold operating room (I labored before both of my other 2 before ending up in there!) and my emotions cannot handle it!

What we got out for this baby: rock n play (who can live without it?), aden and anais muslin swaddle blankets- love these for all seasons, MAM pacifiers as my kids took well to these, and my milkies milk savers- my boobs leak like crazy in the first few months and I want to catch as much as possible!

The first few weeks of 2 that close will be so hard- but you’re going to find a groove and it will be just perfect for you! I think the age difference matters, but there are other things that are much harder with larger age gaps, too. It’s about finding the balance (and holding on to David’s naps for dear life! :). My first two are 20 months apart so naps were essential to my sanity, personal hygiene, and restfulness- ya know… when baby slept at the same time. Thank the good Lord for Moby wraps!

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Sarah C says · 11.19.14

haha, on the peepee teepee, we got so many of those when we found out we were having a boy and used them as a joke, but they aren’t really that functional if you ask me.

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Jess says · 11.19.14

I adore the Gerber Organic Onesies–they are so soft and thick!

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lesley says · 11.19.14

We got a lot of use out of a sound machine! It was nice to use in our older daughter’s room so that our younger daughter didn’t wake her up each time she cried. Now they both have sound machines so they will sleep through pretty much anything…even if I have my Dance Moms turned up too loud! Ha ha!

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Anna Bundrick says · 11.20.14

I second the sound machine. The one I bought also has a projector which is helpful to help my son dose off on his own.

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Kathleen W. says · 11.19.14

I had the same bathtub for my kids (now 9 &4) . The hammock in the tub was wonderful! The pee pee tee pees were cute but not efficient and I completely agree about sleepers with snaps…..I can’t count the number of times I snapped them up crooked ! Zippers are the way to go !

Best wishes as you continue through your pregnancy !

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Rebekah says · 11.19.14

My favorite thing has been magnificent baby onesie…it is magnetic. Boy does it makes those 3am changes a breeze! Congratulations on your newest addition! You will love having another little one.

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Ashley Anderson says · 11.19.14

I just discovered a new toddler onesie start up company called Sophie and Co. Their mission is “to put more smiles on faces and better onesies on baby bellies. By combining wholesome and vintage inspired designs with responsibly produced onesies our desire is to support and enrich our communities.”
You can find cute and affordable onesies for toddlers at:

http://sophieandcokids.com/

Check them out!

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meagan says · 11.19.14

So excited to see your family grow! Can’t wait for photos!
-Meg
http://www.smalltownsisters.blogspot.com

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Katherine says · 11.19.14

My kids are 2.5 years apart and my daughter really struggled with the new man in town. She did NOT like being “dethroned.”
When I was nursing I tried to make that reading time. That way I could nurse and spend time with the older one. Also, when the baby was content or sleeping, I would try to have snuggle time with the older one, or do a special activity (puzzles, books, singing, etc.) I would even go as far as say to the baby, “No baby, it is big sister’s turn with Mama. You can have a turn in a little bit.” That way she knew that I was making her a priority at that time and that it is important to take turns. I think it helped her realize that she was still loved and could have my attention.
Other commenters mentioned a packn play downstairs to keep them safe. It might sound crazy but it is OK to stop nursing an infant to address the misbehavior of a toddler. They will have new freedom since you are preoccupied and they will try to test it. Just know it is coming. Let some things go, but when you shouldn’t, it is ok to put the baby down to address the misbehavior.
Also, a little playmat was great to keep my little guy entertained and after a while my daughter would join him and lay under it with him. It was really sweet!
I bought a couple new DVDs and a couple “quiet” activities that she could do. I delivered in January of the coldest and worst winters Chicago has seen in decades so we spent a LOT of time in our family room. It is TOTALLY FINE for your son to watch too much TV in the first couple months. Give yourself some grace in that regard. You all will come out on the other side, I promise!
Having two is wonderful and as other people say, embrace the chaos! Now that my little guy is almost one they are really starting to enjoy each other and play together. Congrats to you and welcome to this sweet Little One!

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Mary Giza says · 11.19.14

Mine are just under 13 months apart, now about 6 months and 18 months. It has been challenging. Like you said one is mobile and one isn’t and they have different needs. They both have very short attention spans which makes a lot of work for you. I long for the day (hopefully soon) when they both nap at the same time. We LOVE our britax side by side double stroller. It’s essential for everybody to get out of those! They are the busiest most exhausting days, but they are so rewarding. My youngest is beginning to notice her brother and she just lights up. And it’s the sweetest when my older son tried to help out -bring bottles and burp clothes, cover her with a blanket, try giving her the binky. They are going to have such a fun childhood together. Best of luck! I have days where I tell myself that “this too shall pass.” And then I tell myself not to wish time away too fast because it’s such a special time in all our lives <3

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Jenna B says · 11.19.14

I have two girls who are 14 months apart! {now they are just-turned-4 and almost-3}.

I’ll be honest, it was hard moving from one baby to TWO babies for me. I think it was that last “goodbye” to freedom or something that made it so challenging. It’s much easier to run around with one baby. You can get things done while they’re napping or take a nap yourself or watch TV or WHATEVER!! Two babies threw something completely different into the mix. I felt so overwhelmed and alone and I felt like I was giving up “me”. It was difficult letting go, but…. have no fear…. there IS hope!! Things got much easier over time and my girls are best buddies now. They do pretty much everything together. Sure, they squabble and aren’t best friends all the time, but they have SO MANY sweet moments that I’m not sure they would have if they were farther apart.

All this to say…. very much like you have probably found with your first baby, it is HARD at first {SO hard!!} but as time goes on you get in a rhythm and, with God’s help, you find peace and contentment with where He has you. On the difficult days, just think of the “light at the end of the tunnel”!! It IS there!

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Bailey says · 11.19.14

I have two boys – 3 days shy of 11 months apart and its hard but so great at the same time – you’ll love it! We got a double stroller and I barely use it – I think because its a side by side and not a front/back – I think I would prefer that. My second son likes to be held more than my first did so I usually use the single stroller and a carrier. One thing I will do before my third is make freezer meals! Those would help so much! We moved 2 states away when my second son was 6 weeks old and then moved again when he was 6 months old and having those meals would be great – we are still working on how to make meals with the needs of two little ones (currently 18 months and 7 months). I’m going to try the zip up swaddlers for my third baby! – I didn’t even know about those, life saver I’
m sure!

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Becky says · 11.19.14

Love your blog! My daughter was born a week before David, so I love to see your posts on how he is growing.

Rock-N-Play sleeper- a must!

Another most-have item: Bottle warmer! I had a friend over recently who has a 3-month old. She heats a coffee cup in the microwave and then leaves the bottle in it to heat. For me though, the bottle warmer is a necessity.

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AnnsLee R says · 11.19.14

Hi Kate,

I actually just found your blog and it looks like you and I will be delivering about the same time! I currently have a 16 month old and we will be a house of two girls. So far, I think the American Apparel baby onesies are the best but a little pricey. Anyways, I look forward to reading more about your number 2.

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Amber Smith says · 11.19.14

I recommend the color a snap method. find the center snap and color with a sharpie the inside of the snaps. red works best but it makes it easy to snap that one and move from there.

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Maggie says · 11.19.14

Amen to the white noise machine! Great help with naps, and naps will become HUGELY important. And a safe place to put the baby if you need to go to the bathroom, be it a playpen or a rocking bouncer. Anywhere the toddler cannot get them! My 20 month old daughter was SURE she could lift/carry her newborn brother and I had to watch her like a hawk. Two is an adjustment but SO worth every minute! Can’t wait to find out what you’re having!

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Joyce says · 11.19.14

It’s great to be prepared with all these wonderful items!

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Annie says · 11.19.14

Maybe think about getting a ring sling… I have one and use it all the time! It is lightweight and easy to throw in the diaper bag. Plus, it can be used to multiple stages. I have the Maya Wrap type.

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Ashley says · 11.19.14

I love burt’s bees baby clothing. It’s so soft and comfy and the colors are nice and mellow which I prefer.

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Michelle says · 11.19.14

Kate,

I have 5 children. My oldest is 8 and my youngest is 1. At one point I had 3 kids 2 and under. It was crazy, I was running around like a mad woman. I also couldn’t have been happier. People looked at me like I was crazy, I received tons of rude comments from people but also some really really nice encouraging comments.

I want to encourage you, this WILL be amazing. You will cry and you will laugh. All of you will be crying at the same time at some point, and that will make you laugh. You will feel torn between everything you are trying to do but when you look at your children’s beautiful faces and see that you are their whole world, God will give you grace to continue on.

Hope this helps! Children are such a miracle from God, and the responsibility given us is huge and not to be taken lightly. Remember to pray daily for strength.

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Nicole says · 11.19.14

Thanks for this post! After 5+ years of dealing with infertility and TTC, my husband and I are waiting to adopt again (we have an almost 3yr old daughter through adoption) and I kinda have forgotten about some of the baby stage must haves…yikes! You will do a great job and are blessed to have such a great family helping you out 🙂

I do remember loving the sound machine for sleeping!

Prayers & best wishes to you!

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Ashley says · 11.19.14

I have 3 kids – a daughter who’s 5, a son 12 months and a daughter 3 months. Yep – 9 months apart to the day! We adopted our son as a newborn, and then found out I was pregnant several weeks later. I’ll be honest – it’s really crazy, but really worth it. Here are my must-haves: miracle blanket swaddlers, the book “Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child” by Dr. Weissbluth, white noise machines, a front/back double stroller (I love my Phil and Teds), and your wrap of choice. I absolutely LOVED my Nesting Days wrap for the first 6 weeks – so comfortable and easy to use. Then we graduated to the Ergo. You will definitely want to baby wear with the 2nd. I have found I can wear my daughter and still pick up/hold/comfort my son as needed. And here’s my best piece of advice: do your best to get your kids on a good sleep schedule and do everything you can to stick to it. Yes, it’s limiting to getting out of the house, running errands, etc. But well rested kids are so much easier, and having a schedule you can “count on” (at least a little bit) will be key for your sanity. Many blessings!

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andrea says · 11.19.14

Burts Bees onesies 😉

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Kerry says · 11.20.14

While I don’t have kids of my own (yet!), my brother & I are 14.5 months apart. My mom said she never thought it was hard. It’s just how it was for her. That was life. She said the best part is that, while our “phases” seemed to go on forever because they were back to back (hello terrible 2s & 3s!), she said when they were done, they were done. Potty training went. on. and. on. – but when we learned it, it was done. She also said that my brother watched me & then usually did what I did, so it might have helped that we were so close in age.

Best of luck & congrats to you & your growing family!

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LaurenB says · 11.20.14

we LOVE the side-snap (japanese style?) onesies, especially for the newborn days when they are so tiny and hate having things pulled over their head. H&M has them online, super cheap and they are soft and organic – can’t be beat!

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Kassi says · 11.20.14

Congratulations! I have 3 who are all 3 and under.. Moms on Call (as far as scheduling and juggling) is a huge help for me. I agree with baby wearing…you’ll be able to keep both babies happy 🙂 Also maybe a busy box for your little guy to play with while you’re feeding the new baby. You’ll do great!

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Deanna says · 11.20.14

I had 3 kids in 4 years, the last two are 15 months apart (all c-sections). Here are a couple of tips:
!. Prepare as many freezer meals as possible before hand
2. Have your mom/sister/whoever stay with you for a week or two after you come home to help with the adjustment and recovering from a c-section – it was hard on my two oldest when I would have another baby because due to the c-sections I wasn’t able to pick them up/carry them at first like I usually did
3. Twin stroller is a MUST! We had one that would lay all the way down in the back seat and we could actually fit all 3 kids in it in a pinch, plus is gave extra room for diaper bag (bigger with 2 kids), coats, etc.
4. Have a pack ‘n play for the main floor – available for child #1 or #2 as needed (sometimes you just need to be able to use the bathroom without worrying about the older doing something to the younger!)
5. Some things you should just get duplicates of even if you could use the ones that David has – toys, certain blankets, etc. When our #3 was born my #2 suddenly became very attached to his burp cloths (much like a favorite blankie) – he wasn’t like that before baby came but, to ease the transition for him we just bought new burp cloths for baby that looked nothing like the other ones so that baby wasn’t “taking” his!
6. Basket for the nursing station filled with drinks & snacks for you and David, books and toys for David – lifesaver!
7. Label maker to label things – helps for babysitters, grandparents, dad, etc. to know which diapers, etc belong to which kid. You may think that this would be obvious, but you would be surprised! Also, as the kids get a little bigger they love to see their own names on things like sippy cup, snack containers, etc.
8. Having the changing table in the hallway between the 2 rooms in also a MUST – being able to change one without disturbing the other = priceless

I love your blog, and I am so excited for your growing family! Can’t wait to “see” this new little one!

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Lynette says · 11.20.14

I have boys who are 14 month and 5 days apart. I used a heating pad during middle of the night feedings…slip it in the baby’s bed under the blanket when you take them out for a feeding. Remove it when placing baby back in bed, they’ll go right to sleep:)

Obviously you’ll want to test the temp before baby arrives to make sure you’re heating pad doesn’t run too hot. If it does, slip it inside a towel then place in baby’s bed.

Sweet dreams:)

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Megan says · 11.21.14

Have you heard of http://www.magnificentbaby.com/ ? The sleepers are magnetic, even better than zippers!

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Karen says · 11.21.14

My children are 1 year and 3 days apart in age. They are now 29 and 28 years old. At the time I was beside myself trying to figure out how to handle 2 children so close in age. It worked great….they entertained each other, napped together, played together, bathed together. Our son was first so when our daughter came all of her everyday play clothes were his hand me downs….Maybe that’s why she is a girly girl now. When it came time to do shopping, church etc. I either waited until my husband was home at night (we farm in MN) to make trips to the grocery store or I waited until we both could go together. Our daughter has fond memories of the “carnival” rides in the shopping cart with my husband. I think going through diapers, bottles, high chairs etc all at the same time was ok rather than having to revisit those times with a few years in between children. Now our children live 1800 miles apart and they are still best of friends.

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Jenn says · 11.22.14

Good luck Kate!! Sounds like you’re really prepared!! My first two are 14 months apart and #2 and #3 are 17 months apart. Those first couple of years seem like a blur now, and I would give anything to have that time back!! So enjoy every single second of these precious blessings that God chose to give you!! It all goes SO fast!!

I’m also impressed with all of the new items they have for baby now….my youngest is 6 and all of the new things they have come out within the past 6 years is incredible!! But hey….whatever can make your life easier with two babies is great!!

Many blessings to you and your family!! ; )

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Vanessa says · 11.22.14

Oh my gosh, is that true! My oldest will be 5 soon and there were so many new products between just her birth and our youngest 3 years later. Where were those sleep sacks when she was a newborn?!

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Vanessa says · 11.22.14

My first two are 14 months apart. (Both girls.) I can’t give advice on the first month because I spent the first 4 weeks in the NICU (after already having her home for 5 days first) with #2. I agree that it is a bit of a blur. But while it sounds crazy, it was a nice gap. My oldest wasn’t old enough to really realize (and therefore fight about) that she was losing attention. She was still small enough that she wanted to sit and snuggle with me while I held/nursed her sister and couldn’t really cause too much trouble. The 18 month gap (between #2 and #3) was a bit more rough for us.

I think you are smart to realize you will want to wear the baby more. It does make it easier, especially when you need both hands to make lunch for David or do whatever. And ditto on the buttons – stuff like that, while cute, went to the consignment shop pretty quickly. (Sorry well meaning, relatives!) No one wants to deal with crotch buttons in dim light in the middle of the night while half asleep.

Best of luck to you during the end of your pregnancy!

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Phon says · 11.22.14

I agree, the second baby’s first year is a blur. My kiddos are 11months apart. I was the queen of strollers, as suggested you’ll need a good versatile double stroller. I had a double jogger, which was never used, the Joovy sit and stand which wasn’t practical w/ kids that close together, and my favorite was our Baby Jogger City mini double, It was light and folded flat and fit through even the narrow doorways. I’d say find a good small double stroller and then two good umbrella strollers, we used MacClaren Quest. All of which fit in the trunk of my then Acura TL…Now we have an awesome Honda Odyssey which we absolutely love!

As for onsies I loved anything babyGap. The gowns! The onsies are the softest ever! Watch for them to go on sale! With my kids so close together I got to use them w/ both babies.
Good luck w/ everything and thanks for sharing your journey with us!

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Andrea says · 11.24.14

HIGHLY recommend Summer Infant “Resting Up Napper”. I literally could not have made it the first few months without it. Need a place to “put” him or her down. This fit the bill perfectly. I actually ended up with 2 so I could keep one in the kitchen to place him in when I made his bottle and one in the bedroom so I could shower/pee/get ready/etc. If I only had to pick one product, this would be it, no joke.

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Jackie says · 11.25.14

This is a lifesaver.
http://www.target.com/p/boon-lawn-drying-rack-large-green/-/A-13600340#prodSlot=medium_1_3&term=drying+rack
Plus you can buy cute flowers and trees to hang things on.

Also, the wombies you mentioned are worth every penny and then some!

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Lindsay says · 11.25.14

Baby DeeDee sleep sack….it works like every other sleep sack out there, as far as design goes, but it’s quilted and SO much warmer than a traditional blanket sleeper. I cannot stress how much I love them, and how much better YOU’LL sleep not trying to split the difference between worrying about blankets slipping off, covering a little face, and sleep sacks that aren’t warm enough.

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Lauren says · 11.25.14

Hi! Long time reader, first time commenter! I really really encourage you to not use the rock and play. I work in the x-ray department at a hospital. 4 of my coworkers and I had babies around the same time. Three had rock and play, mine did not. These three babies had plagiocephaly and some degree of torticollis. Two required helmets to correct.
Having increased awareness now, it is crazy to see how many babies we now have come in for skull x-rays that used the rock and plays. Moms are quick to share that their pediatrician/PT/OT does not recommend them.
Try it for yourself. Place weight in the sling and feel the extreme level of pressure that pushes on where the baby’s head would be. I know you love researching as much as I do. Give rock and play plagiocephaly a “google” and read on!
On a lighter note…. love the blog, love your mama style and love Carter onesies.

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Kate says · 11.26.14

First, the twin thing… Sheesh for those of us Mamas on here, take it easy! I know not everything I say comes out perfectly to everyone listening/reading. What I’ve learned from being a mom is to laugh and support one another and that every baby is different.

Second, my breast friend was my best friend (pun intended). Loved the boppy for taking pictures or propping the baby up for a second but nothing was better than the brestfriend for breastfeeding.
Also, the long sleeve onesies with built in mittens were a god-send for me having a baby born in early Feb. Able to keep her warm and prevent her from scratching without worrying about her pulling mittens off.

Good luck with baby 2! I can’t wait to hear all about it!

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Jenn says · 11.27.14

My first two are 15 months apart. Looking back at the first 18 months of my second’s life, I realize that I spent a lot of time on the floor….so be prepared for that. Protecting one, playing with the other. Anything that can make a floor more comfy for you would make that experience a lot more enjoyable. Throw pillows, blankets, soft toys water bottles etc. 🙂 Enjoy, it is an amazing time.

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Julie C says · 12.30.14

Chiming in late on the conversation but was surprised to see no one encouraged you to try a Fischer Price Cradle Swing! We have 7 children and our first 3 were less than 4 years apart. Our biggest surprise was getting pregnant at 42 when our 6th child was only 7 months old. After a sleepless first night at home from the hospital, my friends all encouraged me to try the Cradle Swing as it cuddles your baby and can swing side to side or front to back. Many babies who do not like to swing-LOVE this swing. Yes, I even turned it on at night after mid-night feedings to put baby #6 & 7 back to sleep.

A mom has got to do what she has to do at night if she is having babies in her 40’s while home educating the other children all day long.

I hope you will give nursing a go again; some babies are better nursers than other babies and it is so very healthy for them!

Best wishes and may God bless you as you bring up these precious blessings for Him!

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Weeclothes says · 12.30.15

It’s great to be prepared with all these wonderful items! Also check the following link:

http://weeclothes.com/

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Megan says · 03.20.18

Hi Kate! I would love if you recieved a lot of comments & as you prepare for baby #3 if you have a “Kate’s baby essentials” list of tried and true gear. As an expecting first time mom, there is SO MUCH out there!

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